wat age do u put your baby in its own bedroom

Katie - posted on 06/19/2009

My daughter is almost 3 months old and she's slept in her crib since the day I brought her home. I tried letting her sleep in my room with me when she first came home, but it didn't work out. She would just fuss until I picked her up, but if she was in her crib she'd sleep until it was time for her to eat again.

Debbie - posted on 06/19/2009

When you as a parent are ready!

Becky - posted on 06/19/2009

I put my son in his own bed in his own room at 4 months because he out grew his bassinet

Meghan - posted on 06/19/2009

My daughter has been sleeping in her own room since day 1...i didn't want to have any of those habits to break!

Jessica - posted on 06/19/2009

my son slept in his own room from day one, and it'll be the same with the one on the way!

Amanda - posted on 06/19/2009

Quoting charlie:

yer but i worry about cot death to much

a baby can die of sids in your room or his. it is not worth worying about because it will eat away at you. google sids and find out the stats and what not. it has been proven that sids is linked to a deformation in the brainstem.

Amanda - posted on 06/19/2009

when ever you feel ready. i read it is best to do it before 6 months if you currently co sleep as the transition will be easier than if you wait.

Terri - posted on 06/19/2009

We had Bella sleeping in her bassinette until she was 3 months old, and then we moved her to her own room. From what I hear, a good rule of thumb is you can move them as soon as they are able to hold their head up on their own

Jess - posted on 06/19/2009

right away....why wait? watch out, cause you could be the mom saying, "my kids are 9 yrs old and still sleeping with me!"

Helen - posted on 06/19/2009

i'm not sure bout the age but if your worried bout cot death you can get sumthin to put in the cot n if the baby stops breathin a alarm goes off friend of mine had one but i'm not sure where to get them sorry but just idea if your worried could make it easier

Firebird - posted on 06/19/2009

It really depends on you and your family. Every baby is different and every parent is different. My girl stayed in my room until she was 2 years old and when it came time to move her into her own room, her dad and I had no trouble doing it. For her it was like a rite of passage into the wonderful world of being a big girl lol and while she was in our room no one had any trouble sleeping. Luckily she started sleeping through the night at about 3 weeks old. Do what you are most comfortable with. As for "healthy relations" with your spouse..... get creative! Who needs a bed?! lol Good luck! =)

Emma Louise - posted on 06/19/2009

my daughter was 1year wen i put her in her own room

Rebekka - posted on 06/19/2009

Quoting Debra:

The sooner the better. Babies have to learn to soothe themselves.They also have to learn that its ok to be by themselves.As long as you're in the same room with them you'll always be the one to take care of that for them robbing them of the opportunity to grow.Not to mention it will change the relationship between you and your significant other.

I don't think there is a "perfect, textbook" time to impliment this. I believe babies learn to soothe themselves when they are taught what "soothing" is. For the rest of your life, your child will learn from you by example, not by what you tell them to do, whether they understand your words or not.  Each child is unique, and as the parent, you first need to learn to know and read your child correctly, then decide what will be in his and your best interests. some children are just very clingy, and as such, tend to need a longer time near your comforting presence. This time is what actually teaches them to accept that solitude is not a negetive thing as it gives them a better chance of consolidating the emotions that go along with the developing thinking process. One also has to take into account the various stages babies grow through. "kicking" them out earlier than what they can handle will actually rob them of the opportunity of growing in a balaced way. You will notice this with older children and their battle with becoming interdependent little people when their parents force them to deal with "independence" before they are ready. They are very independent, yet not  emotionally receptive, and tend to project their feelings rather than share them.

You don't need to smother your child to be a good parent, and neither do you have to shut them out and let them sweat out the feelings of loss, which incedently, they tend to experience as rejection. Consider that this child has spent 9 months growing inside you, and you have just only met! Having a child is a huge commitment from both parents, and as such, one is often called upon to go that extra mile.

Many people don't mind putting in overtime or weeks away from home or abroad in the name of the latest carreer opportunity, or some R'nR..... why deny your needy baby this level of dedication and commitment?

