What age did you put your baby in his own room to sleep at night?

Tara - posted on 03/03/2009 ( 479 moms have responded )

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My baby has slept in his moses basket since he was born, he is now 8 weeks old & getting too big for it! We are getting his cot in a week & are thinking about having him in our room in the cot for a few weeks to get him used to it and then moving him into his own room. But is that too early? He'll only be about 12 weeks old.

I know the proffesionals reccomend them sleeping in your room for the first 6 months but just wondered what anyone else has done?

I think sometimes coz he's in our room i hear every little noise he makes so assume he is awake when actually if i left him he would probably just settle himself & go back to sleep.

Opinions please??! :)

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Cari - posted on 03/20/2009

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Our first we kept in our room for one week.  Then she was in her own crib.  Our second in our room for 2 nights and then in her own crib.  They have always slept in their own beds and never in ours.  That is one thing I have always wanted to keep separate and not make a habit of.  It has worked out great.

Malia Lynn - posted on 03/18/2009

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Who are the experts and professionals? Men? People without children? For sure they are people who are not the parents of your beautiful baby. I think you should do what feels right to you. My baby slept in her own room right away. I was afraid at first but because I nursed her I was up through the night checking on her, feeding and spending time with her.

I am a firm believer that each child is different and my son was different from my daughter. He stayed with us for about two months.

One thing is for sure they always let us know what they like or don't like!!! :)

Michelle - posted on 03/22/2009

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My daughter was 2 weeks old when she was put in her own room, I had a baby monitor with the pad but i found that we all got a better sleep with her in a seperate room. you dont hear every noise that they make but you hear the ones that matter. 3 weks later she was sleeping through the night. i didnt get rid or the monitor until she was about 4 months old and she is almost 6 months now and i can close her door at night and even then i hear her if she is upsaet. i also have a cot toy in her cot it was mine when i was a baby it has a few things to play with but it hangs off the side so its not harmful so if she wakes she plays then goes back to sleep. in the end its better for everyone they get a little independance and you get more sleep.



 

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Hi, my personal preference is six months when the baby will be well established able to roll over etc & push herself up. Mine is my first so i am perhaps a little over cautious, but at that tender age even 12 weeks better be safe than sorry. If your little one does have a problem you can attend much more quickly.Try to get used to your babys noises so you know a but if "chuntering" from a cry for help. Hope this was useful : ) Good luck whatever you decide.. j

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Hi, my personal preference is six months when the baby will be well established able to roll over etc & push herself up. Mine is my first so i am perhaps a little over cautious, but at that tender age even 12 weeks better be safe than sorry. If your little one does have a problem you can attend much more quickly.Try to get used to your babys noises so you know a but if "chuntering" from a cry for help. Hope this was useful : ) Good luck whatever you decide.. j

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Priscilla - posted on 06/18/2011

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I had mine next to me in a bassinet for about 5-6 months (they were way too big for it toward the end there!) and that worked great for me. The transition to crib was fine because they were used to sleeping in there for naps already. I actually got less sleep when they were in their own room/crib because I had the monitor on full blast so I could hear everything! lol. Everyone's story is different. There is really no right answer! Good luck

Sarah - posted on 04/03/2011

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As soon as possible, first night home from the hospital for mine (just used a swaddle). If that is where you want them to sleep and they know nowhere else, they will love sleeping there. I also used a snuggle nest, which can be put inside the crib to make it feel smaller.

Renee - posted on 03/22/2009

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I like Nikki's response (horror of horrors!) I had my daughter in a co-sleeper (as well as with me) until almost 7 months. Co-sleepers are awesome cause they're still right there, but not IN your bed. But, all of our little sweeties are different! Do whatever feels good for you. I just tried to put myself in her position- and sleeping in a big room away from everyone sounded scarey to me (if I were a few months old)- but who knows?? He may also be like "hey mom, I need my space to roll around" Baby monitors are a godsend! From what I've been told, this is a very small time period as far as sleeping with your baby goes. Enjoy it. Ofcourse my little one is almost 2 now and comes to sleep with us at about 3am every morning so.... Good luck!

Stacey - posted on 03/19/2009

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I had planned on keeping my son in our room until 6 months, but at around 3 months I was just sooooo tired because I would wake up every time he made a noise. I tried putting him in his crib one day and he slept just fine. He actually woke up less than he did when he was in our room! We both sleep better now.

Jean - posted on 03/19/2009

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I put my daughter in her room when she turned 3 months and she slept better then when she was in our room. Now she is 2 1/2 and loves her room and all her little stuff animals she sleeps with. You will figure it out in time.

