What age would you allow a child to play Halo or another video game of that genre?

♥♪Megan♫♥ - posted on 11/17/2011 ( 173 moms have responded )

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I'm asking this question simply because my husband plays a lot of video games for research (he's learning 3D animation and game design) So our 7 year old daughter sees him playing Halo Reach and she's played Halo herself a few times. So have some of her friends. I do know that some of her other friends' parents aren't ok with it so we do make sure they don't play the games. We're also aware of the age recommendations on the games, but have decided that we as parents can make the discision for our child.



I'm just wondering what the rest of you think about these games and if you've let your children play more first person shooter games.



ETA: Most of the time my 7 year old is outside playing with her friends or playing in her room with or without her friends. We make sure that she is playing educational computer games and her teacher says she's past most of her classmates in math and reading skills. Most of the time the Xbox is on my husband is using it to play a game or we're putting in a movie. Usually something Disney or Dreamworks because my husband also likes to study the CGI used in movies. We watched Despicable Me a lot over the summer and took her to see Puss in Boots for that reason

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Genevieve - posted on 11/20/2011

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I personally dont agree with first person shooter games. We had one for a while when we first got our playstation when my daughter was 3 (shes now 5). But hubby felt he never had the chance to play it because he would not play it in front of our daughter. So we sold it. And bought similar games that had the adventure and fighting but with less violence. So we have Little Big Planet and Ratchet and Clank games. Totally fine for a child to watch. But I would hold off of video games as much as possible until you cant fight it any longer. My daughter has only ever played Just Dance or Wii Sports. And then the fun learning type games on the iPad or PBS kids. I guess the decision will rest in the parents hands. But the question will be that when the sun is shining and the child is addicted to playing video games will you be cursing your decision to let them play? And can your husband play these games when the kids arent around. Its a case of monkey, see monkey do.

Amanda - posted on 11/20/2011

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Ok, while she is your child you can decide if she can play them or not. My kids ages 13 &11 CANNOT play them. I even refuse to buy those kinds of games. My son has asked for them, but they are above his age limit.
I understand your husband has to play them for his schooling, but couldn't he wait and play them after she goes to bed? Ultimately, the decision is left to you and your husband.

Kirsten - posted on 11/20/2011

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My SS is now 10 and he likes to play the 1st person shooter games. My husband plays them but I am not a fan. We've compromised on limits, but he also sees why I don't like him playing them. To me, it's disturbing to hear our son talk about how he's "knifed" someone and shot them in the head. BM is no stranger to domestic violence either- a dangerous combination I think.

Carla - posted on 11/20/2011

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This is America. As Americans we tend to shelter our children much too much, but this is America and thebgoal is to keep the violence to a minimum. Otther country start battle training with their children at two and look at the condition of most of them. A lot of people think, "it's just a game". Games are how they train their youth. So, if you think about it 7 is a little young unless you believe that the condition of America will soon be in the same condition of those other countries and your child will need that training to survive. My son was 17 before I even let him play Mortal Combat and that was karate

Roxanne - posted on 11/20/2011

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sorry for misleading info, that was what I heard. But for the record, with the people who say that they will learn it in the world so might as well do it at home, I personally dont agree cause my mom let me watch, play whatever as a child. At 8 I was watching Freddy Kruegar, and creepshow, and pretty much any movie I wanted to. Most horror movies DO have sex in them as well. I was exposed to everything at an early age. My parents never would have known, but I was smoking, drinking, stealing, havng sex by the time I was 13. Over the years I have asked several people about THEIR childhoods and it rings true for the ones that had more strict parents didnt do any of things untill at least 17 if at all. But those who had the childhood I had led a similar path. It may not be true for everyone but from what I have learned is it is pretty common. So with that in mind, I just dont want to take chances with my daughter. My mom thought I was a good kid too and never knew I did those things. Same goes for my friends. I want my daughter to stay innocent and a CHILD for as long as possible. I do TALK to her about LIFE and the horrible things that go on in the world, However I do not let her "enjoy" them as recreation.

