Sophia - posted on 01/04/2013 ( 2 moms have responded )
The school called Child Protective Services because a 14 year old girl said in school she likes to feel orgasms. After CPS heard her talk about sex during their 1st visit, they scolded the girl in a firm authoritative voice while making eye contact telling her "SEX FOR ADULTS, REPRODUCTION IS FOR ADULTS! SEX CONVERSATIONS ARE FOR ADULTS! MS. DOE-SMITH (SCHOOL TEACHER) IS AN ADULT AND MADE AN ADULT DECISION! YOU ARE A CHILD! I'M GONNA BE MONITORING YOU FOR 60 DAYS IF YOUR BEHAVIR DOESN'T STOP, WERE GOING TO HAVE SERIOUS PROBLEMS." They sat down with the parents at their table. While talking, they scolded the mother because the mother "encouraged" her daughter by telling her that in order to have sex, you need to eat healthy exercise and prepare your body. They told the parents that it was a mistake to put a computer in their daughter's bedroom and they should have put it in a common area so everybody can see the screen. The family has two computers. They told the family to install parental controls/porn blockers. The family did on one computer (located in a secluded office). The girl asked them why are they still investigation they are not being abused they are not being neglected and the CPS worker said that that's not her only job it's also her job to make sure her (the girl) behavior changes. They told the girl sternly they want her to think about something positive. One of their definitions of "positive" is what she wants to be in her future. They asked her to think about her career plans. In another visit, they said they would be coming back in 2 weeks but came back in 3 weeks. In 3 weeks, the social worker said "I gave you THREE weeks to think about what you want to be. Do you want to be an architect, a teacher, a historian" while she was sitting on the computer. They asked her to show her internet history. They gave the parents parenting advice without the parents asking for it, such as to call the school every week to see how she's doing since they might only inform the parents of major things or, on the 1st visit, to remove the lock from the girl's bedroom door since the girl sometimes doesn't open the door when knocked. The door one was when CPS asked the parents about issues with their daughter's behavior. The worker gave the parents her cell phone number and said sternly in front of the daughter "call me if you have any problems with her".
Was CPS, the parents or the child wrong?
What would you do if you were the parent?