Tubes Tied or Hubby Getting

Michelle - posted on 07/29/2009 ( 100 moms have responded )

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I'm just wondering what everyone thinks! My hubby and I have decided that we only want one child and are debating over who should get this done! We're looking at who it's easier for, cost and heal time. I live in Ontario Canada so if anyone can help with any of this please do!! Mainly the aprox. cost of either. Thanks so much ladies!!

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LaQueena - posted on 07/31/2009

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just wanted to add my two cents. my surgery was done through my belly button and you would never know i had it. true you have to be put under and true you won't fully recover for six weeks. but everyone's body is different. it was same day surgery for me and i felt bad for two days. couldn't laugh for awhile without a pillow over my belly and i couldn't drive, but i wouldn't change it. whoever is willing to have the procedure should do it. that way there is no regrets later on in life.

Cassi - posted on 08/01/2009

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If you really know you don't want anymore then I'd say have him get a vasectomy. It is less invasive and lesser of a risk for problems. A friend of mine had a vasectomy and was working the next day, in a little pain, but moving! LOL! My husband was going to get a vasectomy because I didn't have to have a C-Section and also just incase something happens to him then I could have more since I am still young and he's older and now has 5 kids, only 2 of them are mine... He never did get the vasectomy but i'm looking into Mirena IUD until he does get it.

Suzanne - posted on 08/01/2009

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I have to say we had struggled with this after having our 3rd and opted for the Mirena IUD instead of permanence. After having it removed due to a life threatening infection, we were waiting to have my husband done. At this point, though, several friends whose husbands had had it done said that they wouldn't get it done again (turns out 35% of men experience difficulties including loss of sex drive and nerve damage). His doctor had also said to treat his procedure as permanent since it is only successfully reversed 10% of the time! Since I had 3 previous c-sections, I opted to do it and I was glad that I did. I was walking within 45 min of the procedure and felt no pain or complications from it whatsoever. I only took Motrin one time over night as a precautionary measure. It was so much less invasive than other laproscopic surgeries (I had an appendectomy last year and the recovery was 100 times worse). My cost would have been $200 for the procedure had I not been free due to meeting our out of pocket deductible last year.

Sarah - posted on 08/01/2009

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Tubal Ligation is a much more expensive surgery. It also is a major abdominal surgery, higher risk (due to need for general anesthesia - vasectomy can be done with a local - general is when you are knocked out, local is when a needle is used to freeze the area being worked on). The healing time from a major abdominal surgery is much longer than that from a vasectomy as it is only going through a very thin piece of tissue. You are looking at 6-8 weeks of healing time (possibly longer depending on how quickly you heal) compared to 1-2 weeks for a vasectomy. A Tubal Ligation needs to be done in the hospital as opposed to a vasectomy which can be done in a clinic as an outpatient. You are probably looking at 2-3 days in hospital for a tubal ligation and 1-2 hours in the clinic for a vasectomy. Tubal ligation can usually not be reversed and a vasectomy usually can if you change your mind at a later date. I would recommend discussing the benefits/risks of each procedure with your spouse and with your doctor and then make an informed decision on which procedure you feel is best for you and your family. Good luck!

Chasity - posted on 07/31/2009

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Hi, I just talked to my OBGY about the same thing. There is a fairly new procedure out called Esource. It's simialr to the Vasectomy. There isn't any putting you to sleep or cutting. They insert a small object into your f-tubes and it released a sterlizing agent. After a month your dr does an ultrasound and check to verify everything is ok. and that's it. It can't be reversed like the tube, but is 99.8 percent effective. You may want to check into it. Good luck

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Melissa - posted on 08/01/2009

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After my third child I got my tubes tied, but if I had known all the pain and problems I would be going through I would not have had them done. Even though they tell you you can have no more you still might after five years. Do research about everything, even on both, If i had done my homework I would not have went thourgh it

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a vasectomy vs. tubes being tied to my understanding after the many conversations & options we have gone over with our doctors, is that the healing time is much faster in men & less painful, & could possibly be reversed if you ever wanted to conceive again, providing there is no blockage, tubes being tied can be reversed too as long as they don't burn them, but the heal time & pain, & surgery itself is more invasive for us, so i've been told from relatives & doctors. I personally have decided to use a IUD, but if i were to do anything more permanent i would go for having my hubby get it done for they are suppose to heal faster(just make sure he goes to the after checkup to check the sperm count & make sure they got it all!), & for cost i would call your insurance company & find out if they cover it?? & what the deductible would be on it,... if you have to pay one.

