Things no one tells you about pregnancy, labour, newborn etc that you wish you knew before!

Kim - posted on 04/02/2010 ( 273 moms have responded )

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After i had my first child a friend of mine fell pregnant with her first, and she asked me if there was anything that she should know that no one talks about. So i started a little notebook for her! Because when i was pregnant no one told me and it would have been a whole lot less scary than to go through it and not know! So for all of you out there i thought i would share them with you and get you to contribute as well.

So i figure if we mark the hint as either Pregnancy, Labour, Newborn ect it will make it easy to pick which others want to read. Be as graphic as needed (but use class of course), sometimes we need to know the real truth!

Ok i have a few so here we go!

(Dont take what i say as gospel, its just advice or my take on things! No offence meant if you think something different)

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Jane - posted on 04/03/2010

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If you have stitches or have torn it can really sting when you pee. Keep a plastic jug in the bathroom and fill it with tepid water when you need to 'go', and as you begin to pee, pour the water down over the area while you do it, it stops the stinging and also keeps you nice and fresh.

Kim - posted on 04/02/2010

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Labour:



When you are in labour and the nurse tells you to push they mean to push in your bum. Like you are constipated and have to really force the poo out! Sorry but its true!

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Post Labour:



If you tear and end up having stiches, keep some pads in the freezer. The cold reduces swelling which also helps with the pain

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Post Labour:



You will bleed a tonne!! I mean really really!! You laugh at those old fashioned jumbo pads but i tell you they are needed!

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Taking a newborn home:
Practice how to use the car seat with a doll/teddy before the baby arrives. Those straps take a bit of getting use to!

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Take all advice on board but don't treat it as gospel. Some of it will be good advice the rest may well be crap. Do your own research (books, on line, ect) And seek out the advice of professionals (pediatricians, lactation consultants, child health nurse, ect). Get a second and third opinion if need be. What works for some may not work for othes.



When I was expecting our first I found a great book in the library for expecting fathers, I made my husband read it and it was GREAT. He could understand where I was coming from and was full of great advice. Because had had lots of suggestions of things that he could do he felt more involved in the whole deal. Which in turn gave me less to worry about.

Bethanie - posted on 04/06/2010

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Pregnancy: I had little leaks every once in awhile with my first pregnancy. Now in my second pregnancy, they aren't "little" leaks. If I sneeze, I will pee... a lot, even if I just went to the bathroom 2 minutes ago.



Labor: I wanted a completely natural birth, but after 12 hours and I had only progressed 1 cm more than when I went into the hospital, I decided I needed an epidural if I wanted any chance of a vaginal delivery. No one told me if was going to take over an hour for the whole process of the epidural to happen. If you are the kind of person who wouldn't want an epidural, but change your mind, don't wait until the pain is too much because an hour is a long time when you are in the worst pain imaginable! Also, don't feel bad. I agonized over my decision, but once the epidural kicked in, I felt no pain and I brought my child into the world without pain and fully aware :)



Pregnancy & Breastfeeding: I continued to breastfeed my daughter for 5+ months of my current pregnancy. My OB and all the literature I read supported my decision to continue breastfeeding, as long as I supplemented calcium. No one told me that the combination of the hormone that makes breastmilk and the pregnancy hormones would make me so emotional. It was like I was having postpartum depression while I was still pregnant. I was a wreck and HATED being pregnant. About a week after I stopped breastfeeding, I was back to my old self and bonding with my unborn baby :)



Breastfeeding: When you and the baby are first learning positions and how to latch on, it HURTS!!!! But just when I was ready to give up, we both caught on and it felt natural I continued to nurse for over a year. I got advice from all the women I knew who breastfed and combining their advice worked for me. One woman told me to make sure I breastfed from both breasts during a feeding, which was contrary to what my mother told me to do! Another woman told me to try a different hold so my daughter felt like she was in the same position the entire time, cradle hold on one breast and football hold on the other. That got me through those tough couple of days in the beginning!

Jenny - posted on 04/06/2010

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when you are pregnant all of the bad experience people come out of the woodwork. no one pregancy is the same and a good attitude is optimal. go into swimming arobics, makes for a better delivery. be kind to yourself, sleep whenever if possible. listen to your doctor and just yes the other people. its your time. share your dellivery with both sets of parents, after all it is both of their grandchild.

