To circumsize or not?

Shana - posted on 02/10/2009 ( 754 moms have responded )

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I am pregnant with my third child who is a boy (finally) and my husband does not want to circumsize him but I do. What is everyones' opinion on this and which would be better?

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Sarah - posted on 02/18/2009

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I have a son who is 6 and we did not circumsize him and as long as you keep it clean there is no problems. The reports now say that there is no advantage to getting them circumsized. My husband isnt either and never any problems....

Chasidy - posted on 02/18/2009

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This is one I can identify with. When I was pregnant with my son, I worried myself sick over this. I didn't want him to have any pain and everything I read said they usually don't use a local or anything (this was ten years ago). I even caused an uproar with my doctors because I asked my pediatrician to do the procedure and then my OB got upset with me because he never allowed other doctors to touch his patients. We considered not circumsizing at all but I have a friend who didn't have her son circumsized and she worries a lot about hygene. Especially now that her son is a teenager and going through a grungy, not wanting to shower phase. And it's not like you can clean a fourteen year old yourself. My son had the procedure and they brought him to me screaming afterwards but, I'm glad now that we had it done.

Chasidy - posted on 02/18/2009

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This is one I can identify with. When I was pregnant with my son, I worried myself sick over this. I didn't want him to have any pain and everything I read said they usually don't use a local or anything (this was ten years ago). I even caused an uproar with my doctors because I asked my pediatrician to do the procedure and then my OB got upset with me because he never allowed other doctors to touch his patients. We considered not circumsizing at all but I have a friend who didn't have her son circumsized and she worries a lot about hygene. Especially now that her son is a teenager and going through a grungy, not wanting to shower phase. And it's not like you can clean a fourteen year old yourself. My son had the procedure and they brought him to me screaming afterwards but, I'm glad now that we had it done.

Chasidy - posted on 02/18/2009

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This is one I can identify with. When I was pregnant with my son, I worried myself sick over this. I didn't want him to have any pain and everything I read said they usually don't use a local or anything (this was ten years ago). I even caused an uproar with my doctors because I asked my pediatrician to do the procedure and then my OB got upset with me because he never allowed other doctors to touch his patients. We considered not circumsizing at all but I have a friend who didn't have her son circumsized and she worries a lot about hygene. Especially now that her son is a teenager and going through a grungy, not wanting to shower phase. And it's not like you can clean a fourteen year old yourself. My son had the procedure and they brought him to me screaming afterwards but, I'm glad now that we had it done.

Amanda - posted on 02/18/2009

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Well I am the mother of two small boys 2 & 6 and I also have a 9 year old daughter. Neither of my sons are circumsized. It is no longer recommended, it is a cosmetic choice. There is no medical reasons for the circumsizion. It is also not covered by an insurances because it is cosmetic. The decision should be between you and your husband, but remember that there really is no purpose for the procedure other than looks. My boys have had no problems with not being circumsized...and it also prevents any urinary tract infections because the fore skin acts as a guard to infection and it doesn't need to be cleaned out until they are around three because the skin is still attached on the inside so you just wipe gently...with out pulling back the skin. It is merely a choice on which you prefer. good luck with your decision.

Amanda - posted on 02/18/2009

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Well I am the mother of two small boys 2 & 6 and I also have a 9 year old daughter. Neither of my sons are circumsized. It is no longer recommended, it is a cosmetic choice. There is no medical reasons for the circumsizion. It is also not covered by an insurances because it is cosmetic. The decision should be between you and your husband, but remember that there really is no purpose for the procedure other than looks. My boys have had no problems with not being circumsized...and it also prevents any urinary tract infections because the fore skin acts as a guard to infection and it doesn't need to be cleaned out until they are around three because the skin is still attached on the inside so you just wipe gently...with out pulling back the skin. It is merely a choice on which you prefer. good luck with your decision.

Therese - posted on 02/18/2009

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Quoting Shana:

To circumsize or not?

I am pregnant with my third child who is a boy (finally) and my husband does not want to circumsize him but I do. What is everyones' opinion on this and which would be better?



