To circumsize or not?

Rachel - posted on 02/21/2009

I have a son who is almost 4 years old, and he is NOT circumsized. To be honest we have had no problems with infection or anything else. As long as you clean it and pull the skin back regularly it will be fine. More boys than you think are not circumsized, so don't be scared to do it...or not do it I should say.

Anna - posted on 02/21/2009

i have 3 beautiful girls, but my opinion on circumcision is that the baby should be wheat the father is. so if the father is cicumsized, so should baby...and if the father wasn't circumcized, neither should be the baby....the father is going to be looked up to from the son and wouldn't want the son to think or feel "different because he doesn't "look" like daddy. good luck!

Leia - posted on 02/20/2009

Quoting Emily:

Well I have 2 boys and neither of mine are circumsized. It was not a reglious choice but their father is not and he has never had any problems and as long as you keep it clean which means every diaper change to pull back the skin and wipe it with a wipey then it will be fine. The biggest issue is just to keep it clean that is all.

NEVER pull it back yourself!! That is half the problem. Pulling a babies foreskin back can lead to small tears and then infection. just leave it alone. There is a cleaning substance that the baby's body produce to keep the inside clean, smegma. Using a wipey on the inside removes this lubricant and can cause more troubles with the foreskin.

Please do not follow Emily's advice.

Leia - posted on 02/20/2009

Quoting Gwen:

I am a nurse with 2 boys...both circumcised and the new medical information is that circumcision is recommended....check out medical information online re: circumcision it states that their is less incidence of developing cancer later on and less chance of spreading STD's and getting infections....

Worried about you son catching an STD? One would hope that teaching abstance or safe sex practices would be at the top of your parenting methods over circumcision! The rate of penial cancer compared to prostate cancer or lung cancer in men is extreamly low. These should not be the argument for cutting baby boys. Ridiculous.

Leia - posted on 02/20/2009

I say NOT to circumcise. There is no solid reason to do so. The whole 'infection' fear is so minimal. Do you intend to bath your son? I ensure you, he will stay clean. Neither of my boys are circumcised and we have had no troubles. Remember to just leave the baby penis alone, do not pull the foreskin back until the child is old enough to do it himself. (around 4years old). The practise of circumcision was brought to secular Americans as a way to stop masturbation!! (because masturbation led to insanity, they said). Many families continue because all the men in their family have had it. A child doesn't notice that his dad is cut, all a child notices about dad is the size difference! All you have to say is "Daddy had surgery when he was a baby ad we didn't want to put you through that pain."



Anyway the penis was made to have a foreskin. It is designed to keep itself clean with regular baths. In many countries it is common to cut a piece of a girl off. This is an outcry in our country, why is cutting a boy considered normal?



Here is a link so you can see how they will tie your boy down and burn his foreskin off.



http://www.arrakis.es/~uno1dos2/fim/vari...



http://www.emediawire.com/prfiles/2004/1...



http://www.circumcisionquotes.com/video....

Gwen - posted on 02/20/2009

I am a nurse with 2 boys...both circumcised and the new medical information is that circumcision is recommended....check out medical information online re: circumcision it states that their is less incidence of developing cancer later on and less chance of spreading STD's and getting infections....

Jesse - posted on 02/20/2009

we just had our little boy in december and didnt get him circumcised. my fiance is but he has talked with his brother in law about it who isn't and they figured out that it causes loss of sensation. there are so many nerves in the skin there and when you cut it off it takes away ALOT of feeling. when the head of the penis is exposed at all times instead of being covered as is supposed to be it desensitizes it. would you want someone to come along and cut off part of your body just because they thought it looked better? and the whole idea of it being more cleanly is ridiculous! if you bathe your child there should be no problem. there are some rare cases of infection but it is not the norm whatsoever! so not only is it totally painful and needless, it will also not be as mainstream as is was years ago i talked to my midwife and she said that now only about 20% of boys are circumcised so by the time your son is of the age to be in a shower with other boys the ones not cut will be normal and the ones who are will be different. it IS your own decision but think about the pain you will be putting your child through before deciding to chop off part of his body!

Linda - posted on 02/20/2009

I don't think anyone is saying that penis' are UNCLEAN. But you surely have to have good hygeine or you are very suseptable to infection. That has been proven in many many boys and men. A women's genitalia is not comparable to a man's. Of course we wouldn't stick a bar of soap up there. We are internal and men are external. Big difference! Not criticizing your comment, just commenting on it.

