Teens dying their hair

Jody - posted on 02/24/2010 ( 25 moms have responded )

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I have two teen daughters. One REALLY likes to change her hair color. Is it okay that I allow her to indulge in this? I am looking for your honest opinions.

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MiKayla - posted on 12/07/2012

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I have dyed my hair since I was 12 and I am 16 now. There is NOTHING wrong with it. I've dyed my hair blue, black, brown, blonde, red, pink, orange, purple, green, every other color you can think of, and I've bleached my hair a LOT. Yes, my hair is damaged, but guess what! it grows back! She is just being unique. I'd even encourage her to go out and do her hair weird colors! it builds confidence and self image. It is VERY good for her to explore this before she gets to the age she'll really lose hair if she does it just once. I'd say let her do as much as she wants! It's a very healthy obsession, if it gets that far. :)

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MiKayla - posted on 12/07/2012

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BTW, goth is NOT a negative image NOR a death related sub culture. Educate yourself before thinking you're a good parent, dumbass. Your comment has to be one of the most ignorant statements I have EVER come across, it almost makes me want to go on a killing spree.

MiKayla - posted on 12/07/2012

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And what exactly is wrong with goth? And goth and death is not fucking related you ignorant sack of shit. it's PERSONALITY and there is NO ROOM FOR YOU TO JUDGE. It is extremely ignorant to judge someone based on their religion, which goth IS a religion and sub culture. Not EVERYONE has to be what society thinks is okay. No offense, but people like you need to be slapped into reality with a fucking semi going 200 mph.

MiKayla - posted on 12/07/2012

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You're kinda stupid. Temporary dyes FADE not come out like shampoo............ and who cares if she damages her hair? it's HER HAIR and it GROWS BACK. as long as she's not killing people or making decisions that could ruin her life, LET HER BE.

Cynthia - posted on 02/25/2010

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Talk to her about it find out her reasons why without judgement, perhaps she want to be a hair dresser when she leaves school.
For my self I wasn't too keen on my girls changing their hair colour I felt the needed to appreciate who they where and what they looked like first and learn how to make the best of themselves first before they started experimenting with things like hair colour. Now in their twenties my two blondes have experimented with hair colour while my brown hair daughter plays with textures since she has hair that curls if she doesn't comb or brush it and it absolutely dead straight when she does!
Perhaps you could ask her to keep a diary about how she feels about her hair and how her personality changes with different hair colour, that way she could look back a see how she likes who she is with each colour?!

Luna - posted on 02/25/2010

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I've been dying my hair since I was 12 (I have severe psoriasis on my scalp as well) and it's never been an issue for me, the only time I ever got worried was when I bleached it once, it got really thin and straw-like and I didn't like that so just kept conditioning it until it's strength came back. My mum tried to stop me while I was under 16 years but I'd just do it round a friends house instead so there was no way she could have ever really succeeded but I've had every single colour available in hair dye, sometimes all at once, I'm really good at making up my own coloured dyes with supplies from hairdressers fairs and conventions and I'm a bit of an expert on it because I started so young. I'm 26 now and my hair is beautiful and shiny and soft, a bit of a mess at the moment as I just caught in a sudden downpour while running to the house from the car, but I keep it conditioned so it's always full of volume and life :) As long as you take care of the hair it'll be fine, just don't let her bleach it too much!

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my hair was pink/maroon/orange/red and all variations of these colors starting at 14. my mom wasn't cool with much, but this she was fine with. i usually did it myself or had friends do it. my hair is fine. i've always had ridiculously thick hair, and it didn't start getting thin until after i had my daughter.
it's just hair. it can always be dyed back or if gets too bad, you can always cut it. give her space on this. it's not worth getting into a huge argument and fighting over. save your breath for the bigger issues.

Danielle - posted on 02/25/2010

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my mum never let my die my hair till i was about 17 or 18. before then my mum let me put a rinse through my hair. It only lasted for like 8 weeks and then washes out and my mum never let me die my hair black,lol.

Angel - posted on 02/24/2010

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I think it is ok. But if she is dying it to often it with damage the hair so much that the only thing she will be able to do is shave it. I had afriend that used to dye her hair way to much when we were teens and thats what happened to her then she bought all kinds of funky wigs. So if you allow her to do it have her stick to one color every 6 weeks or so.

Charlene - posted on 02/24/2010

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I'm a hair dresser and I don't see any problem with letting them have a bit of fun, it grows out! I would advise they start with a few highlights instead of a full colour, also I would advise they go to a "professional" who knows what they are doing. Maybe use it as a reward for something or let them earn the money to pay for it themselves. I didn't start colouring my hair til I was 18yrs, but I did have alot of friends that did when we were young and I have seen some pretty bad dye jobs, greenish-grey! Not easily fixed! Also another good thing about highlights is that the regrowth doesn't show as fast as a full colour would. If she really wants an all over colour, she should ask the hairdresser to use a semi-permanent (if going darker) it will fade as it grows and the regrowth will be more blended instead of a harse line. Going blonde would require bleach and if not used properly it could damage the hair, but must be used on previously coloured hair as "colour does not lift colour" if the hair is virgin "never been touched with colour" then a regular permanent colour will be able to lift a mid-brown to a med-blonde. Its less damaging on the hair then bleach. Book a nice girl outting with you three and you all go get your hair done, have lunch, make a really nice day of it and try to do that with them everytime they need it done, it will be a nice bonding time together :)

Brooke - posted on 02/24/2010

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I don't agree with it, I was never allowed to dye my hair. My mum died when I was 14 and one of my older sisters took guardianship of me. She got her hair died once a month and allowed me to have the same. I chose not to do it as those were my mums wishes but now I understand.

