Thinking about getting my tubes tied?

Chassidy - posted on 01/10/2011 ( 30 moms have responded )

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This will be my forth child and is due in july. That makes 4 children in 5 and a half years. yes thats right now im not complaining and if your going to please feel free to go along to the next post. now at this point in my life i really do not want any more children so i think that i want to get my tubes tied but everyone else is saying not too so i am really torn as to what to do. and what if i want more kids in the future i am young and have no idea what i my feel like in 10 years. does anyone have any experience in this area and if so how did you deal with it?

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Amanda - posted on 10/12/2012

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I am a 29 yr old mother of three wonderful children. My most recent was born this June. The day after he was born I had my tubes tied. My husband and i believed this was our best choice as neither of us want any more children. I only wish now I had done more research!! I was unaware of what to expect post surgery. The Dr will tell you its a quick simple procedure and not much to worry about. Sure it was quick, but its still MAJOR surgery!! I was in more pain from my tubal than from my natural child birth!!!! And the pain lasted a good 3 to 4 weeks if not longer. Now that the initial pain is over I am dealing with side affects. There is a definite hormonal change you will go through, my pms Isn't just pms any more! My husband says I become a totally different person for about a week, and never experienced this before! Now instead of a normal flow for 3 or 4 days. I can't even leave my house for a week!! My flow is so HEAVY!! I did go and to see my OB and he stated this was all normal post tubal symptoms! Just do your research! I wish I had done mine better.......and just a disclaimer, this is my experience. Might not happen to everyone!!! Good luck and God bless!!!

Crystal - posted on 10/12/2012

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Well from my experience I really regret getting mu tubes tied and if I could go back I wouldn't do it. I felt forced to do it. I have four kids and have had two miscarriages. I'm not saying that I would want more kids, I just have had a lot of medical problems since I got my tubes tied. My mother in law and my husband were only children and she went to all my doctors appointments with me and told the doctor that I was getting my tubes tied and my husband went along with it. Now he wished that he had been on my side and not got my tubes tied. This is a decision that you will have to make and it is something you will live with for the rest of your life.

Bonnie - posted on 01/10/2011

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I have no experience in this area, but I will be honest and say that this decision should be completely up to you and your partner/husband. It is your life. You are the ones who have to love, teach, take care of your children. Lets face it, money doesn't grow on trees. If you only had 2 children than maybe it would be a more difficult decision to make, but you will have 4 children as of July. I say do what your heart tells you. Good luck with whatever you decide to do!

Sara - posted on 10/12/2012

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I would say to get an IUD. I have the ten year one and have had it for almost 6 years with no problems. It gives off no hormones, so you don't have to worry about how your body will react. Some people have cramping around their period, but I haven't noticed any change. Its relatively inexpensive considering its birth control for ten years and you have it placed in your cervix by your gynecologist in their office. If you ever want to have more children or want to have I taken out for any reason, its a simple trip to the gynecologist.

Marquesha - posted on 10/12/2012

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Hello Ms. thinking about getting my tubes tied.

I was a mother of one child for 10 years. I tried over and over to get pregnant but was having difficulties. I sought medical attention put my husband on a sex on demand schedule. Finally, I let nature take its course and then I was able to get pregnant. I found out I was pregnant with twins this made up for all those years of trying to get pregnant. Well my sons was born health and strong. I noticed during my pregnancy I was asked numerous times if I wanted to get my tubes tied once my babies was born. I was so disturbed by this because I had struggled to get pregnant all those years. Well the hell with all those people with there opinions. I did not get my tubes tied I just found be a birth control method that worked for me. Suggestion, Norplant, IUD, etc. When God made women he made the world and you are the only one that can make this decision for yourself. So just take your time and try out other birth control methods you may find one that works well for you. Good Luck.

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Kaley - posted on 10/10/2012

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I'm 25 and had my tubal done in April.. I KNEW I didn't want any more kids. Everyone even asked me if the unspeakable happened and my husband and I got divorced would I want more kids, my answer was no. It's totally up to you. If you are not 100% sure you don't want anymore kids, try an IUD :-)

Alexandra - posted on 10/09/2012

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I wouldn't do it. Why doesn't your husband do it? You had the kids, it is his turn, no? And it is incomparably less painful for the guy to do it instead of the girl.

We have four kids in four years, the last one due in two months, and I am not having my tubes tide. I never know what the future brings, but I believe nowadays with all the medicine possiblities and choices that we have, it is difficult to get pregnant if we really don't want to. Search for the best solution, wich is ultimately yours.