Kaitlin - posted on 11/20/2011

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@Janel, I remember mavis beacon! I started 'playing' when I was probably 11, learning to type. Too funny! my favorite part was the 'race car' part. And the gross bugs on you windshield! ;)

♥♪Megan♫♥ - posted on 11/20/2011

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Roxanne my husband has all 6 Halo games (plus the anniversary edition) and NOT ONE of them has a sex scene so I have no idea where you're getting that idea from. The closest is a female AI where you can only see her face and a ghostly silloette. And she would only be on the missions which she's never played. Second my husband and I won't allow her to play Left 4 Dead because of the shooting and everything else. I told him she can't play that so he plays that when she's at school at his mom's at a friend's or asleep. There are a lot of other FPS that my husband owns but doesn't play for one reason or another.

Everyone else I don't know how a lot of you are getting that this is all she does. Most of the time my 7 year old is outside playing with her friends or playing in her room with or without her friends. We make sure that she is playing educational computer games and her teacher says she's past most of her classmates in math and reading skills. Most of the time the Xbox is on my husband is using it to play a game or we're putting in a movie. Usually something Disney or Dreamworks because my husband also likes to study the CGI used in movies. We watched Despicable Me a lot over the summer and took her to see Puss in Boots for that reason.

My husband and I are very involved with both of our daughters and make sure that what she wants to do is on par with her emotionally, mentally and intellectually. If she ever did start having nightmares involving Halo or something else that I didn't know she'd seen then we'll talk about it. But so far having Reach as background noise hasn't done any visible harm mentally or emotionally.

Beth - posted on 11/20/2011

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No absolutely not. my kids are 7 and 9 and they aren't allowed to WATCH DH play these games . That's exposing them to too much violence. WAY TO YOUNG. these things are rated M for a reason.



ETA: You'd be astounded at what they pay attention to. What you see as background noise is most likely not to them.

Janel - posted on 11/20/2011

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We had a Nintendo something when my kids were young. I found it to be a time sucker. I would much rather have my kids outdoors playing in the mud, kicking rocks, skateboarding or something. We sold that game system and I never let one in the house again. I don't think sitting and being so 'still' is good for kids. But, if you allow video games, which is fine, it's your choice, I do think the best advice here is to go by the stated age range on the game. That would be a good tool for you to use to get the kids (and your husband :-) ) to understand. And more specially the 'shooter' games - I would strictly limit that to cartoon type images. Better yet, get her Mavis Beacon Teaches Typing and turn it into a useful skill!!!

Tera - posted on 11/20/2011

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It so depends on the child and your situation is very different from the norm. I have two sons ages 16 and 13. They both could have started playing these types of games at an early age and often and neither of them would have turned into a "criminal." It is important to have open communication and in your situation ths is obviously seen as a game, work, and you do not want to keep your child from interacting with her DAD.

You do need to play close attention to how it effects the child, answer her questions age appropriately, and if a problem such as nightmares, abnormal obession occur discuss and limit the time spent either playing or viewing.
Children are exposed to so much no matter how much supervision you provide and open lnes of communication is a must.

The fact that you are concerned and asking these kinds of questions make you a good,concerned parent. I think she will be just fine.

Amy - posted on 11/20/2011

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@ Jeannie Virts: I would really love to discuss your post. I do not understand your position, it's so opposite to mine. But I hear enough people expressing similar thoughts that I really do want to try. I guess I teach my kids what our "home rules" are. They know that not everyone believes the same stuff. But they at least have a standard of belief and behavior to follow that is consistent and gives them a good moral compass. Why is that bad or living in a bubble? To me, NOT having a firm foundation in life is harmful. We don't turn on the TV and watch whatever is on it. We don't rent whatever movies are out there. Frankly, what YOU posted about reality scares the "crap" out of me, because it implies that all this stuff is coming at your kids and there's nothing you can do about it - except be the first to introduce them to it! Don't you think you can be a buffer or positive influence, instead? Yes, my kids have learned of things I didn't want them to know. But we talk about it and I correct the things that need it. I'd much rather do that, than introduce them to every possible bad thing out there - or let culture items like videos or games teach them "reality".

