those nasties!!

Mel - posted on 05/12/2009

Your so right Joy! It is completely unacceptable. I love some people on here , yet some people i know tell me how terrible they are, because when i deal with them i say thanks for saying that i do disagree but Thankyou for pulling me up on it anyway and i respect your views. they have said no worries and its all been sweet. why cant more people just be like that? Like i say therre is only a handlful of those horrible people on here, but some of the comments you just think why do they have to say that? Do they need drama in their life to make them feel good? Im not sure either its unfair on those who are sensitive and do take things personally and are genuinely nice people just looking for some advice.If someone asks a question its because they want to know (most of the time) not because they want or deserve to be shut down for a decision they have made or something they have just started doing with their kids

Joy - posted on 05/12/2009

As someone who is experiencing this on a different thread, I have to agree with what has been said here. In a perfect world, people would express their opinions in a respectful manner. But there are some who read a topic, read through the posts and immediately disagree, which is ok by itself, but then they go on to attack. I'm all for healthy back and forth debate and I've seen some good ones on here. I've seen some conversations go on for weeks, with people posting politely on all sides of the fence. Those are the ones I don't mind. Those are the conversations where people actually listen to each other and can agree to disagree. It's when people attack that I get upset. I try to stay objective. I go on, post my opinion or advice if I have any, and normally that's the end of it. But recently, and I don't know if it's something in the air or what, it feels like there are more and more people on the Circle that think it's ok to degrade and judge others. To me, this kind of intolerance is unacceptable. There will always be moms who do things we don't agree with...but who am I to judge? That's how I look at it anyways. And when I see someone being treated unfairly, myself included, I sometimes let my fingers do the talking and it gets me into "trouble", like what's happening with me on another topic in the Circle. I think the most important thing to remember is the reason this website was started. We are all moms who, from time to time, need support, advice and encouragement. In my opinion, if what someone has to say doesn't fall into one of those categories, if it's not constructive or helpful in any way, if the words are only being said out of spite then it should be kept silent because it will do no good to anyone. All of this is of course, in a perfect world lol And we all know that world doesn't exist. Thanks for posting this topic and thanks for listening.

Mary - posted on 05/12/2009

I totaly agree with everyone so far! lol....I understand it us very easy to mistake what someone is saying and get angry and I also understand that moms are touchy when it comes to their children, LOL....lord know I am guily of getting angry at someone on here at least once or twice but I try and be an adult and talk things out. Plus I never judge people and others shouldn't either.....after all us moms are just offering our opinions and experiences and everyones opinions and experiences will be different!

Emma - posted on 05/12/2009

i suppose we will never understand ''those nasties'' unless we ourselves are insecure and unfulfilled with our lives. i think we all know a few on here and some names certainly stand out to me. melissa you are right that there is no excuse for it but i dont think that they care who gets hurt because of their outspoken views and opinions.... as long as they feel better thats all that matters. i just wish they would get the help they so obviously need to help them in their lives because god help it if they passed those insecurities onto their children. its like a vicious circe. it really does make me sad that peoples lives are so bad.. i mean.. if your life was so bad that you had to put other people down.. how horrible would your life be.. pretty bad i would imagine..

Melinda - posted on 05/12/2009

:) I agree. Everyone has tehir own opinion on things, but it doesnt have to be written in a nasty way

Mel - posted on 05/12/2009

Thanks for posting this. it is not at all about the area we live in or how old we are when we become a mum etc, yet there are so many people on here who are very low human beings who just want to insult others for thier own decisions just because they dont agree with them! I have said so many times i wish all those nasty ones who hate young mummies etc could start their own community so we dont have to hear it. inetresting point though about them having their own insecurities. you are right but it is interesting it makes you wonder sometimes why do people act this way? What has happened to them then thier life to make them so nasty and bitter? No matter what it is yes it may be hard to deal with but there is no excuse to hurt others