What age should a newborn go into her own room?

Mary - posted on 11/27/2009

All 4 of my kids slept in their own room at about a week old. They also slept all night by 6 weeks. Putting them in their own room was an easy decision. We had brought a beautiful brass cradle that rocked for our room and all the kids hated it except one. So, we just put them in the crib which was in the nursery. They are all well adjusted kids and very secure. They are ages 14 to 22 years old.

Kassi - posted on 11/27/2009

both my kids slept in my room till they were just over a year but we also tended to let them sleep in our bed as we had a really big bed. we are one of the few cultures that actually does not let kids sleep in the same room with mom or dad .

Joy - posted on 11/27/2009

My kids went in their own room when they were 2 weeks old.

Andrea - posted on 11/27/2009

My litle girl is 2 months old, and she is still in our room. She doesn't sleep in our bed with us, she has a playpen with a bassinette attachment. I will move her into her own room when she nolonger needs to be fed during the night. I find she sleeps pretty well and only wakes when she needs to be changed and fed or is extreamly gassy.

Megan - posted on 11/27/2009

Quoting Lacey:

Quoting Charlotte:

I personally was always afraid of SIDS because I had two cousins that were on monitors from the day they were born showing signs of it.. my girls slept with my husband and I until they were about two-four years old...and it really was a breeze getting them to sleep in thier own room too...all i had to do was decorate it to their liking and make sure they each had their own tv...LOL



I personally dont agree with that at all. us parents should be able to have our own bedroom ,,  and kids having TVs at a young age is not right either, i had one for my daughter and took it out a year later cuz i was finding problems with her eyes and  the constant '' I want to watch tv''   children need more or there own books and things that will help them grow... such as learning toys or games or such things like that,,, a tv is not my babysitter so i feel a child should only have 3 hrs of tv a day when in school 2 hrs a day

 

Would you have said that straight to her face? I keep bumping into mom's groups that people think they can push their opinions on someone else because there's no fear of ever meeting in person! I don't allow the TV on AT ALL while my daughter is awake, but I would never tell another mom who was just saying how her family works that I don't believe it's right to have TV be a babysitter.....just saying, I find mom's online groups to be much more on the attack than you would see in person.

Julie - posted on 11/27/2009

I had my son sleeping in his own room by 2 months, He out grew the bassinette so we thought it was time. We just had a good monitor in our room so we could hear him we never had any problems.

Brenda - posted on 11/27/2009

i kept my daughter my room until I stopped breastfeeding. It was a lot easier than going back and forth. If you are bottle feeding I wouldn't put her in her own room until I was able to sleep without being paranoid of not hearing her when she was awake. Do whatever makes you feel ok with. Good luke.

Joyce - posted on 11/27/2009

It is up to you if they are healthy and strong, but when mine was little I wanted them in the same room with me until they were 6-8 months old. Fortunately we had room for a crib in the same room. Too many things can go wrong when mom's are sleep deprived and may not hear them from a separate room even with a monitor. My granddaughters still sleep with me on sleep-overs. Some of the best of times are reading stories and having them fall asleep snug and warm next to you!

Pamela - posted on 11/27/2009

firstly .. Your bub is so cute the hair and the tongue so cute...

3 weeks I had our first in his cot and in his room next to mine we both slept much better our second son was in a cot in our room until he was 3 months but only cause we only had a 2 bed house as soon as we moved he was in his own room and again he slept much better..

Both my ons were very strong very early so could roll over and move about in the bassinet so I felt they were safer in the cot.
good luck

Sandra - posted on 11/27/2009

Both of my children slept in a bassinet in our room until they outgrew it, my first child went to her bedroom after that but she was very close, smaller house. Our 2nd child also outgrew his bassinet and then we put him in his bed in our room until he was one year old. much bigger house after one year old he went to his room next door to his sister and down the hall from us. I think whatever makes everyone comfortable is what should be done in each persons home. No child is the same and no parents are the same so do what feels best for you. God Bless.

Shirley - posted on 11/27/2009

I would buy a co-sleeper and keep her next to you. The American College of Pediatrics acknowledges that infants are safer in your room to sleep, than in a separate room.

