trying to get pregnant please share any tips that have worked for you

Layla - posted on 10/04/2010 ( 46 moms have responded )

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i am trying to get pregnant with my 2nd child my 1st is 13 months and it took 2 and half years to fall pregnant with her so me and my husband decided not to use any contracption after having her as we both knew we wanted more children but 13 months later and im still not pregnant i do check my most fertil days so just wanted to see if there was any thing that worked for you that i could try thanks x

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Angie - posted on 10/04/2010

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After intercourse, I used to prop my hips up on pillows for :30 or so.

Beth - posted on 10/08/2010

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We tried to get pregnant for a year on our own with no success. What ended up helping us was using ovulation strips to determine when exactly I was ovulating (I"m irregular), proping my hips afterwards, and (what I think really did it) using pre seed lubrication. If you go to www.babyhopes.com you can find it. I got pregnant the first month I used it. Good luck!

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We also tried for 2 & 1/2 years for our first & ended up going through IVF for her but we have tried every trick in the book. The best advice we were given when we were trying for our 2nd was 'Have sex every 2nd or 3rd day from as close to the beginning of your cycle (day 1 of your period) as you can handle. In the section of your cycle where your most fertile days fall ramp it up to every 2nd day but try to make sure that you have sex 2 days before your most fertile, on your most fertile day & 2 days after'

It is important to only have sex every second day though as it gives your husband time to produce more sperm. Apparently it takes 48 hours to get back up to 'full strength' so tp speak ;-D.

Just keep going like that. I'm afraid it might get a bit routine (really put the meaning into 'doing the business for us') but it worked (after 7 months).

Alice - posted on 12/17/2012

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hi i have 3 kids and all i did when i wanted to try was have sex everyday for a month i wanted to conceive and vola pregnant sounds funny but it worked !!

Michelle - posted on 10/10/2010

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hi layla, the first thing i would do if i were you, 1. check with your doctor for both you and your husband that every thing is medically in order. 2. just relax and not work so hard on it.. i believe sometimes we need to allow the body naturally do it what it needs to do. overstressing with worrying and too much making the body do something it is not ready for yet.

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Charlene - posted on 10/10/2010

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Do what Nicky said it does work I would find my most fertile day usually the 14th and 15th day so make sure you have sex for 2 0r 3 days before and after but just once a day. I always stayed in bed after for 15 mins laying down. Don't use lubrication either. another sign that you are ovulating in case your body isn't the typical 14 day cycle (don't be grossed out its your body) is your discharge will become very thin clear and kind of holds its own like Ky jelly. That's a sign of ovulation our discharge becomes this way to help the sperm travel more easily. Goodluck! do not stress and enjoy getting pregnant don't let it become a chore.

Margaret - posted on 10/09/2010

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I was very naive (not about MOST things, just "falling pregnant"). I thought you got married, stopped contraception, went on your honeymoon and came back pregnant! (lol - silly ME!)
Didn't get married until 2 weeks before I turned 30 and to a younger man, and was not pregnant 4 months later, so announced "38 is the cutoff age for adoption, so you'd better produce soon or we have to go on the adoption list" (it was a 7 year WAIT at that time!) well, then I fell pregnant, then had a phantom pregnancy a year later (with a pituitary tumour caused by diet drinks and products) then had a second daughter 2 years after my first, then miscarried but fell immediately thereafter with my son (a gap of 3 and 1/2 years) My heart bleeds for those who have trouble falling pregnant as I thought FOUR MONTHS was an ETERNITY! I'd wake hi9m up in the middle of the night, telling him my temperature was right telling me I was ovulating, he'd roll off saying "is it ok? can I go back to sleep now?" (sorry for graphic description, but I'm sure some of you have also experienced this..lol. Yes, I used the pillow trick, I even rolled backwards with my legs on the bedhead (that was AFTER, not DURING..lmao!) I think he thought that I was turning into a nymphomaniac at times... lol..but it worked...hmm...I wonder if that's why he divorced me after 12 years together? lol Best of luck _ I think NOT TRYING was what worked for us, after giving up concentrating on it - it HAPPENED and when we were least expecting it - we found that we were "EXPECTING" lol

Dana - posted on 10/09/2010

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I actually just dealt with this. My doctor told me to have sex on the 10th day, counting from the 1st day of my period, then every other day. So you'd have sex on the 10th day, 12th, 14th then 16th. Prior to that I had been trying for 9 months to no avail, once I did that I was pregnant within 3 months.

