Amy - posted on 01/27/2013 ( 11 moms have responded )
I am a stay at home Mom of 3 and remarried. I have not worked for many years and I receive child support payments for my 3 children. This is my only source of income. I use that money for the kids and whatever bills I have and whatever I can contribute to the household. My husband makes a decent living and gets hefty money gifts from his parents frequently. We recently received a very generous wedding gift and the check is made out to both of us. The issue I am having is, that I sometimes run out of money and go without for days hoping I don't need to fill my gas tank or anything else. I do buy some things sometimes for the kids when they need or not but I definitely do not go overboard and I am an extremely frugal person. When my Husband got a generous gift for Christmas, I asked how much and he would not tell me. He said it would be used for a small vacay we were going to go on. So, I shut my mouth about it. Like I said earlier, we just received a check from his parents made out to both of us but we do not have a joint bank account nor do I know anything financial involving my husband. I joked around and said, "Can I at least have $100 out of that money we got?" and he got really upset and threw a $100 dollar at me and said "Don't think I always have hundreds, this is money I have left over from Christmas!" It has been a month or more since Christmas and we already went on our trip. He has been hearing me tell the kids NO to things the past few days because I am totally out of funds. I texted him a few days ago as well informing him that I didn't have any money. Then he proceeds to tell me he pays the bills and why can't I be appreciative of that. No to mention he just received money from the sale of the company he works for. I understand that we need to save some of that money if we ever buy a house but I surely don't ask for much. I think what I am trying to ask here is, is this normal for a married couple and shouldn't my husband make sure I am not broke and in a bad financial situation when he is financially secure himself? Am I asking too much? Also, I never ask him to pay for anything that involves my kids.