Washing Mouth Out With Soap

Lyssa - posted on 09/29/2009 ( 39 moms have responded )

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I was just wondering what current views are on washing out a childs mouth with soap after saying a bad word? My mom did it to me once, and by 'washing my mouth' I mean she swiped a washcloth across a bar of soap, then across my tounge. I just wanted to add that 1) it worked and 2) when my sister tried saying the same word, I told her about the soap and SHE never said it either. But my daughters one 1, so right now its not even a issue but it may be some day. Thoughts?

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Jacurlyn - posted on 09/29/2009

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I tried soap but it was to mild and easy for them to wash out so it didn't seem to bother them after a while. I use hot sauce when my kids say a bad word. I've only had to use it once on my 7 year old and I used it once when my 2 year old started telling me no over and over. It worked well, my 2 year old heard my husband say a bad word and told him he better not say it again or he would get hot sauce

Olivia - posted on 09/29/2009

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Back in the day thats what moms did. Now one of my close friends got turned in to CPS because the child went to daycare and told them he said a bad word and his mommy put soap in his mouth. They told her hot sauce and soap was considered a cruel form of punishment and she had to sign a paper saying she'd never do it again or she could get in trouble. They told her the only legal form was a open handed smack on the bottom. I myself have never done it but I know a lot of mothers that do so I was kinda shocked to hear that she could get in serious trouble for it.

Baby - posted on 08/03/2013

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What kind of person would stick a bar of soap down a child's mouth? Obviously the person must be aggressive and possibly physical in other ways. I can't imagine a sweet, loving mother doing that. My mother did that and I hated her for it. Maybe it solved the problem for a short while, but I held resentment towards her after that for disrespecting my body and personal space and forcing herself on me. That's what it boils down to.

Kat - posted on 07/23/2011

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If I talked back or said a bad word, I'd have my mouth washed out with soap. It only happened 2 or 3 times in my youth, and looking back on it it wasn't any more than what you can sometimes get in your mouth in the tub or shower...just a swipe across the tongue. Honestly, I've read that people have used hot sauce instead of soap, which I think is a little much since I don't like spicy foods. I think the only problem I'd see with using foods or sauces is that it would reinforce negative connotations with food. That's just me...my son's such a picky eater that I wouldn't want to encourage him disliking anything else in addition to the multitude of foods he already won't eat. But, hey, if it works use it!

Randi - posted on 09/30/2009

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a little bit of soap will not harm them i would suggest something mild like dove or ivory

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Lydia - posted on 10/01/2009

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My sister got her mouth washed out with soap once (cant remeber what happened but she must have been really trying to push mum and dad cause they never resorted to that with me and I pushed the boundaries fairly regularly) and it worked! I would rather use soap than hot or spicy foods because Ive seen how ill they can make young kids. Mostly Im hoping that mine will be an angel and I wont ever have to resort to anything like soap in mouth *fingers crossed* ;)

Amanda - posted on 10/01/2009

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soap is a little harsh and not good for kids. Lemon or Lime Juice, unless they like it, works well!!

Angie - posted on 09/30/2009

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I put Softsoap on a toothbrush and washed the dirty words out of my children's mouths. I suppose there could be bad chemicals that could be harmful, to be honest with you, I didn't think of it then. I might rethink it now.

Joyce - posted on 09/30/2009

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I have to agree, kids love to repeat what they hear, so it is best to watch your own language first. Second, kids love to get a response, so if they get a strong reaction from you when they say a bad word,you are reinforcing their behavior. I would just firmly but matter of factly tell them such words are not nice and move on.

Shannon - posted on 09/30/2009

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We got a spot of Dawn dish detergent right in the middle of our tounge.... sure did keep me from doing it again, and from ever using blue Dawn...

Personally, we have chosen to teach our kids from the start what words are "mommy and daddy" words, and which ones are ok for her to use... so I don't plan to ever make my child eat soap...

Eva - posted on 09/29/2009

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We use pepper like u just put on food. its edible but some right on the tongue non of my guys care for at all and i have 5. My parents did the soap thing we are all still alive. And we all do have to watch ourselves too and pay attention more to what children watch now days there is alot of yucky stuff on tv.

Lyssa - posted on 09/29/2009

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Quoting jeanette:



Quoting KAMA:

WELL I WOULDNT DO IT, BUT IF IT WORKED FOR YOU, AND IF YOU CAN PUT UP WITH MAYBE YOUR CHILD GAGGING THEN THATS UP TO YOU. YOURE RIGHT IT DID WORK BACK IN THE DAYS. KIDS ONLY SAY WHAT THEY HEAR, SO THERES FOOD FOR THOUGHT





 






If the ONLY words my daughter ever heard were the ones coming out of my mouth, this would not even be an issue, but as someone said before, kids hear other kids, adults tv radio ectra. 

