To circumsize or not?

Shana - posted on 02/10/2009 ( 754 moms have responded )

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I am pregnant with my third child who is a boy (finally) and my husband does not want to circumsize him but I do. What is everyones' opinion on this and which would be better?

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Katie - posted on 02/14/2009

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So it seems like the #1 reason for not circumcising is that later in life they might have to get it done and it hurts. Do you not think it hurts your infant as bad as it hurts a grown man? A grown man gets general anesthesia, we don't offer our infants that luxury. Yes, there is research that back the fact that it is very painful for infants and also the research shows that infants that have been forced through the procedure process pain differently and it makes their childhood vaccines actually hurt more(http://www.cirp.org/library/pain/taddio2...)



The #2 excuse seems to be that a circumcised penis is cleaner. Actually, circumcision itself can cause infection. Beyond that, an uncircumcised penis foreskin stays attached to the glands (head) of the penis until sometimes 6 years old, which makes it easier to care for then a circumcised penis. After it retracts by itself you just wash it like you do your a**.

http://www.circumcision.org/studies.htm is a website that summarizes recent studies done on circumcision, among them it includes: circumcision removes the most sensitive part of the penis, circumcision is traumatic, it affects sexual behavior (including the female partner's enjoyment), and it can lead to abnormal brain development and behavior.



In addition to that, the American Academy of Pediatrics doesn't recommend it because: http://aappolicy.aappublications.org/cgi...



We actually have a group on here called Raising Intact Boys full of moms who have uncircumcised boys and are still glad about their decisions. If you want any info feel free to come and ask.

Suzanne - posted on 02/14/2009

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I have some adult male friends who are really annoyed that they were circumcised as babies. They feel that no one had a right to make an almost irreversible change to their bodies without their consent. I only have a girl but I can't imagine a circumstance in which I would remove a benign and physiological normal piece of my daughters anatomy which may, in the long term cause lack of sensitivity.

Jamie - posted on 02/14/2009

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I had my son circumcised and would do it again...



I work in labor and delivery and assist with circumcisions every week.  From my experience, I think male doctors perform better circumcisions than female doctors.  They know how much skin to remove to make the penis look its best, and they are quicker at the procedure.  The quicker it is performed, the better.  The babies in our hospital are first given a dose of infant tylenol, then once they are in the procedure room, they are given 3 shots of lidocaine at the base of the shaft to numb the foreskin.  Most babies do not cry and if they do, it's just for a moment.  We keep their upper body swaddled and the assistant holds the babies legs apart.  Most of the time the baby is sleeping anyway, right up until the lidocaine shots are given.  The needle is very very small and it's just a minor pinch to them.  If they start to cry, we dip a pacifier in a sweet sugar water mixture and put it in their mouth.  This calms them while the doctor performs the procedure, which usually takes less than 3 minutes, depending on the method.  After the procedure is over, the newly exposed glans penis is covered with petroleum jelly and then gauze and the baby is diapered and swaddled.  If you are concerned about the head of the penis being snipped, you could ask the doctor to perform the cirumcision using the Gomco method.

Stacey - posted on 02/14/2009

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There really isn't one way or another that is better.  I have three boys and one was circumsized and the other two were not.  All three of my boys have not had any problems.  I have found that usually if the dad is circumsized then the baby usually gets done as well.  It really comes down to a personal preference. 

Jill - posted on 02/14/2009

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one more thing as far asthe whole being straped down, if the boy ever needs a chest x-ray or stitches as a 2 year old they will strap them down for that so being 2 months or mine was even done when he was 2 weeks old, the only thing that they do not like about being straped down at that age is because they can not curl up in a ball like a new born dose, when they are 2 years old they freak out becaue they are actually scared. I have had a child that need a chest x-ray that is how I know.

Tegan - posted on 02/14/2009

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personally i am very against it. I have a son who is not cirsumsized. I think it is very unhumane to hold a little defenceless new born boy down and cut off parts of his bits, whilst he is laying there screamin in agony. What a nice way to be welcomed into the world!!! He should have the right to make that decision himself when old enough. This being said I do not judge people who decide to circumsize there sons but I do not agree with it one bit!!

Jill - posted on 02/14/2009

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I have a 4 month old Son I circumsized and there were no after effects and he was perfectly fine the second we left the DR. office, and I had not problems with him after, and then when he grows up he won't be made fun at when he looks different.