Lucy - posted on 03/19/2009

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We put our little boy in his cot at about 5 months in his own bedroom and he loved it and still does, he is now 1 year and 9 months and he is in a bed now and goes upstairs at half 7 and goes straight to sleep until the morning because he is used to goin in his own room the sooner they get used to it the better then they get in to a routine x



 

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Hi, my personal preference is six months when the baby will be well established able to roll over etc & push herself up. Mine is my first so i am perhaps a little over cautious, but at that tender age even 12 weeks better be safe than sorry. If your little one does have a problem you can attend much more quickly.Try to get used to your babys noises so you know a but if "chuntering" from a cry for help. Hope this was useful : ) Good luck whatever you decide.. j

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Hi, my personal preference is six months when the baby will be well established able to roll over etc & push herself up. Mine is my first so i am perhaps a little over cautious, but at that tender age even 12 weeks better be safe than sorry. If your little one does have a problem you can attend much more quickly.Try to get used to your babys noises so you know a but if "chuntering" from a cry for help. Hope this was useful : ) Good luck whatever you decide.. j

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i put my little boy in his own room at 6 months!! we had him in a moses basket first then in a cot in our room!!

its what ever works best for u!!!

Meredith - posted on 03/18/2009

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We put our little boy to bed for the night in his room when he was about 3 months old.  BUT we always had him take his naps in his crib.  So he was used to his crib and his bedroom from the very beginning even though he spent nights with us. 

Evelyn - posted on 03/18/2009

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We had our daughter in our room until she was 3 months old and then she needed to go into a crib. When I asked our doctor if it was fine and they said it would be ok She has been sleeping in her since then. She has been sleeping threw the night since we put her in the crib and we here her playing soothering music. So the best thing is try it and see how you feel and see how your child feels.

Amanda - posted on 03/18/2009

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It was also around that when they grew out of it i put them in there crib in there own room if you get nervous put a baby monitor that has the video and sound right next your bed to make you feel better. 

Stephanie - posted on 03/18/2009

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8 weeks for both my sons, bath then bed with a night light, they were both fantastic and slee now with no problems and enjoy going to bed, they are now 6 and 2

Mel - posted on 03/18/2009

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It's up to the individual mum and what you feel comfortable with. Personally I had my baby in his cot (swaddled) the day we brought him home from the hospital (teeny dot in a big cot, looked hilarious). He loved his cot from day one and established fantastic sleep patterns. I wasn't too worried about him being in there alone - you hear them when they cry no matter what room they're in! If you're not the worrying kind, then you'll get a much better sleep yourself having them in another room (they snort, snuffle and fart a LOT don't they). Most find it hard though ... good luck!

Susanne - posted on 03/18/2009

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i have two kids and both were in their own room since birth (and they share a room). there were no problems since both loved their space and each other's company. i think parents freak out a lot about a lot of things. babies are capable of a lot more things than their parents realize.

Laura - posted on 03/18/2009

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I am a first time Mom at age 33, so I decided to just follow my doctor's advice and put my daughter in her crib from day 1. It worked really well for us and she seems to love sleeping in her crib. We use a video monitor so that we can see her and hear her while she is sleeping. It has worked very well for us.



Some like to co-sleep or keep the bassinet in their room. I say, whatever works for you. You have to trust your instincts! I am an extremely light sleep and I have suffered with sleep disorders for years so I took my docs advice about putting baby in her own bed right from the start.

Holly - posted on 03/18/2009

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i put my son in his crib at 3 weeks. he spent his first two weeks in his pack n play and then we moved him to his crib. he transitioned really well and starting sleeping through the night at 3 months. but you need to do whatever feels right for you and your family. 

Elizabeth - posted on 03/18/2009

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I put my bab Emma in her crib the first night we were home together. Getting her to go to sleep on her own without me in her room is a huge problem now. It's better to get them to go to seep by themselves in their own room to generate a sense of self-security.

Jen - posted on 03/18/2009

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i think it was at 4 weeks... when my mom left.  her room was just across the hall though so it wasn't hard to hear her when she needed me.

Sarah Hubert - posted on 03/18/2009

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Adriana went into her crib at 7 weeks...I think it was harder on us then her. She was too big for the basket and she was in a brace for her dislocated hip so she needed the room. At the end of the day you will know what is best for you and your child:)

Jennifer - posted on 03/18/2009

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My son is 5 months old and still in my room. I nurse so I find it easier to keep him closer. For all I know, he may sleep better if I put him in his own room. I put my first child in his own crib at 3-4 months. I think it depends on what you are comfortable with really.