Tina - posted on 07/31/2009

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My husband opted for him to have the vasectomy: quicker healing, outpatient, and I'd had 3 c-sections. He had it on Friday and was at chruch on Sunday. Just make sure if you go this route to go for the follow up for the checkup to make sure it worked. No clue about costs...insurance paid. He has had no issues at all. Keep in mind the reversal can be done with no guarentees. A friend has had two miscarriages since they reversed it. Don't know if their is a connection but worth taking into consideration.

Debbie - posted on 07/31/2009

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I told my husband it was his turn to lay on the table! He did. He walked around looking like he had a dirty diaper wearing my minipads. His recuperation time was much shorter than mine since I had a c-section. His was done on an out patient visit and in a Navy hospital so no cost.

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You may want to look into a procedure called Essure. Its a non surgical way to sterilize yourself. Downtime is a bout a day. Its basically little coils placed in your fallopian tubes, which will create scar tissue, inhibiting little swimmers from getting to your eggs. Monthly stays normal, all activity is normal. I have had several friends undergo this procedure with nothing but positive response. It is non-reversible, and the cost involved is your doctor visit co-pay, since it is done in the doctors office. I am scheduled for mine next month! :) http://essure.com/

Carol - posted on 07/31/2009

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my husband had a vasectomy, his choice, he didn't acyually eel anything while it was done and was only uncomfortable after cause he got an infection, where as i know of 3 women who have had their tubes tied and they have all complained about being sore for months after. obviously different peoples bodies respond in different ways. As for the cost I wouldn't know cause I live in the uk but I hope that this helps.
Carol

Helen Moniz - posted on 07/31/2009

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For many years i asked my husband to have a vasectomy and he flat out refused. We had 2 beautiful kids and we were both happy at that . I always told him that their was a chance that i might have a 3rd because i am one of those rare people that did get pregnant on the pill . That is how my daughter was conceived. Fast forward my daughter is 18 and i have a 13 old boy and a 2 year old son. My 3rd was born and he had the vasectomy faster then lightning .But in the long run i am happy that he never had it done before because my little Mattie would of never of been here.

Good luck with your descision !!

Lissa - posted on 07/31/2009

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My DH and I talked long and hard about this. I also talked to my doctor. She said that having your tubes tied is not very reliable (may have to continue on birth control, irregular periods, cramping) whereas a vasectomy (with proper follow-up) is almost 100%. I also had two c-sections. So DH ended up going for the vasectomy. Best decision we ever made.

Amanda - posted on 07/30/2009

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well i just gave birth to my 3rd child and we decided we dont want anymore, my husband just underwent a vasectomy last week and he is fine, he was in and out in 45 minutes, preping him took the longest, and he heard a lot of horror stories,but as long as u follow the dr instructions he will be fine, he did exactley what the dr said and he is completley healed 8 days later. But if would of gotten my tubes tied it would of been surgery and a hospital stay,

plus the cost difference is big. we dont have ins and it cost us around $2,000. But if i would of had it done the dr estemated around $10,000 by time i went home. I would gp 4him. Good luck,Plus u carried his child and gave birth he can do his part now i would think.

France - posted on 07/30/2009

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hi i live in ottawa ontario and i had the tubes tide and it took a long time for me to heal i would get the hubby to do it my brother in law had it done and with in a week he was back at work and it's cheaper for him to get it done then it would be for you good luck

Brandee - posted on 07/30/2009

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I have been married twice... both of my ex's were fixed. My childrens father was done soon after our daughter was born at age 27. My ex was just because we each had 2 children ( 4 total living with us) and really didnt need anymore. I know that might sound bad but we had a house full already.

I guess my point is.. They both went in ,right at the docs office and had this done on a friday and were both back to work that monday. It is just much more simpler for the man to get it done. No it doesnt change and wanting for sex... at all!!! nor does it change appearance, or make you feel any less of a man. Once they are aware that they cant get you pregnate..their eyes open?! LOL

Christina - posted on 07/30/2009

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I wanted to get myself done and my husband said no way! He got done and had little to no problems other than swelling (of course he was laying carpet in our daughters room the day after too...maybe not such a bright idea)... They did his surgery on a Friday and he was back to work monday. I live in the us so not sure about the cost but I paid $30 after my insurance paid their part...