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You should see your doctor. After one year doctor's will see you and assess you both for fertility problems. It took us 15 months to conceive our son but I have PCOS and hadn't gotten my period after stopping the pill. So after 12 months we were referred to a feritlity clinic. I still wasn't haveing periods so they gave me a drug to induce one so they cud do a test to check my tubes. They weren't blocked and after that period I got pregnant!

Briana - posted on 10/09/2010

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Mine is silly and simple, a woman's vitamin. I tried for almost a year and then had a friend mention to me one day that she couldn't get preg. until she started taking a vitamin for women. I was doubtful it would be so easy, but to my surprise, I got pregnant right away! Must have been lacking something my body needed to get pregnant. Worth a shot. Good luck!

Paula - posted on 10/09/2010

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I used an ovulation test that u can get from a chemist or supermarket & got pregnet with the first test thats how I did it with my oldest child.

Kim - posted on 10/09/2010

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Typically, doctors will say after 12 months without getting pregnant, there may be some type of fertility issue. (6 months if you are older) You should see your doctor about it at this point if you really are interested in getting pregnant--especially considering you had difficulty the first time around. And now, you are a year older, which can change our fertility as well. I went through infertility for 5 1/2 years and only after many different treatments, I ultimately conceived through IVF. No offense to the different suggestions given, but I found that when I couldn't get pregnant people had lots of random suggestions--drink this, think this way, don't think about it and you'll get pregnant, etc. and bottom line is--there are certain medical reasons that can impact you and no matter how many people out there have had "luck" with tilting hips, trying herbs, etc, they don't work for all. I wen to a therapist who specialized in infertility (which was helpful especially when I miscarried the first time) and an acupuncturist--cool stuff, but didn't get pregnant. Anyhow--I would get some basic medical possibilities checked out and go from there. Oh, and my daughter is 5 now and I've never gotten pregnant again although everyone told me I would if I didn't worry so much about it. Not trying to be a downer here, but there is possibly more to it than wants and thinking certain thoughts. Best of luck to you--it's a tough thing to go through. I truly hope you get the family you want. In the end, I'm happy with my one and can't imagine my life with more.

Cecelia - posted on 10/09/2010

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I know you would like to have more children, but I think you should try and enjoy the one you have at present. What I believe that you are thinking to much of having another one, so all you have to do is relax and it would happen. It take me thirteen (13) years before I had my daughter and I thank God every day, so you have hope.

Jo - posted on 10/08/2010

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if you're not going down the IVF line yet try "Maybe Baby" its an ovulation tracker from the chemist, keeps you keep track of your ovulation so you know your fertile days.

Amie - posted on 10/08/2010

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well i was told not to keep on try so i tried and went about my normal days and routine and caught for my little girl kelcea

Brenda - posted on 10/08/2010

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Hi Celeste (and I hope Mia doesn't mind that I reply on her behalf).
TCM is traditional chinese medicine which is a combination of accupuncture, chinese herbs (in pill or tablet form, or herbs that need to be boiled and drunk as a tea), dietary therapy and a variety of other possible treatments (cupping, qigong exercises, tui na or shiatsu massage, etc). I am a huge fan as it diagnoses and treats the body holistically...everything is interconnected and fertility is not necessarily determined only by the functioning of your reproductive organs.

Fatima - posted on 10/08/2010

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Just relax and enjoy every moment about it! If you count, calculate and concentrate you take the fun out of it and I have heard it is not effective, so just enjoy as much and you will be lucky!!! That's what I did for both my pregnancies.

