Very scared over my risk of downs sydrome

Fiona - posted on 04/24/2012 ( 154 moms have responded )

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This is a very touchy subject for me to talk about as its still fairly raw and I'm very emotional over what has just happened... I'm 15 weeks and 3 days pregnant with my 4th baby. I'm 32. At week 14 weeks and 2 days i was offered the screening test for my risk of Downs Syndrome. well on monday of this week (15 weeks 1 day) i was shocked to hear that my doctor wanted me to come in and see him urgently. The thing i was fearing the most was told to me.... that i had a high risk of my baby having Down's, and that as i was now 15 weeks pregnant, i needed to go to Melbourne to have an Amniocentesis ASAP. I'm so scared as i have been told my risk is 1 in 78. That as i was told is that of a 36 year old! Is it right for me to feel cheated by nature? My reproductive system is working 4 years ahead of its time! Not only that - I fell pregnant with this baby in the midst of waiting for a LLETZ procedure (removal of precancerous cells from cervix), (i found i was 3 weeks pregnant the day after the procedure) and was placed on high miscarriage risk by my doctor until week 12... my pregnancy was pretty much considered a miracle as i should by rights have miscarried due to the bleeding i experienced for weeks afterwards and the fact that they had lazered a huge chunk out of the head of my cervix.... Anyway, I do feel cheated by nature. Why is it that at 32 i have the same risks for Down's in my pregnancy as a 36 year old?? has anyone else experienced this? The Royal Women's Hospital are being absolutely fantastic! They're ringing me to give me counselling every day until i get there... Have tolfd me that my risk is actually 2% of my child having Down's. I am still horrifically scared though... I dont understand what is going on with my body (as in why now) and my doctors cant give me an answer! My wish is that my baby is healthy and has nothing wrong (as any other woman) but i couldnt deal with a baby having Down's as i have one already who has a Global Developmental Delay of 12-18 months... He's 6 and even now hard to deal with.... VERY hard. So i couldnt go ahead with the pregnancy if it had Down's. I dont beleive that my baby deserves that kind of life, nor my family. What hurts the most is i have 2 boys, 1 girl now, and i am hoping for a girl to make my darling girl happy with a sister..... I dont have a sister myself as my mother miscarried my only chance at a sister at 6 weeks due to being RH Negative blood type, and at the time there was no technolgy to change the baby's blood type, until she became pregnant with me... So i want my daughter to have a sister like i never had. I'm sorry to ramble, but my head is spinning like crazy. There is no chance to have another child if this one has Down's, as my cervix (having had 2 abortions, 3 natural births, 2 miscarriages and now LLETZ) wouldnt hold a child if i terminate this one.

My question is - has anyone my age had the same result in a screening as me? and how has it turned out? i have 5 days til i go for my Amniocentesis and it's getting at me!

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Helenlox - posted on 04/27/2012

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Hi Fiona,



I was in your shoes - I had a LLETZ procedure with half of my Cervix removed about 6 months prior to conceiving. The miracle was conceiving at all. The Dr's didn't think I would be able with some other issues I had aswell. I also tested positive with DS. The scary part is my husbands aunt has DS so I knew it was a risk. I never had any intention of aborting however because after being around people with DS, they are so loving and caring I knew there would be nothing to worry about. Now my daughter came out fine as the test was a false positive but I did worry and make plans for the remainder of my pregnancy. Had I have aborted, I would have aborted a perfectly fine baby... Think about the consequences before you act. It is your body to do with as you wish, but chances are it will be a false positive with your chances so high!



Good luck!

Jean - posted on 04/27/2012

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I had the same thing happen when I was pregnant with my 3rd child. After the shock wore off I asked more question & did some of my own research. I discovered that the triple screen test is less than 50 percent accurate. I chose not to do the amnio, but I had Beautiful baby boy and he was perfectly fine! Just a side note I was only in my late 20's when this happened.

Christine - posted on 04/27/2012

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I had the same thing happen to me! It is a stupid test with such a high risk of a false positive. It's ridiculous! I had the amnio and it turned out that I had a healthy baby after all. I was in such a panic about it! (I was 29 when I had the test for down's) Don't worry. I'm sure that your baby will be just fine! (Hugs!!)

