Tryin to get Pregnant

Kathleen - posted on 11/14/2009 ( 30 moms have responded )

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Well not right this second. But does anyone have any tips?? What to try?? What not to do?? I've been trying for almost a year with no luck, we were tryin without doin anything irregular to us though. So we decided to give it a break for a little while. But we'd like some ideas for when we start again.

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Kim - posted on 11/15/2009

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Don't think about it and don't make it into a "job" ya know. The more you think about the more stressed both of you become.I never knew when I was fertile. We went to the dr. when we started trying and she told me to, right after DO NOT use the restroom and lay on my back with my legs up in the air for 30 min. After a few times of that I was pregnant.

Christina - posted on 11/15/2009

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lol... so true! My friends tried for a while and then when they stopped worrying about it, she got pregnant!

Christina - posted on 11/15/2009

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You are most fertile the 7th and 14th days if you have a 28 day cycle. (If u r a 31 day, you have to google it, I'm not sure) Have sex the day bf, day of, and day after. Sperm lives in the female body for something like 72 hrs so you have a pretty good chance trying that. I only tried once with both my kids. I might just be lucky though... It also works for the reverse- trying NOT to get pregnant, lol...

Jackie - posted on 11/15/2009

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My best advice is stop trying! Just go on with life without using birth control and it will happen when its suppose to happen. There is way too many things that effect getting pregnant to even begin to worry about it. Worry and stress just happens to be one of them! Most pregnancys are surprisingly UNPLANNED! Just a quicky after a few drinks and an office xmas party.. stumbling in on to the couch!

Melissa - posted on 11/15/2009

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You might not be ovulating- that was my problem. You and your hubby should talk to your doctor about testing. Good Luck!

Angie - posted on 11/15/2009

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If you and your husband have been trying for a year, please go see your doctor. It is possible that one of you has a medical issue than can easily be taken care of.

Jas - posted on 11/15/2009

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Quoting Kathleen:

Tryin to get Pregnant

Well not right this second. But does anyone have any tips?? What to try?? What not to do?? I've been trying for almost a year with no luck, we were tryin without doin anything irregular to us though. So we decided to give it a break for a little while. But we'd like some ideas for when we start again.


are u working kath?maybe u have to take a vacation with your husband.take time to relax and relax..maybe u are busy working or stress.thats why i suggest you to have a vacation in somewhere that peace and quite and of course ROMANTIC!!!!

Joanne - posted on 11/15/2009

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I would sugest to focus on yourself, your helth and once you stop thinking about it, it could possibly happen. But the first thing you should do is go to the doctors and both you and your partner advise the doctor that you have been trying for approx a year and would like to get the tests done to make sure you are both in tip top shape. Once done stop thinking about it and like I said focus on yourself and it will happen. Thats what we did but it took us two years before we focused on ourselves.

Hayley - posted on 11/15/2009

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Well my husband and i tried for 6 years before we had our son. We stopped trying and stopped thinking about it. I started to take folic acid tablets on a recommendation from a friend and then bingo i fell pregnant! My husband did like a drink and a smoke too but he stopped for a few months and i believe that is how i concieved. So if u both drink and smoke id say stop or cut down for a few months which will help. We are now expecting our second baby too! good luck x

Molly - posted on 11/15/2009

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Quoting Joanna:

Orgasm together. This can be tricky for many couples though. Going to get graphic for a minute here.....during an orgasm the cervix will often latch on (so to speak) to the penis trying to "suck" in the sperm. If you orgasm together and your cervix latches on, his sperm has no where else to go (like the vaginal walls), which eliminates the obstacle of trying to get through the cervix. Don't stress over it though, that'll make it harder to accomplish. Good luck!


Actually I think that will only increase your chances of conception AND getting a boy.  Boy-sperms do have short life span and travel faster.  So if you O'ed that will suck in those boy-sperms more effectively. My friend had 2 girls and 2 boys and she swore by it!  I couldn't O together and I have 2 girls.