Tammy - posted on 02/14/2009

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Why put your son through the agony, the chance of infection from the circumcison, the loss of sensitivity as he gets older...IT'S NOT WORTH IT..I have two boy's the are not circumcized and I never had a problem. The reason insurance companies don't cover circumcision anymore is because of the complications these babies have had during the procedure...Why chance harming your child for no reason.  

Emily - posted on 02/14/2009

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i dont have a son , however if i were i would choose not to have him circumsized, mainly becuase if the skin was not meant to be there, little boys would not be born with it there. My husband is circumsized and this still does not alter my opinion. He would like to have any boys we may have circumsized, so hopefully to preven t this argument we have girls.

Michele - posted on 02/14/2009

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YOU KNOW IN THE BIBLE GOD SAYS FOR ALL CHILDREN TO BE CIRCUMSIZE. HOPE THIS HELPS!!

Monica - posted on 02/14/2009

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There are some minor medical benefits to circumcision, but it's not necessary, and your son won't be at a disadvantage either way. I had my son circumcised, but it's a matter of personal preference. I would have a talk with your husband about your reasons behind why you feel the way you do, and talk to a medical professional about it, because there are many common misconceptions about circumcision and clearing them up can help you both decide. Whichever you choose, it will be an informed decision, and don't regret it.

Jennifer - posted on 02/14/2009

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DO IT! I had a boyfriend who was not circumsized and I almost got cervical cancer from him. Because of the bacteria, i had bad cell growth on my cervix that could have caused cancer had I not had it treated. I had to go through a horrible procedure that I would not wish on anyone. So ever since then I had told myself that if I ever had boys I would get them circumsized. I ended up having a little boy back in July and as soon as they asked me if I was getting it done, I said absolutely.



So you have to not only as yourself how it's going to be now, but think of how it's going to be for them in the future when they start getting intimate with girls. My opinion, they are ugly when not erect. Kinda turned me off. I agree with one poster that said if you are going to be the one mainly changing diapers and bathing, then it's up to you.

Sarah - posted on 02/14/2009

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Oh, and may I also add that the worst part of my son's circ was that he didn't like being strapped down.  Other than that he cried briefly and was fine by the time we left the pediatrician.  He didn't seem bothered by it after that.  He also had a double foreskin, so they had to do it twice!!

Sarah - posted on 02/14/2009

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Not sure if this was mentioned because I didn't read through the thread, but they say the son should match their father.  That will help with potential insecurities in the future.  You wouldn't want your son thinking there was something wrong with him since it didn't look like Dad's. 

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Quoting Rebecca:

the link between HIV and circumcision is totally bogus, the research on the subject was funded and then promoted by those in the circumcision business.


Sorry, I had to totally LOL at this one.This has to be one of the weirdest/craziest conspiracy theories I have ever heard.  Is it a Moyle-Industrial Complex? A Jewish conspiracy? Because you must realize that a large number of people in the "circumcision business" are Jewish!

Samantha - posted on 02/14/2009

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My son is circumsized, that was my own choice. Look it up see your opinion, maybe both you and your husband sit down together since it's an important choice. List the pros and cons for both of you. I think of it as hygienically a better choice.

Samantha - posted on 02/14/2009

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I have 1 boy and me and my fiance decided not to circumsize, i feel that it will be my sons choice later on, if thats what he wants, he can, i dont feel that that decision is up to me.

Geneviève - posted on 02/14/2009

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Quoting Jackie:



I think that if your husband is circumsized then do it, if he isn't don't.  Just make your boy the same as his Daddy, so he doesn't wonder why he is different.






No offence to you personaly, I am more commenting on the general idea stated...



 



Now.. if dady had an arm "cut" off as a soldier... would anyone here cut off your babie's arm..



 



If the little boy asks.. answer: his was removed.  Same thing.. Why daddy as one less arm... Because it was removed...



 



I do not think the argument is viable.  



 



The hygiene part can be argued based on scientific proof either for or against. But I just do not get the : absolutely like daddy part..



 



 

Geneviève - posted on 02/14/2009

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Quoting Jackie:



I think that if your husband is circumsized then do it, if he isn't don't.  Just make your boy the same as his Daddy, so he doesn't wonder why he is different.