Jocelan - posted on 02/20/2009

If your husband isn't and you feel comfortable about not getting him done then don't. The doctor i went said that if the son is different from the dad there will be more questions of why and how. and as far as cleanliness it doesn't make any difference anymore. Hope that helps

Linda - posted on 02/20/2009

Don't you think that having a circucision in your twenties is a far greater ordeal than when you are one day old??? OH , and by the way the procedure is not done by laser, they actually take a scalpel and cut the top of the head off. That is how they performed the procedure with my son anyway.

Dena - posted on 02/20/2009

Circumsize!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Adrienne - posted on 02/20/2009

Hi there! Congrats on your third baby! I also have 3, but my 2 younger ones are boys, and we chose not to have them circimcised. The reason we decided not to circumcise our older son was because we were on a military base where 2 boys we knew had had their circumcisions go, um... slightly awry. One had extra scar tissue which had to be surgically removed later, and the other has some nerve damage due to an overzealous doctor who got a bit carried away.

We did tons of research to weigh the benefits and potential health risks, along with the possibility of something going wrong like with our friends' sons. We discovered that most of the studies said that uncircumcised boys really aren't any more likely to have health issues like UTI's or cancers than those that have been circumcised. As long as you teach them how to clean their penis properly when they get old enough to wash themselves, most boys are just fine.

In the end, we basically got scared and decided against having our son done, figuring we'd err on the side of caution instead. Then when our younger son came along, it didn't make much sense for him to look different than his brother. So we ended up not having him circumcised either.

All I can say is, sit down with your hubby so each of you can voice your opinions. Outside of any religious or cultural guidelines you may follow, you and he are the only ones who should make the final decision.

I hope this helps some, and I wish you the best of luck!

Linda - posted on 02/20/2009

Quoting Nicole:

My husband thought the same thing and so we did not get our son done, we did a lot of research and there were about the same amount of problems both ways. I think it is all a personal preference and it depends on what you think is important. I guess just one thing in my mind stands out that it was made that way for a reason and there should be no reason that medical intervention or alteration should be needed because it is natural. Just like with alot of other cultures they did alterations to little baby girls and then years down the road they discover that was not the right thing to do and leads to problems. I guess in the end to me it is not like we do anything to little girls as to alteration and so there should be no necessary reason to have to do it to boys. It is natural that way...and like I said there for a reason no matter what the medical perfession says today.

Linda - posted on 02/20/2009

Quoting Nicole:

My husband thought the same thing and so we did not get our son done, we did a lot of research and there were about the same amount of problems both ways. I think it is all a personal preference and it depends on what you think is important. I guess just one thing in my mind stands out that it was made that way for a reason and there should be no reason that medical intervention or alteration should be needed because it is natural. Just like with alot of other cultures they did alterations to little baby girls and then years down the road they discover that was not the right thing to do and leads to problems. I guess in the end to me it is not like we do anything to little girls as to alteration and so there should be no necessary reason to have to do it to boys. It is natural that way...and like I said there for a reason no matter what the medical perfession says today.

Linda - posted on 02/20/2009

I don't think that there is a right or wrong answer to your question. It is purely a personal dicision. Whether it be religious or otherwise. My husband and I were on the same page when my son was born 9 mo. ago. We chose to have the procedure done. My own reasons are basically what i have learned from my 3 older brothers-52/50and47 years old now. All three of them had not been circumcized at birth, two of which suffered a great deal of pain in their twenties. Which in turn lead to the procedure having to be done at an age where the pain was unbearable. They seemed to have complications for many years of their lives. My decision to have my son done also was because my husband was circumcized and in my opinion it just seems more hygenic. Good Luck, remember whatever you choose to do is not right or wrong!

Charlotte - posted on 02/20/2009

My son is not circumscised and we have had no problems.  My doctor told us that there is  increased sexual pleasure for men who are not circumsized.  Plus, the fact that the US is one of the few places that still does it and for no medical reason. 

Rachel - posted on 02/20/2009

It is better to do it now then to have to do it later in life. My 60 yr. old father-in-law had to be circumsized recently because he kept getting infections.