Roxanne - posted on 11/19/2011

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Personally, I have always fallowed all restrictions in games and movies. As a result my now 13 yr old doesnt really have any interest in watching movies over the pg13 rating. She doesnt like swearing, or violence. The thing wih the two video games you just named is that it is not just the violence.... Left for Dead has ALOT of swearing, and Halo has a SEX scene. I wouldnt let her play that stuff. At age 7 I didnt even let my daughter play mortal kombat.

Alexandra - posted on 11/19/2011

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7 years old is to young. Even if she does not demonstrate interest in shooting now, one never knows what it is doing to the brain. Maybe she will think it is ok to shoot people in the future. These games are too violent, you should protect your children from them. There are soooo many more things to do with a 7 year old, that it is easy to divert when she demonstrates interest in playing.

Jeannie - posted on 11/19/2011

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most of the stuff on the video games are what happens in real life i think teaching them reality is needed at a young age its just a game i tell my kids that when u turn on the tv u see killing rape drugs all kind of crap u dont want your kids to see but if u dont tell them or teach them someone else will my kids play those games and they are 7,7,11,n 20 and i have good kids they are not out here selling drugs bullying people or stealing robbing or any of those thing because i teach them fact and the games are a fact of life even if they are fiction just tell them the truth and thats my opinion do u want your kids to go out into this world and not know what to exspect these days are not like are time these days people are crazy and it scares me

♥♪Megan♫♥ - posted on 11/19/2011

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Lauralai, my 7 year old likes to pretend she's designing her own fashion line more than she wants to play Halo or any other video game. Unless she's on Mattel playing that. Of course she has friends who are boys who aren't into that stuff. She has one friend whose father plays Halo with him. I just believe that all children are different. I probably wouldn't've even wanted to be around FPS if they had them when I was 7 and can't stand being around DH when he plays any FPS other than Halo. So I won't allow DH to play those around her.

Kim, thanks. I do talk with my 7 year old and she does know that it's just a game.

Tammy - posted on 11/19/2011

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personaly i have a 7 year old son. and where he is allowe to play halo he isnt allowed to play other games such as gears of war or borderlands. For us its the graphic content. ALOT of blood and gore go into the other two not to mention adult language. But i think it all has to do what you guys feel is good for her.

Kim - posted on 11/19/2011

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I agree with both sides. Yes there is an age limit on these games, my 14 yr old does play modern warfare call of duty. He has played halo at a friends house. My daughter is 6she doesn't like to play them & goes out of the room when he is. Yous daughter might want to just have Daddy time, maybe he can play a different game that she can play with him. My son has 2 cords so he can take his game system to another room that my daughter is not in. Every parent has a different discipline style you may not agree with, It doesn't mean yours is wrong. It is just different. Make sure you talk to her so she understands it is not real. I make sure to do the same with my 14 year old, and have since he started playing games. My daughter is just getting into games but she likes the dance ones the most, since we can play them together.
It does take a villiage to raise a child, Information & thoughts on these questions are sometimes better to get from people who aren't in your family

Merry - posted on 11/19/2011

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I'm not trying to say its bad or dangerous for every kid. I'm just saying some see it that way. My oldest is 2 so I really don't know what 7 year olds are like too well.
I do know my 12 year old nephew plays halo and is utterly obsessed with it. It rules his world and he lives and breathes halo.
It disgusts me so much.
IMO he is too young to be obsessed with memorizing every type of gun and all his imaginative play involves killing things.
If your daughter is unfazed by halo then IMO that's fine. I just want to avoid my kids getting obsessed with death like my nephew is.

♥♪Megan♫♥ - posted on 11/19/2011

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And I understand that, but I don't see an issue with it being background noise while she plays a computer game (usually something on Mattel's site) or if she walks past it.