If you are breastfeeding, it's so much easier to have her close. Take a moment and think about where you would want to be if you were 7 weeks old. This is a precious time!

Brandy - posted on 11/27/2009

We just put our daughter's crib in our room until she was 6 months then moved it to her room.

Rebecca - posted on 11/27/2009

Both our kids were in their own bed at 4 months. They were in a craddle or in bed with us for the first 3-4 months.

Lisa - posted on 11/27/2009

I just realize you said four. sometimes when children don't feel confident within themselves because of suroundings or certain people around them they often cry.
and don't forget they are born with the emotions we carried in our selves when carrying them. durring pregnancy need you cry a lot or felt discouraged. just hug him and talk to him alot building his confidence in him. and check out the things around him making sure things are the way they should be for him.

Sabrina - posted on 11/27/2009

I put my son in his crib with a sleep/head positioner before a month olf(big boy). The positioners stop baby from rolling over to prevent SIDS. A baby monitor and your fine. Don't panic he is my first I did as most do but it was a shockingly easy transition for us.

Heather - posted on 11/27/2009

We put out daughter Lily in her room at two weeks old. Our son who is now five slept in our room for the first three months, and to this day he has never slept good in his own room. Our Lily sleeps through the night, in her crib in her own room and never sleeps in our bed. We wanted to do this different the second time around so she was more comfortable being alone in HER room. We had a video monitor on her at all times while in her crib to keep an eye on her and hear her if she woke up. She's eight months old now.

Elizabeth - posted on 11/27/2009

My son is 2 weeks old and he has slept in his own crib since the day we came home from the hospital. It was hard the first couple nights just worrying because no one was right there next to him, but I know in the long run he won't be as likely to want to sleep in my bed and he won't need someone right there next to him to fall asleep.

Michelle - posted on 11/27/2009

i just went to check on my still sleeping kids and couldnt find my 10 yr old in his bed I looked and sometime last night he went and got into bed with his 14 yr old brother I guess he was cold.

Michelle - posted on 11/27/2009

h my first child he was sleeping in the crib for naps and sleeping with us at night until he was 6-7 months old and then spent part of the night with us until he was 3 yrs old. (when his brother was born) With our second son he went to his crib in his room he shared with his brother from day one. Funny thing is my then 3 yr old was horrified that the baby slept alone and crawled into the crib to sleep with him everynight for the first 6 months. Strange I know but he was sleeping the baby was sleeping and blessed be I was sleeping. My guys are 14 and 10 and still if its really cold or if my husband or I are not home the at home parents gets a bed full of kids

Wendy - posted on 11/27/2009

Any time around 3-4 months. Our daughter actually slept in her carseat for awhile too in our room. She loved it.

Marnyka - posted on 11/27/2009

When they come home. This becomes a choice on how you're feeling about your child being further away from you. My husband was always afraid he wouldn't hear the baby so he would put the baby monitor volume up as high as it would go when we were asleep or in another room.

Kristin - posted on 11/27/2009

I had my daughters crib in my room, she never liked the bassinette anyway, I moved the crib out when she was 6 months old because that's when she really started to know I was in the room with her and wanted to hang out at like 3am.

Angela - posted on 11/27/2009

My son had esophageal reflux (he threw up large amts. and could have choked while he slept) and we kept him in our room until he was about 4 mos. old when we were instructed to add cereal to his milk to help it stay down. We were able to move him into his nursery when he was about 6 mos. His little sister made a lot of noises when she slept and I was attuned to her so much that I woke with every sound. We finally had to move her out when she was about 1 month old. They both nursed frequently and so I was able to check on them often. I think that the mother's rest is very important for both the mom's and baby's well being and should be part of the decision. There was no problem bonding with either child despite the fact that my daughter was only in the rm. with us for about a month.