Reading all of these comments I had to respond. Eight months ago I had my first child a son. Granted his father is Muslim so naturally he was circumsized. Those that I read did not give you one reason why they opted not to do it.  I'm a woman in my mid thirties and I have been around, I know people who had it done, I know some that didn't. Those that didn't have their boys circumsized told me the only reason why was due to there sex life when they get older, it makes them more sensitive. To me thats not a good enough reason. I have friends that knew this 60 year old man who was not and ended up getting circumsized at 60 due to a serious infection. Wouldn't that suck!  It's not about the mother keeping it clean although it helps, and it's not about there sex life, as far as infection goes-you never know.

Audrey - posted on 02/18/2009

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Oh and looking like daddy is such a silly argument! My sons are bi-racial and their daddy is white. He's circ'ed and they are not... by his decision. They don't look just like him, but they are happy little boys that love their daddy. DH could care less about something as silly as that! He's a man and he chose to protect his sons' penises. Period. Looking like daddy. Ridiculous!

Audrey - posted on 02/18/2009

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the AAP says that routine circumcision isn't necessary for cleaniliness or any other reason. It shouldn't be done unless medically indicated. Cleaning a un-circ penis is very, very easy, just wipe. No need to deal with a bandage or possible surgery complications. And you'd be doing you son a favor by leaving his most sensitive sexual organ alone. If he wants it done, he can make that choice himself later in life. I'd say listen to your husband and spare your son. Just because the baby didn't cry doesn't mean it didn't hurt, yk? Oh, and diaper changes a a breeze and my sons bottoms are suer clean and they have never had a rash, so it's not like I'm just skipping over steps. Good luck little baby boy. Hope your parents keep your penis intact.

Kimberley - posted on 02/18/2009

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Hi! It really is a personal preference but I can tell you from personal experience that I would never do it again to any of my boys! My son was done at the hospital when he was born and they used this thing called a bell it was supposed to be less painful .Well it sure wasn't it was put on the foreskin and pulled back and the skin would die off well part of it died off and the other part had to be removed when he got older through 2 different surgeries.If I had to do it over agein I would never have put him through that pain! My husband now is not circumsized and he says that he has never had any problems with it and not to mention that it is more sensitive then if it were circumzied and if it were meant to be that way then they would have been born that way!

Crystal - posted on 02/18/2009

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I have a 3 week old son, and I chose to have him circumsized because I thought that it was the right thing to do. The poor guy was bleeding heavily after the procedure and had to be re-quartized. His penis became so swollen and days later he developed an infection. He was put on antibiotics and it has since gotten better. I am not sure I would have made the same decision if I could go back in time. Just make sure that you completely trust the doctor performing the procedure. I would research the risks on both sides and weigh the pros and cons.

Imani - posted on 02/18/2009

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It is most certainly a personal choice. I have 2 boys both circumsized and in the grand scheme of things it doesn't matter. Educating yourself on care is the only thing you need to worry about, and I mean that if you decide not to do it or if you decide to do it. My only advice though is if you decide to do it, it should be done right away. The infants are giving some kind of numbing cream, it is done 1-3 days after they are born and the only thing you need to do is clean it well with warm soapy water and keep vaseline on it. You will notice after about a week it is healing and a little over a week all is normal. My rule of thumb has been whatever their dad has, I'll do the same for them. Hope this helps.

Kirsty - posted on 02/18/2009

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i had a boy after two girls but having them to a muslim man ment i really had no choice it had to be done i was so scared i put it off for months untill his dad took him at 9 month old, he was a bit uncomftable after it was done for a cuple of days but thats why i shud of got it done sooner so he wasnt able to move about, id recomend you to do it

Toni - posted on 02/18/2009

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Quoting Michele:

This is certainly a personal decision, which unfortunately I do not understand the need for choosing. I have 2 sons, neither circumsized, indeed it was never an issue, Their father was circumsized which went badly wrong, he therefore struggled in later life because of what he considered a deformity. I would not circumsize, the foreskin is there as a protection. Good hygiene is all that is necessary. Good luck with what-ever you decide.