Nicola - posted on 07/30/2009

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both are reversible but with a sterilisation over time you end up with lots of scar tissue which then means then its not a reversible procedure. I do have to say i made the choice to be done and have never looked back since. Sorry i cant help you with the cost as i live in the uk and we have the nhs that pays

Wendy - posted on 07/30/2009

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I believe that the recovery time for a guy is much shorter than ladies. And cost wise, cheaper.

Amy - posted on 07/30/2009

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oh yeah...and if he gets it done, no unprotected sex until you have your follow up with the doc and doc says procedure was successful. I have a friend whose husband never went back in, he was still shootin live rounds, she got pregnant! It cause a lot of problems till the paternity test came out...it's been 3years, they are still together, but I believe he is still in the dog house

Amy - posted on 07/30/2009

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I'm not sure about cost, but from what my understanding is, the vasectomy is a lot less invasive, has a shorter heal time, and yes...easier to reverse (just in case you change your mind) plus most docs in my parts wont do a tubal ligation unless you have 3 kids or are over the age of 35.
Our plan is...If i have to have a c-section, we will have them take care of it while they are in there, but if I have a V-delivery, he's the one getting snipped.

Nicole - posted on 07/30/2009

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My husband and I just went through this conversation, and we decided that it was much easier for him and there is only like a 2-4 day heal time. The cost of it however, we have medical insurance and it pays for it. Good luck!

Nicole

Michelle - posted on 07/30/2009

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The jock is included with the small fee at the place we're looking at having it done. They give him a little "care package" to take home:0)!

Michelle - posted on 07/30/2009

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Thanks Jenny!! I think we're leaning towards him having it done!! I just have to drill it into his head. I explained everything to him last night and we went over how everything is done and he doesn't seem so bad now!

Jenny - posted on 07/30/2009

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Just another note, your husband should make sure he buys a proper fitting jock to support his" little jewels" so that gravity does not work and end up sagging and pulling on incision.

He should wear it for a few days after and again if he adheres exactly to the after care instructions, he will experience little to no discomfort. Of course it is going to be tender considering they had to touch him there, but if he can handle the pain of an elbow banged on a corner then he can handle this procedure.



Jenny

Jenny - posted on 07/30/2009

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Here are the facts, with a woman you are looking at approximately 6 weeks recovery as the surgery is no different then having a C-section. What I mean by this is that you are put right out and will be in hospital for at least 3 days with a number of weeks recovering at home depending upon how good shape your system is in for healing time. No lifting or stretching as incisions as small as they are will pull and risk of infection. Now with the man surgery is 15 minutes, is done right in doc's office at Gentle Vasectomy clinic. He goes home same day and recovery time is maximum 3 days with no lifting or stretching. He can have it done on a friday and as long as he doens't lift anything over 20 pounds he can be back at work on the monday. Advantage to having Daddy done is if you two change your mind it is reversible.

His is also not major surgery as he will be awake during entire procedure as he is frozen in the genital area only whereas you will be in hospital overnight for at least 3 days and then still weeks of recovery at home.



Good luck on your decision.



Jenny Ozembloski (mother of five)

Tanya - posted on 07/30/2009

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Have you looked into the essure procedure??? My husband and I are on the same track as you too I am so scared to get anything done but I know my husband will never go get it done (he says ya he will but I know him better) So I'm thinking essure they say it's easier then the tubes tied operation....

Michelle - posted on 07/30/2009

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The place we're looking into cut's, burns and clips the tubes. They do say that there is a slim chance that the body will create another path for the sperm to get through. But it is not a common occurance. The appointment itself should take no longer then 70 minutes tops and that's for everything. He is then free to go home right after.

Angela - posted on 07/30/2009

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I know that when my husband had the "V" done 7 years ago, it was a 1-2 hr doctor appt, two days of swelling and 20 days of Protected sex and sample to the doctor, 20 more days of protected sex and sample to the doctor and then we got the 2 thumbs up for no more active soliders for us. It was the best decision for our family.
As far as the chance of the tubes growing back; I believe they cut, tie and burn the tubes.