Sharon - posted on 11/26/2009

my first baby was in our room till he grew out of his bassinet at about 3 months but our second child was never in our room from the time we bought her home from hospital and I found that I slept much bettter with her in her own room as I tended to unconciously keep listening to hear if they were breathing

LaShawn - posted on 11/26/2009

I put my son in his crib when he was about 5 or 6 weeks, For his naps during the day I would put him in his crib, laying him the short way. because he was in another room I'd keep the monitor right next to him.

Francesca - posted on 11/26/2009

Quoting Courtney:

Unless you stay up all night staring at your baby you are not going to prevent sids by having them in your room. and you definitely SHOULD NOT SHARE A BED. a baby in a crib (not a cage) in a sleepsack is so mch safer than a bed with two adults, pillows and blankets. Since they don't know the exact cause of SIDS it's hard to say what prevents it. I have three children- two were preemies and brought home on monitors. they slept in my room until they outgrew the bassinet and then went to their own cribs. everyone slept better (and longer) on their own. same with my third. he slept in my room for about 6-8 weeks (only because I was breastfeeding and it was more convenient for me to have him there then to go to his room threed times a night) and once in his own room everyone was more relaxed. I could get up and go to the bathroom without worrying I'd wake him, and at about three months he started falling alseep on his own and sleepng 11 hours a nite. I have never seen anything that says to keep a baby in your room for six months or a year. In fact, our NICU drs. told us that they could go home to their own beds unless we were more comfortable having them closer to us. The longer you wait the harder it will be to get them in their own room.

I don't know where you got your information but it is not completely accurrate.  Before you disapprove of others parenting styles find out the facts.  Co-Sleeping doesnt increase the risk of SIDS, in fact statistics prove otherwise. 

And just so you know the top risk factors for SIDS is using formula, being of african american decent, and maternal smoking.    If your interested in learning some more stats on co-sleeping and breastfeeding here is an interesting PDF...

5/B1_co-sleeping.pdf

 And your other rational such as disturbing your baby's sleep...my baby can handle a little noise at night.  I would go crazy if she couldnt handle me walking out of the room.  What happens if the phone rings during nap time.  Its unrealistic to train your baby to sleep in total silence.

Fiona - posted on 11/26/2009

Thanks for all of your help and advice ladies :) Emylee has been sleeping for about 8-9 hours at night lately and her room is only next door to ours - we live in a small 2 bedroom apartment, so we will definitely hear her if she does wake during the night. I just think she will be more comfortable in her cot - she'll have more room to stretch out - she is a fairly big bubba, so the bassinette is already too small. Might try her in her own bed in the next few days. Her Daddy is a bit upset about it - says he'll miss her being in our room lol :)

Thanks again :)

Suzie - posted on 11/26/2009

We decided before our baby was born to put him in his own room in his cot straight away. It was recommended in our ante natal class at the hospital, and it was suggested so that we could get a proper sleep (so we wouldn't stir at every little noise he made in the middle of the night!) After all, you need all the sleep you can get when you're a new parent!
He slept really well, right from day one! And he is now 15 months & has been a really good sleeper & happy baby ever since he was born. I think it's because he has learnt to put himself to sleep on his own right from day one.

Kylie - posted on 11/26/2009

I moved my son before I was ready, but he was too big for his bassinet, at 4 months. The rocommended age in Aust is 1 year, I was told by the community nurse. But our room wasn't big enough for the cot and he was to big for the bassinet.

Sylvia - posted on 11/26/2009

We co-slept full-time until we moved to a two-bedroom flat where DD could have her own room, which ended up being when she was four and a half :) It worked out well for us. I wouldn't want to have to get up twice every time the baby needed to nurse in the night.