Debra - posted on 04/27/2012

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This didn't happen to me but a friend. She was told that she had a baby with many problems and it would be wise to abort. Not believing in abortion she held on and came to find out that the test was wrong and her baby was absolutely normal. I can't say that will happen but there is hope that the test is wrong and there is nothing wrong with this miracle baby. Good luck.

Amy - posted on 04/27/2012

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The medical professionals will give you the worst case scenarios that you MAY have to face. They sure did it with me when I found out that the baby I was carrying had DS! This included the geneticist. Most of these horror stories never came to be. My son (now 5 yrs old) wears glasses and everyone says that he looks like Harry Potter! Cute! He does NOT have hearing problems, and his heart issues were repaired. The typical heart issues that come with a DS child (50% chance of heart deformity - typically AV Canal issues) are repairable...Thirty years ago, maybe not so much. As far a learning to a certain point, most people fit that category because they simply refuse to improve! I'm finding that it's not so much that DS people have a ceiling on their cognitive ability, but just require a different way of teaching. Everyone is different! I work at a high energy physics laboratory with lots and lots of really smart people that have very minimal social skills! Does that make them any less of a human being? We are all made differently for a very good reason!

Wanda - posted on 04/27/2012

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Hi Fiona,

I am not 42 years old and I have 5 children. I have had 5 miscarriages and have given birth naturally to my five kids. My oldest is 18 and my youngest just turned 5 six days ago.

As you can see I was 35 when I had my fourth child and I turned 38 one day after my last child was born. I was told that my chances of having a downs syndrome baby was increased quite a bit since I was over 35. I had it very rough with my last two pregnancies. I had extremely high blood pressure that caused me to be put on bp meds in my fourth month and was admitted to the hospital three times.I was given the option of having an amnio to see if my child would have the downs gene or not? I was very nervous and cried when I heard that my chances were greater as I aged. I didn't think about it at all when I was asked if I wanted the test or not? I don't think my brain had time to think and the words "no" came flying out. I didn't have the test done and said that I would deal with whatever God has given me to deal with. My daughter was born perfect. Actually all my children were born normal. I do admit that I didn't know that when you hit the age of 35 your chances were higher for downs. The statistics are more in your favor of not having it then having it. It is your decision to make and nobody will condemn you for it. If you feel that you would not keep the baby if it had the downs gene then by all means have the test done. If you know that you will keep the baby no matter what then don't take the test since it would be a mute subject. I wish you the best of luck and I will say a prayer for you and your family.

Sheila - posted on 04/27/2012

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Hi Fiona - sending HUGE hugs - it's not easy facing this.



My history is a little different, I was never able to have children naturally, so at the ripe old age of 39 I finally got my first ICSI treatment and by miracle of miracles it worked. But my age was always going to be an issue.



I didnt want any checks for Downs Syndrome, I would welcome my little one whatever I was blessed with, having yearned for years for my child, we'd cross any bridge when we got there.



For me, here in the UK, these checks cause quite a high risk of miscarriage, and aren't 100% accurate, they're an indicator only.



I've a much younger friend who has a Downs child, an older friend who had the checks and all came back low risk, but she had a Downs baby too. Another friend had the tests done, which returned a low risk, but she lost her much wanted baby to miscarriage due to the tests. All these babies are very special in their own way.



Only you can make the decision on whats best for you. If you really can't face the possibility of bringing up a little one with DS that is your choice...

wishing you all the very very best

Sheila

Fiona - posted on 04/27/2012

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well a delay doesnt come with all the health issues, the only thing my son had to deal with was he needed grommits for his hearing and he had a slight amount of speech therapy, plus some early intervention. As far as i know DS kids have sight, hearing, and sometimes heart issues..... They learn only to a certain point. This info was given to me by a genetecist, so it cant all be wrong. I do know a little bit of what i am talking about here. Plus my research shows the same thing. So yeah cant all be wrong.