I agree. Here in the UK circumscision isn't as popular as it is in the US. It seems to be more of a religious or cultural issue than a medical one.



 



Personally I see no need for circumscision to be used as a preventative measure. At the end of the day it is a form of mutilation if it isn't a medical necessity. We don't remove tonsils or the appendix just in case we suffer from tonsilitis or appendacitis and I think circumscision should be treated in the same way. Children should only be circumsized if they need it and not as a preventative measure or instead of good hygiene.

Toni - posted on 02/18/2009

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Quoting Michele:

This is certainly a personal decision, which unfortunately I do not understand the need for choosing. I have 2 sons, neither circumsized, indeed it was never an issue, Their father was circumsized which went badly wrong, he therefore struggled in later life because of what he considered a deformity. I would not circumsize, the foreskin is there as a protection. Good hygiene is all that is necessary. Good luck with what-ever you decide.


I agree. Here in the UK circumscision isn't as popular as it is in the US. It seems to be more of a religious or cultural issue than a medical one.



 



Personally I see no need for circumscision to be used as a preventative measure. At the end of the day it is a form of mutilation if it isn't a medical necessity. We don't remove tonsils or the appendix just in case we suffer from tonsilitis or appendacitis and I think circumscision should be treated in the same way. Children should only be circumsized if they need it and not as a preventative measure or instead of good hygiene.

Natalie - posted on 02/18/2009

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I didn't have my son circumsized but now he is 4 and independent on the toilet we are having problems because he has a long foreskin and is getting infections. The doctor said he may have to be done if it doesn't get better. I wish I had had it done at birth as now he is in discomfort but an operation would be frightening.

Judit - posted on 02/18/2009

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My husband is circumcised but our two boys are not. I have strong views on the subject, but if at all possible, his views are even stronger. On this rare occasion I would say that he knows most what he is talking about.



Although, it is an individual decision, you need to ask yourself whether the risks of not having it done outweigh your feelings about inflicting an operation on your son. Unfortunately, I have seen both infected circumcision sites and the botched result of circumcision. There is absolutely no way I would allow any healthy part of my sons to be removed. Especially before they were able to have an opinion on the subject. We live in a society with access to washing facilities and in non-extreme weather conditions. I genuinely cannot see the point. Just to go a step further. Did you consider circumcision for your daughters? If not, why do you deem that practice to be unnecessary, unacceptable, barbaric (as it is), but not for your son? 



 

Michele - posted on 02/18/2009

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This is certainly a personal decision, which unfortunately I do not understand the need for choosing. I have 2 sons, neither circumsized, indeed it was never an issue, Their father was circumsized which went badly wrong, he therefore struggled in later life because of what he considered a deformity. I would not circumsize, the foreskin is there as a protection. Good hygiene is all that is necessary. Good luck with what-ever you decide.

Annie - posted on 02/17/2009

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Quoting Jen:



Quoting Judy:

Shana; Circumsizing ur. baby is the cleanest thi ng for him; Gosh I thought everybody did it in the past 100 yrs.That is very ugly & dirty to not do everything collect under the foreskin sweat. his pee pee if he doesn't shake dry well oh no no no its a must. good luck My son & 8 grandsons have been & every mom that I know has had it done. Judy





Actually in the last 15 years the circumcision rate has been dropping steadily since all the previous beliefs about infections and cleanliness have been completely disproved.  In most of the world it is very uncommon.  Finally North America is catching up.  The rate is right around 50% in the US, and it's under 35% in Canada.  Both the American and Canadian Pediatric Societies are now against it except for medical or religious reasons.  






I used to work for the College of Physicians and Surgeons of BC and it is almost impossible to find a doctor to even do the procedure anymore.  In all of Vancouver and it's surrounding areas (we're talking several million people), there are only 2 doctors who will do the procedure.  In the entire province there are only 7.  






http://www.caringforkids.cps.ca/pregnanc...






BC Children's Hospital (which is the #1 hospital in the province for children - people fly in for treatment) will no longer even allow circumcisions to be done on their premises after a baby died because of his circumcision.  http://www.circumstitions.com/death-exsa...