Di - posted on 11/14/2009

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take your time. Relax. anxiety will add other stressors you already have in your life. take good care of your health. when you least expect it------ surprise! make sure you have had a complete physical, from head to toe. and the partner too. 30% of infertility is male related. good luck sweetie!

Kim - posted on 11/14/2009

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First, you need to make sure your period is every 28-34 days apart. If you are closer to 28 days, then you will ovulate on days 11-14. Day 1 is the first day of your period. For some women, they feel a sexual drive when they are ovulating. This is normal, it is nature's way of helping you to reproduce. Also, it is to your benefit to have intercourse every other day. Too much can actually work against you. You may want to talk to your ob/gyn to test you and your partner to make sure you are ovulating and he is producing a normal amount of sperm and the normal motility. Just relax and let nature take it's course.

Morgan - posted on 11/14/2009

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I realized that i hardley ever got off when we had sex. So i heard that when a woman orgasms it helps the sperm along the tube to the egg because of the contractions. Try using a toy/vibrator to make sure you orgasm after you have sex. :O) It worked for me!!

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We tried for 6 years to get pregnant. All of the crap about do not think about it and it will happen is just that crap!! If you have been trying for at least one year, you need to go and get your husband tested for sperm count. Sometimes it is low because of different environmental, or hereditary reasons. Most can be easily fixed. then, if he is good, have the doctor (skip OBGYN and go straight to specialist) put you on low dose clomid. This might be all you need, hopefully. If not, set your plan how far you are willing to go and stick to it. We ended up adopting, but it was all for the good. Good Luck!!!!

Jennifer - posted on 11/14/2009

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We used a method called the fertility awareness method. This method is based on the concept of tracking your body signals to determine fertility. Not only should you track your body temperature, but you should also track your cervical fluid and cervix position. When your fluid is more watery and less sticky, you are most fertile. If you get an egg-white like discharge, that's a sign of ovulation. Also, when your cervix has moved lower and softened, you are more fertile. After 14 months of trying to get pregnant, my hubby and I started this method. Three months later, we were pregnant. This method is perfect for women who don't cycle every 28 days which is what is assumed by most ovulation calendars.

Firebird - posted on 11/14/2009

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Orgasm together. This can be tricky for many couples though. Going to get graphic for a minute here.....during an orgasm the cervix will often latch on (so to speak) to the penis trying to "suck" in the sperm. If you orgasm together and your cervix latches on, his sperm has no where else to go (like the vaginal walls), which eliminates the obstacle of trying to get through the cervix. Don't stress over it though, that'll make it harder to accomplish. Good luck!

Valerie - posted on 11/14/2009

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I agree with everyone saying don't think about it too much, if you're too stressed about it it won't work out for you! There is something to be said about the accupuncture as well. However, if you don't have someone close by to go to you can do accupressure! Get your partner to give you a foot rub and really work the area between your ankle bone and your heel, this area holds the pressure points for the female reproductive system and it should help stimulate your system! In the end though, no matter what you do it seems to always happen when it's right for you, no matter what method you are trying!! Good luck with everything!!

Tracie - posted on 11/14/2009

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Just stop thinking about it. Not one of my 3 kids was tried for they happen when the man upstairs says you're ready.

Kendra - posted on 11/14/2009

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my husband and i were lucky to only "try" for 3 months but the last month when I got pregnant i was putting my legs up afterwards for a few minutes. I didn't really think there was much truth to it but I wanted to get pregnant and was willing to try anything. It seems to have worked though. We also were having sex anytime we had a chance, even a couple times in the car while my husband was on break at work! lol... I have a book that tells you the best way to chart your ovulation is to chart your mucus. Sounds gross but it says it's better than using the store sticks or even basal temperature.