User - posted on 04/26/2012

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I can't believe that Ds is 10 x worse than global delay. My son with DS brought so much joy. He is loving and funny and above grade level in 1st grade. Don't assume based on a limited knowledge of people with DS what he won't be able to accomplish. It is very different than many years ago when these kids did not get what they needed.

Vereena - posted on 04/26/2012

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Kirsten Michels - Medically speaking a Miscarriage is also called a "Spontaneous Abortion".

Helen - posted on 04/26/2012

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I just wanted to add that, like other posters, if the baby does have DS please don't believe some of the old, out of date info about the condition. I worked wit adults with learning disabilities for some years and, whilst people are affected differently, people with DS can achieve so much, many live independent or semi-independent lives and all are as unique as the rest of us.

Helen - posted on 04/26/2012

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This advice will completely fall on deaf ears, I know because I was in exactly the same situation with my son and nothing anyone says will make a huge amount of difference until you have the test and results. BUT.....I had a 1:107 risk. That's a 1:106 chance the baby did not have Down's. But, of course, I convinced myself that I would be the one in 106. My friend went through exactly the same thing a year to the day later, except hers was 1:12. I had the amnio and everything was fine. I was 34, but had very low levela of something called AFP - when I googled it everything I read said the baby would have Down's....and he didn't. He's perfect in every way and is now 20 months old. You will worry continuously until you get the result but I bet the result will be fine - you have a 1:77 of NOT having a child with Down's Syndrome. My friend also had a perfect little boy wh is now 10 months old. Good luck!

Fiona - posted on 04/26/2012

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I have fantastic news! i spoke to my docotor today and the results of the 12 wk ultrasound are in! My baby at 12 weeks had a 1.3mm nasal bone! and nuchal translucency was normal! OMG i know i'm not fully out of the woods yet but OMG OMG OMG i am so happy! Thank u God for blessing me with working maternal instincts!

Lea - posted on 04/26/2012

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A miscarriage is also known as a spontaneous abortion. If someone's primary language isn't English, they may interpret miscarriage as abortion. Miscarriage is a lay term. I'm not trying to beat anyone up, just defend someone that utilized a perfectly correct term.

Ann - posted on 04/26/2012

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both of my children tested a false positive on those screening tests. such heartache and torture for perfect babies! Took much of the joy out of pregnancy. I've heard the false positive is somewhere around 50%. Prayers for you-

Fleur - posted on 04/26/2012

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I guess I should clarify. My intention was to assure Fiona that having a child born with DS would certainly not be the end of the world. There are many things that a child can be born with that will make parenting more challenging here and there. I just want to reassure her that DS is nothing to be afraid. She seems to have been misinformed about the diagnosis of DS, which often happens. I absolutely believe in a woman's right to choose.

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This isn't an abortion conversation. This is about a scared mother who needs support and for those of you who have posted that they think she is selfish for considering abortion, or BEGGING her not to abort...SHAME ON YOU! You don't walk in her shoes and you don't know how much she can handle and IF she chooses to abort, that is her choice. This isn't a pro-life vs. pro-choice conversation.

Fiona,
I had my one and only child at age 36. I did not submit to any testing on him, or myself, even though the risks for me were considered higher than normal (because of my age). However, that was my choice and I knew that I wouldn't have aborted no matter the result of any test. I completely understand and support your right to know for sure (through testing) and to make the decision that is best for you and your family. I wish you the best and sincerely hope that it's all good news. Keep us posted and I'll keep my fingers (and toes) crossed for you ♥

Fleur - posted on 04/26/2012

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I am wondering where you are getting your information about DS from? Apparently, you have not been given an accurate idea about what DS entails. It sounds like you have the perfect kind of experience needed to raise a child with DS since you are already raising a child with a global developmental delay. Consider that same parenting experience but with a child who has a generally sweet and fun disposition as well as gentle nature. I assume that when you talk about your son being "hard to deal with" you mean behavior? I have a son with DS. He has had no other health impairment (no hear problems etc.). He nursed like a champ. He learned to use sign language quickly so that by the time he was six months old he could sign for milk when he was hungry. He has hit all of his milestones since then, but at his own pace. At age three he is chatty, potty training, and attending a typical pre-school. He is an absolute delight and I would never change one thing about him. You are cheating both you and your children out of a chance to enrich your lives if you terminate your pregnancy just "at the chance" your child might be born with DS.

