Three year old tough questions...

Kristy - posted on 03/06/2009

I have a similar problem but my son doesn't ask the questions as much as he tells other people things.  For instace my son is 3 1/2 and he recently had a little brother who died shortly after birth but was a normal healthy looking baby.  So he will go to other people with babies and say things like "don't worry your baby wont die",  or  "our baby lives in a cemetary."  It is really embarrassing, I can't imagine what they must think of me as his mother and what I must tell him.  he also says things like "my peepee gets long sometimes", urg!! But I am always honest with him and answer questions he does have.  Like the "where is YOUR pee pee" question.  I just tell him only boys have a penis, girls look different and that's what make us girls.  He seems satisfied with that.

Christina - posted on 03/06/2009

Yesterday I laughed as I was getting off of the phone and he said what mom what, I said nothing mommy's happy. " NO your not MOM, I have a booger in my NOSE!!!" lol sometimes the moments aren't so scary just really funny

Laura - posted on 03/04/2009

Tammie's reply is right on. I am a former social worker and use to teach parents how to teach their children about sex. You always answer every question, no matter what they are asking or how old they are. You never want to give the child the impression that "we don't talk about things like that" or never say "I'll tell you when you're older." They quickly learn that you are uncomfortable and they will seek info elsewhere. You answer honestly and in a way they can understand for their age. No more info, no less. The idea is to get them to realize that you are available to them for anything and will always give them accurate info. When they are older and the questions are more difficult you can honestly say, "sometimes this is embarassing to talk about but it's important." And when you don't know the answer to a question, you tell them you will look it up. Again, the idea is to get them in the habit of coming to you and trusting you to tell it to them straight. Too many kids get their info from friends and too often, it's not accurate. And you should give your values as often as you can. There is no guarantee they will adopt them but they certainly won't if they don't know what your expectations are. Good luck...this is the ultimate in on-the-job training!

Tammie - posted on 03/04/2009

my four year old asked me about breasts and when would his grow.. as i was getting dressed lol i explained that ladies get large ones and boys dont get any to which now he says he wants to be lady lol the next day he forgot all about it.. please dont worry about it .i am sure you did the right thing. just tell him ladies dont have a pee because they are different.. ot boys ... i have four boys the eldest is 14 and the youngest is 18mths.. i lived on my own for almost 6yrs with the two older ones and alwyas found that being honest and keep ing answers short and basic without feeling embarrased about talking about it is the best way for me to go about it.. if you your still not sure try your local health visitor.. she will help and their are plenty of toddler groups or preschools you could have a word with thye would help.. hope this helps hey this is turning into a novel.. try not to worry and relax.

Christina - posted on 03/04/2009

He's also asked where's your pee pee... while I push the questions off I'm afraid I'm not going to have the answer.

Christina - posted on 03/04/2009

He's also asked where's your pee pee... while I push the questions off I'm afraid I'm not going to have the answer.