Also like I've been saying, it isn't played when my daughter's friends who aren't allowed to play those games are around.

Merry - posted on 11/19/2011

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Many moms would consider halo'harmful and dangerous'
That's why we feel ok saying dad can't play that type of game when kids are awake or home.

♥♪Megan♫♥ - posted on 11/19/2011

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I believe that it's a parents' choice to decide what they want their child to see. My daughter asked what my husband was playing and tried to play it herself and didn't like it. My husband and I both agree that we can't keep our children in a bubble protected from everything.

I respect that other parents don't feel that way about everything so we don't encourage other children to play those games. Also my husband will stop playing a FPS or TPS if my daughter has friends over who aren't allowed to watch or play those types of games.

Honestly I think forbidding my husband to do something in his own home that isn't illegal, harmful or dangerous is pretty silly. How many of you ladies would flip if your husband demanded that you do something that you don't see the point in?

Jacquie - posted on 11/19/2011

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My son is nearly 3 and has never seen any of our games consoles on. We dont want to get him into playing them at a young age. Not that all games are bad for kids his age its just that we prefer him to draw or play with his toys. Im pretty strict about what tv is on too. Once he has his nap or is in bed i can watch my programs that i record. If he wakes up early and the thing im watching is not appropriate then it goes off.

I agree with other posters about keeping games to their age recommendation. Thats what they are there for after all. Its not good for kids not to be bothered about violence

Melissa - posted on 11/19/2011

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For my family, I will never allow my children to play, watch or do any type of game where people are being shot. Hunting games with animals are ok, but to many kids are using more and more violence because they are being surrounded by it with these video games. In my opinion, adults shouldn't even be playing these games!

Elfrieda - posted on 11/19/2011

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Never. Once he's a teenager it's up to him what he does other places, but it's not coming through our door.

Tammy - posted on 11/19/2011

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Hi, good for you for questioning this ! I believe that children have the right to live free from exposure to violence of any sort, even media images and that they should be allowed the experience of a carefree childhood without such distractions. I have 2 sons, the youngest being almost 13. My children were not allowed to play or watch video games at all until age 10 , are only allowed 2 hours per day on weekends and none on school days ( no TV or computers either ) and would never be allowed to own Halo or other such games. It takes a child brain 3 days to process video & TV images and there are many proven bad effects from letting children watch violent TV and video games. You are right to question your childs exposure and perhaps could explain that Daddy is working, so we need to do something else. Perhaps he could do this at times when your daughter isn't around, or do this in a different room from her. http://www.waldorflibrary.org/Journal_Ar... http://www.drphil.com/articles/article/2...
good luck with your decision !

Lisa - posted on 11/19/2011

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I have a son 15 and plays halo,BIGGEST MISTAKE i ever made.he has become addicted to the game to the point of becoming hostile and very angry ,so now we take it away when he becomes out of control.its all my fault for giving in to this evil game.do your self a favor and have your husband play it when she is not around.

♥♪Megan♫♥ - posted on 11/19/2011

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Just to let you know... it's not October. It's the middle of November. ;)

Yes but I can wish... Maybe then I could get rid of the snow.

Tova, so should she just not play that game at all since my child is a girl? I know the age stuff. And honestly it was both of our choosing. If it wasn't she wouldn't play because if I say 'no' my husband doesn't turn around and say 'yes'

She doesn't play very often she isn't that interested in playing those types of games. But we allow it.

Also she plays wii at my MILs

Kaitlin - posted on 11/19/2011

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Tova I LOVE mario cart! As soon as my boys are old enough I'm totally going to beat them! ;)

Tova - posted on 11/19/2011

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Those games are designed for boys 13-35 I suggest you get Mario Cart or another Mario brothers game. There are plenty of games suitable. You just need to stay firm and say that is for dads, and you have your games.

Merry - posted on 11/19/2011

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Alien or human makes no difference to me. Killing is killing and I wouldn't even want my kids playing hunting games.
Ok, fishing is fine lol. But I don't like killing games no matter then target.