Paula - posted on 02/20/2009

I left the choice up to my husband, since I don't have a penis and he does. I didn't feel I could make a fully informed decision. We ended up not doing it. One of the midwives had a really good point...we don't (in this culture at least) mutilate little girls, why do it to the little boys. We haven't had a problem yet. (he's 5 months old now)

Leanne - posted on 02/20/2009

O.K. I have two boys one 10 and one 3 so, I also work as a nurse,I have always been told alot od different things since the first, but the one that stuck with me, was to do what ever Daddy is, bc that is the first that they will identify with, it allows them to feel comfortable with themselves....as far as infection goes if you lived in a third world country then I would say to def. do it, but we live in America and know and have the ability to keep it clean...Good Luck whatever you end up doing, I ended up having both done, both had complications, one done at the doctors office and the other had to wait untill 9 months and have surgery....but are great now, hard to go through, but I believe I made the right choice...

Jess - posted on 02/20/2009

Quoting Christene:

We did not have our son circumsized, and now regret it.  Our pediatrician recommended going to a pediatric urologist after his first birthday to have it done.  Of course, it stresses me further to put him under that type of pain at a later age...

why do they want him to get it done now?

Emily - posted on 02/20/2009

Well I have 2 boys and neither of mine are circumsized. It was not a reglious choice but their father is not and he has never had any problems and as long as you keep it clean which means every diaper change to pull back the skin and wipe it with a wipey then it will be fine. The biggest issue is just to keep it clean that is all.

Jaime - posted on 02/20/2009

I have a son and he was not circumsized. He is seven now and pulls the skin back and cleans his penis just as any other body part. never a problem!! I did a great deal of research before he was born and came to the conclusion that I didn't want to make such a choice to take away his foreskin-after learning it has many purposes and can actually help him in his later adult years as it also a sexual organ. go to http://www.noharmm.org/advantage.htmI to read more. I found no evidenced based data that suggested it was "medically necessary". There is a slightly higher chance according to research for infection as a child/young adult if it is not cared for/cleaned properly. Also penile cancer research suggests a correlation which I don't remember-so you might want to check it out...as for his time in the gym room...well more "american" boys who are in our children's generation are not being circumsized and experts suggest a pretty even playing field...if you look at global stats (and take out religious traditions)...USA is unique in their process of circumsizing infant boys. Yet it truly is a choice for you and your husband. congrats and well wishes!

Tamara - posted on 02/20/2009

If you are a Christian read in the Bible Genesis 17 (talks about the covenant of circumcision). Yeah God placed there, but he also talks about how we should have our sons circumsized. There is a reason that He wants us to circumsize our sons just like there is a reason for everything that happens in the world.

Nicole - posted on 02/20/2009

I have 3 boys as well as two brothers, all circumsized. I feel very strongly about this choice for boys and feel it is in their best interest and they will be glad you did once they are older. FIrst and foremost, the hygiene of it is huge, but moreso the additional benefits that come with circumcision. Talk with your doctor about it and consider everything. I highly recommend it for your son. When they are born and circumsized, it is a quick process, they never will remember it and it is less painful then if they choose to do it as an adult. PLus they heal very qucikly and it is cleaner and looks so much better. Good Luck with your decision.

Tamara - posted on 02/20/2009

I believe that you should go ahead and circumsize as a baby. I have a nephew who didn't get circumsized as a baby because the doctor decided for his parents not to do it. I got it done when he was a tot and from what they told me it was more painful than when he was a baby. You should also ask your doctor what the risks are if it isn't done. Also your husband needs to think on how your son would feel when he is a teenager and other boys find out that he wasn't circumsized. They may make fun of him. Also when he gets married would he be insecure infront of his future wife and would he get any pleasure without being circumsized. All in all you should ask the doctor infront of your husband about this issue.

Angie - posted on 02/20/2009

I have a 13 year old son who we chose not to have circumsized. We may have decided otherwise if insurance would have paid for it, as we were young parents and didn't have the extra money at the time. That being said, we have not had any medical complications with it. My cousin also has two boys who are not circumsized. I just think in the end its a personal decision and you should think about what is the best for your son in the long run.

Christene - posted on 02/20/2009

We did not have our son circumsized, and now regret it.  Our pediatrician recommended going to a pediatric urologist after his first birthday to have it done.  Of course, it stresses me further to put him under that type of pain at a later age...

