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Rhonda - posted on 03/28/2013 ( 128 moms have responded )

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I have no clue if this will make sense , but here we go. My husband and I have been married for 4 years. When I first met my husband he "talked" in his sleep. That was just fine. This whole year I have been sleeping in our son's bedroom with our daughter. The reason being is, when he's sleeping, not even 30 mins after falling asleep he swings his arms, ( hands in a fist ) then hits me in the back. I KNOW he is NOT doing this on purpose because when I bump him to wake up and to flip over he has no clue what he just did.
Anyway I keep telling him when he goes to the doctor to tell the doctor about this. Well obviously he hasn't! So I have been doing some research myself. It's a REM Sleep Disorder, either that or one of his medications. He just doesn't seem to care. I have a bad back.
Is there any advice? Anything?

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Jeff & Lynn - posted on 04/01/2013

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I work in a sleep center. This is actually pretty common and very easily treated. It can become really dangerous if left untreated, however. He should definitely be evaluated at an accredited sleep center. This is for your sake and his.

Amanda - posted on 04/01/2013

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My husband used to do the same thing... usually kicked his legs, kicking me because we sleep with heads at opposite ends of the bed... I know, weird, just what works for us. Anyway, after talking with the doctor, doing a sleep study, and getting a good cpap machine (for sleep apnea) he no longer does these things and doesn't talk in his sleep at all. Believe me, it is worth getting checked out, the sleep study is painless and a cpap, while difficult to get used to at first, can help him get better rest, because my guess is that he is tired the following day. Good luck! Just giving my experience, I know how hard it can be to get some men to go to the doctor, let alone be honest with them.

CAT - posted on 04/02/2013

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Ok, so there are two big issues here. One can be easily fixed. Get Twin sized beds. Sleeping in your own bed will keep you safe through the night but in the same room. The second issue isn't easy to fix. To quote you "He just doesn't seem to care". Your husband is hurting you and he doesn't care? He says it's accidental. If it was then he would care, a lot. Naturally we are looking at this from 30,000 feet and not in your own home so we can't possibly know if there are other indications of issues when he is awake but you really need to look closer at what is going on. Hope this works out for you!

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Tammy - posted on 04/01/2013

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Try putting a body pillow between you, so that he hits the pillow, instead of you.
I don't understand why your husband doesn't care that he is hurting you! Tell him you are relocating him permanently to the couch if he doesn't get help,

Danielle Elizabeth - posted on 03/31/2013

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Being educated in a particular area doesn't make you educated about the topic at hand my dear. I have a masters degree in social psychology but that doesn't mean I can tell you anything about neuroscience! I'm not saying I dont believe in demons ( obviously they even come in the form as Christian mothers) , I just don't think anyone could hypothesize from the information given that this woman's husband can blame demons for his very common sleep problem ; especially if he does not display any other " demonic activity" in any other areas of his life. I did take a special interest in you though , you are the type of "Christian " that makes me sad . I merely pointed out the invalidity of your opinion , and your nasty ( demonic?) attitude showed your true colors !

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Rowan - posted on 05/02/2013

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How is his diet?
My hudband used to sleep-talk, sleepwalk, sleep eat, sleeep all kinds of stuff. He grew out of it once he turned 30 and cleaned up his diet.

Cindi - posted on 05/01/2013

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Videotape so he believes and can see it first hand. Encourage him to talk to a doctor-go along with him even if needed-because sleep disturbances are usually minor but can also be symptoms of a more serious problem. And if anyone moves out of the bed-it should be him, he is the one causing the disturbance. I think the idea of twin beds like in an old sitcom is awesome...I would be so much more comfortable sleeping by myself personally!

