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UGH, an ugly divorce + 2 kids being used + 1 idiot husband = ????

Veronica - posted on 01/30/2010 ( 3 moms have responded )

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I am lost I dont know what to do.... my soon to be ex-husband is not ready/ able ((idk)) to come to grips with the fact that our relationship is OVER!!!!! He has been putting our children in the middle... I have been trying to be civil,,, it is VERY hard!!!! my kids are 10 & 12.... they are big enough to see and hear and most importantly Understand what is going on.... my MIL and SIL have been trash talking about me in front of the kids.... we have never gotten along,, I realize that they should NOT have anything to do with this however he is staying at his moms so when my kids go to spend time with their father they interfere.... He doesn't/cant/wont tell them to back off!!!!! I am just curious if any moms have any advice for me to help my kids OR to get the dumbass to realize it is OVER!!!!! Thank You for reading and for any advice!!!! Have a GrEaT weekend!!!!

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Danielle - posted on 01/30/2010

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Take the high road for your kids... You can not stop the in laws from stating their opinions... all you can do is tell your kids that they are not dealing with the divorce well... Your kids will see how you took the high road and hopefully learn from YOU... not the other side of their family. You can not stoop to their level and bad mouth them... do it for your kids.
You can express to your ex every chance you get when your kids are not around to hear that the negative attitudes are not good for the kids!!

Carolee - posted on 01/30/2010

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Set up visitations to be at your residence only. Make it clear that they are not allowed to spend time with your kids unless you are present, and they have absolutely no right to bad-mouth their mother. Your ex needs to be a man and stand up to them, but we all know that he won't. He's only thinking about his hurt and not how much he's hurting your kids... that's unfortunate. I agree with Tah. Go to the courts with this.

Tah - posted on 01/30/2010

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go get a order, if you don't have one, i had a order modified that the parties wouldnt disparage one another in front of the children, the minute they do go back and get full custody and make him visit with the children apart from his family...its all you can do when people cant be reasoned with...

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