Often, the baby is just fine on their own from day one (like my 2nd child) or like my 1st and 4th child, prefer their own crib-space to spread out, but not too far away from mum. If they are ill or insecure, or hungry or thirsty, or afraid or too hot or cold or whatever, they will let you know. A baby DOES NOT CRY FOR NOTHING, and "fussing" is just a generic word thought up by thoughtless and insensitive parents who obviously cannot understand that the infant does not yet have the mental capacity to manipulate or "fuss" for selfish or irrelevent reasons, as apposed to more dire needs. To a child, if it has a need, then it has a need, and it learns a lot from you in this time about trust and love and security in the way that you meet it's needs.

I consider a baby sleeping with the two people whose love culminated with the expression of a living human being the greatest gift of all, and although it cannot stay like that for long, many years of experience, research and professional opinion has proved it to be best for baby and mom in those first few weeks or months. Dad tends to be the one who feels "left out" and often "punishes" himself with "sorrow" and missses out on one of lifes greatest gifts (find out what mom in law's policies were when she had DH)

Go with your instincts and do what makes YOU and YOUR CHILD happy. Having said that however - examine your motives for moving your child out of your bed or room, and ask yourself while looking into your own eyes in the mirror if you are sure you are making the right move. This is not "childsplay" and many factors should influence your decision, not just one or two.

My children were all different, and I let them indicate to me their readiness by testing them on their own during the day or in the very early hours of the morning only after they were 6 months old. Mostly they were fine after 6 months, but there were times of illness or a big change in our lifestyle that would see them back in my arms all night for a week or so, but my word, they are now happy  children with very clear and defined self images (even the teenagers). They are all mature children, and the one who is most happy with her own company and also the most popular child at school, and emotionally the most mature, is the one that could not bear to be separated from me for the first 3 years! It was very tough for me, and I am fortunate to have a very loving and supportive husband who often stepped in so that I could get some time to sleep.  She is just a very intense little person who has the wisdom and depth most adults cannot fathom... a very special girl who was just that much more needy while finding herself in the new and big world. It is a very short stage in the greater scheme of things, and therefore should not be considered lightly for the sake of the child's entire future development. 

Blessings upon you and your family,

Rebekka.

Theresa - posted on 06/19/2009

Once they start sleeping through the night is the best time. The longer you wait the more likely the child will start waking up in the middle of the night again. My first daughter we put her in her own room at 11 months (that is how long it took her to sleep through the night) and my second daughter she was just 2 months.

Helen - posted on 06/19/2009

My twin boys have just stayed in there own room aged 11 weeks, they slept through the night on wednesday so that was it, i put them in there room and they are so much better in there this is the third night and they are still sound asleep. Happy Days! xx

Debra - posted on 06/19/2009

The sooner the better. Babies have to learn to soothe themselves.They also have to learn that its ok to be by themselves.As long as you're in the same room with them you'll always be the one to take care of that for them robbing them of the opportunity to grow.Not to mention it will change the relationship between you and your significant other.

Natasha - posted on 06/19/2009

I put our daughter in her room the first day we got home from the hospital in her bassinet, then upgraded her to a crib when she ran out of room..lol

April - posted on 06/19/2009

when you and your baby are ready!! If your baby sleeps throught the night you might as well give it a try. But if they wake up and need comforting then you may want them closer. There is no right or worng, there is what works for your family.

Lucy - posted on 06/19/2009

With my two I always put them to sleep in their own cot in our room at 7pm, even when they were still waking frequently for feeds. This meant that they slept through 7 til 7 by 6 months and were used to sleeping in the room alone before we came to bed, so the transition to their own rooms at 6/7 months didn't phase them at all. Whilst having your baby in bed with you seems like a lovely idea, I have several friends who have really regretted this when the husband/partner ends up kicked out of bed and and they end up with a four year old who won't sleep alone or go to bed until they do!

Lindsay - posted on 06/19/2009

My daughter slept in a cradle in our room until she was about a month old and then moved to her own room. My son was in his own room the first night home from the hospital.

Emma - posted on 06/19/2009

both of mine went in their own room at six wks, the sooner u do it the better hun.