Holli - posted on 04/27/2013

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if you can, video tape him sleeping and thrashing. Sometimes seeing it themselves will show you are not overexagerating. It's kind of like telling most women they snore like a mac truck. "No I don't!" It's embarrassing for people to a) not be able to control themselves while sleeping and b)having someone know and experience something they cannot. It probably is not a case of not being concerned, he probably thinks you are over exaggerating or is embarassed to deal with it. As far as embarassing involuntary body acts, sleep disturbances is right up there with halatosis, flatulance, and incontanance. Most people will not seek medical help for it, even though it can be from something as serious as cancer. Seeing it first hand can show him the seriousness of the issue.

SAHM1495 - posted on 04/24/2013

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Separate beds for sure! I saw a documentary on this once. Very upsetting for partner. If he doesn't seem sorry for what is happening to you then I might think he was doing it on purpose! He needs help and you can speak to your doc about it and the effect it has on you too. Best Wishes.

Susan - posted on 04/16/2013

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Sleep with a huge long pillow in between you and tell him you won't take it away until he stops doing it. Some issue in his subconsious mind (repressed anger possibly). My partner would do occasional strange things in his sleep, but usually he would suddenly get all amorous with me and we were both sleeping, it always weirded me out because I was in a deep sleep and usually exhausted and I would say "Hey" what are you doing? and then he would wake up, he had no recollection of it the next day or when he awoke. It seemed to go for a bout 4 - 6 months on and off then stopped.

Susan - posted on 04/16/2013

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Sleep with a huge long pillow in between you and tell him you won't take it away until he stops doing it. Some issue in his subconsious mind. My partner would do occasional strange things in his sleep, but usually he would suddenly get all amorous with me and we were both sleeping, it always weirded me out because I was in a deep sleep and usually exhausted and I would say "Hey" what are you doing? and then he would wake up, he had no recollection of it the next day or when he awoke. It seemed to go for a bout 4 - 6 months on and off then stopped.

Chaya - posted on 04/16/2013

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Don't tell him to find a different place to sleep, he just may find a place you don't want him to sleep.
My dad used to tell me to shape up or ship out, it was impossible to "shape up" so I wanted to leave, it took a couple of years, but I did, for good when I was 12.
Don't give him that option

Chaya - posted on 04/16/2013

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My current sweetheart didn't start snoring until his deviated septum was repaired. He was a teenager at the time, I didn't know him, but I have to wear silicone earplugs if we are sleeping in the same house, if he sleeps in the same room with me, I need silicone earplugs and construction grade headphones.

Chaya - posted on 04/16/2013

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Find out if he has sleep apnea or a neurological condiiton. My dad did that to his wife for the last ten years or so of his life. I think it started after my dad got sick, but I wasn't there, I just heard about it later. My dad died of astma, emphysema and cancer, Not saying that's the case, it probably isn't, but my guess is there is a medical issue.

Mareike - posted on 04/15/2013

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I have the same problem. I lash out sometimes my arms shoot straight up and stay there...I also move around looking for cool spots in my sleep. My docs said there is nothing wrong some people just have odd reflexes in their sleep. My hubby and I have separate bedrooms ( I did give him a couple of black eyes in my sleep) and are happy as can be.
( I also laugh out loud and talk in my sleep) I videotaped it once it is wild!!

Jessica Leigh - posted on 04/14/2013

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I sm not trying to be n o s e y...but I have taken a lot of psychiatric medications. I am wondering what medications he takes.

Roxanne - posted on 04/13/2013

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I would explain to him that until the situation has been resolved and he decideds to do something about it... its couch city for him. I had to do the same thing with my husband of 10 years who swears that he does not snore............................... I actually had to record his sleeping to show him why I cant sleep because of his noise.. So he had to sleep on the couch until he believed me.. even after the video. But he eventually went to the doctor and found out that he had a deviated septum in his nose and that getting it fixed would stop most of the snoring, But he also has to sleep with the nose strips on to help him and we got him a pillow for sleeping on his stomach... so he wouldnt roll over to his back. when he does roll over well its the nudge and telling him hes snoring roll over... lol. But finaly realizing that he had a problem took a while. He eventually went, but they have to get over their pride first.. With your husband throwing punches it could get ver dangerouse to you. I would insist he go to the doctor or sleep on the couch for your safety

