The rudeness of some people.

Caitelyn - posted on 12/09/2009 ( 209 moms have responded )

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I found this to be highly insulting, but also hilarious at the same time.



On the train the other night, coming home from 3 days away with the baby daddy. the trip took abotu 2.5 - 3 hours, and Jacob slept for most of the trip. Towards the end though, he did what a normal 7 month old child would do, and started making plenty of noise, due to squealing at the top of his lungs, throwing his toys at me and laughing as loud as possible at my wholehearted attempts to distract him!



However, and this is the insulting part, there was a lady sitting across from us, who had decided to bring it upon herself to let me know how disgusted she was at the way I was raising my son - that is, letting my 7 MONTH OLD baby squeal and shout and play. Now its not like I was deliberately encouraging him to be noisy, i was actually worried that he was disturbing others and was trying to quieten him!



Not only did she tell me that he was the worst behaved child she'd ever seen, but when i got him out of his carseat (as we'd had to take it to his daddy's house with us, he sat in it which also meant that he was much safer on our trip.) to give him a feed - he's breastfed - whilst using our cover, I was told that i was creating a monster who would have an unhealthy obsession with breasts, and didn't i know that formula is better for babies?!



Even after i told her quite politely that I am fine with the way I parent and i really dont need her advice, she continued to give me hell! I even went to the condctor and told him that if she didnt leave us alone, or wasnt moved, there would be a huge problem.



She however, was unable to be moved as the train was fully booked, and therefore she was told to be quiet, as none of the other members of our carriage were bothered, they actually told me they found him quite cute, and also quite good entertainment.



Therefore, I put my mind to ignoring the silly woman. However, once Jacob began playing again, she started mouthing off again. My Darling little honey saw fit to shut her up - he threw his rattle at her and it hit her pretty much square in the forehead!



Needless to say, my giggles were hard to contain. But contain them I did, and I also apologised to her for the fact that my son had hit her (weather it was accidental or not) and I also "disciplined" my son, by telling him to be gentle and removing that toy from his access!



And all I recieved, even after showing an example of my good parenting (as i believe i am a good mother - well i hope anyway!) was another torrent of abuse!!!!!



Needless to say, she got a mouthful back, as i'd been putting p with her for almost an hour and a half.



Has anyone else had situations like this??

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Caitelyn - posted on 12/09/2009

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To be honest, I assumed she obviously didn't have children, simply because if she had, she would (i hope) not behave like that to a mum on her own! I was just disgusted by her - I couldnt wait to get away! but yes, I try my hardest to be a good mother, and I prode myself on the fact that my son is happy and healthy, and here was this old lady telling me that all the good things i do are wrong!



Sorry, i just needed to vent about her!!!!!

Nyree - posted on 12/09/2009

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yes ive had similar thing happen to me and i delt with it the same way you did. i piit her childrem who obviously didnt get to have fun or play, or even get the right nourishment from mothers milk. you did well :)

Krista - posted on 12/09/2009

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I'm surprised none of the other passengers told her to shut up -- I would have. She was undoubtedly making more noise and being much more bothersome than your child ever dreamed of being. (Actually, I would have said, "My child is squawking and making noise because he's an infant and doesn't know any better. What's your excuse?")

Jodi - posted on 12/09/2009

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I was in the supermarket queue one day, in the express lane, and my daughter was kind of dawdling behind me. Next thing I know, I heard this woman saying "Will you f*&$%g get out of the way?". I was quite shocked and turned around, and she was talking to my 4 year old daughter, who just happened to be in the way of her pram, because that age, she was fascinated with babies.



Now, a reasonable person would have just said something like "Excuse me please sweetie, can I get through?". But not this woman, she was a real charmer.



I said to her "I beg your pardon???". She responded with "You f*&%$g heard me."



I was absolutely boiling at this point, but I very politely said to her "Yes, I did hear you, and if you speak to your children like that, I feel for them, but that's not my business, but don't you speak to my children like that."



She started swearing and cursing at me (all in earshot of my daughter, and her own 3 children, as well as a number of others. Everyone around us was absolutely in shock. I didn't say anything else, because I didn't want to make anything worse (although I'm not sure they could have gotten all that much worse).



She was still cursing me as we went to the carpark. I went back inside for a while until I knew she was gone. I didn't want the chance that she may follow me home....... She was a complete fruitcake.



So yes, some people are very rude. I'm sorry you had to put up with someone like that.

Dee - posted on 12/09/2009

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hi i use a train everyday 2 get home from work wit my child and iv come across people like tat woman also.i get people looking at him if he coughs or crys and the best thing is to ignore them do not let them get to you.she hadnt a clue what she was talking about anyways.just remember the majority of people on these carriages have kids so they understand its just the few who are rude. dee

Ailysh-Hope - posted on 12/09/2009

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I have had an now aquaintance say to me... óh thats right, you have the horror child" !!!!
Of all the things to say to a mum when the person saying it does not even have kids!!!! I feel for you, and she would have gotten a mouthful from me alot earlier... You did well!!!!

Karen - posted on 12/09/2009

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You poor things!



Fortunately nothing like this has happened to me (yet) but OMG you have to feel sorry for the poor, ignorant, undoubtably lonely thing ...



Sounds like you're a great mum, your kid is happy, not to mention having a great throwing arm ha ha ... Well done you!

Kylie - posted on 12/09/2009

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lol nope, nothing to that extent. You did better than me though, I would've hurled the abuse back quite a bit earlier!! (maybe even the rattle too)

You sound like a great mum and your son sounds like a healthy, happy little boy. What a cranky old...

Viki - posted on 12/09/2009

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omg thats disgusting.