Jessica - posted on 04/26/2012

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At 32 and a 2% chance of a baby with Down Syndrome I wouldn't worry till it is tested. I was 20 with my first child and had an amino but it was for a different disease. The test isn't that bad and my son has severe disability and I love him more than life itself. If this baby does have DS seriously think about it before or if you abort please.

Preeti - posted on 04/26/2012

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I had a 1 in 200 chance at 32. I did the Amniocentsis and my result was negative. Hang in there. It is more than likely that there is nothing wrong. Statistics can freak you out sometimes. Pray!!

Denise - posted on 04/26/2012

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Please do not abort....I will take the child if he/she has down syndrome. I prefer a child with Down Syndrome over a normal child! The unconditional love from a child with Down Syndrome goes forever and the LOVE OF GOD can be seen in their eyes when they look at you....PLEASE CONSIDER I WILL TAKE THE CHILD IF THEY HAVE DOWN SYNDROME!

Kirsten - posted on 04/26/2012

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i think you mean "the procedure may cause a MISCARRIAGE". I very much doubt that there are women out there having an amniocentesis just to abort their baby, and to suggest a women is doing so is nasty. Women often have an amnio because they are concerned about their child, not trying to get rid of it.

Alexia - posted on 04/26/2012

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Always a sensitive subject. I know a few children who have DS, all of whom are very sweet. A girl I worked with has 2 healthy children with no issues, but her middle child has DS. The issue is not could you love a child with DS, of course you can, they are your child. The concern Fiona has is that she already has 3 children, one of whom has a disability, so to have a 4th child that wasn't healthy would be so hard on her.
I totally can see where you are coming from Fiona.
If I were in your situation I would be feeling exactly the same way. Termination is not an easy decision, but one that is yours to make for whatever reason. Don't let all the do-gooders out there tell you to keep the baby regardless, the decision must be yours, as it is one you have to live with and deal with every day.
I have 2 children without any issues, and that is hard enough, let alone 4 children, my hat goes off to you for having the courage to do that, let alone dealing with your son's disability.
Good luck for your scan, and remember, you should not be judged for your decisions, keep strong xx

Amanda - posted on 04/26/2012

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The same exact thing happened to me in 2010 I was 36. Chance for downs was 1 in 36...Guess what I have a healthy Baby girl. No downs. However she was born with an x gene mutation called Incontinea pigmenti. She only has symtoms of her skin and teeth. Hyper pigmentation bkisters and warty clusters which resolved in First 18 months of life.. Best part was she was unphased;-)

Tiffany - posted on 04/26/2012

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I honestly think you are being very selfish... You feel cheated, I am jealous that you are pregnant with your 4th child!! Most women, myself included, would be sooo happy to be pregnant, especially #4!!

I also am 32 years old, had my one and only biological child at 24 and was told I could never carry a child again, 24 years old!! I felt cheated!! Different circumstances, but I know how you feel! We had a beautiful little boy, now going on 8 years old... We went thru hell for 3 years to adopt a child, so I would have a daughter and our son would have a sibling, we adopted a special needs little girl with Spina Bifida that spent her first 4 1/2 years in a HOSPITAL, on a ventilator, We were told she would never be off of her vent, never talk, never swallow or eat,never walk. She came home a year and a half ago to us, her first time outside of the hospital, and 2 weeks after bringing her home, Riley Hospital weaned her off of the vent!! She now walking with a walker, swallowing and eating, talking and hopefully having her trach removed this Summer! Rile Hopspital has done things for our daughter, that other hospitals said would never happen! She is almost 6, and is the happiest little girl you would ever meet!! She and our son are inseperable and our son is very protective over her!! We a still in contact with her biological family, that felt unable to care for her special needs, and send pictures often, we are close to them!

We would give anything to be able to adopt again, especially special needs, our son and daughter keep asking when they will have a little brother or sister!! We have inquired on children with DS, but thru foster care, it is a shark tank to get matched. With Riley Hospital close, we have the resources and beihg a stay at home Mom, we have the time to dedicate to special needs children and hope to find a little special gift again soon... Your family and your little one on the way, will be in our prayers... If you have any questions about our special needs experiene, you can pm me!!

