Teenaqe Moms?

Heather - posted on 11/12/2009

I was 16 when my daughter was born. Her dad and I married when she was thirteen and a half months old. Our daughter is almost 18 now and we are enjoying our last year with her at home before she heads off to college. I remember how hard it was having a child and pretty much being one yourself. We had two more children, another daughter and a son. Our 2nd daughter is 14 and our son is 12. The best advice I can give you is to cherish every single moment with them because in the blink of an eye they will be preparing to spread their wings and fly out into this big world.

YVETTE - posted on 11/12/2009

I was a teenage mom and I was ridiculed a lot by many people because i was so young. I was 15 when I had my first and 17 when I had my second. I am now 39 years old and my boys are now 22 and 24 years old. I could not have asked for better children. Both of them are now married with children of their own and graduated from high school. Both of them did two things that I did not do and that is graduated from high school and waited until they got married to have children. That makes me real proud of them. I never had to get them out of jail, or I never had to worry about them hanging out in the streets at all times of the night. They were not in any gangs or hung out with the thug life. So be strong and of good courage because some people may try to downgrade you for being a teen mom but, always do the best you can and know that

God is with you and will always make a way.

Kristin - posted on 11/12/2009

i had my son when i was 18.. well im only 19 now. but it has been hard.. we've struggled with money and living arrangements. i am getting married to the father. im just happy to have friends and family to help with all of this. i love rory so much and i want the best for him.. but what mother doesnt want the best for their baby?!?!?! im loving every moment!

Chere - posted on 11/12/2009

i am a teenage mum its tough but all worth it in the end. i love my little boy hes the best thing in my life

Ciara - posted on 11/11/2009

im 19 and pregnant with my second baby .. =] .. i got pregnant at 17 and did not have my baby .. i regret it everyday since .. just because i knew i could have been a great mom i was being selfish and only thinking about my self . the father and i were together for 3 years before i got pregnant and i did not have my child knowing him and i werent ready 6 months later he told me he had a 3 month old daughter with someone else ! he cheated on me like i said we werent ready . since then i have moved on and met a great man who i love and unexpectedly got pregnant a year after dating lol but i must say i have never been so sure of myself and excited everyday to feel my little girl kick . i cant wait to have her in my arms . but there is also a part of me that thinks of my past i know now i could have done everything with or with out anyone .. teen age moms are the strongest moms i know . =] good luck you'll be great

Angie - posted on 11/11/2009

I got married when I was 17,had my 1st son at 18 and I've been married 21 years.
To make a family work it takes both people.I don't think it matters how old you are,
it's more about responsibility than anything.If your responsible and can take care of a baby ,then go for it.I have an 19 yr old who have a 3 yr old and I have an 18 yr old who will be a daddy in March.They're both really good with the baby.I mean he has help from his dad and I but he's a single dad.I think he's doing great with him.

Krys - posted on 11/11/2009

Don't ever give up!! It's the hardest thing you'll ever do but possible

Rebecca - posted on 11/11/2009

I was teenaged mom, married young and had my children one right after the other... Though I was young I remember KNOWING that I was the mom, not just a kid with a baby. So trust in your mommy instincts. They are real! Good luck with everything!

Kelcie - posted on 11/11/2009

well i got pregnant when i was 17 and my due date is january 21st so i only have about 10 weeks or so left and it was really hard to tell my family because since im the baby of the grandkids and neices n stuff no one was expecting me to get pregnant so young but i was using protection also and ended up pregnant i married the father a few months after a found out and we're happily married, i really dont see myself being with any one else but him and he's a dedicated father he works for us and supports us and we have everything we need, we may have had some rought times with my family because they are not the biggest motivators and dont really do much but we've gotten over it and we love each other and dont ever regret getting pregnant

Myrna - posted on 11/11/2009

Quoting Korin:

Teenaqe Moms?

I am a teenaqe mother just lookinq for conversation....