Nichole - posted on 02/20/2009

I'll stick with the old "stand-by" on this one:  "If it isn't broken, don't fix it"  Males are born with foreskin; God (if you're a believer) put it there for a reason or for whatever other reason, its there.  For it to be such a tiny little piece of flesh it sure does cause a lot of heated discussion!  My ex-husband was cut, my current husband is not and personally I can tell the difference.  If there's a defined medical necessity for circumcision, then by all means we must do what's best for our children.  Otherwise, I say, leave it be, adapt to what you're not used to, get dad's help in hygiene or do some reading.  Millions of years in human history and people are still worried about how to keep clean? haha

Nichole - posted on 02/20/2009

I'll stick with the old "stand-by" on this one:  "If it isn't broken, don't fix it"  Males are born with foreskin; God (if you're a believer) put it there for a reason or for whatever other reason, its there.  For it to be such a tiny little piece of flesh it sure does cause a lot of heated discussion!  My ex-husband was cut, my current husband is not and personally I can tell the difference.  If there's a defined medical necessity for circumcision, then by all means we must do what's best for our children.  Otherwise, I say, leave it be, adapt to what you're not used to, get dad's help in hygiene or do some reading.  Millions of years in human history and people are still worried about how to keep clean? haha

Carol - posted on 02/20/2009

Boy, you sure seem to think you know all the answers. Most of what I have read from your comments is quite humerous to say the least. Perhaps with age more widson will follow. Until then, keep trying......

Kathy - posted on 02/20/2009

We have a little guy..but when we found out that he was indeed going to be a boy we had this discussion a few times. But we finally decided on circumsision because my husband is circumsized and felt that as our son got old enough to notice that they both had penis's we didn't want our son to feel different than his daddy. But from the other side...its also easier to keep clean and less prone to infection than having a fore skin. Good luck!

Bless - posted on 02/20/2009

My husband and I decided not to circumcise, had a girl, but if had a boy still would not have circumcised. I feel its akin to female genital mutilation, and totally unnecessary with little to NO evidence that it is better for the boy's health. i feel terrible for the babies who have to undergo this procedure. Of course, you have to do the research for yourself...

Wendy - posted on 02/20/2009

A TIP ABOUT FORESKINS

Foreskins are there to lubricate and protect the penis tip.  You don't need to tell your uncircumsized sons to pull the foreskin back and wash it - that will only irritate the penis which could lead to infection.  As long as they bath or shower regularly, nothing extra is needed!  I think because so many men are cut in the US that some Americans get a bit 'worked up' about cleaning an intact penis.  I have to say it again.  IT IS NOT MORE SANITARY TO CIRCUMCISE YOUR BOYS.  There, I said it!

Wendy - posted on 02/20/2009

It's very interesting to see how many Mom's perspectives we have on this subject.  I'm sure there wouldn't be so many worries about cleanliness or comments like 'it's like getting your ears pierced' (!!) if there were more men's opinions on this thread.

My brother had to be circumsized a year ago because of a medical problem.  I asked him whether he wished he had got it done as a baby.  He said 'NO WAY!'  He is glad that it was HIS choice and wouldn't want it any other way.  The operation was painful but necessary and it has definately altered the feeling in his penis.  At the end of the day it's his body and no-one has the right to remove any part of a persons body without their consent, unless of course it's necessary.  Circumcism is NOT necessary.  Most men who have lived both with a foreskin and without would choose to be intact. 

Should we remove our appendixes at birth just IN CASE it causes us problems later... ??  I think it would be nice to get more opinions from Men on this.

I also think that if you are wondering whether to do it or not.  Do some proper research - ask a few doctors, then make your decision.  It should be an INFORMED decision and not one taken lightly.  It's definately NOT like getting your ears pierced... (still can't believe that comment!).

Emma - posted on 02/20/2009

I have three boys 8,7, and 3  and there dad neither of them are circumsized and never had any problems. Why? They did circumcision in the olden days as the men were at war alot of the time a didnt get to shower that often. I would say no to circumcision also.    

Jo - posted on 02/20/2009

HI, I have a 3 1/2 month old boy and my husbane and i did decide to go through with it and it's been the best decision as my brother's little boy is now 3 and is having troubles and may have to have it done at 3 which is alot worse then at 4 weeks when we did it.. our reasons were health as we felt it's alot more hygenic and also my husbane is circumsized..I hope you make the right decision for both of you and your little boy...good luck if i can help more please let me know..