Amy - posted on 04/26/2012

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My fourth child was born with Down Syndrome. Just being pregnant with a fourth was a hard pill to swallow, as my youngest was only 10 months old when I found out that I was pregnant! I found out that there were possible issues very early on in my pregnancy. By gestational week 21, I had confirmation that he had Down Syndrome and an AV Canal deformity in his heart, which would need surgery. Honesty, I felt like someone hit me with a two by four! But I put my trust in God and I just knew that everything would turn out okay. My little boy is now almost six. He is healthy and indeed an angel! His three sisters adore him, as does everyone else who comes in contact with him. He is integrated in a regular classroom, does the same classwork that his classmates do, gets invited to many birthday parties, and plays with the kids at recess. We find him to be a treasure and feel that we are indeed lucky, blessed to have him! I won't kid you, there are challenges to overcome. But please tell what kid doesn't come with challenges??

Lisa - posted on 04/26/2012

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I got pregnant at 41 and it was not an accident...I had had a tubal reversal and 2 miscarriages..I had to go to the perinatal docs because I was high risk..my tests came back very bad..1 in 45 that my baby could have downs...I had a chronic villus testing to find out and my baby was perfect and he is now a healthy 2 year old. My sister had a similar scary experience..she is only 33 and had a positive lab result for the lab work you have done around 5 months of your pregnancy..she had to go see the perinatal specialists and her lab was 1-20..she was FREAKING out....her son Tanner was born totally healthy and he is 2 now!

Tonya - posted on 04/26/2012

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I was 30 when my son with DS was born. Yes it was a shock but it was the best thing that ever happened to my family and our community. He is 18 and is a blessing ,yes sometimes I feel stressed but I have 2 Older boys and they use to stress me too, just in different things. It makes me so sad to hear you might get an abortion. People always told me that God only gives you only what you can handle and I do believe that. Good luck to your family.

Kathy - posted on 04/26/2012

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Hi when i was 30 with my first child this happen to me! I had the amnio and then shortly after i went into pre term labor. I ended up on medication and bed rest for the remaining 5 mos of my pregnancy. I was scared to death too. I understand your fear however my son is almost 6 now and he is a perfectly healthy kindergardner!!!! Try not to stress yourself out now because that is nit good for you or your baby. There is nothing you can do about it except have the amnio and pray everything is ok. Try your best to just relax until you know for sure what is going on with your pregnancy. I hope everything works out for you and your family:)

Nicola - posted on 04/26/2012

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My sister at age 25 was given a slightly higher risk factor than you when she was pregnant with her second daughter they decided not to have the amnio due to the high miscarriage rates but when she was born had no problems at all other than bad reflux. Pray that it'll be the same for youx

Melissa - posted on 04/26/2012

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It's not uncommon at your age for the initial screening to require further testing. There are MANY varying degrees of Downs so there is no way to know for sure even if your baby has it how mild or how severe it will be until birth and therapy. I will be praying for you.

Jennifer - posted on 04/26/2012

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Unfortunately there will not be a 100% answer before birth if it is for sure DS or not. The first screening is only around 85% accurate. My SIL had the screening done and was told everything was normal w her 2nd child. The only thing different with that pregnancy was he was breech but when she had him he had DS. My husband and I did not have the screenings done for either one of my pregnancies bc it wouldn't have mattered what the results were, we were keeping our babies. My second daughter was breech and the pregnancy was totally different from the 1st so I was scared something was wrong but everything was fine. I believe that everything happens for a reason and God will not give you anything you can't handle. Adoption can be an option for you if you do not want your child and you maybe able to adopt a child also that you can "pick out". I don't mean to offend but LIFE is not meant to be fair and most people that have kids w DS are younger than 36 and didnt know the baby had DS til they were born. Good luck and I will be praying for you and your family.

