Using the potty.

Megan - posted on 01/21/2009 ( 28 moms have responded )

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My daughter will be 3 in May. She has been potty trained somewhat since she turned 2 but will not "poop" in the potty only urinates. She can hold it up to a whole day. She will even get a diaper so I will put it on her so she can go "poop". Any suggestions on how to get her to use the potty for both?

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Natasha - posted on 01/22/2009

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I dont think spanking is the answer. My daugher was over 4 before she potty trained. Its not because I did not try..she just did not care. I finally got her calander and showed her the day and it was Sunday then I showed her Friday that was my grocery store day, the day I would get more diapers. I told her on Friday mama was not getting any more diapers that was it. So we marked off each day then on Friday I didnt get them. Ofcourse she had accidents but that to didnt last. I know have a 3 1/2 little boy and he will go to the potty if you catch him in time but he to does not care. It looks like I am going to have to do him like I did my girl..haha Buy whatever works. Not all kids are the same and some do potty train early. I just dont think you can force it. It does sound like your daugher is on her way...she is so cute!

Megan - posted on 01/22/2009

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Sounds like it will just take her some time. She has never used the little potty chair. She did not like it at all. She uses the kids seat for the regular toilet. She has been using it since she turned 2--going only #1, she has been sleeping without a diaper for 3 months now and has only had 1 accident (# 1). She just won't go #2 unless she has a diaper on. So we are working hard since she will be starting preschool this year. Thanks for all the advice. I am going to try the sticker board for the next week or so and then on to the toys!! Thanks so much!!! :) :)

User - posted on 01/22/2009

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My son was into Teenage Mutant Ninja turtles.  Everytime he went potty he got one toy, poop got two but if he went in his pants I took all the toys back and he had to re earn them.  He didn't like giving the toys back so within a weekend he went potty on the potty all weekend.  He nailed the potty training 1 month before his 3rd birthday.  But girls are much quicker.  Hang in there :)

Adrienne - posted on 01/22/2009

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i had the excat same problem. My 3 year old daughter was potty trained for #1 for the last 8 mths and would make me put a diaper on her to go #2. all of a sudden, just this week, she went to the bathroom and went #2. Out of nowhere. I had asked my pediatrician and he said that happens sometimes if kids have had poops in the past that have hurt them. He said not to worry and it will happen eventually. Just this week it finally did so.....it took awhile but it does happen :)

Candice - posted on 01/21/2009

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My daughter did this too and she just would not go the toilet. And we tried everything we would sit with her, read to her, hold her hand,but finally we told her that if she went poop she would get ice cream. And that was it. It took awhile at first but now she has got it finally.She just turned 3 Jan. 12.

Hope this helps!!

Laura - posted on 01/21/2009

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My daughter just turned 3 and is completely trained (save for night time).



Penny for tinkle, and a quarter for a poopy.



I used the same technique for my son (now 6 - he was trained by 2.5 years and Night trained by 3!)



Also - they do make toilet seats that have a "built in" smaller seat that nests into the lid of the seat - removes the need for a seperate "unstable" seat. It was what FINALLY got my daughter to feel comforatable on the big potty and we have retired the little princess potty chair.



Find something that they want that has a monetary value to it. For my son - we didn't buy him underwear. It was pull ups or diapers, and when he was trained, he could use his money to buy whatever underwear he wanted. (although he did get a few pair in his easter basket before he was trained - it was the boring stuff... but was a good tool to find out if he was really ready!)



My daughter was getting little princess underwear before she was ready to potty train - so that wasn't working, however, shortly after starting her on the potty, my son went to swimming leasons. And now - her reward - when she's done - is a new bathing suit and swimming lessons.



Every time she tinkled - she got a penny.



Every time she pooped - she got a quarter.



She'll have extra money for her bank account when we're completely (day and night) trained, because she'll have more than enough to buy a bathing suit!

User - posted on 01/21/2009

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I can't take credit for this one..but my daughter's school uses tattoos.  Anytime the kids poop in the potty they are rewarded with a tattoo.  It only works if you are consistant and never give tattoos for any other time.  I really worked for my daughter who will be 3 in April.  Best of luck!