Merry - posted on 11/19/2011

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18 lol my husband doesn't play video games when the kids are awake.

Kaitlin - posted on 11/19/2011

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Because your last statment, it seems you have already made this decision. I personally think that is FAR too young, and the given ages on the games (12 or 13) are even too young to grasp the fact that you are pretending to kill other people. I completely disagree with you. That being said, thank you for saying that you check with other parents first before letting them play at your house.

Julie - posted on 11/18/2011

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Tell hubby (Daddy) he can play those games IF HE MUST when the child is in bed. We are doing nothing but programming minds to react with violence ... is that what we REALLY want?

Jeanie - posted on 11/18/2011

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My oldest is 5 and I do not let him play or even watch my husband play those games. My husband is only allowed to play games like that after the kids go to bed. To me its kinda like not letting your kids watch movies like that so why would you let them watch a video game with them same stuff. Its still graphic like the movies. So I say no way!

Amy - posted on 11/18/2011

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The question was posed: "...wondering what the rest of you think about these games and if you've let your children play...". To me, that means we should be allowed to answer up front and not have to apologize for having a difference of opinion. I'm willing to share mine (for what it's worth LOL). My answer is, "No. I will not let my 8 yo play these games."
Someone else referenced a child's "maturity level". As mature means fully developed, I hardly think a child of 7, 8, or 9 is fully developed and do feel that these violent games, and other things like violent movies, music lyrics, etc can negatively impact a child's growth. My husband and I limit what our kids are exposed to. I feel that's my job as a parent. We are up front with friends and family, and consistent. It seems to be working.
That being said, I have more respect for parents who watch movies with their kids or play these games with their kids and talk about them, versus those who treat these things as babysitters. But that's probably a whole 'nother posting. :)

Amanda - posted on 11/18/2011

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I think it depends on your child's maturity level. Does she have a good grasp on reality? Can she tell the difference between the game, and real life? I have been allowing my boys, now 10 and 11, to play games like HALO and Fable for several years. To them, it's as fun as Mario and a good game of Chess. They enjoy the strategy, and help each other on levels. Every kid is different.

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Just to let you know... it's not October. It's the middle of November. ;)

Marina, Nightmare on Elm Street at 7?! Dang... I was 14-15!

Sue - posted on 11/18/2011

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As stated before, :-), you have to know your kids' limits. When my older son was younger, he could watch/play Halo no issue, but would get freaked out with nightmares with Harry Potter and the Chamber of Secrets basilisk scene. It didn't matter if he saw the scene or just heard it. At the time, for him, it was too intense, but Halo was no problem.

~♥Little Miss - posted on 11/18/2011

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Hmmm...I think 7 is to young for those games. I am not criticizing that you let her do it, but I know my son at 5, and can not see him handling such a game at 7. My neice is 7, and she would watch to try to feel grown up, but would have nightmares, and my 6 year old nephew would also watch and be braved, then he would not sleep at night.

I remember watching "Nightmare on Elm Street" which yes was very graphic...and I watched it around that age. I was plagued with nightmares well into my teens with that one.

♥♪Megan♫♥ - posted on 11/18/2011

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To quote myself: "she doesn't play the game on a regular basis. In fact my 7 year old hasn't played Reach since September and it's October."



Trust me it is spent other places. Right now she's pretending to design her own fashion line



I oopsed though. It's November dammit!

Megan - posted on 11/18/2011

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Meggy, I did not mean to offend you. I just think that sometimes as parents we often don't think through what kind of impact "little" things will have. I have two teenage stepdaughters and a two year old. The older girls love to watch the show Dexter, which is about a man who goes and kills serial killers. It is often graphic and violent at times. Our two year old is never allowed in the room when they watch it and they know that if their little sister is up and wants to be in the room they need to turn it off and watch the dvr after she goes to bed. Sometimes what we want to do as parents, really is detrimental to our child's health. Again, you are her parents and ultimately it is your decision. I just try to keep in mind with my own kids what is in their BEST interest, not just what is acceptable. I think both you and your hubby would agree her time could be better spent elsewhere.