No offence to you personaly, I am more commenting on the general idea stated...



 



Now.. if dady had an arm "cut" off as a soldier... would anyone here cut off your babie's arm..



 



If the little boy asks.. answer: his was removed.  Same thing.. Why daddy as one less arm... Because it was removed...



 



I do not think the argument is viable.  



 



The hygiene part can be argued based on scientific proof either for or against. But I just do not get the : absolutely like daddy part..



 



 

Hayley - posted on 02/14/2009

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i dnt think it is fair gettin a child curcumsized let. you cud wait till he grows up and let him make decision for himself as use might make wrong one. hope yous cum to decision lol best wishes and congratulations xxxx

Hayley - posted on 02/14/2009

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i dnt think it is fair gettin a child curcumsized let. you cud wait till he grows up and let him make decision for himself as use might make wrong one. hope yous cum to decision lol best wishes and congratulations xxxx

Hayley - posted on 02/14/2009

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i dnt think it is fair gettin a child curcumsized let. you cud wait till he grows up and let him make decision for himself as use might make wrong one. hope yous cum to decision lol best wishes and congratulations xxxx

Kirstie - posted on 02/14/2009

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Both my boys aren't and neither is my husband. It's not medicallly necessary. My thoughts are It was put there for a reason so if they want it off then it's their decision. My husband had an infection when he was young and has never had one since because he kept it clean. With proper hygiene there should be no problems at all.

Angela - posted on 02/14/2009

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I have just had son and from the get go both my partner and I were against the circumcision. It comes down to hygene if the father is willing to help and explain how to clean the penis the right way eg. pull the forskin back. then there should be no problems. Having said thati think it is better for the son to be the "same" as his dad so dad can show him what to do and how to wash it.

Barbara - posted on 02/14/2009

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Quoting Jennifer:



Quoting Jennifer:




Quoting Barbara:





Quoting Tina:

Yes get it done for personal hygiene reasons!! Is your husband going to be the one cleaning and taking care of his son's uncircumsized penis? my guess would be no, so there is your answer. What is his reason for not wanting it done? Is he circumsized?









This is the second or third time someone has said something about husbands not changing diapers.  Whoever has been unfortunate enough to be hornswoggled into this kind of arrangement needs to propmptly smack their husband upside the head!  Changing diapers is not just "woman's work"! 










I have dealt with circumsized boys and uncircumsized, and the cleaning effort is the same for both in my experience.  It is in no way more difficult to clean an intact penis.  Also, circumsizing can increase your child's risk of impotence in the future because the most sensitive part of his penis is left unprotected to rub up against everything and therefore become desensitized.  No wonder viagra is such a big seller!












I have known MANYmen who were circumsized at birth and had no problems whatsoever with impotence or any problems with finding satisfaction during intercourse.









Let me clarify here:  I have not had sex with these men, just listened to them talk during various conversations including ones with their wives and girlfriends about whether to cricumsize their babies or not.





And I know men who have had problems with sensitivity due to circumcision.  I think that the fact that the AMA consider it an uneccesary and cosmetic procedure says it all.  If the husband of the woman who was the original poster supported her desire to have their son circumcised, that would be one thing.   Since he doesn't, and since you can take it off but you can't put it on, I think she should leave it as it is.  That's what I would do, anyway.

Crystal - posted on 02/14/2009

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I have 2 boys both not circumsized.I have never had any problems with hygiene.It is not medically necessary.If it should'nt be there it would'nt be there

Mary - posted on 02/14/2009

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Oh boy, decisions! When I was pregnant I did not want to get my son circumsized but my husband insisted. It was hard for me because I am a nurse and I have seen it done and knew that it is not considered medically necessary, it is cosmetic. That is why in many states public aid will not pay for it. In the end I gave in to my husband's wishes and had it done and OMG! It was so hard for me when they took him away because I knew exactly what he was going through etc...but he returned just fine and has been fine ever since. Then recently, I read a study in one of my nursing magazines that said new research has found that circumsized men have less rates of HIV/AIDS infection compared to non-circumsized. So, I felt a little better about the decision because now I feel that there is medical cause for it. Either way, what ever you chose, it will be just fine. It is becoming more and more common in the US for people not to circumsize so there is not the stigma of it not being done anymore, just go with your heart.