User - posted on 01/21/2009

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I can't take credit for this one..but my daughter's school uses tattoos.  Anytime the kids poop in the potty they are rewarded with a tattoo.  It only works if you are consistant and never give tattoos for any other time.  I really worked for my daughter who will be 3 in April.  Best of luck!

User - posted on 01/21/2009

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I can't take credit for this one..but my daughter's school uses tattoos.  Anytime the kids poop in the potty they are rewarded with a tattoo.  It only works if you are consistant and never give tattoos for any other time.  I really worked for my daughter who will be 3 in April.  Best of luck!

Charmaine - posted on 01/21/2009

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Try placing a marble in the toilet or potty(filled with water) and reward her if she can poo on the marble.

Di - posted on 01/21/2009

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I had the same with both my boys. They would sometimes even 'hide' before filling their diaper - behind chairs or curtains. If hiding wasn't an option one would say "don't see me mom". They both eventually graduated to toilet - as with many other developmental stages I simply respected their individuality and followed their lead!

Megan - posted on 01/21/2009

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Thanks everybody!! I got a lot of responses and very good ones!! Sounds like I need to get a chart and stickers and try this idea.



Thanks again!!!! :) :)

Alicia - posted on 01/21/2009

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Hi, my daughter was exactly the same. Would do a wee in the potty but not the poo! In fact she would even sneak outside to poo on the lawn!



I made a deal with her that every time she did a poo in the potty she could ring her Dad at work to tell him. He would be very excited over the phone, making a huge deal about it and then bring her a small treat home for her that night, ie: a mini pkt of smarties!



We would also put a tick on the rewards chart so she could see the progress.



We also got one of those kids toilet seats with steps up to the big toilet and it has handles on the side for balance, once she progressed. she found it lots of fun to use!



Hope this helps.

Connie - posted on 01/21/2009

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Hi, I made a potty chart for both of my kids and it worked like a charm. I bought a medium sized poster board and put their name on the top and I also bought a pack of star stickers. If they went pee or poop on the potty they got to pick out the sticker they wanted and place it anywhere they wanted to on the poster board. My kids loved putting that sticker on the poster board and it worked great... I also did it for the little girl I am babysitting and it helped to get her potty trained also.. Good luck!

Michelle - posted on 01/21/2009

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I am finding this to be a trend with girls, could that be true? My daughter just turned 3 in Nov. and she will only poo poo in a diaper. She will find a corner and push...done. But will hold it for up to 4 days if I refuse to put a diaper on her and make her sit on the potty. She will tell me no poo poo and hold it. She is totally pee pee trained on the potty. She can even take a 3 hour nap but not thru the night yet. Is this a test of wills? Today I put a diaper on her but then made her sit on the potty. She sat for a while but no poo poo. She said take diaper off. So no poo poo for her today.......I've been told by friends it wil pass...when? When she is 5.....I don't know what to do.....

Tanya - posted on 01/21/2009

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Hello there,
My daughter had done then same thing. She said she didn't like the "feeling" she'd get before and during poop time. Because she held it for so long, it only made it worse (as we all know what happens if we hold it in to long). I had to go to the drug store and ask for medical advise. I purchased a stool softener for children (not a laxative) which helped ease her experiences. The bowels do not become dependent on the softener. It's mineral based. Eventually, she realized it wasn't so terrible and the process was ok. I don't use a softener now but I do have it on hand. Just know it's normal and there are many of us who can relate. :)

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Hello Megan, I haven't started toilet training yet but I have worked in child care for six years and have heard and had to deal with this situation.  I have found that you need to encourage a positive experience for you daughter when she uses the potty for both. In knowing your daughter you can watch her expressions when wearing a diaper when she does a poo and then after a few days place her on the potty when you believe she is going to poo. It is so important to always give her positive encouragement as this will help, be patient and don't feel discouraged if it takes longer then you wouold like.