Casey - posted on 04/06/2010

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my darling 17 year old told me the other day that i'm a horrible mother. i said, you're still alive, aren't you? i can't be THAT bad.

seriously. love your baby and use common sense and save up as much patience as you can for when they get older. you'll need it then.



the truest piece of advice i can give is to make sure your little blueberry muffin has a blanket all his or her own. i made one for my 3rd child during pregnancy, but baby no. 2's was purchased - it doesn't matter where it comes from. sleep with it before you have the little carrot souffle so that it smells like you and then wait for the magic to happen. many times i've had an inconsolable little cupcake and all it took was to tuck her blanket a little closer around her, near her cheek, and a little corner into her hand, and she'd settle down. good luck, it's quite the (neverending) ride!

Belinda - posted on 04/06/2010

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Newborn: I read EVERYTHING I could get my hands on but.....honestly did not realise that babies MUST sleep during the day. My bub was very alert from day 1 and I just thought he didn't need daytime sleep. My life changed when I finally recognised his tired signs and he statred sleeping a couple of times during the day. BABIES NEED DAYTIME SLEEP!!!

Julie - posted on 04/06/2010

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Great posts! ditto on most of them- I'm an L& D nurse with 3 daughters and just wanted to say listen to your friends they have great advice! but do know that your birthing experience may be totally different than what your friends were like- it can be really quick or really, really slow. The pain is different and can be more excruciating than anything you've ever experienced, BUT you will get through it and you will have the most precious gift that you've ever been given! You may have a plan that you may want to change or HAS to change- try to be open, and give yourself permission to be OK with it. You are doing an amazing thing at that moment and love yourself- don't ever feel like a failure if you have to change plans.You are GIVING LIFE!

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people will tell you that after you give birth that you forget the painful labour. It is a lie you always remember it but the outcome far more out-weighs the pain

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Labor: that there's a possibility that your epidural might not work. If you suspect this is the case, be insistent that the anesthesiologist return and try to fix it. Don't let them just tell you to be patient. Mine only worked on one side and it caused me problems during the pushing phase.

Kristen - posted on 04/06/2010

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Labour: Eat BEFORE you go to the hospital. I had a granola bar at 6 in the morning and my daughter wasn't born til 11:05 PM. I couldn't even have a glass of water because I might have needed a c-section (I didn't)



Labour: Don't worry about being 'modest' or 'shy.' After a couple hours of doctors and nurses coming to 'check' on you, you will get over it and not give a crap who sees what.



Newborn: EVERYONE will want to hold your baby. Make sure they wash their hands and SPEAK UP when you want your little one or you need rest. People will understand.



Newborn/At home: Ask for help and accept those who offer, especially if you had a c-section or suffer from post-partum depression.



Newborn: DON'T feel bad for sending your baby to the nursery that first night. You need your sleep and the baby will be well cared for.



Newborn: If your breastfeeding, try to do it as soon as you get your baby. The earlier you start, the better. And don't forget to tell the nurses "no bottles" (and pacifiers, if that is your wish. They won't know unless you tell them.)



Newborn: No one told me that I would bleed for like a month after the baby AND I couldn't use tampons.That sucked.



Brestfeeding: Carry extra shirts, you will leak through.



Newborn: Don't expect to walk out of the hospital in your pre-pregnancy clothes. When the baby is born, you lose the weight of the baby, plus a couple pounds of placenta and water weight. You still got a couple pounds to go after that.



Labour: If you want drugs, ask right away. Once your chance passes, you're going natural whether you wanted to or not.



Labour: Yes, going natural hurts.If you're lucky, it only hurts while you're popping the head and shoulders out. I only took ibuprofen after my daughter was born and it was just a dull ache.



After Labour: Take a shower. It's heaven after hours of sweaty labour. Trust me.