Liz - posted on 02/14/2009

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Hi I live in the UK where boys are rarely circumsised, there are no real health problems with uncircumsised boys, it is a culyural thing not really a medical thing, make a choice on your beliefs not medical grounds as nothing is proven

Hayley - posted on 02/14/2009

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thats not true about circumcision. it is not just cosmetic it is cleaner and more hygienic. alot of boys end up with infections or their foreskins closed over which happened to 2 of my friends and had to b circumcised when they were older because of this and caused them alot more pain than if they were babies, it is better 2 do it when they are just born- its alot less painful. .

Hayley - posted on 02/14/2009

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we circumcised our son due to my husbands culture. i was dead against it at first but when we took him the doc said it was good that we did coz he was starting to get an infection. now its done its much easier to keep clean and he is less likely to get an infection. im happy we had it done.

Cathy - posted on 02/14/2009

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I would definetly get your boy circumsized. It is better to do right when the baby is born because as they grow older it can be very painful (even at the age of only 6 months). As an infant they do not remember anything that happens, but if done at an older age it can be tramatic. Go for it!!!

Emily - posted on 02/14/2009

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It is a personal decision you have to make...and most people leave it up to their husbands. We have a son and decided not to circumcise. It was a very tough decision (we went back and forth a lot). When it came right down to it, I believe we made the best decision! For us, it would not have been done in a hospital. My friend had a baby boy 2 weeks before I did and they decided to have it done. She regrets it! It is such a barbaric ritual and there is no medical reason to do it. Even the American Association of Pediatrics no longer recommends it! What they do is strap your baby's legs down to the table, give him a shot in that area to numb him, then they cut him there. Even though they are numbed they cry and scream in pain! You will be asked to help hold your baby down. Then it is a week or so to heal were you have to keep ointment on it and have pain meds available for him. I certainly wouldn't want anyone to cut me down there just to change the way it looked...it is truly just cosmetic. If you check the stats, more and more people are deciding not to do it. Good luck with your decision...this is a tough question to solicit feedback on because people usually get pretty passionate.

Christal - posted on 02/14/2009

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I have one son..and he is circumsized.I have been in the medical field and I feel its the best for the child.I have a uncle who was not and he has had alot of urinary problems.At the age of 45 he had to go in and have a surgery to be circumsized.It was really hard on him.But it has helped alot of the problems.So its really up too you as the parent,but I would research the ups and downs before making your final decision.Good Luck,hopefully this helped you out.

Claire - posted on 02/14/2009

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I have two boys 23 and 10 both have not been done, its a matter of personal choice and I would rather it be the choice of my children rather than me. They were born with it why chop it off unless its a medical matter!

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I have 2 boys.The oldest is not and the youngest is. We become convicted of religious reasons to circ our youngest in the 8 years between them. There is no medical reason to circ your boy. It is pretty awful to watch. I saw one in nursing school and then my youngest sons.  As for infection, If you live in a place wear you will be cleaning your body on a regular basis, you are at no higher risk for infection than a circed male. As for extra cleaning when they are babies there is none. Only once the foreskin is retractable, which is later, do you pull it back wash and go. I honestly can't remember when my older sons became retractable. He is now 12 and we have never had any infections or problems. There was never any extra work for me. And he takes care of it himself. Cleanliness isn't just for him. All my children are required to wash their bottoms well. My 4 yo who is circed hasn't  had any problems either.There are pros and cons to either one. Look for as much info online from reputable sources and then discuss it with your husband.

Rukii - posted on 02/14/2009

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defiantly to circumcise!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I have 2 boys who were both circumcised at 2 months old and are none the wiser......................it took no more than 5 to 7 days to heal and after it was just as normal and there has been no problems at all there were no infection issues or any problems with my decision, just make sure u find a great and reputable doctor (maybe word of mouth)............... I will say if u r going to circumcise u must do it before 3mths old.................good luck with ur decision...

Kristina - posted on 02/14/2009

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Wow, there's a lot of posts on here, but I'm going to go ahead and state my feelings on this.  My nephews were not circumsized when they were born (I have 3).  The oldest one kept getting infections and had to go have it done when he was 11.  OUCH!!!!  Between this incident and the fact that my husband is circumsized, I decided to have my son circumsized.  I think "looking like daddy" helps a bunch when daddy's helping with potty training.