Betty - posted on 04/26/2012

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Well I'm not familiar with a reproductive system working ahead of its time, however,
I would have been thrilled with a 1 in 78 chance. I was 45 years old, and my chances were 1 in 8. My doctor too, by law had to inform me of all the horrible things that could happen to me and my baby. Needless to say, me and my husband had some sleepless nights. Even with my chances thankfully, I was blessed with a healthy lil boy.

Fiona dear, rest easy.

Jill - posted on 04/26/2012

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Hi Fiona, My name is Jill, I was 19 when I had my first child and 37 when I had my second child. My sencond was a very high risk pregnancy due to my age and being diabetic. I was told I had a good chance my baby would be downs syndrome. I refused to do the Amino because I would love the child if she was or wasn't down syndrome. Plus, being such a high risk I didn't want anything to go wrong. My beautiful Daughter doesn't have down syndrome but she was diagnoised with SPD (Sensory Processing Disorder). It is very common as 1 in 20 people have it and it is hereditary. I have her in therapy for balance issues right now and she will be starting occupational therapy when a therapist is available. My childs disorder is most common in children that are gifted. With this disorder is also developmental delays but hers are not that bad.
Truely this is a very hard choice to make but think about it and if you have any doubts I suggest you don't do it. The test is not 100% accurate so they could tell you the baby is going to have it but really when the child is born he/she will be fine.
Hang in there it will all work out!

Sherri - posted on 04/26/2012

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It doesn't have risk of causing an abortion, it has risk of causing a miscarriage. Also not all people can handle having a special needs child. Also there is no way to tell how severe the DS will be which is a form of retardation they can only tell you your child has downs. They can not tell you if your child will be high functioning or very low functioning. We could not have handled a child with downs financially or emotionally.

Stacey - posted on 04/26/2012

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Fiona...odds are everything is okay...trust me. I have a sense that your unborn child is completely normal and fine!

Sarah - posted on 04/26/2012

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I gave birth to 4 children...my first one DOES have DS and I wouldn't trade her in for the world. Sometimes I wish I had all 4 with DS. I'm sure you all know what I am saying. DS children/adults are the most loving and caring people there is on this earth. She is now 24 and we just got word from our county that they have an apartment for her to move into. She will be living on her own, but there will always be someone in another apartment if she would need to have any kind of supervision if I'm not there. Her whole time growing up, she was really no different than the other children, just a little slower at learning. DS children/adults are a blessing!!

Vereena - posted on 04/26/2012

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I personally did not have an Amniocentesis, because there is a risk of the procedure causing an abortion. I am completely AGAINST having an abortion, simply because you don't think you can deal with a child with special needs. It sounds to be like you are trying too hard to have the "perfect" child, instead of enjoying the one's you are blessed with. Down's Syndrome children are VERY intelligent, trusting, and lovable.

Emily - posted on 04/26/2012

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I feel for you, when I was pregnant with my first daughter I was told by the ultrasound technician that she couldn't see a nasal bone and that is a huge sign of down syndrome but I had to wait a week to get another ultrasound in the fetal assesment unit and it was the hardest week of my life. I founf out that there are lists of people looking to specifically adopt down syndrome babies. I have had the priveledge of knowing a few people who have down syndrome and they were the sweetest most loving and caring people I have met in my life so I knew that I would not let anyone kill this baby but I also knew at 22 that I was unable to give a down syndrome child everything they needed so I had planned on giving her up for adoption if she did have down syndrome but continuing to be in their life as a mentor and friend just never let her know that I was her mom so that I wouldn't confuse her but that was the game plan I came up with also I have a friend who was told that there was a high risk of down syndrome and she opted to have an abortion but while waiting on the table she changed her mind and ended up having a healthy baby boy because they were wrong just as they were with katie she has a nasal bone and will be 3 next month , love of my life. But my dad wasa adopted too so that's what made me want to explore thatoption and by the sounds of things this baby is determined to survive so I am thinking of you and the tough decision you are faced with good luck with everythingand as hard as it seems try not to stress out for the babies sake you don't know anything for certain yet so hang in there.

Kristan - posted on 04/26/2012

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I am 39... I had a babies at 30 37 and 38...