Michelle - posted on 02/19/2009

Hi Shana, my opnion, and I'm not a Dr.... do it.  I have a younger brother who was not done at birth... when he was 8 or 9 he had a problem.  He had pulled his foreskin back and it got stuck.  Bad sight to see, Poor guy... The end was so swollen cause he wouldn't let me or my mom fix it because the pain was so bad he didn't want anyone to touch it! The pain he experienced... heart breaking!! I had to take him to the hospital, the dr in the emerg managed to roll it back down.  And made  it clear that this could happen again at anytime, and further suggested that he get done.  My mother decided to get it done and the pain and healing (much linger healing time as you get older) was something he didn't need to experience in any lifetime.  Again heartbreaking. 

There are so many reasons that I am for circumsizion... health for your son and future partners, wife etc.  He won't remember the pain if he gets it done at birth. 

Good luck with whatever decision is made!! :)

Sue - posted on 02/19/2009

I had my son (now 27) circumcised because his father wanted it.  At the time it was out of fashion and the doctors didn't really want to do it.  They made us wait until he was a year old, and made a botch job of it.  I understand that the traditional Jewish method, done when the baby is only a few days old, causes little trauma and doesn't need stitching, but my poor lad looked as if he'd been stitched up with a sailmaker's needle!  The surgeon never checked him at all.  When we told the hospital he was terribly red and sore after several days they just said to leave him to run around without a nappy, and didn't check him.  After a week we took him to our GP who said he had a thrush infection on his glans, and treated it.

My advice would be, if you want it done make sure that you get it done by a doctor who approves and will do a decent job.  Otherwise leave it alone.

As for cleaning your baby, I hope that no moms are trying to pull the foreskin back?  It's not supposed to pull back in babies, and trying to pull it back too soon can cause damage and scarring.  I've certainly heard of adults who could not get their foreskin back without pain, which would certainly inhibit sexual enjoyment.  I suspect these cases may be the result of trying to "clean" behind the foreskin in infancy.  You shouldn't do this.  Sloshing around in bathwater is quite sufficient.  My little grandsons are not circumcised and there doesn't seem to be any problem.

I have however noticed that a healthy (adult) uncircumcised penis is more sensitive (when "unveiled") than a circumcised one.  Whether this is an advantage or not I leave to you....

Sue - posted on 02/19/2009

I had my son (now 27) circumcised because his father wanted it.  At the time it was out of fashion and the doctors didn't really want to do it.  They made us wait until he was a year old, and made a botch job of it.  I understand that the traditional Jewish method, done when the baby is only a few days old, causes little trauma and doesn't need stitching, but my poor lad looked as if he'd been stitched up with a sailmaker's needle!  The surgeon never checked him at all.  When we told the hospital he was terribly red and sore after several days they just said to leave him to run around without a nappy, and didn't check him.  After a week we took him to our GP who said he had a thrush infection on his glans, and treated it.

My advice would be, if you want it done make sure that you get it done by a doctor who approves and will do a decent job.  Otherwise leave it alone.

As for cleaning your baby, I hope that no moms are trying to pull the foreskin back?  It's not supposed to pull back in babies, and trying to pull it back too soon can cause damage and scarring.  I've certainly heard of adults who could not get their foreskin back without pain, which would certainly inhibit sexual enjoyment.  I suspect these cases may be the result of trying to "clean" behind the foreskin in infancy.  You shouldn't do this.  Sloshing around in bathwater is quite sufficient.  My little grandsons are not circumcised and there doesn't seem to be any problem.

I have however noticed that a healthy (adult) uncircumcised penis is more sensitive (when "unveiled") than a circumcised one.  Whether this is an advantage or not I leave to you....

Christy - posted on 02/19/2009

I have to strongly dissagree with the majority of these peoples responses who are for circumsizion!  An uncircunsized penis is NOT unclean and under no circumstances should you EVER pull back the foreskin to clean in there!  Penises are self cleaning just like vaginas, you don't stick soap up there do you?  Messing around with it is exactly what causes problems in the first place!  Most of this advice is along the same lines as what my grandmother would say.  My family doctor told me that the procedure has absolutly no medical benefits and is considerded a form of cosmetic surgery these days.  He also said the risk of infection from the procedure is far greater than from not having it done. I have an uncircumsized son and we've never had any problems at all.  I strongly recomend talking to your doctor about this so you can get some sound advice (my does not recomend it).   I liken it to getting your baby girls ears pierced, it is painful and cosmetic and not at all necessary.  Just because the baby will not remember later doesn't mean that it doesn't hurt.  Wouldn't you rather let you child have the option to decide for himself? 