Debbie - posted on 06/19/2009

Between 3 & 4 months for sure. The longer you wait the harder it gets for the transistion. After 4 months they are more alert of their surroundings and wouldn't want to be in their own room.

Tashia Ann - posted on 06/19/2009

from day one with my second baby but my first i wated till she was 6 months an she hated it so the sooner the better i think

Mel - posted on 06/19/2009

Quoting Tamara:

Quoting Annie:

Someone please explain to me how you are able to have healthy "relations" with your husband if you have a child in your bed? We never put our daughter in our room. She started sleeping through the night at six weeks and now at nine months she loves her crib. We love her up at night, a kiss and a hug and then off with the lights so my husband and I can have a healthy relationship.

Who says you have to have sex in bed? :D

haha i dont know if i co slept as long as you say you have with yours Tamara id miss having sex in bed. its alot more comfortable. my partner would never do it anywhere else i know he did with other partners a long time ago but not with me. so i most definately would not have my kids in my room after 3 months if that

Mel - posted on 06/19/2009

Quoting Tamara:

Quoting Annie:

Someone please explain to me how you are able to have healthy "relations" with your husband if you have a child in your bed? We never put our daughter in our room. She started sleeping through the night at six weeks and now at nine months she loves her crib. We love her up at night, a kiss and a hug and then off with the lights so my husband and I can have a healthy relationship.

Who says you have to have sex in bed? :D

haha i dont know if i co slept as long as you say you have with yours Tamara id miss having sex in bed. its alot more comfortable. my partner would never do it anywhere else i know he did with other partners a long time ago but not with me. so i most definately would not have my kids in my room after 3 months if that

Rachel - posted on 06/19/2009

my daughter started sleepin in her own room in her crib around 3 months old

Pauline - posted on 06/19/2009

Our son went in his own room at about 8 weeks, I too was/am terrified of Cot Death, but we have a wonderful monitor that sits on my bedside table on loud, I can hear him breathing which eases my concern. I think it's a personal choice and when you feel comfortable is when you will put your child in his own room.

Kristin - posted on 06/19/2009

I put my son in his own room at about 2 weeks of age.. But you just have to do what is right for you.. I never wanted my son to get in the habit of sleeping in our room. So we did it really early but his room is right next to our's. Good luck.. Kristin

Kristie - posted on 06/19/2009

i put my son deisel in his cot and in his own room when he was bout 6 and half months... when he stoped feeding at night we knew he was ready... to make me feel more comfortable about it i keep the baby monitor on my side bed table and used to leave his door open that way i could hear him

Kirsten - posted on 06/19/2009

The risk of SIDS is significantly reduced if a baby is in its parents room. Not nesserceraly in your bed, but in your room until 6 months old. They believe the reason for this isn't that parents will hear if a baby is in trouble, but because the baby is better able to regulate its breathing if it can hear its parents. So presumably in with siblings would also be safer than in a room on its own. I personally would never have a baby under 6 months in its own room. 6 months isn't a long time, why take the risk?? I'm shocked that so many people have their babies in their own room from birth.

Debbie - posted on 06/19/2009

i will put my baby in ere own room as soon as she begins 2 sleep threw the nite.if that means at 3months then i will, at the moment shes only 2 months

Alex - posted on 06/19/2009

Our daughter slept in a cradle in our room for the first 6 1/2 months, then we moved her to a cot in her own room (whcih happened to coinside with moving house). She was starting to pull herself up and was too big for the cradle. I really enjoyed the convenience of having her right there early on - we could settle her by reaching out and rocking the cradle, and she would happily lie in for a bit in the morning knowing we were there. I'd say whatever works for you. Some people can't sleep with the sound of a baby, but I found I slept better since I wasn't worried, I could just look over and see she was alright. Once she got older she started to wake with the sound of someone in her room, lights on etc, so it's better to have her in her own room now.That way we don't have to tiptoe into bed.

Sharon - posted on 06/19/2009

my youngest when her siters room from 2months, this was cause she has slept thought the night since the day she was born, even though we are in a flat i still have my baby monitor on of an night.

