Valarie - posted on 01/05/2010 ( 3 moms have responded )
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I have a teenage daughter who one minute loves me the next hates me, will be honest we have some issues between us, her father and i are divorced and get NO help from him, she is breaking my heart... my question is she is telling me she doesnt want to see me or talk to me, before you say counceling trust me she is there lol.. should i give her space or stick to my guns
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Nicola - posted on 01/09/2010
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ahhh the joys of teenage daughters. I have had three (still have two) the other survived to be 21 so far.
believe it or not this is normal and you do just need to stick to your guns. keep guiding her to the right decisions, keep telling her you love her (can be hard but hey its what us mothers do) when she tells you she hates you respond with "that's too bad because I love you"
keep up the counselling and just keep reminding her she is loved. they do get past this. only one of mine is still giving me grief and despite all of that she does know she is loved. and I can see some light at the end of the tunnel; you will too
Sarah - posted on 01/08/2010
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You should prolly be in counceling with her to make her feel like you are trying and to make it fair. I would advise not treating her like a lil kid if you ever do that. I know my mom still does that to me and im 27. Plus most of all dont treat you kids like they are stupid cause kids are smarter than ever and that means smarter than us.
Sarah - posted on 01/08/2010
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Stick to your guns. Talk to her, let her know you love her and are there for her. Remember your raising an adult and it may get hard but you don't want her to end up involved in bad things. Even teens want rules and boundaries. They want you to spend time and really listen, meaning when she does want to talk to you stop everything and just listen to her and help her figure out how to solve her own problems, instead of fixing them for her. I hope this helps. I don't have a teen, she's 10 but I was a teen mother now 27. And I remember what its like to be a teen, have problems at home and etc. Just never stop trying, because under that alien acting up is your child that you have been raising. And yes teens are like alien beings,lol. They go thru some many changes physically and mentally too. their brain chemicals are constantly changing.
I hope this helped, Good Luck. Teen years are the hardest on parents and on the teen. I know I'm not looking forward to those years.
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