As far as sexual issues go, my first husband was circumsized and my second is not.  The second is cleaner because he has better hygeine in general.  Also, did you know that a uncircumsized penis is self lubricating,  neither did I until recently but is sure is better in my opinion.  (It never, ever is dirty or smelly either)

Mary - posted on 02/19/2009

I have such mixed feelings about this.....I didn't want to circumsize my son but Jamie (the father) did......I watched this show called Penn and Teller's bullshit (sorry.....but that is the name, lol)  where they talk about different things each week and this week they happend to be talking about circumcision and it total turned me off from it.   I didn't wan't Jayden to be different from his father and other boys at school because lets face it we all know how kids can be but I didn't want to put my baby through that kind of pain.  find the show on the internet and watch it and you will know what I am talking about.

So I was very torn but then a few of male friends told me about their stories...they were not circumsized when they were born and no matter how much they cleaned themselves they had constant infections and so on....they had to get curcumsized when they were older and they told me it was the worst pain they had ever felt in their lives......that scared me too....eventualy I caved and Jayden had the procedure done.  I regret it and I don't at the same time! 

Erica - posted on 02/19/2009

i also will let my son decide when he gets older whether he wants to be circumsized or not. I'll let him make that choice on his own and look at it as would u like it if your mom circumsized you? even though female circumcisions arent high as boys but its still their penis

Erica - posted on 02/19/2009

i have a 7 week old son and i didnt circumsize him. During my pregnancy his father and I discussed it,did research on it to see whether or not if theres really any reason to do it. I personally think its cosmetic surgery and no need for it. if you and your husband teach your son to clean himself properly as he gets older i dont think it'll be a problem. Its a jewish tradition and im not jewish. My nephew penis is messed up from a circumcision and that also made me change my mind on circumsizing him. I also saw pictures of boys penis that got severely messed up during circumcisions. This is a hard decision and you and your husband really should sit down and talk about it before hes born and also do some research on it.

Heather - posted on 02/19/2009

I can't believe this thread is still going on it is simple really have it done or don't have it done simple. Done and dusted.

Adrienne - posted on 02/19/2009

It's a personal choice. I never really thought much about doing it though, because in my opinion it is totally unnecessary. I researched up and down, and watched videos of the actual procedure, and let me tell you...the SECOND I saw what they were strapped into, there was no doubt in my mind that my son wasn't getting it done. My husband agreed with me 200%. I figure if he really wants it done, he can choose to do so when he's ready. Good luck!

Adrienne - posted on 02/19/2009

It's a personal choice. I never really thought much about doing it though, because in my opinion it is totally unnecessary. I researched up and down, and watched videos of the actual procedure, and let me tell you...the SECOND I saw what they were strapped into, there was no doubt in my mind that my son wasn't getting it done. My husband agreed with me 200%. I figure if he really wants it done, he can choose to do so when he's ready. Good luck!

Martha - posted on 02/19/2009

I would research pros and cons for both.  I myself believe circumsizing is the way to go, painful but trust me they will not remember.  If you take care of it properly it heals very quickly.  Good luck!

Dora - posted on 02/19/2009

Is your husband uncircumcised? I circumcised my boy mostly because his papa is and I wouldn't wont him asking Why his looked different!!!

Sabrina - posted on 02/19/2009

As I read the responses you've gotten I see the majority are for it. But I am against it for several reasons. I can only give you my reasons and then you decide. It is an awful procedure, painful and they do not anesthetize, babies get strapped down and they will recommend you don't watch (I wonder why!).  Second, the head of the penis is extremely sensitive and when it is exposed from circumcision, it is always exposed therefore it loses that sensitivity. This will eventually affectyour s on as a man when he becomes sexually active. Third, if you bathe yourself and clean yourself thoroughly, then you can teach your son to do it also. What we did with our son was we started to gently pull the foreskin back at every diaper change. Eventually it came all the way back and now he cleans it himself (he is 3 now). Do the research, there can be botched circumcisions, become knowledgeable about it. But ask your husband why he's against it. God bless.

Arlene - posted on 02/19/2009

I never did with my 2 boys just tought them how the can keep it clean and they don't seem to have a problem with it .