Chloe - posted on 11/14/2009

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Quoting eliza:

STOP TRYIN CUZ IF U TRY TO HARD ITS NOT GONNA HAPPEN JUST DONT THINK ABOUT IT I WAS WIT MY EX FOR 5 YRS AND NOTHING HAPPENED THEN I GOT WIT MY HUSBAND AND WE WERE TOGETHER 1 YR WHEN WE CONCIVED AND WE WERENT TRYING BUT WE DIDNT USE PROTECTION EITHER JUST DONT THINK ABOUT IT AND IT WILL HAPPEN



we also didnt think about it, we just did it. if you make it a chore it will be unpleasent and not work.



if you think of it as spending some quality time with your partner every second day or so it is alot easier to take defeat.

Krista - posted on 11/14/2009

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Figure out exactly when you're fertile. For most women, that's about 72 hours two weeks from the start of your period. For instance, if you had your period on November 9, have bunny sex on the 21st, 22nd and 23rd. This works if you are regular. Meaning that you get your period every 28 days. If you do not, keep track of your periods for a little while......figure out how many days your cycle actually is.

Also, just a tip......trying TOO often lowers a man's sperm count.

I also agree with another poster in here. If you're worried, talk to your doctor about testing your fertility. Alternately, there are now fertility tests that you can buy otc.

Kelli - posted on 11/14/2009

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don't try . and when you least expect it it will happen . me and my husband were talking about trying to have another around this time , but instead looks like i'll be delivering around this time =) . good luck !!

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You need to figure out when you ovulate. There are several ways to do that, taking your temperture everyday for 1 cycle and charting it(lots of info on the net about doing this), or you could buy an ovulation prediction kit at the drugstore etc. Once you know when your ovulating each month, then it's just a matter of timing BEFORE you ovulate because after is not much good.

Kelly - posted on 11/14/2009

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We tried for over a year with our first. Funnily enough the month we got pregnant we weren't really trying (timing and all that) and were going to start again more seriously the following month with an ovulation kit and all that. I remember reading a lot of information at the time sayinng that the man should build up his sperm and to abstain for between five to seven days before ovulating. However by the time we were ready to start trying for our second I read several articles that said new studies found that having sex every three days was optimal as it allows time for sperm to build up but also replenishes them frequently so that they are better quality. Given that we got pregnant the 2nd time around within the first month of half trying....there could be something to the theory.



I also know some people who have had luck with acupuncture and there are supposedly some that specialise in this area.



There is a lot of information out there. Just read up, see what suits you and good luck!

Chloe - posted on 11/14/2009

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the best advice i can give you is: have sex every second day, ATLEAST.
all of the ovulation calendar is crap. You have no chance of skipping the right time to get pregnant if you just have lots of sex. where as calendars can be wrong and such. Also, if your worried, go and get tested like @Jacqueline said. Other than that theres nothing really else you can do but sexsexsex :)

Nina - posted on 11/14/2009

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try the ovulation tests from first responce or other brands it worked for us, we got pregnant within that month

Eliza - posted on 11/14/2009

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STOP TRYIN CUZ IF U TRY TO HARD ITS NOT GONNA HAPPEN JUST DONT THINK ABOUT IT I WAS WIT MY EX FOR 5 YRS AND NOTHING HAPPENED THEN I GOT WIT MY HUSBAND AND WE WERE TOGETHER 1 YR WHEN WE CONCIVED AND WE WERENT TRYING BUT WE DIDNT USE PROTECTION EITHER JUST DONT THINK ABOUT IT AND IT WILL HAPPEN

Jacqueline - posted on 11/14/2009

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well not to be too personal and you don't have to answer online, but have you guys been tested to see if you are producing eggs/or your significant other is producing sperm? talk to you doctor about testing :) and good luck

Laura - posted on 11/14/2009

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Have you tried using the ovulation calendar on webmd.com? It will tell you when the best time to 'try' is according to when your last cycle was. Worked for us :) Good luck!!!

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