Well said Jen.  I can't believe how many times on here people talk about infections.  In this day and age there is no reason for our children to be unclean.  My boys are 9, 7 and 4.  Not one is circumcised and we have not had a single problem.  My husband is said he would never want to do that to our children.  Our parents grew up in a different time and this information was not as readily available to them as it is to us.  



Who cares if our sons match daddy or not?  My husband isn't a porn star - therefore he has lots of hair below the belt.  Of course our sons won't look like him.  He just explained the differences.  My 9 year old visibly cringed when he learned what the procedure was and thanked us for not doing that to him.  Less than half of his teammates on his baseball and hockey teams are circumcised.  None of them care that they look different.    The fact is that there is no reason for it unless it is for religious or medical reasons and it's about time we in the US caught up with the rest of the world.

App+7mnejhu - posted on 02/17/2009

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You will find that most who wish to circumcize secretly have the "look" preference that they are not being honest about. Meaning that being circumcized may have a more desireable appearance ... BUT It is a fact that this proceedure takes away from male climax satisfaction! Anyone who tells you that it's not painful for the infant is wrong. The penis has the highest number of nerve endinds than anywhere else on the body, hence it's sensitivity for climax OR PAIN.



My circumcized husband said..."you know if our sons wish for this they can make that decision themselves as adults. There is no way I'm going to take action to do this proceedure on anyone, especially since it is not medically necessary."



Would you want someone to chose the cosmetic proceedures done on you? While learning how the proceedure is done we were informed that many parents have the nerve (or lack of rather) to leave their newborn boys in a room alone with the doctor and nurse and have to leave because they can't bear to watch...I think this is obviously not pleasant or appropriate.  My husband also found out, after attending a circumcizion class when I was pregnant, that he was in fact circumcized and was very disturbed that his parents would go through with such an unessesary cruel proceedure.  If your mother had the choice to circumcize you as her daughter (previously done in other cultures) would you want her to make that choice for you?



Both of my sons (even my brothers & father) are uncircumcized and healthy with not a single problem. Please make an extremely educated choice on the matter, not the majority of opinion whatever it may be. And if you do decide to do this you should be completely present by your baby boy's side, if you can't bear to be there then that's something to think about.

Lorraine - posted on 02/17/2009

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My children's pediatrician had a good answer for this when i was questioning this same topic almost 7 years ago. She said it is a good idea to have the child as his father is. So, if your husband is then you should have your son circumcized.  If he is not then don't. If their is a difference your son may wonder why dad is different than him. I know for me personally it was a hard decision.  But I took my Dr.' s advice. And I survived it and Daddy survived it. GOOD LUCK!

Emma - posted on 02/17/2009

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I have a son and I had him circumsized after his birth because of the problems he may have in the future with the infection and being able to keep it clean. Also my mom waited to get my brothers done when he was 5yrs old. I felt so sorry for him. He cried everytime he went to the bathroom. So I say get your son circumsized while he is a baby to avoid the problems and pain.

Stacey - posted on 02/17/2009

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I personally agree with “like father like son”. My brother was not circumcised but, my husband is. We are having a little boy. I feel it’s not necessary however; my husband would like it done. So, our little boy will be circumcised. My daughter’s biological father was not circumcised and if my daughter would have been a boy she would not be circumcised either because, that is what he wanted. I have a passive view on the issue and for me it’s not worth the fight.

User - posted on 02/17/2009

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Definitely circumsize. Studies show women married to uncicumcized  men have an increased risk of developing a certain type of cancer in their female organs. Plus it is easier to keep everything clean. Do it as a newborn while he is still in the hospital. Just keep him close and love him afterwards. He will be fine.

Kylie - posted on 02/17/2009

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http://www.bmj.com/cgi/content/extract/3...

