To Work or Not To Work?

Jocelyn - posted on 07/06/2009

if i were in your shoes, i would take the job in a heart beat. it's not that i don't love staying home with my kids, it's just i never wanted to strictly be a sahm (which i am due to financial reasons, economic reasons, day care shortages etc) i plan on going back to work/back to school as soon as all my kids are in school full time. and i can't wait :)

Amy - posted on 07/06/2009

Heather,

My heart aches for you and your situation. I was in your shoes not that long ago myself. I was an RN working long hours and cried on the way from the daycare to the hospital when my infant daughter would not look at me after dropping her off because she was so mad, or when I had to drop my son off despite being sick and loaded him up with cough syrup. It broke my heart, I can't agree more with the above poster who said that mommies belong at home with their kids. That is the way that God planned it.

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Lydia - posted on 07/06/2009

Do what makes you happy. Money is great but happiness is far more important (in my eyes anyway). If you want to take the job offer you will find a child care situation that you are comfortable/happy with I'm sure.

Rachel - posted on 07/05/2009

You will have to decide what your family as a whole needs together... maybe you could work for a while and get the things you need and then when your stable again quit! However not all daycares are scary places! I worked as a 1 year old teacher in a daycare and we has a blast learning and playing all day! So just check into the daycare that your child will be going to... you can ask to observe for a day or two also that way you can see how the teachers in your child’s class are! Also remember that it is also ok if you decide to stay home and put off the house plans for a year or two! I say sit down with the hubby and ask what he wants and weigh out everything together! It will all work out...



Hang in there you're sure to make the right decision!

User - posted on 07/05/2009

Go with your gut instinct. If you feel funny or shaky about your decision, than its the wrong one. Only you know what's best for your family. Just keep in mind the difference between NEEDS and WANTS. You may want to move, but your children need interaction with you. They also need food on the table and a stable home. Whatever you do, make your decision confidently, doing what's best for both you and your family. On a side note, I gave up a 40K+ a year job to stay home with my now 9month old daughter working for peanuts from home. And I wouldn't trade this time we have for all the money in the world.

Tammy - posted on 07/05/2009

I'm totally biased on this issue so you may not like my answer! :-) I think the only job on the planet for which you are irreplaceable is mother to your children. I think there is NOTHING else more important. Not a house, not your sense of fulfillment, not money, not anything. It is not a mistake that they come out of our bodies and God put breasts on us to nurse them (whether you use them or not, ha). Children were meant to be loved and nurtured by their mommies, not handed off to strangers who do not love them like you do. These years go by so fast and you will never regret spending them focused on your child. In a few years they will be in school full time and you can do something else then, but right now your children need YOU. You know that in your gut which is why you are asking. If you had no choice but to do it, I would not criticize you for doing what you had to do but if you have a choice, your instincts tell you what you need to do. Just listen! :-)

Libby - posted on 07/05/2009

There are so many pros and cons I'm sure. One thing that would probably help me make my decision is if I were going to have more children. Perhaps you can't answer that question yet since your youngest is only 1. But maybe now is the time to ask it. If you know you are done having children then perhaps you won't regret going back to work full time. But if you were to take the position, how easily would it be for you to go back to a part time work for home situation?



I think it's odd how things can seem so hard and other opportunities may seem so easy. When I lost my job last September I thought it was the worst thing that could happen to me. I was wrong. But it did give me the opportunity to make the choice to stay home with my children, which I know I wouldn't have done otherwise. Now I stay at home with them and babysit to make a little extra money. Never would I have left my job to do this. But I am so much happier now!



I know we think we know what will make us happy or not. Really decide if that new house and great job will make you happy. It might! Or it might not and that would be unfortunate.

Sapphire - posted on 07/05/2009

Ths is a decision that you and your husband need to work out together. Make a pros & cons list. Is it possible to do some flexible hours? Is your husband's work schedule flexible in any capacity? If you are not thrilled about a daycare facility, would you be more comfortable in a home-care setting? Did you enjoy working? Some women, like myself, actually do enjoy working out side of the home. I love adult conversation and I truly do love teaching. But you have to evaluate the basic needs of your familiy. Your desire to work or stay home a majority of the time. Is it possible that if this job opportunity closes, then nothing better or comparable will come along? Would you be willing to take on this job on a short term basis to see if your parenting is compromised? You will always have heated debates of working mom vs. SAHM. But in the end, you & hubby have to make the best decisions for your family. All the best to you!