Janet - posted on 07/30/2009

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I have been Married Twice. I had 1 Son from my previous first Marriage. I remarried in 2004 at the age 44 years old. My Husband was a Widower with Three Kids there age were 9 & 12 & 13. We both sat down 1 evening to talk about the future with more Children, but we decided our Family was big enough. It was my husband's suggestion that he would have a vascetomy, because it was easier for him to have it done, as it was only a smll procedure that would take no longer than 20 minutes. We were both very happy about the descision that we made. Janet

LIanne - posted on 07/30/2009

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There is no fees. OHIP covers them both. You only have to pay to reverse them! It's faster and easier to get a vasectomy done. The doctor said 20% of tubals need to be redone. And you have to be under general anaesthetic. For a vasectomy the recovery is much less time and only local anaesthetic is done. And the male is gone home 1 -2 hrs. after the procedure. Hope this helps! P.S. Be certain you are done your family before proceding! :) And it can take up to a year fo the procedure, after getting a referral for a vasectomy.

Louene - posted on 07/30/2009

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OMG! Let hubby have the snip ! lol After I had my tubes tied, my period pain increased 300%. I was just told the other day that it's common knowledge that period increase after the procedure - No-one told me that and I did research on the internet. Good Luck

Jodi - posted on 07/30/2009

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I think the one thing that hasn't really been addressed here is general anaesthetic versus local anaesthetic. With any procedure, a general anaesthetic is a risk. A vasectomy can be performed with a local.

Miranda - posted on 07/30/2009

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I have been told by many doctors that a vasectomy is a better choice over getting tubes tied as it's a quicker procedure and your husband will heal in less time then you would if you had your tubes tied! If money is an issue you would need to have at least six to eight weeks off work compaired to one to two weeks off for your husband!

Michelle - posted on 07/30/2009

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Erin,

I'm not really worried about him cheating, but as you say anything can happen!! He has had some rocky relationships in the past and they've ended due to both parties being unfaithful! So it is something to think about! We looked into the IUD but the cost is way out of our range right now!! Plus this is something that we've talked about since before we got married (having one child that is). We looked into some things last night and now I'm just waiting on the hubby to make the final choice! He has said that he'll have it done, but it's a matter of when he feels is the right time. I don't push the issue because we can use other protection until then :0)!

Patricia - posted on 07/30/2009

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Tubes tied. I did it and I was a little scared but once it was done I was so glad that I didnt have to take the pill everyday also my family pampered me for a few days so to me and my family we are so glad we did it. Good luck on whatever decision you decide to make.

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I would have him get it done. If mirena (IUD) is out of the question then that's what I would do! Plus another bonus is that if he, for some reason..., had an extramarital affair you wouldn't have to worry about any love children!!! Or atleast that is something I think about? My husband & I have been together for 13 yrs & I don't think he would, but you never know! I had a lady tell me her hubby did after 22 yrs of marriage! *shutter* Since I can control what goes in & out of my body and thereby control NOT having any "love" children, I told my husband that he'd get it done. We will be getting mirena after our 2nd as we are not fully decided upon being done with 2 or having 3? After that decision is made in 5 yrs that's going to be my choice!

Donna - posted on 07/29/2009

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I would advise that he have a vasectomy. I had my tubes tied after my third preganancy after an emergency c section and I regretted it. I had bad periods after and extreme cramping during ovulation which I never had before. We decided to reverse it and my health issues went away. The doctor said there is a small % of women whose bodies have negative reactions. I was one. I no longer have any issues! Plus, it easier and faster recop for a man.( and can be reveresed easier if wanted) Good luck!

Sabrina - posted on 07/29/2009

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About 2 years ago I had a procedure called the Essure procedure which means that I had surgical grade springs inserted into my fallopian tubes. The procedure took under an hour under general anesthesia. It is an in-office procedure which has a healing time of a few hours to a couple of days of discomfort. Depending on your range of pain. After the springs are placed you cannot have unprotected sex for the next three months until you go and get a test to show if your fallopian tubes have scarred closed. It can take from three to six months for the tubes to be blocked. My left tube was six months my right tube was three months. This is a great option for a woman with small children or a woman who has to work. It is covered by most insurances and the piece of mind it brings is priceless. The healing time is less than a man getting a vasectomy. I hope this helps you out. It is a great option to consider

Jodi - posted on 07/29/2009

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I agree Sharon, I personally don't think anyone should ever have a vasectomy or tubal ligation unless they are absolutely certain about their decision. It should never be viewed as a "oh, well, if I change my mind, I can always have it reversed". If that's where anyone is ever at, they should consider other options, as inconvenient as they may be,

Jodi - posted on 07/29/2009

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Actually, Anna, your information about men no longer producing sperm is incorrect. They do continue to produce sperm, it just absorbs into the system as opposed to being ejaculated through the penis. I am not sure what information you received from your hubby's doctor, but my hubby had his done only 4 years ago, and this was the medical opinion at that time. However, having researched it before we decided, it appears that while sperm is still produced, there is much more abnormal sperm because it accumulates, and so, therefore, the longer you wait to reverse a vasectomy, the greater the likelihood of abnormal pregnancy, or none at all. Personally, at our age, that didn't bother us, but I would be interested to know wher your information came from, because this is not the general concensus.