Jennifer - posted on 02/14/2009

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Quoting Jennifer:



Quoting Barbara:




Quoting Tina:

Yes get it done for personal hygiene reasons!! Is your husband going to be the one cleaning and taking care of his son's uncircumsized penis? my guess would be no, so there is your answer. What is his reason for not wanting it done? Is he circumsized?







This is the second or third time someone has said something about husbands not changing diapers.  Whoever has been unfortunate enough to be hornswoggled into this kind of arrangement needs to propmptly smack their husband upside the head!  Changing diapers is not just "woman's work"! 








I have dealt with circumsized boys and uncircumsized, and the cleaning effort is the same for both in my experience.  It is in no way more difficult to clean an intact penis.  Also, circumsizing can increase your child's risk of impotence in the future because the most sensitive part of his penis is left unprotected to rub up against everything and therefore become desensitized.  No wonder viagra is such a big seller!









I have known MANYmen who were circumsized at birth and had no problems whatsoever with impotence or any problems with finding satisfaction during intercourse.





Let me clarify here:  I have not had sex with these men, just listened to them talk during various conversations including ones with their wives and girlfriends about whether to cricumsize their babies or not.

Stacey - posted on 02/14/2009

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I had a boy last March and I was sure I wanted to have him circumcised. Then I watched the procedure on the net. They strap them down and it looked painful. I immediatly changed my mind. Why put them thur that, you keep it clean just like any other part of your body.

Jennifer - posted on 02/14/2009

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Quoting Barbara:



Quoting Tina:

Yes get it done for personal hygiene reasons!! Is your husband going to be the one cleaning and taking care of his son's uncircumsized penis? my guess would be no, so there is your answer. What is his reason for not wanting it done? Is he circumsized?





This is the second or third time someone has said something about husbands not changing diapers.  Whoever has been unfortunate enough to be hornswoggled into this kind of arrangement needs to propmptly smack their husband upside the head!  Changing diapers is not just "woman's work"! 






I have dealt with circumsized boys and uncircumsized, and the cleaning effort is the same for both in my experience.  It is in no way more difficult to clean an intact penis.  Also, circumsizing can increase your child's risk of impotence in the future because the most sensitive part of his penis is left unprotected to rub up against everything and therefore become desensitized.  No wonder viagra is such a big seller!





I have known MANYmen who were circumsized at birth and had no problems whatsoever with impotence or any problems with finding satisfaction during intercourse.

Jennifer - posted on 02/14/2009

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Quoting Sarah:



Quoting Ashley:





excuse me??...that is so rude!.....i dont feel bad for having my son circumsized one bit!..actually i'm quite happy that i did it thank you very much!!...you have your opinon on it that's fine but dont sit there and say we are trying to make ourselves feel better for what we did to our sons!!!!.....i dont say anything about mothers who dont have their sons circumsized so dont say things about us!!.....it's all on how you feel about it and i feel that my boys should be circumsized. every boy in our family is done and it's just something our family does!....and btw it's not surgery. when someone has surgery they have to be put under. as a baby they dont put them under and it's done within 5 mins. i am currently pregnant and if it's another boy it's being circumsized as well. i'm not a cruel mother for doing it i feel i am doing it for the best interest of my sons. i dont know how to clean an uncircumsized penis and i'm just not taking the chance of them not cleaning it properly once they get older. that's how i feel about it and it's my opinon. i dont feel that we should be attacked for having our opinions and that we should be told that we are cruel or horrible. and when you say what we did to our sons makes us sound like we've done something like sexual assault our sons...........rude comments should be kept to yourself....









I find your statment about you not knowing how to clean a foreskin and not taking the chance of them not cleaning it propely crazy!! As a mom, you have to learn a lot of things that you didn't know how to do before. You have to teach your children how to do things the right way. Did you also have your children's teeth all yanked out just incase they don't brush properly and may get a cavity?? I have no problem with people stating their opinions in favor or circumcision, but the reason behind yours seems odd to me.