"There is compelling epidemiological evidence from over 40 studies which shows that

Male circumcision provides significant protection against HIV infection; circumcised males are two to eight times less likely to become infected with HIV.2" Check out the website our doctor also explained this to us when we were deciding for our boys (we have 4) It's an interesting read and does throw another dimension into the argument

From a female point of view, I would personally prefer to be with a guy who is snipped, that was one of my biggest arguments too (although my husband didn't mind either way)

Marianna - posted on 02/17/2009

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I am a doctor and hygiene has nothing to do with whether boys are circumcised or not. I have 2 boys who are not circumcised and have had no problems. I just felt that I could not submit my new babies to an unneccesary surgical procedure with all the attendant risks.






Another thing that if my boys, when they are men, decide that they no longer want or need their foreskins they can be circumscised at any stage. On the other hand a foreskin can never be replaced once it has been removed, do I have the right to choose for my boys?



 



I AGREE WITH LEISEL.   WE ARE JEWISH AND EVEN THOUGH OUR RELIGION MANDATES THAT WE MUST CIRC. OUR BABY BOY, WE BOTH THINK IT IS BARBARIC AND OUT-DATED,A ND OPTED  OUT FOR OUR 6 MONTH OLD SON, MUCH AGAINST THE WISHES OF OUR FAMILY MEMBERS.  THEY TRIED DESPERATELY TO MAKE US CHANGE OUR MINDS BUT WE HELD FAST AND STOOD OUR GROUND.  IT IS VERY PSYCHOLOGICALLY TRAUMATIC FOR A CHILD'S FIRST FEELING IN THE GENITAL AREA TO BE PAINFUL, IT CAN CREATE PLENTY OF PSYCHOMSOMATIC AND VERY DEEP PSYCHOLOGICAL PROBLEMS ASSOCIATED WITH SEX.



 



PLEASE DO NOT CIRC. YOUR BABY BOY, AS THE DOCTOR ABOVE ALSO MENTIONED, IT IS NOT AT ALL MEDICALLY NECESSARY, AND IT SHOULD BE THEIR CHOICE.



PLEASE LEAVE YOUR PERFECTLY BORN BABY BOYS INTACT.



 



Marianna in San Francisco!





 

Marianna - posted on 02/17/2009

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Quoting Leisel:



I am a doctor and hygiene has nothing to do with whether boys are circumcised or not. I have 2 boys who are not circumcised and have had no problems. I just felt that I could not submit my new babies to an unneccesary surgical procedure with all the attendant risks.






Another thing that if my boys, when they are men, decide that they no longer want or need their foreskins they can be circumscised at any stage. On the other hand a foreskin can never be replaced once it has been removed, do I have the right to choose for my boys?



 



I AGREE WITH LEISEL.   WE ARE JEWISH AND EVEN THOUGH OUR RELIGION MANDATES THAT WE MUST CIRC. OUR BABY BOY, WE BOTH THINK IT IS BARBARIC AND OUT-DATED,A ND OPTED  OUT FOR OUR 6 MONTH OLD SON, MUCH AGAINST THE WISHES OF OUR FAMILY MEMBERS.  THEY TRIED DESPERATELY TO MAKE US CHANGE OUR MINDS BUT WE HELD FAST AND STOOD OUR GROUND.  IT IS VERY PSYCHOLOGICALLY TRAUMATIC FOR A CHILD'S FIRST FEELING IN THE GENITAL AREA TO BE PAINFUL, IT CAN CREATE PLENTY OF PSYCHOMSOMATIC AND VERY DEEP PSYCHOLOGICAL PROBLEMS ASSOCIATED WITH SEX.



 



PLEASE DO NOT CIRC. YOUR BABY BOY, AS THE DOCTOR ABOVE ALSO MENTIONED, IT IS NOT AT ALL MEDICALLY NECESSARY, AND IT SHOULD BE THEIR CHOICE.



PLEASE LEAVE YOUR PERFECTLY BORN BABY BOYS INTACT.



 



Marianna in San Francisco!





 

Louise - posted on 02/17/2009

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This is such a difficult topic because everyone has their own opinion and neither seem to be wrong. As a general rule of thumb, it seems to be that if the dad is circumsized then the son is too. As I don't have a penis but my husband does (being the other most important person with our childrens interest at heart), I trusted him when he said there was no need to circumsize our son. We have had no health problems with our son being uncircumsized and was educated by the hospital at his time of birth about basic hygiene. My advise is to put your trust in your husband, he is the one with the equipment.