Rene - posted on 10/08/2010

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The day after you've finished your period, you start going at it like rabbits! And I wouldn't take a chance doing it every other day, I would even do it twice a day! And maybe even twice at a time. :) Let him take a 5 minute breather after round 1, and start round 2. LOL. For 2 weeks, non-stop!

Just kidding, I don't really know the answer. But if I were in your shoes, I really would try and have as much sex as possible, as often as possible, to make sure I get the sperm and the egg in the same place at the same time! :)

Cathy - posted on 10/07/2010

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Hi Layla. Pre-Pregnancy vitamins and of course put a pillow under your buttocks and elevate your legs for about 20min after sex. I swear, it works. Patience is also key. Good luck!!!

Heather - posted on 10/07/2010

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Check your diet. Nutrition can have an affect on your body. If you know of a nutritionist is the area maybe set up an appointment with them.

Jandkbassett - posted on 10/07/2010

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definately try proping up the hips after sex, i know a few people have said that but i swear by it!!!!

Rebecca - posted on 10/07/2010

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I completely understand, my husband and i tried for 6 years. We now have 3, once we got started we couldnt quit. LOL Your husband should wear boxers, so he doesnt kill his sperm. Try having sex with that pillow under your hips, this will elivate and tilt the uterus for better results, stay that way for at least 30 minutes as suggested. I did the hand stand against the wall. Taking prenatal vitamins will make sure that your body is ready for the pregancy as well as make you feel better. My cousin and his wife found that since she was an arobics instructor she had to gain weight to get preganate, Just let it go, the more you think about it the longer it will be. I finally gave up completely and the next month I was pregnate. Also remember that God has plans and it will happen if it is meant to be. Before you know it you will be having another one.....I wish you the best of luck and happy trying....

Laural - posted on 10/07/2010

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Go have some tests run (both you and your husband - and have hubby do his tests first, they are less painful and intrusive) to see what the issue is that is peventing you from becoming pregnant. Work with a fertility doctor (there are tons of options, not just IVF) to get to the end result you want: a child. Don't wait to let nature take its course. it won't happen for some of us. I speak from experience. Without going to a fertility doctor rated as one of the top in the world, I never would have had our twin girls. Don't wait until it is too late.

Resa Joyce - posted on 10/07/2010

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hello! my husband and i have also tried to conceive for 4 years. aside from putting a pillow under the hips, what really helped us was to take a vitamin supplement that is high in Vit. B complex, Vit E, Vit C, folic acid and zinc. My doctor has told me a lot of times before but I couldn't maintain it for a month. But when my husband and I took a supplement regularly, in 2-3 months I got pregnant. These vitamins boost fertility both for the female (folic acid) and the male (vit C and E, and zinc) as well as the immune system.

Kristy - posted on 10/07/2010

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after sex I would prop a pillow under my bottom and hold my legs up in the air for about 5-10mins lol! after 5 months I ended up with twins!

Kim - posted on 10/07/2010

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I have been told that switching to a Mediterranean diet increases your chances. I am currently trying too and have read about it and think you can get the same things out of taking supplements. It's a diet high in fish oil and B6 which you can buy if you don't like the diet. It's a lot of fish, which I don't care for. Everyone else is right about having intercourse every other day and you may want to try tracking your basil body temperature. Google all of that and you'll get all the info you need. Good luck. I hope we both get pregnant soon! :)

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I have a question... is your cycle exactly 28 days of not? If not, but it's regular i.e. always 32 then count back from 32, 14 days and that is your ovulation date i.e. Day 18. A common myth is that a woman ovulates on day 14 but it's actually 14 days before your period starts. Hope this is helpful, it's a classic misconception in that everyone is average. Excuse the pun! The reason I mention it is that mine is 35 days and no doctor has ever mentioned it while I was trying to get pregnant i was just lucky i knew from previous reading. Hope this is helpful. The other very reliable technique is the mucus check. Thick and doesn't stick together means not ovulating, stringy/elastic and clearer means your ovulating. You can get your Gp to run a blood test 7 days after your ovulation date to see how strong your progesterone levels are (they call it a 21 day progesterone - based on average cycle 28 days, I call it a 28 day progesterone - due to the length of my cycle), you'll have to adjust according to how long your cycle is. Hope this all makes sense.