Pamela - posted on 04/07/2013

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Explain to him that you have researched the situation and show him the information you have received. Once the info is shared explain to him that he is physically hurting you as he sleeps without his knowledge and that you cannot continue to allow this behavior to continue.
Tell him, "I prefer sleeping with you instead of with the children, but with fists flying in my back, I do not feel safe anymore. Please see the doctor about this condition and let's be able to snuggle in our sleep again as I would very much like to do and i hope you'd like to do too! If you want me to go to the doctor with you we can arrange that."
If he refuses, call his doctor and explain what the problem is and how it is beginning to adversely affect the marriage. Perhaps if his doctor's office gives him a call it may spur him. It may very well be that he is too embarrass to talk about this with anyone else. Ask him if that is the reason he hasn't attended to it yet!
As adults we tend to hide our simple fears because we believe we shouldn't have them...after all we aren't children anymore. However, fear is fear, a real emotion and when we honestly deal with it we find that it is not as "big" as perhaps we thought.
The highest and best to you and your family in getting this problem solved to the best outcome for all!

Christina - posted on 04/06/2013

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Go to the dr.'s and if he doesn't go. When he's sleeping you ball your fist up and hit him in the back to show him how it feels, when he does it to you. That's not the way to do it, but if he's stubborn not to go to the doctors. You should do it.

Jinnie - posted on 04/05/2013

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Talk to him about the seriousness of this. Embarrassed or not, not an excuse to avoid talking to the doc about it. He needs to insist on a sleep study. Sleep Apnea can have deadly consequences for him if he continues to ignore it. Yes, people stop breathing in their sleep & die when they have severe forms of sleep apnea that go untreated. Could be a symptom of other serious conditions. Buck up, be a man, & get yourself to the doc Mr. Rhonda's Hubby!

Stacy - posted on 04/04/2013

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Id recommend for him to go to the dr. First to the one who prescribed him medication and make sure that isnt a side effect to have such a sleep disorder, and if theres no issue with it to take him to family dr and go from there. He might not seem to care now, but when you wake up wiht him physically hurting you even though its not intentional, he needs to understand, even though these things are happening when hes unaware, its causing harm and it needs to stop. Like what if you were lower in the bed for whatever reason and he hits you in the face!! Exp. with a bad back hes gonna have to suck it up and check it out, even if he doesnt want to do it or him, he can do it for you

Amber - posted on 04/04/2013

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The short and simple answer is go with him to his next appointment or call the doctor yourself. There are other reasons besides what you fear ( My grandfather had night terrors and my grandmother ended up getting twin beds in their room.) but it won't be solved until he gets a proper evaluation.

Tiffany - posted on 04/04/2013

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If it were me, and I know it's not. I would tell my husband, "either talk to your doctor, or find somewhere else to sleep." Or you could talk to his doctor for him. Either way, if you have a bad back and your husband doesn't care that he's hurting you in his sleep... then something needs to be done about it.

Rhonda - posted on 04/04/2013

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-->> >> First of all it is totally my choose to sleep in another room. It is for my safety and everyone else's. I would take a guess and say its his pills.. I'm sure he feels terrible about doing all this. He even says that when I bump him to tell him to turn over (when he's on his other side not facing me , he doesn't hit me). When he wakes up he doesn't remmeber what dream he had, but he definitely appologizes to me. He doesn't just blow it off like it was nothing. Im sure he's just "scared" or just embarrassed.. Either way, We will figure things out together... He has an appointment coming up, so we will see.....
(I know this could lead to Parkinson's, I know someone who was recently diagnosed)

Rachel - posted on 04/04/2013

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My husband punched me in the back during sleep once, totally unaware. Thankfully it was only the one time. If you don't have a king sized bed, I'd recommend that.