Kami - posted on 10/09/2012

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I just recently had my second child. Now this is by no means what most of these ladies are posting about 4+ children, however I have life threatening pregnancies and my doctor warned me that after 30 (Im 29 now) the complications will become more severe and he recommended I have my tubes tied. My husband has threatened a vasectomy lol. I decided to have Mirena (again. I had it after my first child and it was WONDERFUL and when it was removed it only took 3 months to get pregnant again. I highly recommend it. it baby proofs you and nips periods in the bud. best 5 years you can get lol. then you have time to decide if you're done and can discuss it all with your husband/partner :)

Jennifer - posted on 10/08/2012

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I had 4 in 6 years and was done. I had the husband get a vasectomy since I did not have a c-section or anything. I only want 2 and he wanted 4 so he got "his 4" so he should have to go thru the pain this time. Plus when they are older you will feel bad when you can not always be with 1 for a certain activity becasue your are with another one. If you feel you are "done" then do it. Age should not matter.

Missy - posted on 10/08/2012

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I would definately be 100% sure before doing anything permanent. I have 4 children also, sons are ages 18 and 10 and my twin daughters are 6. as soon as I found out I needed a c-section with my twins I told the Dr, "while you're in there, fix it"

I was almost 35 and knew I didn't want anymore children. I didn't want birth control pills anymore. I can't remember to takes pills, why do you think I have so many kids. lol

good luck with whatever you decide.

Susan - posted on 05/01/2011

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i have five daughters ages from 6years old-8 months old. I got my tubes tide and found out after that. That there is 1.45-2% chance that i can get pregnant between 8 months ago and ten years from know.Because it takes ten years before the tube would or might fully heal back to normal. I have tried three birth controls and got three child from then hoping that me getting my tubes tied helps me from having any more. cause I am 27 years old.

Charlotte - posted on 01/14/2011

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As with all things permanent, if you've got the slightest hint of doubt, don't do it! You should be 200% sure before going ahead with it.

Melissa - posted on 01/14/2011

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I was just at the doctor's yesterday and was having a similar discussion about this. I was actually there to get an IUD put in. He informed me that having the IUD is better at preventing pregnancy then getting your tubes tied or having my man have a vasectomy (I couldn't believe it).

So maybe you could talk to your doctor about this and see what he says, it's stays in for 5 years and if you want more in the future it can be removed.

I would say that since you seem to be indecisive if you want more later on that going to that extreme might cause major heartache and regret. Don't do something so permenant.

Talk to your doctor, but in the end you have to do what's right for you.

Hope you figure it all out and best of luck!

Kristy - posted on 01/13/2011

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i am 26 and had mine done when my six month old son was born the doctor told me that it was preminate and could not be reversed but i have had three c sections so any more kids would mean more risks to me as with any op but i dont regret the desision i have friends that wish they had had theres done as they have had just had there eighth bub as for having more kids later on there are other options such as adoption and IVF so you have to do what is right for you you also have to think about the weight that might be involved if you deside to get them done i sugest theat you ask your doctor for information on the subject

Erin - posted on 01/13/2011

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I agree with the other women on here. 23 is kinda young to have your tubes tied. An IUD wasn't an option for me as I have a medical condition using one isn't recommended. However, I'm also 31. We have two boys and that was enough for us. Getting pregnant is an emotional rollercoaster for me so when I said I was done, my husband said okay. Instead, I'm using my love for childbirth and newborns to propel me into a career. I'm becoming a birth doula. Take some time. Four kids are a lot but make sure that this is what you truly want.

Tracy - posted on 01/13/2011

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Chassidy,
I know exactly what you are talking about. I have 4 kids and a step-son. After my 4th child, I had my tubes tied. I was 26. Funny thing is that every once in a while I would think about having another child. Well I obviously couldn't have one, so I either ended up with a goldfish or a new puppy. Now that I look back that wasn't very smart. Whatever you decide to do I'm sure you will be ok. Just really think it over. I don't regret my decision because all of my kids are older now and starting their own lifes and no new puppies for me... Take care..

Gail - posted on 01/13/2011

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i'm 32 and have only two children but thats all i wanted i got my tubes tied when my son was only two months it's been a year and i still see babys and wonder if i did the right thing but i know i did it was right for me but my not be for you. one day at a time is how i deal with it its kind of a lost but for me it was worth it and i'd do it again in a heart beat but if your not 100% sure then i would wait!