At 30 no issue... At 37 I was told high risk 1 in 14... I cried so hard I could stop... I work with people with DD.... I value these people as people and see what they bring to our society. But I didnt know if I had it in me to have a child withDS.. I had all the test and my son was born perfect. A year later we had another baby This time I was told 1 in 4 chance of a baby with DS... I was upset... Thought about it all the time.... But knew he would be ok... I was blessed e another healthly child. Long story ... But my husband and I talk hours and hours on what we would do. We had a plan either way...the good thing about these test is that they are accurate. Wishing you and your family the best .

Jane - posted on 04/26/2012

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I had bad results for the AFP test, was told the risk of Downs was high and had an amniocentisis done. All this while being totally upset. The results came back normal. A friend who works in an OB/GYN office told me those tests give weird results all the time and the baby is normal. But the emotional mess you go thru is terrible, wondering if your baby is ok. Try to be calm, have amnio, and then make any decisions based on that result.

Kirsten - posted on 04/26/2012

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Lea, you are right about the varying degrees of issues each child with ds will face, however you can't not factor in ALL issues that may arise if the test was positive. As a paediatric crit care nurse i will admit i only see the worst cases, and this can affect how you view things. However, testing positive for trisomy 21 DOES mean things such as IQ and development will be affected, at the very least, although there are often other health issues, whether they be minor or severe. That all said some of the most beautiful, sweetest children i have ever met have ds.

Lea - posted on 04/26/2012

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@ Kirsten. From my understanding, she had the maternal serum alph-fetoprotein. Some call it a Quad Screen or Triple screen. Her age of 32 years would be factored into the equation along with her due date and the results of the the blood drawn. Not all Down's children have difficulties other than developemental delays which will vary in degree from person to person. The same goes with their IQ. Unfortunately, we can't tell how a person is going to be affected until they get here.

Kirsten - posted on 04/26/2012

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My friend went through the same problem, but was told she had a 1 in 4 chance of the baby having downs. She didn't have the amnio as wasn't going to terminate regardless of the results. The baby was born completly normal and healthy. As for having the same risks as a 36 yo,
they're not going by age but by the thickness of the nuchal folds as seen on the 10 week scan, which is one of the main reasons for having this scan at this stage of your pregnancy, as well as getting a more exact foetal age. As for terminating the pregnancy if the test is positive, remember this is your choice, although many would feel as though they should have a say, even though it's not their life this decision would impact. As a paediatric nurse i know the difficulties these children have in life, and the huge impact is has on their families. I hope for you that everything turns out well, and your miracle baby is born healthy and happy.

Lea - posted on 04/26/2012

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Fiona. I am a nurse in a maternal-fetal medicine clinic. A lot of women experience false positive results. Remember, this lab can only calculate a risk, it cannot tell you your baby definitely has Down's Syndrome. Have you had an ultrasound yet to check your dates? The due date they used to calculate your risk factor is crucial with this test. If your dates are off by more than 10 days, it will probably need to be redrawn. It sounds like you actually had this test a little early. Most of the labs here in the United States won't even calculate a lab that is less than 14 weeks 6 days. Another thing is a negative genetic ultrasound can reduce your risk factor by 66%. This would make your risk more like 1 in 236. While this wouldn't totally bring you out of the high risk category, it does make a significant reduction in the possibilty.



I do have one question, who told you you wouldn't be able to attempt any more pregnancies? Granted the LLETZ and the 2 abortions MAY have weakened your cervix but your cervix could also be monitored in future pregnancies. If it was found to be weak, a procedure called a cerlcage could be performed. It would be something to speak to your doctor about BEFORE attempting a future pregnancy.



I hope this helps until you can get into see the maternal-fetal specialist. After getting there and seeing the baby on the ultrasound screen, you may decide not to have the amnio. The choice is yours to make.



God bless,

Lea

Jeanette - posted on 04/26/2012

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No one can make this decision but you. I just wanted to say that having a child with DS is very rewarding. I adopted two and although there were hard times as with any child most of it was very rewarding. Both are now adults and have left home to live in thier own rented house. They have some help that goes in to help them with some tasks but they enjoy life to the full. I would do it all again if I could.. Good luck with your tests if that is what you want.

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