Korin! Hello! I was pregnant at 18! My niece, Flo even younger!  My oldest daughter Toshia is now 27! She's an AGM at our Casino .  I have 2 daughters and 2 sons. My youngest son turned 18 last month! It's an awesome feeling to have young adult children who live successful lives! We live in a First Nation community. There's lots of teenage parents' moms & dads. I once talked a young girl out of aborting her child. Her mother is my friend. It turned out she had twins & she lost custody. My friend Cindy is raising her grandchildren Isaiah and Kaden now 6! My friend Cindy's children are the same age as my kids. Her oldest Joey is a few yrs older than Toshia. I feel like I've always been a mom since childhood because my older sisters kids have always been close to me & growing up with them I had to be a mom! I don't mind it! My mom had 13 children including twins. I'm the second youngest. She taught me about motherhood & it's an honor as well as a privilage to be a mom esp to your child/children/grandchildren & God/Creator/Great Spirit! There's nothing wrong with being a teenage mom! It's harder no doubt but the rewards in the long run are greater too! Besides Society is set-up in a way that encourages young "Teenage" moms to go back to school! The help & support is there! It's makes you a better mom/woman in the long run! God Bless You & your bundle of joy/love! 

Pamela - posted on 11/11/2009

Well Gals, I am 45 and all the kids have left the nest. Married 27 years and still going strong. getting ready for a 2nd grandbaby in December and it is a girl. Have on grandson Brandon is 9 and is a very special person in my life. Grandchildren are diffrent then your own. They are special gifts from good that fill joy , faith and happiness in all our lives. It is fun being a grandparent, because you can spoil them rotten and give them back. I am still young at heart.

Kari - posted on 11/11/2009

Hey! My name is Kari I am a teenage mother if you ever wanna chat I will talk. If Im not on then i will get back to you.

Jennifer - posted on 11/11/2009

Hey! I had my beautiful little girl when I was 17. When i found out I was pregnant my parents were supportive straight away but a few friends who I called my best friends and some outer family members told me to have an abortion straight away. Personally I think people that have abortions only think about themselves and about their own lifes and thats most likley the way it will always be. I had my little girl Summer Louise and its the best thing I ever did. 4 of my friends had abortions and 3 of them regret it, I'm the lucky one because I could never regret having my daughter. There are days where all you want to do is scream ur lungs out and you feel like you have no life and of corse things are goin to get you down, but you just have to pick yourself up for your childs sake. Also when I walked through the shops when I was prengnant and when I walk through the shops with her in the pram people just use to give my the most nastiest death stares like I had done something absolutley discusting which was hard and it sucks because I see people in their 30's beating their kids at the shops and abusing and swearing at them and here I am now 19 and I must say I think that I am one of the most amazing parents out there and it just goes to show. Anyway well done it takes someone strong to have a baby and someone stronger to throw away all the goin out, clubbing, drinking to have a baby and a younger age! Good luck xx

Lisa - posted on 11/10/2009

I was 17 when I had my first. Wouldn't trade it for anything! Have a loving husband.

Kate CP - posted on 11/10/2009

Quoting Korin:

Teenaqe Moms?

I am a teenaqe mother just lookinq for conversation....

Okay, I have to respond because this has been driving me NUTS. Your post says:

TeenaQe moms?

I am a teenaQe mother just lookinQ for conversation. What you meant to write was:

TeenaGe moms?

I am a teenaGe mother just lookinG for conversation.

If you are using a QWERTY keyboard (most common) then the Q is in the upper left corner and the G is in the middle of the keyboard. 

Dee - posted on 11/10/2009

i was a teen mom...i had my son when i was 17 and then a daughter at 19....they r now 14 and 13 and i gave them a lil sister 9 yrs ago....its hard, but trust me u can do it

Christine - posted on 11/10/2009

hi im not a teenager any more but i got pregnant with my son when i was 16, he's now 6 and has a gorgeous little sister who's 3 month. There both amazing. and im lucky to have them and my fiancé (who ive been with since i was 14) its hard being a mum sometimes but i love it.

Debi - posted on 11/10/2009

A mother is a mother at any age, its the capability to love, nourish and protect that matters.
Good for you to seek out other young moms, the more support you have the better for you and your little one. I know, believe me, I was 18 with my first and now have 4 wonderful, beautiful kids...and yes they were all surprises! The way I look at it is no one knows exactly the way their life is going to go. So enjoy the ride and appreciate every moment.