Kim - posted on 11/26/2009

my own experience when my daughter was born in july she slept with me and my husbnad til dec then i threw a fit. on the other hand other friends of mine have told me they have put thier little ones in there own room as soon as they came home from the hospital. now u also have to know these little ones are no longer babies mine is a teen and my friends are full frown adults but that is what i have been told

Heather - posted on 11/26/2009

I never let my son sleep with me unless he was sick. I dont think children belong in their parents bed, and its a HORRIBLE habit to break. From birth my son slept in his own crib, his crib was in my room for 6 weeks, then it went into his own room, which was right next door. He has never had a problem sleeping in his own room, and as far as bonding there are a million ways to do that. From his days of infancy we have always had a night time routine...bath, story, and until 1 year, bottle, now that he is 11, we have a different routine, but with with a routine it makes consistency much easier

Hayley - posted on 11/26/2009

well i have two kids my 1st we were living in our own house but my room wasn't big enough for the cot or the porta cot so i had my son sleep in his porta cot out side my room for about a mnth so i was still close by but after he was bout mnth maybe mnth an half we put him in his own room. it jst really depends on your own conferdence how well you feel in yourself to take that step of putting her in her own room!

Cristal - posted on 11/26/2009

hi, with my 1st child he was 2months but with the second she had her own room from day dot so it's really up to u and how u feel

Nichole - posted on 11/26/2009

I had my little man in his crib at 2 weeks because he would roll and hit the side of the bassinette and wake hisself up. It was hard for my to do it but I got a lot more sleep.

Karen - posted on 11/26/2009

I did it right away, purely because I was convinced if I put her in our room in her cot I'd never want to put her in her own room LOL
Over here in the UK they recommend the baby sleeps in your room in their cot for 6 months to help reduce the risk of cot death, but it's not always practical and sometimes makes getting them into a good sleep routine difficult.

Francesca - posted on 11/26/2009

Quoting Courtney:

Unless you stay up all night staring at your baby you are not going to prevent sids by having them in your room. and you definitely SHOULD NOT SHARE A BED. a baby in a crib (not a cage) in a sleepsack is so mch safer than a bed with two adults, pillows and blankets. Since they don't know the exact cause of SIDS it's hard to say what prevents it. I have three children- two were preemies and brought home on monitors. they slept in my room until they outgrew the bassinet and then went to their own cribs. everyone slept better (and longer) on their own. same with my third. he slept in my room for about 6-8 weeks (only because I was breastfeeding and it was more convenient for me to have him there then to go to his room threed times a night) and once in his own room everyone was more relaxed. I could get up and go to the bathroom without worrying I'd wake him, and at about three months he started falling alseep on his own and sleepng 11 hours a nite. I have never seen anything that says to keep a baby in your room for six months or a year. In fact, our NICU drs. told us that they could go home to their own beds unless we were more comfortable having them closer to us. The longer you wait the harder it will be to get them in their own room.

I don't know where you got your information but it is not completely accurrate.  Before you disapprove of others parenting styles find out the facts.  Co-Sleeping doesnt increase the risk of SIDS, in fact statistics prove otherwise. 

And just so you know the top risk factors for SIDS is using formula, being of african american decent, and maternal smoking.    If your interested in learning some more stats on co-sleeping and breastfeeding here is an interesting PDF...

5/B1_co-sleeping.pdf

 And your other rational such as disturbing your baby's sleep...my baby can handle a little noise at night.  I would go crazy if she couldnt handle me walking out of the room.  What happens if the phone rings during nap time.  Its unrealistic to train your baby to sleep in total silence.

Donna - posted on 11/26/2009

My daughter slept in her own room around 3 weeks old. I couldnt sleep with her in my room. I could hear every movement. I figured she would cry when she needed fed. She slept through the night at 4 weeks old. My son slept through at 7 weeks. They never slept in our bed. I never had trouble at bedtime. Even when they were tiny I put them to bed awake. They need to learn they can go to sleep on their own and if they wake in the night they can go back to sleep on their own. My kids never put up a fight at bedtime.

Danielle - posted on 11/26/2009

I think only you can decide that my baby was in his own room at 4 weeks as soon as he was in his cot he was alot more settled and more comfortable than he was in his bassinette.

Charlotte - posted on 11/26/2009

My son has just turned 6months, an hes been in his cot for a while an sleeps very well, we are about to put him in his own room, we feel its the right time, an im sure u wil know when its the right time for you an your baby, good luck :)

Letty - posted on 11/26/2009

Call me crazy or over protective but I didn't put my babies in their own beds until they were about 5 months old. I felt that if they were next to me I would feel every move that made, it's just a sense of security. My baby is 4 and his bed is stationed next to mine. I guess it's a personal choice, if feel that your baby is ready then give it a try and see how it works. Hope my experience is helpful.