Sharon - posted on 10/07/2010

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We are the very lucky ones who get pregnant quickly (2nd month with first bubs(miscarriage), 2nd month with my son, 1st month this time). We just had sex about every 2nd day after my period stopped to about day 20 of my cycle (but if either of us didn't feel like it we didn't do anything as we didn't want any pressure). I also started using Elevit (pregnancy vitamins), 3mths prior to trying and hubby took Menevit (meant to help mens fertility) for 3mths prior. Oh, and I did the hips on the pillow thing after each time, really don't know if it worked or not, but I figured it couldn't hurt :-)

Shirley - posted on 10/07/2010

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Hello. I had my child at the age of 30. Here's what worked for me. My husband and I always worked opposite shifts. An opportunity came along for me to go 3rd shift which was my husbands' shift (not the same place). After much praying, I decided that if I wasn't pregnant by the age of 30 that I wasn't meant to have a child. Well God had other plans. One month into my new shift I noticed I was late. My lateness turned into a blessing because nine months later I had my son. So long story short; don't put pressure on yourselves, just because you had one doesn't mean something isn't right. I had endured a test years prior because I was the one with a blocked tube. Plus God's timing is what counts not yours. So don't give up. Just relax.

Carole - posted on 10/07/2010

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My first thought on this is to have the two of you checked out. If he has a low sperm count there are things to improve that. Tight pants or underwear can keep the testicles too warm which can kill sperm. And if you have problems, they may need corrected before you continue to try. Female problems can include, scaring in tubes, ovarian cysts, endometriosis, weak endometrium, malformed reproductive organs, or even hormonal problems. So get checked out both of you and then go from there.

Doreen - posted on 10/07/2010

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The best prescription is " Dont try so hard" Just go about your life and enjoy it and of course do not use any protection. I know of two women that were trying so hard to get pregnant they both went an adopted a baby and then when they were not stressing about getting pregnant "boom" they were pregnant. Your most likely putting to much stress on your mind and body. Relax and enjoy and watch I know you will be pregnant in no time.

Brittany - posted on 10/07/2010

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You should really look into Natural Family Planning. Not only does it teach you to know when you are ovulating, but also teaches you about how a woman's body works. By that I mean, we only ovulate once each cycle, and if you have regular cycles, then you usually ovulate on the same day each cycle, or plus or minus 2-3 days from it. Because of that fact, it is silly to try having sex every other day (unless you want to) because you only need to have sex when you are ovulating. Natural Family Planning teaches you to observe the natural signs that your body gives you to let you know that you are ovulating. This is statistically the most effective way to get pregnant (or to avoid a pregnancy if that is your goal). There are no drugs or tools or doctors needed. It takes a few months to figure out, but once you do it is so easy to use. go to www.creightonmodel.com and look for an instructor in your area.

Cheyenne - posted on 10/07/2010

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dont make it a job to have sex, you will get stressed out and expect to get pregnant everytime. just have fun with it. if it happens it happens. be happy with your 1st baby right now. i had 2 miscarriages before i had my son and there's not a day that goes by where i dont think about them, so im grateful for my son. and they also say doing it every other day is a good chance to get pregnant but have fun in the process. good luck.

Mia - posted on 10/07/2010

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Hey there, I have bad endo and polysystic ovaries. Tried every type of assisted fertility, including countless goes at IVF over 5 years. Went to see a Traditional Chinese Medicine Pracitioner to help with all that crap, which it did but wasn't a quick fix had to keep going. We gave up, I went to uni and bought a new house and miracle of miracles we fell pregnant! I put it down to TCM, I lost weight and forgot about it. But then fell pregnant when no.1 was 6 months as we didn't think lightning would strike twice so didn't use any contraception. I have total faith in TCM, isn't cheap and the raw herbs are awful but the results speak for themselves. Good luck!