Katherine - posted on 04/06/2010

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I know this may sound bad, but we can always expect the best with our pregnancies, or deliveries, but it doesn't mean we are always going to get them. My son was 9lbs 1oz. Not so big some would say. But his head and chest were 14 centimeters. 2 weeks overdue and breach. C-section next day. Everything went fine. Recovered within a week. 2nd time. Sick from start to end, I am RH- and never had the shot because the hospital typed me wrong with my first. So here I am about to the delivery point and they are worried about my daughter so they take her a week early. Not so bad. 8lbs 6oz. Much smaller. Then she got sick because my body had been attacking her for the entire pregnancy. She is now almost 19 years old and doing fine. A bit like her mother. So yes it may be a perfect pregnancy, but it may not. In the end, you still have the perfect baby you were trying for and worked so hard for. And you then forgot about all the other stuff. Enjoy everything, the good, the bad, the ugly and the better! Oh and I am expecting my first grandchild, a little girl. And I remember how exciting it was to be where they are right now. Katherine Shramek

Lucie - posted on 04/06/2010

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Labour: When it came time to pushing I was told not to push with my bum, because that was likely to cause hemorrhoids. They told me to push like I was helping my urine come out. More from deep within the belly than just derriere pushing.

Belinda - posted on 04/06/2010

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Newborn: I read EVERYTHING I could get my hands on but.....honestly did not realise that babies MUST sleep during the day. My bub was very alert from day 1 and I just thought he didn't need daytime sleep. My life changed when I finally recognised his tired signs and he statred sleeping a couple of times during the day. BABIES NEED DAYTIME SLEEP!!!

Katelyn - posted on 04/06/2010

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This has been mentioned before but i really would like to stress this...after giving birth the last thing you want is visitors surrounding you for hours ( I had my baby at 7:08pm visiting hours were over at 8 and my visitors didn't leave until 11) the nurses thought they were being sweet since i had a late delivery. I had an epidural and it made me sick when i got into my room i am surrounded by all my fiances family puking into the garbage can with them all staring at me...it was awful...then all you want to do is hold your baby that you carried for 9 months and your too busy watching everyone else hold your bundle and by the time you get to hold your baby the nurses are taking him/her away for testing...and finally when they bring him back you are exhausted and want to sleep...so no visitors if you don't really want them.



Secondly and really important...make sure you and your significant other talk about how and what you are going to do to raise your child...my fiance and i talked about things like spankings and groundings which were the disciplines later on in their lives but we barely talked about how we were going to care for our new born...I like the idea of a really strict routine because im the one who gets up with him and puts him to bed the majority of the time whereas he is the type where he doesn't care about routines because he wants to hang out at his parents/relatives house until whatever time...trust me this will save a lot of stress and fights (but that was just one example)

Marissa - posted on 04/06/2010

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if you see blood in your newborns diaper, check your nipples! you might be cracked from nursing! ouch!

Patrice - posted on 04/06/2010

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Breastfeeding:
Don't be alarmed the first few times if your baby falls asleep after a few tugs of your nipple. Gently continue trying to feed them, they may wake up or they may stay asleep, but assume they aren't hungry and put them down. Wait for a while.

Michelle - posted on 04/06/2010

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You will have the best orgasms EVER while you are pregnant! The bigger you get, the better they get! :D

Erin - posted on 04/06/2010

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Newborn (breastfeeding):



I was determined to breastfeed my baby for all the health reasons. Go to this website if you want to read more about it:



http://www.kansascity.com/2010/04/04/185...



It took my baby and I about a week to get it down and I am so glad I stuck through all the hard times! You can do it! If you are breastfeeding make sure you are drinking lots of water...and I mean tons!! I had massive headaches because I was dehydrated and after drinking about 12 cups of water in 2 hours it disappeared.

Patrice - posted on 04/06/2010

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Pregnancy and new motherhood:
Expect your breasts to GROOOOOW. They may only grow 1 cup size or they may grow 4, but expect a serious change. And don't expect them to return to the size they were before. They may shrink, but not that much.

Andrea - posted on 04/06/2010

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Nursing - always try to go to the bathroom before you start nursing. It will take longer than you think and between the contracting of the uterus and sitting there for so long you will have to pee before the baby is finished - especially if you have a slow nurser like my boy who in the beginning would take up to 45 minutes.



Teething - it can start any time not just at that 4 month mark the doctor says. My son started the drooling and chewing at 6 weeks.

With teething their fevers can get really high and if it get to high cause febrile seizures (learned this last week) They are scary but the medical people (fire dept, emt's, hospital staff, and doc's) will tell you they are normal and act like it's nothing. They might pass out with eyes rolled back in their head (most common) or like my son freeze up with pupils dilated and stop responding to anything, may even stop breathing for a minute. Usually they will shake and when coming to will be really disoriented. If it happens cool them down as quickly as possible with a cold wash cloth or (as I found out my mom had to do with me) an ice bath. Remove clothing and keep them cool. Then call the doc. They told me only if it lasts longer than 5 minutes would I need to go to the hospital. With the first one they might check for infections that can cause the fever but (at least my docs) don't do anything more unless it happens again or like I said before lasts more than 5 minutes.