Amy - posted on 04/04/2013

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Jael Point, your husband sounds EXACTLY like mine. Falls asleep within 5 minutes of getting in bed, snores, knocks me with his elbows, and smacks me; never been pushed out of bed though, yet. I think the elbows and smacks are because he is so tall (6' 7") and has looooonnnnng arms. Even though we have a king size bed he has to sleep all the way up at the top and I am only 5' so if he lifts his arms to change position and I am too close I get knocked. My first instinct is to swing back ( I might be getting attacked, lol) because it startles and wakes me but when I sit up I just slightly nudge him or roll him over, then I scoot way over to the side of the bed.

Joy - posted on 04/04/2013

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I think that mothers automatically don't sleep as well when their children are small because you hear them when they get up in the middle of the night and sometimes worry that they will get up or get hurt. Sometimes those sleep patterns don't go away. I sleep very well now that my kids are grown. My husband snores so I wear earplugs and sometimes I'll say hon, your snoring again and lightly nudge him and he wakes up for a brief second and falls back asleep and then he doesn't start snoring again for another hour or so.

Jael - posted on 04/04/2013

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Put a pillow between you and your husband until a better solution can be found so your back will not have to endure so much pain? I also have to add that my husband sometimes smacks me when he is sleeping, or elbows my head, he has accidentally pushed me out of bed before. He falls asleep before I do every night in less than 5 minutes. He also snores. It makes it very hard to sleep.

Danielle - posted on 04/03/2013

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Encourage him to go to the doctor to get a sleep study done. It sounds like he has REM Behavior Disorder - something I've been dealing with since I was about 13 years old. Hardly anyone has heard about it and many doctors don't even know about it. It results from a lack of the chemical in your brain that paralyzes you while you sleep. We either don't have enough of it or just don't have it at all. It means we spend a lot of time acting out our dreams in real life, which can definitely be dangerous to a bed mate. My husband has learned what I do before I start acting out my dreams and will try to wake me up before I start flailing around.

Your husband may or may not actually have RBD. He needs to have a sleep study done to be sure. One fun fact: people with RBD may be more likely to have Parkinson's Disease later in life, so it's best to know about any increased risk early on so you can keep an eye on things.

I took Elavil (generic: amitriptyline) which helped me tremendously with both chronic insomnia and the REM Behavior Disorder. I still had crazy active dreams occasionally, but I did not act them out nearly as much as I did when I was not taking it. Klonopin (generic: clonazepam) is also prescribed for RBD.

First step, though, is for him to talk to his doctor and get a referral for a sleep study.

Good luck!

Bonnie - posted on 04/03/2013

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Have him get a sleep test. I went through stuff like this for years until I happened upon my doctor by chance. When I told him my symptoms and what tests the others gave me, he said "They gave you the wrong damn test". Turns out I am a narcoleptic. Don't be afraid of that, it's not just falling asleep whenever. If he's have terrors, acting out etc it is very likely that he has this. Have him seek out a sleep specialist for this. He will thank you in the end!

Alice - posted on 04/03/2013

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I have a sleeping disorder, I get night terrors and act out, sometime jumping out of bed etc, anyway if he doesnt want to go to the doctor, I found that hypnotherapy was very helpful, and being aware of triggers such as being too hot, too tired and having too much coffee are common triggers.
I havent read all the comments but I do think that is it very selfish of him not to address this issue when it is obviously having an impact on your life.

