time-outs

Kathy - posted on 10/01/2009

Temper and time out my not work have you tryed and just turning and walking a way and not give him any atention not even look at him.. It may be worth trying??

Minnie - posted on 10/01/2009

Quoting Sylvia:

Are you talking about "putting him in time out" to punish him for "throwing tantrums"? Or about removing him from situations that he can't handle and giving him time to calm down?

If the latter, sure -- it's never too early to start teaching him the value of taking time out to calm down and regroup when you're upset and can't handle a situation.

If the former, I wouldn't bother. He's not doing it on purpose, and he's not going to understand what you're trying to "teach" him. And 19-month-olds do tend to have difficulty handling their big feelings. You can cut down on the number of meltdowns by making sure he eats before he's desperately hungry and that he gets enough sleep, but the only thing that actually makes them go away is time -- as in, waiting for him to get older :)

Right on, Sylvia.

Sylvia - posted on 10/01/2009

Are you talking about "putting him in time out" to punish him for "throwing tantrums"? Or about removing him from situations that he can't handle and giving him time to calm down?



If the latter, sure -- it's never too early to start teaching him the value of taking time out to calm down and regroup when you're upset and can't handle a situation.



If the former, I wouldn't bother. He's not doing it on purpose, and he's not going to understand what you're trying to "teach" him. And 19-month-olds do tend to have difficulty handling their big feelings. You can cut down on the number of meltdowns by making sure he eats before he's desperately hungry and that he gets enough sleep, but the only thing that actually makes them go away is time -- as in, waiting for him to get older :)

Rose Lynn - posted on 10/01/2009

I think you can start now is the right age, you are only supposed to have them take a minute for their age. So give him a 1 minute time out ,at 2 years old, give them a 2 minute time out, 3 years old a 3 minute time out, because if they stay longer than that , they will forget why they are in time out. I have a four year old , and I make him sit for 4 to 5 minute, but no longer. And sometimes if you say no in a calm voice enough times , it will help, and sometimes it won't . Just be patient, and tell him that you love him even though he is throwing a tantrum. Hope it helps. Rose

Jenn - posted on 10/01/2009

if he's already having tantrums and he's almost two i would start now i know its recommended according to there age like if he's almost 2 then it would be 2 mins for a time out i find it really helped when the time out was done to talk to them about what they had done wrong and why they were put in time out my boys are now 10 and 5 hope this helps

Tara - posted on 10/01/2009

Quoting Becky:

i pay tatrums no attention. my son is 19 months and i just walk off. he is allowed to throw his fit but i don't give in!! i think 1 is a little early to start timeouts because they really don't get it. actions speak louder then words ever will. all kids go through the fit throwin statge. i did the same thing with my daughter now 5, and she knows no means no when it comes to it. she has learned that throwing a fit does not work with me. once when she was 2, she started acting up in the store and i left her, and walked off. (not far and stayed on the same isle) just made her think about what she was doing. and everyone else just walked around her and payed no attention to it, that was the one and only time i had to do that. kids learn real quick what works and what don't. do what works for you.

This is a very good reply. I sometimes do this with my daughter and Id have to say this does work too.

Jennifer - posted on 10/01/2009

They recommend one minute for every year old you are. Your son isn't quite 2 so his time outs should only be for a minute. He certainly is at an appropriate age for time outs. However, I learned that ignoring temper tantrums works best. Any attention you give the tantrum generally makes it worse.

Becky - posted on 10/01/2009

i pay tatrums no attention. my son is 19 months and i just walk off. he is allowed to throw his fit but i don't give in!! i think 1 is a little early to start timeouts because they really don't get it. actions speak louder then words ever will. all kids go through the fit throwin statge. i did the same thing with my daughter now 5, and she knows no means no when it comes to it. she has learned that throwing a fit does not work with me. once when she was 2, she started acting up in the store and i left her, and walked off. (not far and stayed on the same isle) just made her think about what she was doing. and everyone else just walked around her and payed no attention to it, that was the one and only time i had to do that. kids learn real quick what works and what don't. do what works for you.

Para - posted on 10/01/2009

My son had his first time-out when he was 15 months.

Tara - posted on 10/01/2009

First of all you need to ask yourself why is he throwing these tantrums? Is it because hes frustrated he cant communicate what he wants? Is he tired? Is he hungry? Is he bored? I mean every child acts up in these cases and shouldnt be punished. but if he is just throwing a tantrum its better to nip it in the butt now. Id suggest putting him on a one minute time out (1 minute for every year ) and then after his minute is up get down to eye level and EXPLAIN why he was put there and that you wont tolerate that sort of behavior no matter where you are he can still get a time out. Seriously dont worry about other people, just do your job. Consistency is the best thing you can do, so if you start this now dont stop. I hope this helps.

Jackie - posted on 10/01/2009

with my oldest as soon as he was 1, with my 2nd, we started around 16 months, he didn't understand things as well as his older brother, so we started later with him. but if he's old enough to throw temper tantrums, he's definitely old enough to go in time out.

Jaimee - posted on 10/01/2009

i was told at around 12mths! good luck