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My husband and I discussed it when we had our first boy and after doing some research there was alot of negative feelings about this from some men who had it done. It is a very painful procedure and why put your son through that kind of pain. I believe that God created man with foreskin for a reason and it should be left there unless it is either necessary or part of your religious beliefs; however that is my opinion. Children will get infections of other kinds, but yet again nothing may happen either. My son is 2 and I have not yet had any issued. Congrats and good luck on descsion.

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My husband, his father, and my son are not circumsized.  Suprising to most people it was my husband that wanted my son circumsized (he later agreed with me in not having the procedure done).  The practice of circumcision around the world is a religious one EXCEPT in the USA.  In the 80's it was preached to people that it was necessary for good hygiene however it can not be proven either way to be so and like other posters have said most insurance companies will not pay for it (Medicaid included).  Because of this more and more children are not being circumcised.  Therefore it is my opinion that when asked they will have no preference as to whether they would have liked to have been.  If you chose for your son to not be circumcised I recommend that you ask your pediatrician how to care for your son hygienically.  (My pedi said nothing is different until approx 3 years of age when the foreskin pulls away from the head of the penis naturally - then it will need to be pulled back during bathing and cleaned - which BTW should be done by all boys during bathing)

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My husband, his father, and my son are not circumsized.  Suprising to most people it was my husband that wanted my son circumsized (he later agreed with me in not having the procedure done).  The practice of circumcision around the world is a religious one EXCEPT in the USA.  In the 80's it was preached to people that it was necessary for good hygiene however it can not be proven either way to be so and like other posters have said most insurance companies will not pay for it (Medicaid included).  Because of this more and more children are not being circumcised.  Therefore it is my opinion that when asked they will have no preference as to whether they would have liked to have been.  If you chose for your son to not be circumcised I recommend that you ask your pediatrician how to care for your son hygienically.  (My pedi said nothing is different until approx 3 years of age when the foreskin pulls away from the head of the penis naturally - then it will need to be pulled back during bathing and cleaned - which BTW should be done by all boys during bathing)

Courtney - posted on 02/17/2009

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I think the human body is perfect just the way it is, if boys were not ment to have a fore skin they would be born with out one, why put your little bundle of joy through unnecessary pian when they are born just the way nature intended :)

Vicki - posted on 02/17/2009

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I have too sons one uncircumcize the 2nd is. I regret not having my oldest done as well but didnt have the money. I worry about later on in his preteen likewill he clean himself properly?

Liz - posted on 02/17/2009

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Now I am not a religious person at all!!!!  And not to sound contradicting but God made us that way for a reason.  There is NO medical reason behind circumcising...... if you teach your son when he is old enough to do so to clean him self well there are no issues! I did not have my son circumcised and we have never had any problems.  One of my main concerns is, when they do the procedure, they do not use any type of anesthetic!!!  That poor little guy feels the whole thing happening!!!!!  In my book......I 100% say NO TO CIRCUMCISION!!!!!  

Jimell Carter - posted on 02/17/2009

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Quoting Leisel:



I am a doctor and hygiene has nothing to do with whether boys are circumcised or not. I have 2 boys who are not circumcised and have had no problems. I just felt that I could not submit my new babies to an unneccesary surgical procedure with all the attendant risks.






Another thing that if my boys, when they are men, decide that they no longer want or need their foreskins they can be circumscised at any stage. On the other hand a foreskin can never be replaced once it has been removed, do I have the right to choose for my boys?






This is almost word for word what our ped. said to us when we were pregnant with our first son. I left that decision up to my husband in the end since he had the 'parts' and I did not. (note: my husband IS) and after all the research he did on the subject he just couldn't find any reason to do it so we opted to keep our son intact. We now have 3 boys and they are all uncircumcised. We have never had issues either. Being that my husband has a degree in statisics, there is one thing you must understand about all the numbers people like to throw out about the arguement for having it done is that most of those statistics are from all over the world including places that do not have running water and proper ways to bathe.