LaustCawz - posted on 04/03/2013

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Rhonda--
I get the impression that there are at least three possibilities--
1. Your husband may have some deeply repressed anger, resentment, or disappointment issues from the past, present, or maybe even his childhood. Whatever the source of these issues, he may be too proud or independent-minded to seriously accept the idea of talking to any sort of doctor about it, though he might say he does. Whatever these issues are, they need to be discussed, but it's probably better if he confronts them on his own. Egging him on, whether it's from you or a doctor, could push him away. You should try to just be supportive & understanding.
2. He feels just a very masculine need to be more active, but perhaps feels stifled about this for some reason, so it's become subliminal. If he's interested in sports at all & has time for this (to play or even just to watch), this could help. If not, maybe he could simply go running regularly or something, or it could be as simple as him having a punching bag (an inanimate one, I mean) or weights, maybe, to work off stress or energy or whatever.
3. Exactly what is he on medications for? Does he need to be on these? Unless they're for an actual disease of some sort, it's probably not a good idea for him to keep taking them. It wouldn't surprise me at all if it's the medications. If he actually does need them, this may be a side effect & there may be nothing you can really do.

Emy - posted on 04/03/2013

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Just adding my experience here, knowing the true nature of the man.They are really proud when it comes to follow the wifes advice in something that obviously they dont consider problem. So, the suggestion of taking a video and showing to him, adding that you will not sleep on his bed unless he comes up with solution and dont forget to add how nice it is to sleep together and how much you love him. He will come up with " brillant" idea to talk to doctor. Well, usually has to be the husband idea so just put the idea in his mind and not obviosly to him put him to look for help direction. I hope things get better for you soon.

Carrie - posted on 04/03/2013

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If you have netflix you and your husband should check out the movie "Sleep walk with me", its a true life story about this man who has Rem sleep disorder. He basically acts out his dreams and how it affected his life, it is a comedy but the man eventually gets help. Check it out. Maybe your husband might feel a little better knowing he isnt alone with this, and more apt to get help if he sees how it could affect his life.
Good luck,
Carrie

Leah - posted on 04/03/2013

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You should get video of him in his sleep and show him the video in the morning to show him just how bad it is. Tell him to imagine you in the bed with him while he's swinging his arms around like that in his sleep.

Venise - posted on 04/03/2013

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tie his hands behind his back,and slap him around abit...then start snoring really loud...then make him go sleep in another bed,why the heck are you not sleeping in your lovely bed,you haven't done anything.

Areena - posted on 04/02/2013

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Ok Rhonda no need to accept any of his excuses .. U seriously have to talk to him convince him that this is not healthy and that it has taken a very stringent turn that is hitting u in dreams. He needs u to convince him to talk to the doctor and yes exercise is a key to alot if problem .. If I ere u I wod have grabbed my husbands attention and make him see web searches convince him that he is going through some problem that has to be mentioned to the doctor

Julie - posted on 04/02/2013

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my daughter has night terrors similar thing, if you stir his sleep just before, just enough but dont wake him, it resets the sleep pattern

Corrinda-Paul - posted on 04/02/2013

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In Response to this post from Rhonda -

>> no he has never been in any war. He doesn't want me telling our doctor.. Then he'd prolly be thinking I'm telling him other things about him!, haha.. It's something to do with REM Sleep Disorder or Periodic Limb Movement Disorder? There are many things it could be. .. He has Diverticulitis .. But that couldn't be it could it?.... His naps he takes too aren't no half hour either... More like 2-3 hours.... He Day Trades stocks, so numbers could be on his mind....

Alarm bell - He doesn't want me telling our doctor...then he'd prolly be thinking I'm telling him other things about him! *****

Alarm bell - His naps he takes too aren't no half hour either...more like 2-3 hours

My comments - what other things would you like to tell your doctor.....you are already saying that you want to in this statement - essentially you are crying out for help in your statement.

Second - I would not be surprised if those naps are taking on the couch. And third - I would not be surprised if he is more than lackluster on the chores and child rearing and makes a point of showing you this by doing such things as taking long naps probably on the couch in front of you when you are busy.