Jessica - posted on 01/13/2011

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Like Bonnie said, this is a decision that should be made by you and your Husband!! But I have a 17 month old and I probably will never get my tubes tied. I only want 1 more child, but I have been using Mirena. And from all the info I have gathered on it and what my dr has told me, it is more effective than having your tubes tied. You go back every 5 years to have it removed and have another placed, but it beats surgery and it's not permanent! Good luck with your decision. And 4 kids in 5 1/2 years, whew! All I have to say is your a strong woman! :)

Shana - posted on 01/12/2011

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I stopped at 2, we have one of each and since i had so many issues we agreed that it would be better if I had it done with my daughter. I spent 2007 and 8 being pregnant so I was glad to do it. Sometimes we joke bout having more kids because the tubes are not 100 percent but close its like 25 out of 200 chance of getting pregnant. So for now our theory is if an accident happens it happens. Otherwise if we do really change our minds, there is always reversal or even better adoption. Pregnancy is hard on the body but only you can make the decision, if you say 4 is good, then its good

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I'm 27 and I got my tubal in May. I have had 4 kids and quite frankly don't care to be pregnant ever again. Don't get me wrong I loved being pregnant and love my kids with all my heart but I am done. 23 is kind of young to make that decision IMO but you do have 4 kids, not 1 or 2. If your comfortable and thats what you want go for it.

Chassidy - posted on 01/12/2011

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well thank you all for jyour advice and the wieghing question on everyones minds i am on 23 so ya its alot to think about

Jane - posted on 01/11/2011

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I had my tubes tied at 36. I had two children and didn't want any more. I felt I was approaching an age where while I wasnt old, I wanted to have time in my later years to enjoy life post kids. Does that make sense? My kids are 20 and 17 and I'm 51. I will still be young enough to do lots of things and now enjoy my adult children. I think having kids later in life is fine but if you want some enjoyment in your golden years, stopping in you r mid to late 30's is good.

How old are you? I don't think after 4 kids it is unreasonable to want to have your tubes tied.

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my oldest is 3 and my youngest is 2 year old twins... they are 11 month apart... when i got pregnant with my twins, it was a surprise, so we made the choice to get my tubes tied when i had a c-section with the twins. i'm only 31 years old and do not want any more kids right now. there is still the opportunity to get pregnant by invitro... like you, i've thought about other children, but will face it when that time comes... i have always talked/joked about adopting and would like to do that if the time is right and adopt a kid locally... it's up to you and your partner to make that choice

Lakisha - posted on 01/11/2011

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well, i have had my tubes tied and i am preganant now.. i knew i could not handle mentally or finacially any more children and did what i thought would prevent it

Keisha - posted on 01/11/2011

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Well...its really up to you but there are other options. In particular an IUD. I had the Mirena, which is the one with hormones and the Paraguard, which has no hormones. I personally prefer the Paraguard primarily because of the no hormone factor and the fact that it last up to 10 years. We thought we were done, but changed our minds 1 1/2 years after getting it put in. The Doc took it out and we got pregnant again months later. Its also more effective than the pill and all that other stuff...plus once its in you don't have to do anything. I kinda understand where you are. I'm pregnant with my 3rd and this is it, but I'm terrified of getting my tubes tied. That's considered surgery! As soon as I am able after I give birth i will be going back to the Paraguard!

Louise - posted on 01/11/2011

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Wow what a busy house you have! If you are unsure about having more children in the future then definitely do not have your tubes tied as this is final. I think as you are young it is more than likely that the thought of more children will pop into your head. I am an example of that I have two grown sons and then decided to have another baby now aged 2. More and more women are having babies into their late thirties and early forties. I had my first sons aged 21 and 24 and I thought at that time that was enough but when my son moved away to uni I had an attack of empty nest syndrome and had another baby who is the whole families life and soul. So seriously consider another form of contraception maybe long term inplants whilst you sort out in your mind what you really want to do.

Tracy - posted on 01/10/2011

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Talk to your dr and your partner. If you are 100% certain you don't want more, then they can go in directly after you give birth and take care of it. Even after a natural birth. My dr wouldn't, in part because of issues I had with my first baby. But my partner (AFTER it was discussed and agreed that's what I/we wanted) piped up and said he'd get snipped. He didn't, and we're no longer together. I've got the Mirena that Iysha described. I love it. I'd prefer being snipped, since my current partner wants no kids of his own and I'm too old to start over, but this works for now.

It really comes down to What do YOU want. If you honestly have no desire to go through pregnancy/baby again, then go for it.

Iysha - posted on 01/10/2011

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My friend wanted her tubes tied and is 25. The doctor she went to advised against it because of her age and recommended an IUD. If you really don't know if you will want more children, I would also recommend an IUD...There's the 5 year and one that stays in for a longer period of time. It's long lasting enough for long term birth control, it's not something you have to think about constantly and in 10 years if you want another child you can have another =] It isnt so permanent and final....

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