When I was at school I would see the girls same ages as me with different hair colours each month or two, It made them look really cheap.

I have no problem with special occasions on getting your hair done and foils but not full coloured

Jade - posted on 02/24/2010

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My mum said i could dye my hair as much as i like once i turned 13...only thing was i had beautiful blonde hair...i regret dying it because now if i let the colour grow out i will have a mousie brown colour...but yeah its ok.

Tiffany - posted on 02/24/2010

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I don't see a problem with it. My mom gave me "hair freedom" when I was a teen. It's just hair and can always be dyed back, etc. It's an easy way for her to express herself and to be in control of her own person. At least it's not tattoos and piercings. ;)

Tracy - posted on 02/24/2010

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Let her! This is the one time in her life she's going to have the chance to pull off purple hair. If you know anyone in the hair biz, have them give her some pointers on keeping her hair healthy.

Emily - posted on 02/24/2010

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I don't think there's any problem with it. I would probably have her pay for it herself though.

Rosie - posted on 02/24/2010

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i see no problem with it at all. it's just hair color. i personally wouldn't care if my kid died his hair black with hot pink polka dots. there are much worse things that my kid could be doing. of course this is just MY opinion, if you're uncomfortable than do what you feel.

Aly - posted on 02/24/2010

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I was an avid hair changer when I was a teen... just think, its better than tattoos and piercings!! Changing their hair is much easier to deal with. I waited til I was 18 to get my tattoos and piercings. just make sure they understand the things you will and wont tolerate.

Sandi - posted on 02/24/2010

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Lisamarie my hair fell out after I had my daughter too, it was probably due to hormones not the hair dye. My new hair is growing in and I have 2 inch long tufts of hair sticking up along my parting and hairline...very annoying lol

Charnel - posted on 02/24/2010

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I think it is fine she is just expressing herself and she will be a better adult for it. I let my sons dress goth and the oldest has converted to a morman has a wonderful wife and is a great part of society he thanks me for letting him be what he wanted as a teen he feels he is a better person for it.

Sharon - posted on 02/24/2010

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I don't have a problem with changes in hair color.

I do have a problem with damage done to the scalp & follicle.

I would make my child pay for a professional job. They want to stand out, they want to project an image. As long as the image is positive (not goth or death related) I'm ok with it.

A professional knows what products and colors don't mix. They know how long a person needs to go before switching colors. Etc.

Danielle - posted on 02/24/2010

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Hair is fixable. Yes you can damage hair but it can be fixed. At one piont my hair was destroyed because when you take cosmetology, you tend to change things up often (bc it's easy and cheap to have a classmate do it). My hair was constantly changing colors and is perfectly healthy now.

With that said, I think you should allow her the freedom to dye her hair, after all, it's only hair and there are more important things to say no to. I say pick your battles and just let her dye her hair.

Lisamarie - posted on 02/24/2010

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I think it depends how old the teen is, I guess you're talking 13 upwards, I think that's fine. I dyed my hair at 12 but then for some strange reason my step dad decided I couldn't get it done agin until I was 14 and I've been dyeing my hair since. The only problem I've had is after my second child I dyed my hair and it started falling out, not massive clumps, but clumps none the less. But I don't think you'll have that problem.

Always do a test on an out of view strand of hair 24 hours before dying the whole lot on every pack you use (if home DIYing)! :)

Megan - posted on 02/24/2010

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If you don't want her to cause permanent damage to her hair get her to use a temperary color, something that will wash out after a few washes. This is also great if she chooses the wrong color, it washes out fast so she doesn't have to be stuck with a color she doesn't like. There are different types some that wash out after 2-3 washes and some that last for a few weeks. Or if you have any real concerns you could limit her to 1 color change every couple months.

The only problem I really see with this is that the more she does it the more it will damage her hair.

Erica - posted on 02/24/2010

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I have dyed my hair since I was a teenager and I dont think there is anything wrong with it. I agree with Sandi. Let her be her own person and save the no's for something bigger then just hair color.

Sandi - posted on 02/24/2010

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I see no problem as she is just trying to find her own identity. If you let her do it then she's less likely to rebel and just do it anyway. She'll know you don't just say no to everything. This way she may feel you understand her, just tell her you love her any way she wants to look.



p.s. Save the big "no" for when she wants to wear micro mini skirts and tank tops lol.

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