Karen - posted on 11/10/2009

Hey im 19 and have a 2yr old fell pregnant at 16 wouldnt change her 4 the world love her sooooooo much xxx

Jennifer - posted on 11/10/2009

So what do you want to now??? I was a teenage mother when I was 17, I am 33 now. I had my son and would not have done anything any different !! I was told by some to abort my baby, however that was not in my heart. I chose to have him and he has been a true blessing in my life. I did marry his father, however after 10 years of marrage we went our sepport ways. I have remarried, 5 years now and have 2 stepchildren. (Feb. and March they will all three be 16) It is not easy being a teenage or single mom however, never give up, you can do it!! I did finish school with all A & B's and now I am a daycare owner. I am my own boss! ! There were times all I wanted to do is cry , and I did cry, however I picked myself up and continued the battle. And so should you ! It is not going to be easy, however nothing worth having comes to us easy. I look at things now as when my son is 18 , I will only be 36, and I still have plenty of time to do the things I want to do. Everything I have done over the years has been for him. I also take him to church every Sunday and we thank God for everything. I know in my heart God picked me of all people to be Tyler's Mom and that is one job I will always be proud of !! I never asked "why me God" I just said "thank you God, I will do the best job I can". I truely beleive he is the reason I was able to do all the things I have done for my son. I did do alot of praying, and he answered them all ! ! Just remember to always do what is best for your baby. Always laugh and play with your baby, they do grow up fast. Before you know it your baby will be 16 , like my son. Feel free to email me or send me a message anytime you need to talk. jenniferhelms32@yahoo.com

Jessica - posted on 11/10/2009

Hey! I got pregnant at 16 with my oldest son. I was a junor in high school. I was lucky because my parents were willing to help me so I got to finish school and even start some college, then at 18 I got pregnant with my twin girls and everything went out the window. I still had there support, but things were much harder. I got married when I was 7 months pregnant with the twins and a couple of months after turning 19. a little over a year after the twins we had our fourth baby and man oh man was he a big suprise. My husband had just had a visectomine when we found out I was pregnant yet again. As you can imagine I was angry. I wouldn't trade then for anything in the world but at 24 now I sometimes would turn back the hands of time and have them all a little later in life. But then again my life would probably be very boring if I didn't have the four of them. Mother hood is very rewarding and I can't wait to see what happens next with my kids.

Tara - posted on 11/10/2009

Hey! I was a mom at 19 and I was so happy. I'd wanted a child since I was 12! My mom thought I should not keep it, but I knew I would. My daughter is almost 18 now and she's still the best thing I've ever done. I made it through with a LOT of help from my friends (most of whom did not have kids) and with my own determination to love my daughter and myself and not listen to the negativity.



Keep going strong and know you are not alone! Moms are special people no matter how old they are when they start having kids. Just be good to your child and the rest will fall into place.



Good luck!

Shae - posted on 11/10/2009

Hi.I totally understand the need for conversation.I am starved for adult conversation!lol I will be turning 32 on Nov 30th.I am a single parent of 3 beautiful gifts from the LORD.Megan 15 next month 13 Sierra and Eli 5.=)Anyways i just wanted to say I too was a teenage mother at the age of 17.I had my eldest 20 days after I turned 17.It is a very difficult thing to be a teenage Mom BUT I had the support of my family and of the church.My sister gave me SO much encouragement and biblical guidance that directed me to the main source of where my help would come from :My Savior Jesus Christ .Yes I was backslidden but he is just and faithful to forgive me if I have a repentant heart.Which I did.I must tell you I wouldnt change it for the world.I raised Megan on my own,let me not forget that the LORD gave me the strength and determination to become the best parent I could be for my little one.NOW she will be 15 next month.Shes loving beautiful smart compassionate and loves the LORD.She as well as my other 2 children have been such a blessing to me and to many others.Being a Mother is 1 of the most difficult challenging REWARDING jobs that we can ever take on as a woman.Yes you were a child but now taking on the responsability of the actions that were taken is helping you to grow in the area of womanhood.(i hope I said that the way it is meant to be received=)I am so proud of you for taking responsibility. You have been blessed with a child ,a gift from the LORD.He has plans for you.Plans to prosper you and not to harm you plans to give you hope for the future!Jerimiah 29:11 I pray this reply will bring you encouragement.If ever you would like to talk I am here.It does help to talk to others that know where your comming from.Enjoy your child they will be grown before you know it!God Bless you and yours!