Diane - posted on 04/06/2010

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judy, about pushing . . .thank you, after five kidz , no one ever distinguished that for me

Patrice - posted on 04/06/2010

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Labor:

When you are pregnant(particularly in advanced stages), and feel a really intense need to have a bowel movement, do NOT got to the bathroom. Call your doctor or go to the hospital. My son was almost born in the toilet because I didn't know that an intense feeling of having to go is a labor pain and the urge to push.

Judy - posted on 04/06/2010

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About pushing - there is a difference between pushing from your vagina and pushing from your rectum. The term to "bear down" means to push from the vagina. Think of how it feels to hold it as if you wanted to stop from urinating. Pushing here is just the opposite which is the correct way. If you push from your rectum you will get some big time hems. Try to push from the vagina.

Rhonda - posted on 04/06/2010

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POSTPARTUM:
No one told me that I would soak the sheets and mattress sweating out the water weight after delivery. I woke up one night drenched. My husband had to help me change clothes in the middle of the night. Talked to some moms later and discovered that's normal. Had no idea.

Heather - posted on 04/06/2010

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Breast Feeding:

I read through all the posts, and though two people did mention the cramps that occur when your uterus is contracting back to size after birth, no one mentioned that they get worse as you are breastfeeding. The baby nursing actually speeds up the shrinking of the uterus, and I had cramps so bad for the first week or two while nursing that I would cry while doing it. But it got my weight down REALLY fast after delivery, too!

Mary 'Meg' - posted on 04/06/2010

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Breast Feeding:

If you decide not to bf or bf anymore, your breast will harden and hurt like CRAZY!!!!!! & Leak. Put cabbage in the freezer, and wear the cabbage in your bra for a couple days. It DEF saved me with my 1st son!



If you arer bf'ing and need MORE relief than just the Lansinoh (nipple relief cream), buy the GEL nursing pads and keep them in the fridge.



Your breasts will 'leak' if close to a feeding, ORRRR if you breasts 'hear' a 'baby' crying (SO WEIRD) So ALWAYS wear nursing pads in your nursing bra OR sports bra. Sports bras gave me more support at night.

Theresa - posted on 04/06/2010

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Post Partum: Nobody told me that after I had her I would sweat so much. A ton at night too, soaked through my clothes when I was sleeping and would have to change at night. I wish I had put a plastic protective cover over our mattress, because I'm positive I have ruined it and it is soooo stained, and have washed it several times. I sweated like this for almost a year!

And even 2 years later I still do not have my vaginal muscles being as they should be Every time I get up from sitting or kneeling it sounds like I'm farting when its really my muscles that are loose still.

Newborn: We listened to our midwives when they told us to put olive oil on our babes bum before her first bowel movement and the several ones after that. I accidentally forgot once and I really regretted it. its like taking tar of skin that won't come off, and the baby is not happy about it. Will def. be doing that again with hopefully our second soon.

Diane - posted on 04/06/2010

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NO NO NO do not push like you are constipated unless you want hemorroids for the rest of your days. Push with your stomach muscles. trust me. the doc told me to push like I was going to the bathroom. I had 'roids so bad, I had to lie down on the way home from the hosp. AND haven't been able to afford getting rid of them yet.

Misti - posted on 04/06/2010

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Well, sort of. I forgot that if you tear during delivery or the doctor gives you an episiotomy (so that you are cut cleanly instead of tearing), then witch hazel poured onto a pad and worn in your underwear is your best friend. It's not as cold as ice, and it has pain-relieving properties. I've also been told that it helps with the actual healing process, too. You can find it wherever your store carries rubbing alcohol usually.

Laci - posted on 04/06/2010

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You can get kidney stones while you are pregnant. I got them when I was 7 months along. The pain started in my back, went down my side, and under my belly. This was my first pregnancy. I thought I was in labor and completely freaked out. I ended up in the hospital over night and had to go to my dr the next day for pain medicine.