Brenda - posted on 10/07/2010

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I'm singing the praises of accupuncture which, for me, has done wonders for Ulcerative Colitis. After hearing from friends how it ended their infertility, I researched it for my ailment and gave it a go!



I personally know so many people who tried and tried the medical infertility route (clinics, meds, etc.) to no avail and fell pregnant (in some cases miraculously/after doctors had given up on them) after going for accupuncture.



I think you need to find an accupuncturist/chinese herbalist/doctor who is specifically experienced in fertility issues. You might need to make some life-style changes too (maybe as simple as cutting out caffeine, mentioned by Karen Hill below), but I think those sacrifices are worth it, and need often only be short-term!



GOOD LUCK!!! Fingers crossed it happens soon! Please let us know what happens and what you tried that worked for you.

Teather - posted on 10/06/2010

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When I was trying to get pregnant I was told to take a baby asprin once a day. I was pregnant the next month. And the hips under the pillow does work.

Diane - posted on 10/06/2010

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Well, it took me about 2 years with each pregnancy. I was put on clomid and was also watching for my most fertile days. WELL... according to the tests, I never ovulated. hmmm, must have cuz 1 is now 9 and the other will be 6 in just over a week. Simple pill, no issues. Good luck!

Kristen - posted on 10/06/2010

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I know your pain! I am currently pregnant with my first child after 2 years of failed attempts. I have PCOS and I tried fertilities drugs such as clomed and nothing worked. I just about gave up. I tried diets and prenatals, nothing. Then my friend who swears but this all natural energy drink told me that it made her so fertile she got pregnant while on birth control! I didn't completely believe her but I thought what was the harm. I drank one a day for three weeks. At this point my husband and I were seeking a consult at a fertility clinic. The day after our consult I found out that I was pregnant! The energy drink really did help me and in only 3 weeks. It is called efusion and I believe that it is the high folic acid amounts in the drink that helped me get pregnant. I hope this advice helps because I didn't believe it but it proved a success!!! I wish you the best I know how frustrating trying can be.

Liz - posted on 10/06/2010

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Don't think about it! I was like you trying and trying and nothing until after almost 8 yrs got pregnatn, just relax and don't about when ur trying... =)

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Have sex every other day during your fertile time. Include morning sex. That's when I got pregnant with my son. You could also talk with an infertility specialist. I haven't been able to get pregnant again for 2 years so I just had an appt. We are having my husband's sperm count tested and in the mean time the doctor is going to start me on a very low dose of clomid which will induce ovulation. Good luck to you! I know how frustrating it can be. Keep trying and do your best to reduce stress. Also, take prenatal vitamins.

Heather - posted on 10/06/2010

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I've heard seeing a chiropractor can help with any pinched nerves and proper alignment of the spin...which in turn can help you ovulate regularly and increase fertility. I've known women who've actually done headstands against the wall after sex. lol. Something else that might help is if you orgasm together. If the sperm are released while your uteris is having contractions it will pull the sperm into the uteris.(Sorry to get so graphic, but it's a fact ;) )

Louise - posted on 10/04/2010

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I have to agree with Angie here. After sex prop your hips up with a pillow that tilts your pelvis allowing sperm to travel quicker to your cervix. You should stay like this for at least half an hour. Have sex as soon as your period has finished every 2-3 days up until day 18 of your cycle this covers all late ovulations and early ones. I know it takes all the fun out of sex for both of you and it becomes so matter of fact. Try and have a weekend away no stress just relax and who knows you just might get lucky.

Karen - posted on 10/04/2010

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i tried for five years to get pregnant (including three rounds of treatment that failed) . my specialist recommended that i try accupuncture (there are accupuncturists that do a fertility accu) and for my husband and i to go caffeine free. i have to say, we both went caffeine free and within two months (before i could even get into my accu appt) i was pregnant :) i had a friend who was having the same problem as us and she also tried it and was pregnant within three months, just something to think about... good luck.

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