Mary - posted on 11/26/2009

My first child was in our room at night for about 4 months, I think. When my husband and I found ourselves listening to her every movement (She was just settling herself.) and finding it kept us awake, we moved her to another room. The next six were in their own room from the very start. We never had a problem at night. Unless you're a very hard sleeper, you'll hear your child from another room as easily as you do with her in your room. Do what is less stressful for you. I find that the whole emphasis on SIDS creates a lot of paranoia. Be smart, but don't get stressed or you may end up with kids that are also tense and require much more attention, creating even more stress. Relax. There is no right or wrong time to move children to their own room.

Tricia - posted on 11/26/2009

My babe NEVER slept in our room. She's 2 now and she's been sleeping through the night since 3 weeks old. We found it impossible to sleep with her in the room, but could hear her just fine if she needed us, down the hall in her own room.

Angie - posted on 11/26/2009

My children went to their own room from day one. I didn't live in a house that was large so I didn't have to worry about not being able to hear them or not being able to get to them in a matter of seconds.

Francesca - posted on 11/26/2009

Well I know that many people have many different views on this. I know that the pediatrics society recommends that a baby sleep in a crib in the parents room for up to 6 months of life.



Some people believe that this is not a good option for them whether they do not have the room, or want the privacy and space with their partner that is baby free, some can't sleep with a baby in the room. And so put their baby in cribs in a different room much earliar.



It then comes down to what you think is best.



My little Ella is seven months today and she still in my room (We have a crib in my room and but we mostly cosleep). Sometimes she pokes her head up to look around at night to make sure we are in bed and then goes right back to sleep. And since we use baby signs she often rolls over makes the sign for milk all without a tear. But what works for me may not necessarily work for you :) Good luck

Judy - posted on 11/26/2009

We put all of our babies into the nursery (own room) from the day we came home from the hospital. We had a monitor so could hear them. We all slept better that way and, in my opinion, they slept through the night faster 'cause it was quieter for them.

Erin - posted on 11/26/2009

We had a family bed with my 1st born until 4 mos ago, he's 3... our 2nd born (2mos) cosleeps w/us... The boys are going to be sharing a room and I feel more comfortable with babe being able to roll over & probably sit up before he goes into his crib in brothers room...as brother can climb in and out of the crib :( eek... We have a bad habit of sleeping with the TV on and our 1st born has that bad habit now...we got him out of our room by turning our TV off, so he goes to his room to watch TV & sleep. I know this is bad, but having my bad habit already rub off on him, keeping him in his room is more important to me now, I'll worry about the TV being on later!

Phoenix - posted on 11/26/2009

I would hold on to my baby unti lhe was 5 months and by that time. He would sleep through the night and not need me constantly..It turned out well.

Charlene - posted on 11/26/2009

I love co-sleeping with my 5 mos old. At first we put her in a snuggle nest between us. This helped with my worry of rolling over on her. I didn't feel I would but my husband is a much heavier sleeper. The decision to co-sleep for me seemed a no brainer, I'm breast feeding and I stay at home to care for her, so I have no alarm clock to wake up to, just her beautiful shining face.
I read most of the responses and know this is a hotly debated topic. Every Mother is different and every baby is different along with circumstances. Thanks to the world wide web there is tons and tons of information, but it really comes down to what works for you. Whatever decision you make, I'm sure it will be the right one.

Patti - posted on 11/26/2009

Every child is so different. It's really a discussion between you and your husband. We co-slept with our youngest for a long time. I also nursed him longer than I thought i would. He is very attached and bonded. I have two older children we adopted at ages 1 and 2. Both are now 10 & 11 and have attachment disorders we are working through. Had I known how important attachment was to brain development I would have handled things differently in the early years. Hind sight is always 20-20. That said, it's a very personal decision. I have had very close friends challenge me on my co-sleeping beliefs but I stand firm in my convictions>