Fin - posted on 03/18/2009

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It really depends on you and your child.... I put my child in his own room at about 6 months... I breastfed exclusively until then so I didn't want him in a different room at night... but if you are getting no sleep because the baby is in your room thats a different matter... I would have moved him earlier if that was the case.... There is no right or wrong here... you need to do whats right for you... no one else can decide if its right or wrong from whatever age... I have a friend who still has her 4 year old in her room.... I personally don't think thats good for social reasons... but thats her choice... good luck with what you decide...

Vanessa - posted on 03/18/2009

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We put our daughter in her own room at 6 months.  I do think that we actually interrupted her more than she did us by being in our room but I felt more comfortable with her by our side.

Katie - posted on 03/18/2009

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I put my son in his cot in his own room when he was 7 months old i was not ready to move his cot out of my room till then



 



i suppos whatever is best for you but doctors recommend not doing it before there 6 months old

Mae - posted on 03/18/2009

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My daughter was 5 months as soon as she started to sleep through the night. You wrote this a while ago so what did you decide to do??



Mae & Erin-Mae



 

Barbara - posted on 03/18/2009

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All of our children slept in their own room, and in their own crib since the day they came home from the hospital.  With a baby monitor you can still hear all that you need to, and you can get some well deserved rest.  I think the separation is much harder on mom than on the baby.  Best of luck.

Lesley - posted on 03/18/2009

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My daughter is 4 and half months old and for about a month now she's been sleeping in her crib at night. but during the day, for some reason I can't get her to nap in there. so during the day her naps are on my bed. It works for us.

User - posted on 03/18/2009

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In all reality we slept with our first son in our room until he was about 4 months and then we put him upstairs with a monitor, and from that day forward he slept quite sound, and we got to listen to him on the monitor in the morning coo and talk, it was really quite neat.  He has been a real good sleeper ever since.



With our twin sons however we moved to another room upstairs so we could all be on the same floor, and we put them in their nursery from day one and they have been sleeping through the night off and on since they were 2 weeks.  My oldest twin sleeps in his room from about 9:30 at night to sometimes 11:00 in the morning.  I go upstairs to check on him and some mornings he just lays in his crib and is looking around (I think he needs to be by himself sometimes) and my youngest twin wakes me up in the morning with his coos and talking just like my oldest  son did. 



I find that they seem to "come into themselves" a little quicker when they have some time to be by themselves.  I don't mean abandonment by any means, but just time to discover.



 



Goodluck.



 

Becki - posted on 03/18/2009

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We started both of our boys in their crib, in the nursery, the first night home from the hospital.  The pediatrician that visited our parenting class said it's basically whatever you're comfortable with. We had a monitor with the first, but after a couple of nights we learned that we can hear across the hall just fine. I was tired of waking to every little noise he made in his sleep, so we made use of the monitor elsewhere.  From everything I've read and heard, they start being able to really learn what's going on around 4 months, so I would think a transition after that point would be difficult.

Nicola - posted on 03/18/2009

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we put our little girl in her cot in her own room when she was 9 weeks old, scary at first cos they are noy right next to u, but grace seemed fine and she has been there ever since

Melissa - posted on 03/18/2009

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I put my son in his own room at about 3 months (11 weeks) but I put him in his moses basket & put that in his crib until he was used to it, my monitor was so sensitive that it picked up every little noise he made! Good luck!

Jessica - posted on 03/18/2009

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I have had my babies sleep in their own rooms since the day I brought them home from the hospital. They slept well. They are 1 & 3 now adn both for the most part sleep very well on their own, in their own rooms. I sleep well too!

Maggie - posted on 03/18/2009

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I put both of my kids in their own room at 3 months, even a bit before that.

Leanne - posted on 03/18/2009

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i put both my girls in a cot in their own rooms at about 7 weeks old when they both started sleeping through the night as we were lucky both my girls we brilliant sleepers.

Laetitia - posted on 03/18/2009

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My son was and still is a good sleeper overall. He started to sleep in a travel cot then at 7 months he started to sleep in a bed cot still in my room, i moved him in his own room when he was 18 months or so.

Deborah - posted on 03/18/2009

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my daughter is nearly 11 months and has her cot next to our bed. she only causes problems at night when she's got a cold or teething badly.  we just think that its easier than having to walk to her room to sort her out at the moment.  plus we were anxious at first to leave her on her own.

Julie - posted on 03/18/2009

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i put my son in his own bed room as soon as we moved in to our 2 bed he was 5 weeks.

Mikki - posted on 03/17/2009

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Quoting Tara:

What age did you put your baby in his own room to sleep at night?