Tiffany - posted on 11/10/2009

It is very difficult, but you can do it! I had a baby at 19. My parents said, "have an abortion or get out". I slept in my car, at friends houses, etc. until I got a place of my own. I moved out of state to get aay from the biological father (abusive, cheating, alcoholic, etc.). Just a few months after I moved, I met the man of my dreams (and I wasn't looking, had NO interest in dating). My son was 2 at the time. We married when my son was 6 and he walked me down the isle and gave me away. It was a roller coaster for the first 2 years being a single mom, but it made me the strong person I am today. My son is now 18 1/2 and a freshman at a university. We are extremely close and he is extremely close with my husband (whom he has called dad since he was 2). I always wanted more children, but my husband did not want our son to think that he ever loved anyone else more. He knew what I went thru growing up as a step-child and didn't want that for my son. The two of them are like best friends (well, all 3 of us are actually), but we were ALWAYS his parents first. I wish you all the best. Keep your head high and always put that baby first!

Heidi - posted on 11/10/2009

Always remember u r the one person your child will always look to for guidance..be strong...be firm...but love em with all your being. always here to talk....i too was a teen mother and know what u r dealing with...good luck and God Bless You

Cheryl - posted on 11/10/2009

Sweetheart, I had my first child at 17 but I had a strong support from my Aunt. Not that I wasn't scared I was but I made it through and I have three very successful children. God doesn't make mistakes and children are gifts from God, it is just that sometimes we rush our gifts. Keep your hand in Gods hand and KEEP your head UP!!!!!

Brittney - posted on 11/10/2009

i am 19 years old i had my daughter 3 months after i turned 19. alot of people thought i was crazy at so young. that is probabaly what got me here today. i am still with the dad we were together for 3 years before having her. he is older then me. but people still said we had our whole lives ahead of us. well i dont think life would be true without her. now we built our own house living in it. got a new family car and she is the happiest baby ever. always smiling and laughing. she is 6 months old. my boyfriend built the house himself with his brother. now it sits on 2 acres of land. over 1800 sq feet house. dont let anyone let u down or tell u ur life is over if u have a kid young. that u need to wait. cause look at us. we have everything most adults that r saying that dont have. if they tell u those things let that build u up not down. prove them wrong. its hard but if i can do it. so can u. and no neither one of us came from a rich family and we did it all by ourselves. and i was on birth control when i got pregnet. i would never take anything back. my life is just beggining.

Kimberley - posted on 11/10/2009

I make sure i spend at least 4 hours a day with my daughter 1-1.... only becausei have work and college to fit in.. plus the coursewrk tht i have 2 do at home.... bt i always make sure she gets the attention she needs. we might be young mums.... but wer better than the 30+ year old 1s tht have been lockd up 4 abusin their kids.... whoever sed teens cant look after kids........... they are 100% wrong !!

Christine - posted on 11/10/2009

well i had 2 kids by the age of 16 and now i am 34 and have 7 kids 5 of mine and 2 step kids and now i am a grandma and it was and still is very hard but i would never change having my kids at a young age i feel like i know alot of the tricks kids try to play and i understand where they are coming from more and i think im really close to them but it helps if you have support which i didnt really have but i guess it just made me stronger and no i dont think its ok for teens to have kids cause i think they need to have a childhood first but life just dont happen like the way you plan so just show you child all the love you have to give and always keep an open mind and trust your self you will know what to do with your child it is an experience of a lifetime i would never change it if i could good luck
christine

Kim - posted on 11/10/2009

I was a teenage mom-no regrets-had all 5 of my kids before i was 20-still married to their dad..34 years this month...its hard but very worth it.

Sara - posted on 11/10/2009

Quoting Janelle:


"WE CHOSE TO HAVE OUR CHILDREN, THEY DIDN'T HAVE A CHOICE IN THEIR PARENT/S, SO IT IS OUR JOB TO LOVE, RESPECT, TEACH AND PROTECT THEM NO MATTER WHAT!!"

That's a nice quote, thanks Janelle!