Also, there will ALWAYS be someone who knew someone who had infections and/or problems, that is just part of life. I have had 3 children with NO ear infections and I was sure it was because they were all breastfed...then my daughter came along and had cronic ear infections even though she was nursed. So, my advice is that you just do what you and your husband feel is right for your son and be confident in your decision and have no regrets!! In the end, who really cares if your son is or isn't, he will be perfect to you and that's all that matters.



One last thing I want to say to you, ten years ago when we were pondering over the decision ourselves, one of the things I kept hearing over and over again was "we did it so he would look like his daddy" and "you don't want him made fun of in the locker room?" Well, here is what I say about that....after 10 years not a one of my boys have ever commented that they 'don't look like daddy' and as my husband put it "I can honestly tell you I have NO idea what a single one of my friends penises looked like!" and he played basketball and changed regularly in the locker room.



Again, I say, make it YOUR choice and be proud of your decision. I have never regreted the choice to not do it and none of my friends who did have ever regreted their choice either. It's really NOT that big a deal. Trust me, there will be a thousand other more important issues you will face in the next few years that will make this penis one seem like cake! LOL

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Quoting Sarah:



You can do it as an adult obviously, that is just stupid. Women can get circumsized as adults, so why wouldn't men be able to? Also, just because babies don't remember the pain does not mean they are not affected by it. They are affected by things that happen when they are in the womb. What is wrong with you?





excuse me but what makes you think you can judge anyone on their opinions and decisions for THEIR children???? You can agree with Rebecca all you like but both of you only have girls!! Everyone has a right to freedom of speech and thier own views but there is no need to push your thoughts and feeling on others!! A question was asked for help for a solution not for a personal battering on other peoples views and decisions they have thought long and hard over! Every parent has their chllds best interests at heart and what they think is right for them  I think anyone that feels like they need to critise or attack anyones decisions/opinions should keep them to themselves as it isnt helpful in anyway!!!!

Nikki - posted on 02/17/2009

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my husband did not want our son circumsized as well. now, more and more studies support the fact that there is no medical reason to circumsize. that is why most insurance companies do not cover it anymore. i believe that good hygiene is something that is taught and does not have any link to being circumsized. this is an old way of thinking and now more medical journals support not circumsizing. the united states has one of the hight circumcision rates in the world, but most men outside of the united states are not circumsized. we read many articals on this topic when i was pregnant and articals, pro and con, are easy to find on line. the one thing that did seem to be a con is that boys who are not circumsized do have a higher risk of std's than circumsized. i wanted our son to be circumsized before reading about the pros and cons. my husband who is circumsized did not want our baby to have a circumcision because he believed that it was a form of genital mutilation. in the end after educating myself on the topic we chose not to circumsize our son. it was a hard decision to make. since then we are finding that more and more people are deciding not to circumsize boys. i think that it is good that you are looking into something that most peolpe perform without thinking about, and in the end whatever you and our husband decide at least you will have thought about all the options. also if you do not circumsize our son later on he can dicide for himself if he wants to have it done, although it is much more difficult on the person. hope this was some help and good luck on a hard decision.

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You can do it as an adult obviously, that is just stupid.  Women can get circumsized as adults, so why wouldn't men be able to?  Also, just because babies don't remember the pain does not mean they are not affected by it.  They are affected by things that happen when they are in the womb.  What is wrong with you?

Shannyn - posted on 02/17/2009

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I think that right across the board it is better to get this procedure done, my younger brother wasnt circumsized as a baby and because of this was always getting infected, no matter how much my mum tried to keep him clean, he was a little boy who loved the mud and the sand and anything dirty. Turns out that because of the constant infections the doctors told my parents to have him circumsized. Shame he was already 5. All I can remember of this time in his life is the agony of hearing him in the bathroom screamimg because where the foreskin was removed in surgery the skin was weeping and all his clothes stuck to his lil man. He had to soak his clothes off in the bath and it put him through an agony I dont think any child should endure..My advice? GET IT DONE and avoid problems later on. It's cleaner as well as safer. And for your husband, if he's worried about sex drive or any of the other myths out there, IT AINT TRUE, and your child will be better off for it.