Misti - posted on 04/06/2010

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Getting an epidural can actually make the labor last longer. I dilated four centimeters in two hours, going from 2 cm at 4:30 pm to 6 cm by 6:30 pm when they finally admitted me to the hospital. I got the epidural an hour later at 6 1/2 cm, and the next three and a half cm took over five hours! I'm really not sure it was worth it. I almost think the epidural made the pushing phase harder because I couldn't really feel what I was doing--I was numb from the rib cage down!

Also, if you are sitting down when your water breaks, in regular maternity clothing, the water may go up into your shirt, forced by the elastic band around your tummy, and will drip down your legs. It is NOT pleasant, but as long as the people (hopefully hospital staff) with you are understanding and get you towels as soon as you start howling unhappily, it should be okay. I actually stripped in front of the poor male nurse once he got me to the L&D room because my waters broke as he was pushing me in, and I just could not wait to get out of those disgusting wet clothes!

Misti - posted on 04/06/2010

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Newborn:



If you're planning on breastfeeding, you should make sure that your first pregnancy exam or one of the early ones includes an examination of your nipples. Your doctor should be able to tell you if you have any abnormalities that would make breastfeeding difficult. I was all set to breastfeed my daughter, but after she was born they looked at my nipple and said it was probably too small for her to latch on to, which was making it difficult for my very impatient newborn (should have seen the signs there for later!) to get anything down her little throat. So I was given this horrible silicone "nipple" to put over mine to give her something more to suck on. Long story short, it caused such horrible lesions on my nipples that I would be crying every time she fed, there was no joy or happiness or anything except pain in it for me, and I gave up after four weeks. I did pump for two more weeks, but I had to go back to work after that and it was just easier to admit defeat at that point, as sad as it made me. I found out immediately after getting my daughter home, though, that there were some things that could have helped, especially in the days leading up to delivery, such as this plastic rings you put in your bra and wear around all day. They surround your nipple without actually touching anything but the aerole, and somehow it draws the nipple out and makes it longer. This might have allowed my daughter to latch on more easily, but trying it after she was already born didn't work because it apparently takes a while to kick in, and she was never patient enough for that. I think I only have myself to blame--when I'm hungry, I eat immediately or I get really testy, and I guess she inherited that from me.

Lisa - posted on 04/06/2010

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Breastfeeding/bottle ... Please don't beat yourself up if you can't!!! I have 3 kids 5,3 and 1yr old. I had low milk supply so tried prescription tablets ... still no luck much to my disappointment. So basically your baby needs milk and there is formula out there and if it wasn't safe it wouldn't be on the shelves at the supermarket. Soooo either way be proud and do whats best for you and your baby, don't stress.

Rhonda - posted on 04/06/2010

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NEWBORN -- I wish someone would have told me that breastfeeding seems to click with mom and baby somewhere around 6 weeks. Before then, it can be very tough getting baby to latch and getting used to the sore and sometimes bleeding nipples. You're not alone. And if you can hang in there til the 6th week, chances are things will begin to fall into place. I thought about giving up so many times but everyone does. Also wish someone would have told me it's common for newborns to start losing a few ounces in the beginning. I totally allowed my doctor to freak me out which put more pressure on me with respect to the breastfeeding. We were all so stressed out.

Rosalyn - posted on 04/06/2010

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Labour:

The gas - feel free to tell the midwives to get stuffed if you don't want the gas anymore as they will be urging you to keep sucking. Halfway through my labour I couldn't suck the gas as it was making me feel sick. Also have someone there (mother/partner/sister/brother/friend) to listen to what your saying as when I was telling the midwives no to sucking the gas, they couldn't hear me. Whether they were just ignoring me or because of the effects of the gas, the strain of labour, or the lack of sleep (I was not well rested - they had a operating room set aside for me) my mother (who originally was encouraging me to suck) had to tell them that there was no way I was going to keep sucking the gas as I did not want to throw up again - I hate throwing up! A-ha! another side-effect of the gas - you may start feeling sick but if you need to have stitches from tearing or an episiotime cut they turn the gas levels up and you should just start feeling stoned.

Also do not feel like you are inconveniencing the midwives no matter what you do. I could not find a comfortable postion (sitting/lying/walking) and so kept changing where I was and what I was doing. At one point as I suddenly decided that sitting was not a good idea anymore (as I could feel the baby's head) as I said "I don't want to sit up anymore" and started lying back I saw the midwife massaging my leg roll her eyes. She stopped being frustrated at me when I lay back and flopped my legs open and she could see the baby's head. But if you have the energy to go tell her to shove it, do it. They've had worse said to them, most probably.