I chose to circumsize my son because I didn't want to take the chance on not cleaning him properly and also didn't want to risk him not cleaning himself properly when he got older.  These days if a 4 year old child were to tell a preschool teacher that their mommy was wiping or rubbing the skin back on their penis (given the language of most preschoolers) the mom could also find herself being investigated for child molestation in my state.  But also and more to the point, we have come to realize that our son would not be able to clean himself properly for years simply because of his neurological disorder.  We did not know about that disorder when he was an infant but I thank God every day that we chose to circumsize anyway.  How many moms do you know who would want to or be comfortable with checking their son's penis regularly when they are 13 or 14 years old to make sure they are cleaning themselves properly?



 



This is a completely personal decision that every family has to make for themselves.  A lot of factors go into making this decision and include family pressure, religious and cultural beliefs and personal preference and even sometimes cost if insurance won't cover it.



 



I chose to circumsize and will never apologize for that choice and don't feel that any woman should have to.  Just as no woman should have to apologize or justify her decision not to circumsize, or the decision of whether or not to breastfeed or whether she will go back to work and put the child in a daycare or stay home and give up climbing the corporate ladder.  These are all decisions that we have to make for ourselves and as moms we should all respect each other's choices.

Jennifer - posted on 02/14/2009

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I have a son who is circumsized, while my husband is not. My husband has never had any problems with infections, but I was worried about that issue with our son. I have never had experience changing diapers on an uncircumsized boy and was worried about getting him clean under the foreskin without hurting him, especially if her ever got diarrhea. So we had the circumcision done. I do recommend the bell ring method instead of the cut method. Although the baby will not remember the cut and they do use a topical anesthetic, there is a slightly higher risk of infection (although the overall risk is extremely low anyway). To me the bell ring method just seemed a kinder method to use.



And I do agree that which ever parent will be the primary care giver should have final say in this decision. Good luck!

Jenn - posted on 02/14/2009

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While they say it's cleaner to get it done I'm not sure it makes a diferance. My husbands from PR and it's a matter of religon not to get them circumsized, he is not and he did not want our son to get it done b/c it is said that to break the forskin is to "pop" there cherry to speak, it would b like having sex right after birth, nastey

Stephanie - posted on 02/14/2009

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There is one more thing on here I did want to comment about. As far as cleanliness and having to clean it. It doesn't get pulled back until the child is around 3yrs old and the key is teaching your child to do it. Yes you supervise but boys are naturally curious anyways. It is very easy to do it only takes 3 or 4 times to show them. And then they dont want you to do it anymore and they want to do it themselves. My boys are 6 and 3 and they both clean their own with out my help I just watch the 3 yr old to make sure he does it right. nothing it it. It is just like teaching a little girl to keep herself clean. we dont call that unsanitary or cut any overhanging skin off for that. It is a religious preference to some. My husband did have it done and he has told me countless times that he wishes that he wasnt because frankly he has heard from friends of his that were not that their sexual experiences were alot better as far as being alot more sinsitive to sensation during intercourse. There are alot of nerve endings in that piece of skin they cut off but as noted it is not medically necesary to have. Do your research and make an informed decision based on what you and your husband think not on everyone elses opinion. That is the best way to do it. There are tons of resources out there at your disposal.

Debra - posted on 02/14/2009

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My opinion on that is Yes. It is so much easier to get it done shortly after birth. My husband at that time didn't want it done either, so it didn't get done. At age 12 my son was getting infections and having difficulty keeping the area clean and dry. He was circumcized at 12 and did fine, but I feel it would of been easier on him if it had been done when he was younger and smaller.

Ann - posted on 02/14/2009

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Hi ~ as a nurse and mom of a boy, I would definitely circumsize your son. Not only for cosmetic reasons but for health reasons. It's better to have it done now than to have your son want to have it  later. For health reasons it cuts down on infections - if you do NOT keep it clean it can become infected (from stool, urine). Best wishes and congrats on having a son. :)

Tanya - posted on 02/14/2009

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I personally just had a baby boy 5 weeks ago and we got him circumsized. My dr. says that it is cleaner if you get him done and it will be less infections. My Gramma was a nurse and she said that im way better off getting it done because of the infections she had to deal with especially with older Men when it wasnt done. If you husband isnt done then its a tough call cause your little guy might think its wierd if he looks diff. than Daddy. I had to pay 200.00 to have my little guy done and it wasnt covered though.