Kristine - posted on 09/29/2009

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I absolutely don't agree with the soap. It is harmful and some may like the taste of it as others have said. You also may think that if you do it just once that it isn't harmful but depending on the childs age and weight it could make them really sick or they could even die. I never knew about the real dangers associated with that until I joined a health and wellness company and learned about all the chemicals out there. I think also if a child is old enough to know its a bad word and they use it anyway, they are still going to use it after that. I think a normal punishment would be sufficient and if you want to put something in their mouth then make it something that they don't like. My kids don't like the taste of mint for example. Just something to think about.

Jeanette - posted on 09/29/2009

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Quoting KAMA:

WELL I WOULDNT DO IT, BUT IF IT WORKED FOR YOU, AND IF YOU CAN PUT UP WITH MAYBE YOUR CHILD GAGGING THEN THATS UP TO YOU. YOURE RIGHT IT DID WORK BACK IN THE DAYS. KIDS ONLY SAY WHAT THEY HEAR, SO THERES FOOD FOR THOUGHT


 

Jeanette - posted on 09/29/2009

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I think a time out is the way i solved this with my kids, the whole soap thing to me is just mean

Colleen - posted on 09/29/2009

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i just want to say ... kids hear what other kids say as well ... so it's not just the parents that have to mindful of what they say ... i think a bar of irish spring soap put in their mouth for about a minute or so won't hurt them but will teach them never to say those words again ... good luck! ... =)

Paulette - posted on 09/29/2009

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I have done it once and my daughter never did it again. It was the 'foam' stuff so not really like a bar of soap. I only resorted to this because I had told her several times not to say it in a more calm manner and then told if she did it again I would wash her mouth out with soap and then she tested me on it. It didn't harm her but she never did it again! My son knew it happened so I think it's kept him in check just knowing that I would wash his mouth too if he did it!

Heidi - posted on 09/29/2009

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Let me ask you this, if you walked into the bathroom and saw her with a bar of soap in her mouth what would you do?? I know I would freak out, check the paper to make sure it is not posion, and might still call posion control to make sure....and you want to do that on purpose?

When my son says dirty words, I tell him why it is not right and make him ask the Lord for forgiveness. At age 5, thinking God is sad is enough for him....not sure how long that will last but I hope all his life!

Tricia - posted on 09/29/2009

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This never happened to me as a kid, and my parents had no problems with me saying words I shouldn't. Kids will be kids, and they will say a bad word, but that is a teachable moment, meaning this...instead of jumping for the soap, or giving a spanking, you have the PERFECT opportunity to explain to your child what that word means and why we don't say that. Take advantage of opportunities like that to teach them something, it may be hard to explain, or uncomfortable for you both, and possibly embararssing, but it's just a moment in time and there's nothing better than teaching them a lesson that they will remember forever, and then they will truly understand why you are so disappointed when they use that word!

Nicole - posted on 09/29/2009

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Be careful with doing this. When my husband was little he was always getting his mouth washed out for one reason or another and ended up likely the taste of soap. This mom would have to keep the soap out of his reach or he would try to eat it. I don't know how anyone could ever like the taste but I guess some kids do.

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I would suggest the book "Positive Discipline" by Jane Nelson for some alternative methods to dealing with challenging behavior from kids. Lots of good advice in it.

Vicki - posted on 09/29/2009

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My mom did this to and It worked for allof us the one thing that I do is put a little a a old tooth brush and make them bruch there teeth have olny had to do it 2 times ony som and 1 tme one my daughter and they are 9 and 5

Christina - posted on 09/29/2009

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I personally would never do it. If I won't do it to myself I won't do it to my children

Angela - posted on 09/29/2009

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Please be very careful there has been studies that have linked children that actually liked the taste of soap and starting eating it on their own and there is something in some of the soaps that has killed children! So as a mother that has buried one of my babies due to tradegy just contemplate if hearing a foul word once in a while is worth putting your childs life in danger!!!!!!