Rosalyn - posted on 04/06/2010

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I couldn't sleep in the early stages of labour due to being in a lot more pain than is usual. So the nurses gave me codeine..... My warning is this - If you've never had codeine before (like myself) you will get the shakes as the drug clears itself from your system. It's really scary when it happens, especially if you are the only person awake at 3 o'clock in the morning, in pain, and already nervous about the birth because you have been having symptoms/signs that indicate you will be having a difficult labour.

April - posted on 04/06/2010

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I gave birth to three children without any pain alleviation because everyone said if I didn't experience the pain it wouldn't be a "natural" child birth. Now I wonder who made up that balderdash?! Do you go to the dentist or have an operation without pain medication? What makes painful childbirth more natural? I gave birth to baby number four after having an epidural and it was the most wonderful experience because I wasn't writhing in pain... PLUS baby number four had his umbilical cord wrapped around his neck and the doctor said the epidural probably saved his life... I pushed much faster and harder without the pain. HAVE AN EPIDURAL!

Sarah - posted on 04/06/2010

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After having 5 girls, I had a son. No-one warned me how traumatic it would be going in with him to be circumsized. There was no way he was going in there without me, as if he was in pain I wanted to be there, but it was the most gut renching thing I have been through- and I did not watch the actual procedure!!! I am glad now that we got it done as I wouldn't have it any other way- however the memory of that hour is very vivid in my memory. And it did make me sook my little man a lot!!

Shelagh - posted on 04/06/2010

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Post Delivery (C-Section)



The Nurses will be VERY interested in your bowel movements... Sitting sideways on the toilet seat doesn't hurt as much....

Monika - posted on 04/06/2010

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I dunno if anyone has already said these things (because with all the posts, I'm not going to read them all to find out) so if someone has already, let me be the one to second it (or third it or whatever).



No body EVER tells you how crappy you are going to feel the week or so after you give birth. Your whole lady area is super sore and doing anything feels uncomfortable. Your first BM after is going to feel like you're giving birth all over again. Make sure you ask for stool softeners.



You will use that little squirt bottle for weeks and weeks after (it will become your best friend. Snag a couple from the hospital).



If you plan on breast feeding and haven't gone to a class or the lactation specialist doesn't come by your room demand to be shown how to do it properly. You will miss the bruising that is super painful.



There is the "correct" way of doing things with your baby, the way nurses and the health board say they should be done, and the way your mum did things. Keep in mind, the health people are just covering their butts and your mum actually sometimes knows what she's talking about. You make the decision, but you need to do whatever it is that works for you.



Do your keegals! It's so easy to forget, but you'll kick yourself for not doing it whenever you sneeze or cough and you pee a little.



There's so much more, but that's the main ones I can think of.

Angela - posted on 04/06/2010

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They never tell you that when you are pushing the baby comes out 2 mm and goes back up 1mm! LOL! They never tell you that when you need to push, it feels like you have not had a poop for about 5 years and this is your big chance! They never tell you that breastfeeding is actually a learned skill and it may not work for everyone!!! They never tell you that the first time your child poops you will be throughly disgusted at the black tar leaving their little body! But they also never tell you the amount of love you can have for your child. It has to be experienced, no words can describe it and you forgot all the horrible things the moment you have your little one in your arms.

Melissa - posted on 04/06/2010

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My advice is for pregnancy & labor .



I suffered HORRIBLE morning sickness ( hyperemisis Gravidium ) with my youngest daughter & learned that you could be sick as all hell, but unless the baby is suffering cuz of it, the doctors will just rehydrate & let you suffer. I ls 65 lbs while pregnant &as told many times that the dr' would not step in until it had a negative affect on the baby.



Do not to listen to women when they say that a hospital will not let you fight through labor for more then 24 hours. I know from experience that they do & will continue to as long as you are making some steady progress.

do not get upset if you have spent hours making up a perfect birthing plan & everything goes completely different.