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My husband and I didn't agree on it either but our doctor really recommended it. We did end up having it done with my husband being reluctant. Since then, I have started working at the hospital where I gave birth. We have had a number of grown men come in to be circumsized because of problems. You can tell they are embarrassed about why they are there and when you ask them what they are having done, they tell you but get very red faced. I have talked with may doctors about this and they all agree that if you do it when they are a baby, they will never know what happens to them and they are over it in a matter of hours. They might not have problems when they are young but the chances when they get older increase greatly. Hope this helps.

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First of all, I have 3 sons and circumsized them all. It was a choice I made, because their father is circumsized. I also made that decision, because I have never had a circumsized man tell me that he wished he had not been circumsized, but I have talked to several uncircumsized men who wish they had been circumsized. One of those men being my own father. When I was pregnant with my first son, I was torn on the idea, too, and I decided to ask my mom if she had my brother circumsized and she said that he had been circumsized. She then told me the best person to ask would be my father, because he was uncircumsized. She also told me that they actually had problems during sex because of it. I don't know what that meant, but I decided to ask my dad and he told me to get my son circumsized! That was really all he said... I guess he was too embarrassed to go into any detail with me. He also said, that if it wasn't such a hard and painful procedure for adult men to have, that he would have it done. So... I have circumsized all of my boys and even come out of pocket to do so, because insurance did not cover the procedure, but after talking with my dad and hearing other uncircumsized men's opinions on it, I felt it was worth it.



No offense Rebecca, but when do you find the time to post all of this stuff??? Because, I only have ONE lover-my husband and I have 3 kids and I work from home... How in the world do you find the time to have that much sex to keep TWO sexual partners happy, have enough time to keep your kids safe and healthy, and still get enough sleep??? Personally, every moment of time I have for sex, I want to give that time to my husband (the man that I took vows with). Obviously, you have an open marriage and I wouldn't try to push my religious views onto you by saying that adultery is a huge sin, so I don't think you should be trying to push your views onto others who still use circumsizing as part of their religious beliefs. To each their own!



Oh, and by the way, my husband (and I'm sure EVERY OTHER circumsized male) doesn't remember this so "barbaric procedure". And the practice of circumsizing women, is to ensure that the woman gets no sexual pleasure from sex. It is to keep her totally subservient to her husband. While the millions of men who are circumsized around the world still get pleasure from sex! I've seen the research about "intact" men getting more pleasure from sex and that is a hard study to do, because of the bias in one direction or the other, not to mention that unless the procedure is done in adulthood, there is no way for a man to fully understand one side or the other. Sexual gratification varies from one person to another, circumsized or not. The only thing studies can say with definitve answers is that there is a cluster of nerve endings in the foreskin and that may (or may not) make sex more pleasurable. (Not to mention, that there are plenty of circumsized men who feel they ejaculate far too quickly as it is and

could only imagine how embarrassing that would be if they were more sensitive there.)



And I could tell you something sad about myself... too much stimulation on my clitoris during sex actually makes sex much LESS enjoyable for me. My husband knows this and takes special care to do what I need. The reason is the fact that it is TOO sensitive! So, maybe this can happen in some men???



Anyway! I know this is long, but while I had the time I wanted to try to get it all into ONE posting.



Shana, good luck with your new baby and I hope you got enough opinions, to make your own educated decision. Just because I circumsized my boys doesn't mean you should circumsize yours and visa versa. There is not enough medical evidence to push your opinion in either direction. Before circumcision started, men got along just fine with their foreskins intact. Circumcision was a result many years ago of men unable to take the necessary hygeine steps, but with indoor plumbing :) and good medical care these days, having foreskin doesn't really create many (only like 0.01%) medical problems. So just do your research and ASK MEN. Men would be better to answer these questions, being that most women will be more bias to the aesthetic appeal of circumsized penises. Good luck!

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I have 3 boys - and all of them are circumcised. My oldest two were done in the hospital - my 6 month old had to see a urologist first as he had some penile swelling at birth and I wanted to have that checked first. So he had his circumcision at about 2 weeks old in a Dr's office. Our insurance didn't pay for the latest curcumcision as most won't anymore - so we did have to pay upfront before the surgery. If you have this done - your baby will be extremly uncomfortable and you will probably cry and wonder why you did it (I did) but it's so much more sanitary - your son will thank you when he's older and doesn't have that worry.

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