Beccy - posted on 01/21/2009

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My daughter is 3 and we have been trying and trying to get her fully potty trained.... Seems like an impossible task!! She would go through 4 or more pair of panties everyday. I finally let her put her pull up on, and she hasn't peed in it (other than at night) for over 2 weeks!! We still can't get her to poop on the potty, we've tried snacks, money, stickers, but nothing works!! She also pees an unbelievable amount at night. In the last year that we have attempted potty training, she has only ever woken up dry, maybe 5 or 6 times!! It doesn't matter how much or how little she drinks!! If anyone can help with these issues, it would help tremendously!! I signed her up for preschool for next year, but am panicked that she won't be potty trained!! Thanks... Beccy

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We had that problem here too. So we got a little potty seat to sit on the big potty and put a stool under their feet. They always felt like they were going to fall into the toilet, since it was so big compared to their little bodies. The stool helped give them something to prop their feet on and leverage to help them push from too. Hope that helps.

Chrissy

Leila - posted on 01/21/2009

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Hi Megan, why don't you try one of those little toilet seats, then she can sit  on the big toilet instead of the potty, sometimes they don't feel safe or another way they are scared of their own poo, and by asking her to flush the toilet after doing the job, encourage her to do both on the toilet, that way there will be less to do for you as well

Jodi - posted on 01/21/2009

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My son was the same!  He has been potty trained for 10 months but only started going number 2 on his own all the time about a month ago.  He is doing much better now...finally I told him everytime he went he got a star.  He gets to stick the star on the toilet lid everytime he goes poop and after so many stars are accumilated we get to do something fun like going to the movies or Chucky Cheese.  Everytime he goes he is so proud of himself!   He still wears a pull up to bed so once in a blue moon he will still go in his pull up, but we are talking MAJOR improvement in the last month or so.  Also...I decided not to make a big deal about the poop thing.  I didn;t want him to think he was doing something bad or wrong, so we just figured out a way to make it fun.  Good luck!  It can be really frusterating...but thats just the way parenthood goes!!  :)

Jennifer - posted on 01/21/2009

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You know that is funny. My 3 year old is the same way. I am with you and don't know what to do.

User - posted on 01/21/2009

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I had the same problem and she was sitting on the toilet one day and wouldn't even pee cause it was right thereso i just made her sit there until she peed and she pooped and was so proud of herself. My other daughter was the same way i actually had to get lacitives for her though it was really bad. She didn't poop in like a week and a half. good luck though, trying the lacitive might help just make sure you stay close to the toilet cause once they finally go they aren't so scared anymore.

User - posted on 01/21/2009

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I had the same problem and she was sitting on the toilet one day and wouldn't even pee cause it was right thereso i just made her sit there until she peed and she pooped and was so proud of herself. My other daughter was the same way i actually had to get lacitives for her though it was really bad. She didn't poop in like a week and a half. good luck though, trying the lacitive might help just make sure you stay close to the toilet cause once they finally go they aren't so scared anymore.

Nicole - posted on 01/21/2009

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PS To actually get her to go for the first time with the chart as she is going in her diaper or where ever she goes pick her up stick her on the potty...just make a game out of it...make it FUN!

Nicole - posted on 01/21/2009

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My daughter did the same thing. I made a poopy chart I made about five to six rows with boxes and at the end of the chart was a picture of the bicycle she wanted. When she went on the potty we did the potty dance she got to pick which color sticker she wanted to put in the box, stuck it on and counted the stickers everytime she got a new one. By the time the chart was almost done she was totally was going poopie on the potty then she got her bicycle. In the end we both were very happy...good luck!

Elsie - posted on 01/21/2009

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I think u should try changing the potty, maybe she has a fear of it. We see things very different then most kids do. Another suggestation is giving her something to entertain her self as she using it like a favorite book or even music. Also, try letting her in the bathroom when you go and sit her next to you in her potty have a conversation with her maybe it might help. I wish you alot luck and i hope she uses the potty for both... Good Luck...

Holly - posted on 01/21/2009

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my daughter did this for a long time. after much frustration i learned to just reinforce poop goes into the toilet. time was really the only thing that might do it. i tried time out, making her clean it, even popping her leg. it didnt work. do i think she could have gone poop in the toilet if she wanted? certainly. so my advice is it may be something that you just have to reinforce your point verbally and wait for it to pass. my girl is 4 now, and she did that for about 6-8 months when she was 2. i mean, of course you can discipline her if you want, but it certainly did not help maddy poop in the toilet any faster , and i was consistent until i decided i was just going to give her more time to mature. annoying, yes, but going to last forever? neh.

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