Sue - posted on 11/18/2011

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I think one main thing that we all need to understand is that every parent parents differently. Even with parents of the same children in the same household, you are going to have different opinions as to what is appropriate or not. My husband is more of a drill instructor; I'm not. What one person is going to see as appropriate gaming, the other is not. As parents, we also need to be in tune with what our child needs. If you determine that a FPS game is ok for your child, and then all of a sudden sweet Susie is now tormenting the cat and throwing stones at her peers, then maybe you need to rethink your decision. On the other hand, it could be a good, healthy venue to vent stressers from "Johnny was taking my eraser today and tugging my pigtails".



We allow our boys to play Halo, but my S-I-L disagrees with it. However, she allows her 9 year old to sit in the front seat of her van in a booster with a passenger air bag, where I do not. It all depends on what the PARENTS decide is appropriate for their child, and we as observers of other parents need to RESPECT the choices of our peers, and unless it is illegal or dangerous, keep our opinions to ourselves unless asked. Then, when voiced keep our reponses respectful, as we would expect our children to do.

♥♪Megan♫♥ - posted on 11/18/2011

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Megan, first off we don't even let other kids watch Halo whose parents aren't ok with it. I don't know where you're getting that from 'We don't allow our daughter's friends whose parents don't allow them to play Halo to play it or watch it'. I respect other parents' feelings towards the games and so does my husband. We're not going to break someone else's rules with their child just because they're different from ours. If my daughter has a friend over who isn't allowed to see or play FPS games we don't have them on or if they are on they get turned off.

Second since when does a FPS equal porn? That's not even remotely close to the same thing. There are more disturbing images on the local news than in Halo IMO and I get easily disturbed. So porn no because that's also illegal and considered child abuse. Halo yes becuase even though it has an M rating there is no dismemberment, swearing, sexual dialogue/ scenes or innuendo, excessive violence or excessive gore. Seriously, what kind of parent do you think I am?

I'm wondering how many people here who are talking about violent images and the effects on children have ever read the original stories of Cinderella, Snow White or Little Red Riding Hood by the Brother's Grimm. Those stories were written back in the 18th century and geared towards families with children. And they were quite violent. The step mother in Snow white is placed in hot iron shoes and dances until she dies (which may or may not be an improvement from falling off a cliff). Cinderella's step sisters had an eye pecked out by birds after one of them cut off a toe and the other a part of her heel to fit into the slipper. And of course we all know that the wolf ate Red Ridinghood's granny.

Let's get something straight. I do not sit my child in front of the TV and say: Here watch this or here play this. And she doesn't play the game on a regular basis. In fact my 7 year old hasn't played Reach since September and it's October.

I'm not saying the rest of you all should think like me or allow your children to do what my child does. There are probably things you allow your children to do that I won't allow my 7 year old to do. But I believe children are smarter than most adults give them credit for and have the ability to distinguish fantasy from reality at an earlier age than what some adults believe. Yes the game restrictions are there for a reason. But there are far worse games I could let my child play along with far worse TV shows. My daughter is ahead of her class in reading and math and is very helpful and sensitive towards others. I don't believe that my husband and I are harming her in any way by allowing her to play Halo (not any other M rated game like Gears of War or Left 4 Dead or Grand Theft Auto) once in a blue moon when she wants to. She hardly even shoots she just drowns her character in the lake!

Also despite what people may want to believe there has been research to show that violent video games have lead to a decrease in violent crimes by 30% since the 1970's. The reason is that people are able to take out their frustrations on inanimate characters instead of doing it at work or school. And I don't know about the rest of you all, but I'd rather my child shoot a few of the Covenant when she's had a bad day at school than take it out on someone at school or my 8 month old.