Michelle - posted on 07/29/2009

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Thanks for your input Anna!! We just looked into a place about 2 hours from our home that does what is called a gental vasectomy. It is a perment procedure to have done. So we're talking a little more and then we'll make our choice!! And thank you for not telling us what you think we should do! I agree that it a choice you make regaurding what is best for each couple:0)

Anna - posted on 07/29/2009

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Actually to correct Jean Trotter, most vasectomy's today CANNOT be reversed because they now remove a small section of the tubes that carry the sperm & once the male body stops producing sperm (which will around 12 months after the procedure) He will no longer be able to produce it.
For my husband and I it was only fair that he got snipped & he is so happy he did. With a woman, it's major surgery, long recovery times, and a lot of possible side effects; whereas with a man it's done outpatient, a couple of days later he's as good as he was before.
Some bonus' my hubby always tells his friends when they are debating it. He says now we never have to worry about birth control & when he climax's it's better than it was before he had his vasectomy. The day after he had his procedure he was up on our roof hanging Christmas lights. His theory was, hey she carried around 2 kids for 9 months and gave birth to them, the least he could do was have the minor procedure that insured we wouldn't have anymore little people.
One thing to make sure of; follow the doctors specific instructions and make sure you have his sperm tested after the time frame the doc suggests. I have know many many people that didn't do that and now they have another child.
Good luck and do what is best for the 2 of you and no one else, because it only involves you two!!

Angelique - posted on 07/29/2009

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Oh okay cool! I know from what other people said its easier for men to get thiers done

Laura - posted on 07/29/2009

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I got the Hubby done , it was less down time and a lot less cost it only cost us our copay for the office vist ,,, you would be layed up for a couple of weeks but with him only a day of two and a frozen bag of peas

Angelique - posted on 07/29/2009

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I got my tubes tied about three years ago and even though doctors do say that is easier for a male to ge theirs done than a woman I still decided to get my done. At the time my son was 16 and I did not want no more kids becasue starting over 16 years later was not an option for me. If you have insurance they usually would cover the cost for that. But depends you are looking at about maybe $1,500 dollars.

Jaime - posted on 07/29/2009

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Hey Krista!! Michelle~!!!

Peterborough is where I live!! and the gentle clinic is where my hubby went!!!

Way too funny. I don't remember having to pay the $150 but it was 3 years ago, so maybe he did pay! Yes I agree with the walking funny part, and he did say it was painful!!! We wil need to chat some more if you have plans on coming up this way!!

Carla - posted on 07/29/2009

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I can let you know how getting your tubes tied is in a month! My hubby is to chicken, I have been waiting 5.5 years for hime to get snipped. Lol! I am done having kids and dont want an accident! I will let you know!

Michelle - posted on 07/29/2009

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It's not just that we only want one, there are other factors that are playing into our choice. Such as my health, money, etc. The IUD is too much money for us and is not covered by OHIP. Since we don't have extra insurance we can't afford the extra money. We were using condoms when we got pregnant with our daughter (plus they bug my skin) and the pill throws my system out of whack. We are very happy with our daughter! She is healthy and happy and everything we could have asked for:0)

Michelle - posted on 07/29/2009

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Here is my advice i would not have it done now. Let me explain you say you want one and that may be true but you never know what will happen later in life there are som many new methods that are like hassle free right now they have the ring that is put in the cervix that is really easy to use and the new IUDs are great and an added plus no more periods until you want it removed and studies are showing it decreases breast cancer risks. but if you still want to make the cut think this way for a women it is an operation they have to put you tio sleep and requieres recovery time and men can do it during a lunch hour it is quick and almost painless for men.

Krista - posted on 07/29/2009

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Posted by Samantha Luxford (1:11 pm)
You live in Canada (like I do) just kind of curious I was looking it up online and it says that our health care covers the cost. Is this true? or is there some type of cost that we have?

I believe that OHIP covers the cost of the traditional way of doing it; i.e: needle and scalpel. The no need, no scalpel procedure will cost you.

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