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You can do it as an adult obviously, that is just stupid.  Women can get circumsized as adults, so why wouldn't men be able to?  Also, just because babies don't remember the pain does not mean they are not affected by it.  They are affected by things that happen when they are in the womb.  What is wrong with you?

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My husband and I had both of our boys circumsized. We did it because my little brother is Down Syndrome and he wasn't circumsized after birth because of his health problems following his delivery. He's now 20 and his foreskin is so tight on the tip that he can barely retract it to clean it without causing himself discomfort. My husband wanted our boys to also ft in because if other kids notice they're different than everyone else it subjects them to teasing. I had some mixed feelings though but once I found out that the boys are numbed I felt a little better about it. He was also given Tylenol to help later. I did my best to make sure my boys had very little discomfort. Good luck with your decision.

Sarah - posted on 02/17/2009

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I totally agree with Rebecca!  On Everything, and how can you argue what she is saying? 

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http://www.princeclinic.co.uk/da/81598
Circumcision is the process of removing the skin that covers the tip of the penis. Each year approximately 10 million Muslims, 1 million Americans and 100,000 Jews are circumcised around the world, making circumcision the most commonly practised medical procedure on Earth.

When to Circumcise
Circumcision should ideally be performed in the first six months after birth to avoid complications and specially stress to the child. In fact the optimum timing for circumcision is when your baby is around one week old. Whether you are ensuring that your son is circumcised for religious or hygienic reasons, it is best to perform the procedure as early as possible.

Jenna - posted on 02/17/2009

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It's not medically necessary, but a lot of men want their boys circumsized b/c they are and/or for religious purposes...  Good luck with the decision, but know it's purely pased on your social conditioning.  

Jenna - posted on 02/17/2009

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It's not medically necessary, but a lot of men want their boys circumsized b/c they are and/or for religious purposes...  Good luck with the decision, but know it's purely pased on your social conditioning.  

Shannon - posted on 02/17/2009

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Quoting Pauline:



I did not have my son circumsized and have never regretted it.  When I found out I was having a boy I did a lot of reasearch and found that there is no evidence that it prevents infection.  I have never had a problem with hygine either.  My son takes frequent baths and this is more than enough to keep him clean.  Since you are asking for peoples opinions what I'll say to that is that I think it is an elective cosmetic proceedure and you should think carefully about doing something to your son's penis that is irreversible and quite painful.






I agree with Pauline 100%... There is no evidence that it causes infection and I don't know why anyone would want to subject their baby boy to that kind of procedure.  It is not recommended by most paediatricians... It's not even easy to find someone to perform the procedure anymore!   Not sure why you are leaning towards doing it.  If it is not for religious reasons, then it must be about cleanliness... there are no problems with cleaning a non-circumcised boy.  Don't worry about it!  Not sure where you live, but here is a link to the Canadian Paediatric Society's recommendation: http://www.caringforkids.cps.ca/pregnanc...  Good luck!

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Quoting Sarah:



It is just easier to not have to concern yourself with cleaning in there with a Qtip everytime you change him and for him to have to do the same forever.  What a hassle.






I just wanted to say that you do not clean in there with a q-tip. You just simply wipe it like you do the rest of the area when changing a diaper. When bathing, you wash with soap and water, again, like you do with the rest of the area. I have cared for boys, both circumsized and not, and there is really no difference in cleaning when they are babies. Not until the forskin seperates do you need to clean inside. But that is when they are older. At that time, you can teach your son how to pull it back and wash, as you would do with his entire body.

Susan - posted on 02/17/2009

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In the UK, it is much less common and then general feeling is that unless for religious purposes, why would you hack off a bit of your son's body. When I was preggers, I had a similar dilemma and the advice from my midwife was were clear - there is no clear evidence that there are any health benefits to circumsision and there is no real evidence that boys with foreskin contact more infections if their overall level of personal hygiene is good. Some school of thinking in the UK even suggest that later sexual pleasure and sensitivity may be adversely effected.... If you husband has an strong opinion, then I kinda think perhaps it is better to be like your dad.

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