Susie Whittaker :

I saw that you posted that you need to eat or drink while in labor. I'm in Canada & I've had 4 kids ( 3 separate births) & was told during all 3 that I wasn't to eat anything. Now with the twin birth I can understand why I wasn't allowed to eat ( it was a still birth delivery @ 26 weeks) but with my oldest child & youngest child I was told not to eat or drink ANYTHING during their labors. The oldest daughters' labor was long ( 39 hours, pushing 32 minutes) & hell but never once was it threatened that I may need a c section so I never understood why I couldn't eat/drink. my youngest daughters' labor was 11 hours & pushing for 17 minutes but again wasn't allowed to eat or drink.

Basically letting women know that there are still hospitals, nurses & doctors that demand tat you do not eat or drink while in labor. You ca n add it to ur birth plan but when in labor things can get hectic & every hope u have in ur plan can easily get tossed aside.

Melissa - posted on 04/06/2010

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My advice is for pregnancy & labor .



I suffered HORRIBLE morning sickness ( hyperemisis Gravidium ) with my youngest daughter & learned that you could be sick as all hell, but unless the baby is suffering cuz of it, the doctors will just rehydrate & let you suffer. I ls 65 lbs while pregnant &as told many times that the dr' would not step in until it had a negative affect on the baby.



Do not to listen to women when they say that a hospital will not let you fight through labor for more then 24 hours. I know from experience that they do & will continue to as long as you are making some steady progress.

do not get upset if you have spent hours making up a perfect birthing plan & everything goes completely different.



Susie Whittaker :

I saw that you posted that you need to eat or drink while in labor. I'm in Canada & I've had 4 kids ( 3 separate births) & was told during all 3 that I wasn't to eat anything. Now with the twin birth I can understand why I wasn't allowed to eat ( it was a still birth delivery @ 26 weeks) but with my oldest child & youngest child I was told not to eat or drink ANYTHING during their labors. The oldest daughters' labor was long ( 39 hours, pushing 32 minutes) & hell but never once was it threatened that I may need a c section so I never understood why I couldn't eat/drink. my youngest daughters' labor was 11 hours & pushing for 17 minutes but again wasn't allowed to eat or drink.

Basically letting women know that there are still hospitals, nurses & doctors that demand tat you do not eat or drink while in labor. You ca n add it to ur birth plan but when in labor things can get hectic & every hope u have in ur plan can easily get tossed aside.

Patricia - posted on 04/06/2010

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Yes! The continued contraction thing! Ugh. I had no idea. They were, too me, worse than the "real thing." Lasted longer, that's for sure. I told my OB about it at my checkup, and when she did the exam, she said "no wonder you've been in pain, you're uterus is back to size already!" So, there ya go. ;)

Patricia - posted on 04/06/2010

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Yes! That is one I definitely wish I'd been told ahead of time. I didn't associate "this baby" with the "Emily" in my belly for about the first 36 hours. Granted, I was also on magneseum (zombie drug) sulfate for the first 24 or so, but still... I felt like an awful mother! When I held her up on my shoulder, and she put her little arm around me... that was it! :) In love with her ever since.

Ginger - posted on 04/06/2010

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When I got pregnant I didn't know that the umblical cord was attached the the placenta. I thought they just wound the cord up and shoved it back into you. So I asked a friend and she had a good laugh and sent me a youtube video to watch. I even told my OB what I thought and she had a good laugh. I have to say delievering the placenta was the easiest part.

Also every pregnancy and delievery is different. When people ask how mine went I ask them if they want the truth or nice story. I don't want to scare woman from having children, I want them to have their own experience and not to be frighten that what happen to me could happen to them.

Irene - posted on 04/06/2010

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Newborn:



Remember to give your new baby a little water every now and again to help wash down any formula they may still have in their mouth. If you don't they could easily develop thrush. Oh, and since water has a thinner consistency then formula, it will come out of the bottle alot faster and if you are not careful, he/she will choke a little trying to drink it down, but as long as you hold him properly and don't prop the bottle, it will be ok.

Erin - posted on 04/06/2010

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I have a good anecdote: My fifth son had pustules in his groin area and I took him to the doctor. He reckoned it was a staph infection, probably from the hospital (do no be too alarmed if your baby picks something up there. But be alert because if you don't take care of something right away something that could have easily been treated could turn into something dangerous.) Anyway, the doctor took a sample just to make sure. Just as he was lancing one pustule, my son let out a fountain and hit the doctor right in the face! The doctor laughed and said, "I deserved that!" It was the talk of the office for weeks!

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