Debbie - posted on 06/18/2009

about 6 months or when your baby sleeps threw the nite

Toni - posted on 06/18/2009

its all depends on the baby and the parent. my son was in the cot in his own room by a month. we lived in a small unit and could easily hear him. we always made it known to him and anyone else that it was his room, his space just for him. i keep it light and fun and always changing the toys that could be seen from the cot. at 2 he was sleeping in his own bed and now at 4 you cant get him out of bed. i've even talked to others that put their babies in their own room the first nite back. you are the parent you ultimately call the shots, if you say you want it that way stick to your decision and be consistant.

Jen - posted on 06/18/2009

I breast fed up until my daughter was one and she woke up every night at 2 am to eat...until she was one. I let her sleep in the bassinet beside our bed. On her first birthday i put her in her crib and she has been there ever since. She is past SIDS risk and enjoys the independance.

Rachel - posted on 06/18/2009

My boy was in his own room from the day we brought him home from hospital. We decided to put him straight into a cot instead of a bassinette. We used an alarm/baby monitor system that would let us know if he stopped breathing so we felt happy with him in his own room.

Kylie - posted on 06/18/2009

I think they should be in their own room from the day you bring them home. Not only does it give you better quality sleep as you're not waking to every sound they make but it establishes for them a place that is just theirs. If you're worried about cot death, you can now get monitors with a pad that gets put on the cot mattress and it lets you know by beeping if the baby stops moving or breathing.

Coretta - posted on 06/18/2009

The sooner the better. Don't make the mistake of letting him stay in your room too long, because they will never want to leave. So before they are really aware of thier environment put them in their own room.

Annette - posted on 06/18/2009

6 months for both my kids worked well. Even though my first complained about it a bit, it only took 3 or 4 days for her to learn this was how it was going to be... if your baby drops off straight after a feed it'll be quite easy.

Incidentally - sex was never a problem with the baby in the room or with both kids' bedroom doors open a little! (I'm blessed with heavy sleepers)

Kenyata - posted on 06/18/2009

Unfortunetaly, with my first son, we allowed him to sleep with us until he was 3 years old (he didn't sleep through the night until around 3!!!!) and we had the hardest time getting him to sleep alone. Once I was pregnant with my second son. However, I learned my lesson, my second son never slept with us - He always slept in his baby bed and he started sleeping through the night quite fast.

So I would recommend that parents not let their kids sleep with them at all, put them in their own beds from day 1. I sure learned my lesson.

Jacqueline - posted on 06/18/2009

birth

Penny - posted on 06/18/2009

We started putting our daughter in her crib at 4 months but you should start it when YOU feel comfortable enough.

April - posted on 06/18/2009

We started (with both our sons) at 4 months.

Rita - posted on 06/18/2009

I am struggling with this very issue currently. I plan on putting him in his own bed soon. David does very good with sleeping in his pack n play alone but I would like to get him in his own bed and on a routine where he falls asleep without me holding him. Any tips?

Crystal Amber - posted on 06/18/2009

No longer than one month... The sooner the better. It's hard to get them used to it once they are older... and bad habit is always the hardest to break! ;)

Amanda - posted on 06/18/2009

My first was 3 months old...but Cassie was 1 week!...left her in her moses basket and put it in the cot!...she made so many grunting noises we couldnt sleep...she is in her cot now at 3 months...as she has grown out of her moses basket!...i think the best idea is when u feel the time is right...remember he is yours not anyone elses..

Kimi - posted on 06/18/2009

2.5 months, you will sleep so much better once he gets aquainted with his own room-



My son ( 6.5 months old now)sleeps through the night and has since 11 weeks w/the help of BABYWISE. If you haven't read it, you should.

Samantha - posted on 06/18/2009

The day she came home from the hospital. We live in a single wide trailer, so there isnt much room in our bedroom, so she got her own room.

Sherri - posted on 06/18/2009

Both of my children were in their own cribs in their own room from infancy. They still sleep in their own beds and we never have had the issue of toddlers sleeping with their parents. They have never had any problems. One thing though....our rooms are all right together so I was able/am able to get to their rooms quickly if necessary.