My baby has slept in his moses basket since he was born, he is now 8 weeks old & getting too big for it! We are getting his cot in a week & are thinking about having him in our room in the cot for a few weeks to get him used to it and then moving him into his own room. But is that too early? He'll only be about 12 weeks old.
I know the proffesionals reccomend them sleeping in your room for the first 6 months but just wondered what anyone else has done?
I think sometimes coz he's in our room i hear every little noise he makes so assume he is awake when actually if i left him he would probably just settle himself & go back to sleep.
Opinions please??! :)


my daughter is 3 months old and she is still in my bed i have a co sleeper and a bassinet but i feel safer with her next to me when she turns 6 months i will be moving her into her crib.. in her room she will share with her 5 year old sister....no worries that is fine just to be safe and more conveinient if you are breast feeding like i am

Mel - posted on 03/17/2009

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Your right when hes in your room you WILL hear every noise he makes. this is how is was with our daughter who is now 11 months. its much easier if they are in thier own room get a baby monitor if it makes you feel safer. BUt at the end of the day its up to you. as long as he is not in your room for too long or he will get to used to it. my daughter was in the hospital at the age and in a cot by herself which is what make us feel safer doing it when she came home. good luck x

Sarah - posted on 03/17/2009

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My daughter is nearly 4 months, and has always slept in our room. We'll continue to keep her in our room until she is at least a year old. That's what we feel comfortable with. Just do what YOU feel comfortable with. There's no reason that having your little guy sleep in his own room is bad! Many, many, many parents have their little ones sleep in their own rooms within the first couple of weeks, and their babies are just fine! Do what's best for you and your family.

Natalie - posted on 03/17/2009

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My daughter slept by herself, in her room, in her crib at 3 months old....I was scared at first.  But, I think that if it makes u feel better, maybe sleep in another room with her for awhile.  During the first few weeks, we would take turns bringing her to the living room to sleep and in her room.  She is more familliar with the living room and it would sometimes soothe her.  We would take turns so that at least one of us would get sleep.  We also invested in an intercom that we still use today and she is now 10 months old.  I'm not sure what a moses blanket is.  My daughter was really little and she was swaddled until 6 months.  Most of the time she would sleep if we swaddled her and gave her a pacifier.  Boy, she was a hard baby.  But now, she has become predictable.   And I am training her everyday.  Today, she went down by herself at 8pm.  I didn't have to rock her to sleep or walk around with her.  I just put her in her crib and left(with her pacifier).  I remmeber when she was as young as your baby and I never slept.  Word to the wise...back to sleep.  But remember to rotate your child....their head is so soft and can become flat.  I had to put my daughter in physical therapy at 4 months old.



 



Good Luck,



Natalie

Christina - posted on 03/17/2009

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My first was out of my room within three days, our second a month and our third never slept in our room! .........

Tammy - posted on 03/17/2009

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We put our little boy in his own room 3 days ago...and i cried myself to sleep, silly moo!!



He is 6 months and 1 week old. I am going back to work soon and he is going to nursery and having family looking after him and i wanted him and i to have a decent night sleep lol!  No really it has got better, we have both slept better but i wanted to wait for the 6 month mark as thats what they reccommend, but of course its up to you. You are right about hearing every little noise, we have a monitor on and i only really hear him if he wants me to now rather than little noises, but i dont regret having him in with us (in his cot) till now and i still go in and check on him lol! Good luck. x

Natasha - posted on 03/17/2009

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4 months was when I transitioned my boy... I started putting him in a crib for naps during the day so that he would be familiar with his room already. This proved pleasant for the experiance as I have not had a problem...



 



 

Meghann - posted on 03/17/2009

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We put our son in his own room at about 6 weeks old.  He was a preemie and made a lot of grunting and groaning noises in his sleep so it was very disruptful!  It was really hard the first couple of nights (on me!) but he adjsuted very quickly to it.  I think we both got much better nights sleep!

Gina - posted on 03/17/2009

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My daughter is now 6yrs and she slept in her own room the day we brought her home from the hospital. It was down the hall from our room and we used a baby monitor.

Gina - posted on 03/17/2009

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My daughter is now 6yrs and she slept in her own room the day we brought her home from the hospital. It was down the hall from our room and we used a baby monitor.

Jenny - posted on 03/17/2009

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at 8 weeks Jadyn slept in her crib in her room. I had two baby monitors incase one stopped working..

Gemma - posted on 03/17/2009

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The reccommended advice is that baby stays in your bedroom with you until 6 months, but it is all down to your own preference and when you feel comfortable doing so. We had Jasmin in with us until she was 6 months and then we moved her cot into her own bedroom, I felt lost, but she had her own space and was more than happy.

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