Toddlers Dry Humping

Shannon - posted on 07/02/2009 ( 10 moms have responded )

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Hi there i have a two year old girl. She is getting more and more frequent with the dryhumping getting right into her diaper. As well she will just drop on the floor in front of anyone and start . Im a first time mom and i have no idea on how to stop this kind of behavior or to teach her about doing this in a private time? I have looked online and have not been able to find any answers does anyone here have any suggestions?

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Laura - posted on 11/24/2010

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Lorraine and Julianne do make valid points, however, I would start with a more obvious culprit--possible yeast infection. Yes, even children can get yeast infections (without any sexual behavior needed) and I assume most of us have experienced the itching that an infection can cause. I would start with a trip to the doctor to check this out first. At 2 years of age your daughter may simply be scratching herself to relieve the itching. And of course scratching "down there" can have other pleasant feelings too, making her more likely to scratch some more. At the doctor's you can also discuss this and other possible causes, including molestation.

If her behavior is scratching an infection, then medication should resolve the problem. You can work on distracting the behavior by removing her hand with a verbal cue of "no scratching" and give her something to hold or do instead. Be consistent and she should start responding to just the verbal cue.

The worst case scenerio is that she has been molested. The doctor can do an examination that can help determine this. In most states, if a child is determined to have been sexually molested, social services and the authorities are notified by law. This does not mean that you are in any way guilty, but it will start an investigation to determine when, who and how. At two years old your daughter won't have any long-term memories of being molested--which is one positive aspect if that were the case. In either case consult your doctor or pediatrician about her behavior. I'm thinking it's a yeast infection myself. Hope this helps and good luck to you!

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Stifler's - posted on 11/24/2010

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Or they just discover sexual pleasure much earlier than you previously thought. I agree with the people who reckon this is normal. Sooner or later they realise it's not socially acceptable to do it in public.

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Looraine, i agree with this theory...when children were molested they get sexual because of the over stimulation. Once this happens, brain chemistry changes because of the release of the sex hormone..im not trying to upset you but talk to your doctor...and do a little investigating to watch out for risky behavior from other people in her life..

Katie - posted on 07/04/2009

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Does she go and visit her father or go to a daycare or is someone watching her. If this doesnt get resolved soon you should bring up to her doctor. I would suspect something if i were you

Anne - posted on 07/04/2009

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I used to work in a daycare and one of the younger children were doing this. I spoke to her mom and she just brushed it off like it was normal. It's really not normal. The things children see on TV these days are no help in bringing up children and maybe she saw something there. Make sure you handle it whatever way you can before someone calls protective services to investigate. You don't want the spotlight ending up on you.

Jennifer - posted on 07/04/2009

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My daughter was born w/ an arachnoid cyst and one of her doctors brought up a point to me. There is something out there called Kluver-Bucy (think the spelling is correct - enough so that you can google it) syndrome. These two doctors (Kluver - Bucy) took out the temporal lobes of resses monkesy to see how they would react. They were found to be hyper oral, hyper sexual, aggressive. My daughter has symptoms of this syndrome and i am just putting it out there to see if she has ever had an MRI or EEG. Does she have seizures? Otherwise - typical normal behavior that, as with every stage, will rectify itself. Good looking out but don't panic - she's normal!!

Minnie - posted on 07/04/2009

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There isn't anything wrong with your daughter. At her age, just tell her she can get ouchies if she does that, and then redirect her attention. Don't make a big deal of it- she will grow out of it.

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At my sisters preschool any time a child touches themself they have to go wash their hands. Pretty soon it becomes very inconvienent to go wash hands all the time and they stop. The teachers tell them it's just like when you got to the bathroom you have to wash your hands. I don't know, but it might work with her.

Alicia - posted on 07/04/2009

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My dads wifes daughter used to do this all the time. She was doing even younger than that. They just kept telling her when they caught her doing it that she could get boo-boos down there that would hurt. No child wants boo-boos. So eventually she stopped doing it. She used to pile up blankets underneath her and do it. It was very strange. I felt weird saying anything to he baout it. I would just say Erica your not supposed to be doing that, your gonna get boo-boos. Its an awkward situation I think because they dont understand and they really dont see anything wrong with it. I wish you the best of luck with this.

Lorraine - posted on 07/02/2009

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your 2 year old is doig this? I would be a bit concerned as to why a child of 2 is doing this. I have heard of older children but not a 2 year old.

is it possible that she may have been molested without you knowing about it.

I would definately bring it up an her next doctors apointment because this is just not normal at 2 years old.

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