Janelle - posted on 11/10/2009

I'm not a teenager now, but I was when I was first pregnant. I was 18 when I found out I was pregnant, and 19 when I had my first son. I never say he was was a mistake, but he was a wonderful SURPRISE!! I left his father in Florida, and moved back home to NY due to an abusive relationship. Which left me to raise him on my own at 19. It was tough, I won't lie. I have dedicated my life to making sure I can't be labeled as another failed teenage parent. He is now almost 15, an honor student, and a star athelete. So basically, don't let others tell you that just because you are a young mom, you can't do it. The ones who tell you that just don't understand what we as young moms are capable of. Give yourself and your baby/s a chance...it may not always be easy, but it is well worth it in the end.
When things get tough, hold your baby close, and look at them, I mean really look at them. Just doing this will make you realize how amazing they are, and will give you the strength to face another day.
Just to add, I did get married, had a daughter, who is 11, then divorced and I have sole custody of them. And I now have a 2 yr old with a wonderful guy.
Life can be tough, but please remember this quote from me...
"WE CHOSE TO HAVE OUR CHILDREN, THEY DIDN'T HAVE A CHOICE IN THEIR PARENT/S, SO IT IS OUR JOB TO LOVE, RESPECT, TEACH AND PROTECT THEM NO MATTER WHAT!!"

Cassandra - posted on 11/10/2009

I was 14 when I got Pregnant with my oldest, and had him 3 months after my 15th birthday. Everyone around me was trying to force me to have an abortion, But I made the decision to keep him. He's now 11, and the oldest of 4 kids, and I'm also due DEC. 21st. Us young mom's get alot of crap, and really we need to get more credit, Being a mother is hard at any age wither your 14 or 45, But it is exceptionally rewarding.... Don't ever be afraid to ask for help, It may be hard to do but it may be even harder if you don't. I'm 26 gonna be 27 in Dec. and I still ask for Help!!!!! Congrats.....

Esteena - posted on 11/10/2009

Hey I found out I was prego a few weeks after I turn 16 i had my daughter 2 months before I turned 17... My mother turned her back on my and my father lived in a different state.. My sisters tried to be there but we were all just kids.. I rasied my daughter by myself and love everyday of it... Message me im alway lookin for moms who are going thru the same thing...

Victoria - posted on 11/10/2009

I was married at 18 and became pregnant with my first child at 19, Having my son was the best thing that could have happened in my case. I picked right up with him and he was simply a part of my life, and the people who were real friends took him into their lives as well. It can really be the most wonderful learning experience and I always found it fun because we grew up together and learned a lot from each other. Five years later just as he was starting school I had a daughter, with another one arriving six years after that! All three are now happy adults with their own young families. It's awesome for me watching my family when we get together and knowing that I started all of that. You can do and be whatever you want to be, as others have said. Don't ever feel that your child is holding you back from that because you might find that your child is the catalyst for change that you will find. One day at a time... you will find your groove... the trick is to not let that groove become a rut. Keep doing things... the more you know, the more your child will thrive and grow. Good luck! Hope you meet some awesome young people to talk to here or on the mentioned forums! Good luck!!!

Sarah - posted on 11/10/2009

I got pregnant at 16 and had my daughter 2 weeks after I turn 17. Life isn't always easy. My daughters father was abusive and cheated on me a lot, but I had no where else to go. My mother threw me out of the house, she was also pregnant with my bother- they're 5 weeks apart. I still don't talk to my mother, manly because her husband isn't a good person and I need to protect my daughter. When I was 18 and some pretty bad things happened around me, my aunt brought me and my daughter up to Maine to live with her new baby, husband and her, even though that couldn't have been easy for them. I got a job and my GED and moved into my own apt. 7 months later. Then I got my license, a car, and went to college. I still struggle sometimes, I'm still single, but hopeful someday I'll find someone who will love us both- we're a package deal. I love my daughter, she is my world and no matter what may or may not happen, she fills my world with happiness. Which is appropriate because that's what her name means- Felicia= happiness!!

Good Luck to all the teen mothers out there, who are trying to success in life. you can!!

Jennifer - posted on 11/10/2009

Hi Honey, just wanted you to know that there are many people in your shoes! I was a younger mom when I had my first (just turned 20 when she was born). I was a full time university student to add that much more to the situation! I finished school and made sure to have my daughter at my graduation! She was too young to remember it, but I still wanted her there! I did not marry the father right away, but he was involved until she was almost 2. He tried and helped but it was too much for him. I still to this day do not fault him for leaving! I have moved on and she is now 14 and becoming a nice young lady. I have married and have 5 other kids now (2 bio 3 steps and 1 adopted). It is a big family but we have lots of love! Sorry I am rambling, my point is that it will not be easy, but you can do it! Keep the faith and don't be shy to ask for help! Jenn

Raiden - posted on 11/10/2009

Thanks Everyone!