Amy - posted on 09/29/2009

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I don't agree with the soap idea, only because I saw a special on the new dangers found associated with it. Hidden chemicals etc. that our parents never knew were harmful for us when they did; as mine did to me as well back in the day. LOL...my hubby just came in and said if you really want to punish your kid shove some veggies he doesn't like in his mouth and make him eat it LMAO!!! Yeah like that would work lol. GOOD LUCK!! AMY

Lyssa - posted on 09/29/2009

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All my parents had to do was calmly tell me that I what I said was unacceptable, and if I said it again I wouldn't be allowed to watch TV/talk on the phone/go out/insert whatever privelege for whatever age I was here-and I never said those words in front of them again


I agree those are better punishments, but, using myself as an example, that doesn't always work.  So you took away my TV/Computer time/Phone/whatever, ok so I'll go read a book, you gonna ground me from reading?  Or from drawing/writing/other crafting things I did?  Of course this was MUCH after the little-kid-bad-word-saying bit, but 'taking away things' never really phased me, as I'd just find something else for my little brain to do, even just daydreaming.  I wasn't much for the techno-stuff as my siblings, so that ALWAYS worked on them, me it was like 'ok great stay in my room perfect I can get some quiet time gonna go write a short story.'

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I've done it to my oldest son twice. He says bad words and I tell him the old 'do it again and I'll wash your mouth out with soap' at least 5 times before I actually resort to that.

Kay - posted on 09/29/2009

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With some kids the soap works sometimes it doesn't. With my oldest son now 22 the soap worked with my youngest son now 20 it didn't... he is very stubbron.. with my daughter who is 8 I haven't had to use it yet...

Arwen - posted on 09/29/2009

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It won't kill them, but if they accidentally swallow some, it's very irritating to the stomach. Not only will they have been punished with tasting soap, but you have the possibility of making them vomit or having a bad tummy ache. Is it worth the risk?

It was never tried on me, but my parents also never exposed us to swearing. If we found out a word and asked, they usually would tell us that it's a bad word, and no kid wants to be called "bad." At least that was my view as a kid.

Ashley - posted on 09/29/2009

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Sounds icky, and I would be worried about them swallowing some and getting a stomach ache. Writing sentences and pulling weeds worked for me!

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My parents never used soap on me...I guess I always thought it was just an expression. Personally, I'd never do it. I still gag thinking about the bar of soap I bit when I was a kid (it was bright and candy-shaped, so I thought it was candy.) All my parents had to do was calmly tell me that I what I said was unacceptable, and if I said it again I wouldn't be allowed to watch TV/talk on the phone/go out/insert whatever privelege for whatever age I was here-and I never said those words in front of them again until I was an adult and what I said was a reflection on me, not them. Sure, I'm not the average kid-I was pretty good-but I think that by the time a child is old enough to understand that what they said was wrong, and to comprehend that some words are "adult" words so just because the people on TV/at school/wheverever they're hearing these words is using them doesn't mean they can, the kid is old enough to just get pissed off when you do it. Also, I knew my parents really, truly meant they would remove priveleges if I kept going-and I'd rather be able to do fun things than sit in my room by myself.

Rebecca - posted on 09/29/2009

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I personally don't agree with the soap idea...i think it's is true that children only repaeat what they hear from there surroundings and from television..

Beverly - posted on 09/29/2009

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My son loved the soap. So, I put vinegar on a Q tip and touched his tongue with the

Q tip. He hates the taste and it takes a while to get the taste out.

Sharese - posted on 09/29/2009

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Kids are going to be kids.They usually repeat what they hear so being parents we have to be mindful. One time its a mistake but after that"What kind of soap did you say you liked"LOL



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KAMA - posted on 09/29/2009

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WELL I WOULDNT DO IT, BUT IF IT WORKED FOR YOU, AND IF YOU CAN PUT UP WITH MAYBE YOUR CHILD GAGGING THEN THATS UP TO YOU. YOURE RIGHT IT DID WORK BACK IN THE DAYS. KIDS ONLY SAY WHAT THEY HEAR, SO THERES FOOD FOR THOUGHT

Jennifer - posted on 09/29/2009

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Well..I found an all-natural soap that tastes horrible (I actually tried it...lol) and have used it with both my kids (12, 7). I have the bar split into 2 pieces and they each have their own. The hold it in their mouths directly. It works well and have used it sparingly and only when other methods have failed. I know some may disagree, but rest assured, it's not my first option.

Mel - posted on 09/29/2009

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yep my mum used soap shoved a bar of soap in our mouths and we swore or said something wrong. i intend to use it on my daughter. some of my other family use tobasco sauce because one of the kids had a reaction to the soap and her throast swelled up. i hink i will stick to the soap as someone i know had 2nd degree burns from having tobasco sauce used on them but we will see when the time comes shes only 18 months now

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