Please please seek answers yourself........this s not good hun. xoxo

Karin - posted on 04/02/2013

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Some people are quick to say that this is a bad person because he seems not to care. I wonder if it might be his defense mechanism. My dad was a VERY bad snorer the whole time I was growing up. My mom complained about it a lot and asked him to get it checked. I think the thing that stopped him the most was embarassment. Think about how many times you have made fun of someone for snoring or sleepwalking or whatever. It's not exactly the easiest thing to admit to. I think that my mom putting up with it rather than pushing the issue also led to his complacency. She was the one slugging him though.....he would stop breathing for so long from apnea that she was afraid he'd not wake up so she'd wake him up with a quick tap. She seemed genuinely concerned about his well being. He would listen but was too embarassed to do anything....also this was not as commonly spoke of back in the 80's.

It took losing her to cancer and remarrying someone who wouldn't put up with his snoring for him to get a CPAP. He says he sleeps great now and isn't tired. The apnea was also affecting his heart. After a while on the CPAP his heart issues seemed to clear up a bit too. I think it had something to do with lack of oxygen causing the heart issues.

Joy - posted on 04/02/2013

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I bought a huge pack of purple earplugs, i don't hear my husband snore. Try earplugs they are amazing!! Get the highest decibel ones that say like 33 decibels. Apparently he is very soundly sleeping too bad you aren't. I think he should have to sleep on the couch why should you be kicked out of your bed when he has the problem.

Mark - posted on 04/02/2013

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I agree...he is not being at all considerate, let alone loving or compassionate towards you, especially as it is HIS problem.

Corrinda-Paul - posted on 04/02/2013

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Hi Rhonda - I am going to say thing as sugar coated as I can possibly get while trying to tell you the best way I know how on what is going on........the fact that your husband does not seem to care that he is hitting or punching you in your bad back - set off my alarm bell. I can say this because I have been there and I can say this because the next women after me confided in me also - this is a common response to domestic violence. You should also not be sleeping in your kids room and you saying that you are is the second set of alarm bells - if there is a medical problem in your marriage then it can cause some sleepless or separate bed issues for a little bit, but not for a long time. This is just not about his medical condition and sure it could be from sleep apnea- but then why would he not care and not apologize profusely while rubbing your back. This is what he should be doing and he should feel so guilty that he accidentally hit you - that he would volunteer to sleep on the couch. That non-guilt of him hitting you in his sleep is in itself - abuse. If you truly loved you and cared about you and your kids - he would be making a move or three to get his issue fixed and he would concerned about your health and well being. I also see the fact that you are sleeping with your kids in one room all together even though there is a boy and a girl - an act of you protecting your children from harm that you feel he may cause directly or indirectly. Again I say this to not ruffle feathers or to accuse anyone of anything. I am letting you know that this conversation was a tip off to the classic and textbook symptoms of a domestic violence relationship to which there are many forms. You need to get help right away and take it seriously - just think about it - if you do not think that it is anything to do with D.V. and you are mad that I am saying this - just think about the fact that your husband hits you in your weak back and does not comfort you afterwards while showing a lack of guilt and a lack of wanting to get better or seek out a solution......really really think about it.......I have been through it and I have talked with several people who have been through this. So I say this with love and respect and not hate - get help! If you would like we could talk offline - just let me know and I can give you my email address........I can also share poetry with you that was inspired by events such as the ones that you described. You deserve love, respect, and caring....re-evaluate your situation. And if you say that its not as bad as it seems - then ok - but why stay with a man that does this - sleep disorder or not - it is not ok....with lots of love xoxoxo

Gonzalo - posted on 04/02/2013

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Good evening, as a man, I would be the one going to sleep some where, specially in a twin size bed with the wall facing me from the same side I would use to go and hit, that way I would measure myself how dangerous is having some one sleeping by my side, that way my wife wouldn't have to be the one worried about this thing as a marriage situation and I would be the one worrying and making up my mind that I should me more responsible, not her. Pray for his health, and his responsibility as a man.

Donna - posted on 04/02/2013

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I say continue sleeping in another room until your husband owns up to his problems and gets them fixed on his own. He's an adult and should be accountable/responsible for his own actions, getting himself to the doctor, etc.