Kimberley - posted on 11/10/2009

i turned 17 on 7th november.... bt got pregnant at 15 and had my daughter at 16. she is now 7 months old and i wouldnt change her 4 the world !!! yes its hard... and ther are days where i struggle, but her smile makes it worth it :) having her was the best thing to ever happen 2 me.... :) im happy 4 a chat wenever yu fance 1 hun xx

Carol - posted on 11/10/2009

How old are you?

Marlene - posted on 11/09/2009

Hi, i was 19 when i got married and had my first born at the same age. My husband and I are married for 20 years now and are still going strong. We have 3 kids. We had our ups and downs like every marriage, but we are happy family! I have no regrets about having my son when i did. That was what God had in store for me and He makes no mistakes! I love my family.

Cynthia - posted on 11/09/2009

Wow! How do you do it? First of all , let me say that I admire you for doing what you're doing and giving your baby a chance at life instead of aborting it like so many do today. I just found out that i'm pregnant with my second baby after months of trying to conceive, and after wanting one so badly and not knowing if I would ever be able to have another, it just breaks my heart thinking of how many people "get rid of babies" and dont think twice about it! You are very brave ! (alot braver than I would be) I got married when I was 19 and had a surprise pregnancy 2 months later. We had planned on waiting at least 2 years, but you know what, if I had the choice, I'd do it all over again! Yes, I have cried more tears in the past 2 1/2 years than I have the entire rest of my life- I have had many days when I felt like giving up, but all in all, being a mom is one of the most wonderful and miraculous things in the world! Is your baby/ child a boy or girl? Keep your chin up and always remember- when things get tough, dont be afraid to ask for help! You could be the best mom in the world and still need help once in a while! And, dont forget to take time for yourself! Have fun and enjoy being a teenager!

Amanda - posted on 11/09/2009

my daughter is a teenage mom also, look her up she needs someone to talk with too

Leonora - posted on 11/09/2009

My onlyadvice is to stay in school.I wa a mm at 18 years og age, although having himwa a great joy, finishing high school was also. It will not be an easy road but you can do it,

Jodi - posted on 11/09/2009

Hi Korin. There is a Teenage Mother community at the following link if you are looking at joining a group of people the same age group to share experiences:

http://apps.facebook.com/circleofmoms/gr...

Lacey - posted on 11/09/2009

i was 18 when i found out i was pregnant with my son i was 7 months prego with him when i turned 19 and i am now 20 and let me just say whoever says it is easy is lieing..nothing about parenting is easy but it sure is fun watching them crawl for the first time,saying their first word,walking,getting their first tooth,and after all that is said and done its fun watching them and finding out who they are and what they are about..my life would not be the same if i didn't have my son..its b/c of him that i am the person i am today..i love how he cracks me up all day..he always smiles hardly ever cries..thats a plus but when he does start crying hold on to your seats cause its gonna be a bumpy ride

~Jennifer - posted on 11/09/2009

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Sieda - posted on 11/09/2009

HI...I AM A TEENAGE MOTHER JUST ANSWERING YOU!!! HOW R U?

Elizabeth - posted on 11/09/2009

I was 14 when I was raped, and @ 15 decided that I was going to raise this baby. My son is now 10 and I for not one second would ever take it back. He has made me who I am today. I finished high school, put myself through college and now have a great job. And not once did I not ask for help. I truly believe that if you are going to raise this baby then you should never be scared to ask for help. Yes asking for help means that you can't do it by yourself, but not asking for helps puts you and your baby in bad situations. Surround yourself with people who care for you and your baby and want you to grow and become a great mother.

I know that it is hard but the reward is so much greater!!

Heather - posted on 11/09/2009

And one other thing, don't let other ppl get you down. You had this baby for a reason b/c it was in God's greater plan. My brother and her used and condom and she was on the pill and they still got pregnant, birth control isn't 100% only thing 100% is not having sex at all.