If my husband were to "abuse" me while sleeping, I most certainly would NOT continue sleeping in the same bed as him until he is cleared by a physician and there are guarantees that my safety is secure.

Forget about "ruining" the marriage by sleeping in separate rooms. I'd rather be alive and breathing, then bruised and 6 feet under, thank you very much. Once he's taken care of his problems then you can return to the marriage bed.

Rita - posted on 04/02/2013

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Sleep somewhere else until he feels compelled to seek help. I had the same thing happen and while some may say sleeping somewhere else is bad for your marriage, it's actually worse if you can't get any sleep, so you're blaming him and getting bitter, and also annoyed b/c you can't control him and make him see a doctor about it. It's much easier just to get a good night's sleep somewhere else and let him be him, warts and all.

Sherry Trentadue - posted on 04/02/2013

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In my judgment call, I would insist that he see a professional for this problem. Sleeping in your son's bedroom, of course, is not beneficial for your marriage. If he should complain about you not sleeping with him, then he doesn't have a choice but to see a doctor.
Good luck!

Heather - posted on 04/02/2013

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From working in a sleep lab for a while I can tell you that it may be a rem disorder that may or may not be from a medication. He needs to talk to his doc and possibly have a sleep study done.

Rhonda - posted on 04/02/2013

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>> I'm sure that's the reason why he doesn't want to go talk to the doctor. He's scared. He knows that they will send him to a sleep specialist. He doesn't want to be hooked up to all sorts of "machines". I have no clue why he doesn't at least bring it up. It's not like he has to do it right away, I'm pretty sure he can think about it.. I just want him to at least ask!! Does he ever think if I'm getting enough sleep?... Ugh...

Jennifer - posted on 04/02/2013

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Rhonda,
You do have a tough situation. My husband and I both did sleep center study. It explained a lot of the problems we experienced and I was glad we did it.
To answer your question, I would call his doctors office and voice your concerns about his night fights and the importance of being anonymous. If you are familiar with the office I would ask to speak to the nurse to discuss a medical condition and not receptionist. Maybe they can reaffirm your concern and have good advise.
If he has sleep apnea the side effects can range from mild -severe-even life threatening as many have already posted about. I was a huge skeptic on the importance of a deep sleep. I didn't realize the far reaching effects in my work,my relationships, and my health.. I am not a fan of the cpap machines, but I did change many behavior, exercise, and eating habits. I use a lot of the healthy tips but more importantly I shut my world down an hour or more before bed. No electronics or books. If my mind gets reeling I make a to do list. When things go on the list I can forget about them for the night because they will be there tomorrow.
Sound stupid, I didnt even know I had an issue. I had symptoms most of my life.I never felt tired before, but now I think quicker and more clear than before. My health issues and stress management are way better. Who thought sleep could do that?

Amanda - posted on 04/02/2013

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my husbands dad used to play football in his sleep, kickin shouting ( cursing the ref !!!) she had 6 kids with him, and every time she was pregnant she had to sleep somewhere else, my heart goes out to u!!! theres nothing worse than be disturbed in your sleep, she always found it was worse when he was stressed, or over tired , like his mind wouldnt switch off , try some scented oils or maybe massage oils, that might put both of you in store for a good night sleep :)

Cecilia - posted on 04/02/2013

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You do not need to go to war to have post traumatic stress disorder. It is just one of the many well known causes for it.

Either way, explain to your husband that it is nothing to be ashamed of and it is very common. All your asking him to do is try to get some help. He is taking long naps the way he does because he is not actually getting a full sleep at night.

Tell him that getting help for it might help him sleep better so he doesn't feel so tired during the day. As I said before I have sleep issues also and I also take 3 hour naps when possible. I have never in my life taken a nap less than 45 minutes. During my naps nothing will wake me either. (i'm sure he's the same)

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