Megan - posted on 11/18/2011

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I understand that your husband uses this for work, but I would REALLY have a problem letting my 7 year old watch him play that, let alone play it herself. It also sounds as if you let other children see it, but not play it. I would have a major problem with that as well, especially if you know their parents don't want them to see it. Bottom line is: there is an age restriction for a reason. Some 18 year olds cannot handle seeing those violent images. Are seeing those images really in your daughters best interest?
To me using the work excuse is an out. If your husband worked in the porn industry would you allow your daughter to watch those images just because your husband does for work? In my opinion (not trying to be judgmental...just want you to think very seriously about what you may be exposing your daughter to) that is about the same thing. Both images are only advised for ADULTS. Never for children.

Kelli - posted on 11/18/2011

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He does not have any trouble sleeping, no issues with nightmares & he isn't hooked. He plays baseball & basketball & loves outdoor pick up games with his friends. When the 45 min timer goes off, so does the console. He does everything we ask of him so if a little Halo makes him happy, I'm happy to indulge him. :)

♥♪Megan♫♥ - posted on 11/18/2011

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Krista very true. I'm just asking opinions because in my OP we already know what I do.



To everyone else until my 7 year old was up here she never saw anything worse than Spongebob because my parents don't own a video game console. We had Atari at one point, but my brother destroyed it back in the 90's. I made sure I had watched and played myself before I decided if I was going to beat my husband with a controller if he played this in front of my 7 year old (DH is my older daughter's step dad)



Also I know my daughter is very bright for 7 and can distunguish fantasy from reality. Halo though is as violent as she gets to see. I'm very squeamish, I can't stand blood, shooting violence and all that stuff so she hasn't seen anything worse. As I've said before DH and I also respect other parents' wishes and don't allow my 7 year old's friends to play that game if they aren't allowed to do so. I don't believe in sheilding my child from everything. We watch the news, we talk about bullying and why the stuff her step dad plays isn't real. One of her friends is also allowed to play Halo and he's a year younger than she is and plays it with his dad.



I've said this a few times, we live in an apartment. My husband's name is on the lease. The cat probably wouldn't like DH crowding up the laundry room and sitting in his (the cat's) litter box. We tool the console out of our room because it's also our DVD player and DH is an insomniac when he's working. He's a hard surface modeler. And I should also add that most game play is done during school hours and on weekends when my older daughter is out playing. She sees it when he plays at night and doesn't care too much.



@ Kari, Sue and Kelli thanks. That's exactly how I look at it, they're killing aliens not real people. The father of one of my daughter's friends also doesn't let his son play FPS games where you shoot people and DH and I feel the same. My dad also hunts so my older daughter (I have an 8 month old who we've photographed pretending to play video games) has been around guns before and understands that they're to be treated as if loaded even if they're not and that they're not toys.

Sue - posted on 11/18/2011

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I have received a lot of criticism for this myself. My husband is an avid gamer and loves Halo (mainly the first one). He also works from home and is the primary caregiver as a result. Our rule for our boys (9 & 7) has been that they can play Halo, sound LOW or OFF especially when they were learning language, as long as they are not shooting and killing humans. Any killing of the AI humans, instantly turned off. Playing head to head we refer to as tagging, as we are a paintballing family.

As for anything else that involves killing of human characters, absolutely not. My B-I-L and a friend had wanted to allow our boys to play games like Gears of War and some zombie/human game and that was an adamate NO. When those style of games are played, we have them leave the room and do something child-friendly.

Thankfully, our boys have learned the rules well, and no longer ask to play similar games. We encourage them to play games like Lego Batman/Star Wars, Pokemon, etc. The main thing to remember is that you and your husband set the rules for your child and will need to know what line you don't want to cross. Good Luck!

Kelli - posted on 11/18/2011

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My son will be 9 in February and he just started playing the Halo series. At this age, he understands the concept of "shooting" from a variety of sources (nerf guns, we live in rural area so alot of his friends' fathers hunt, school lessons - MLK, Lincoln, etc.) so it's not really new. He's a good kid, never in trouble, active, athletic, 4.0 average so I feel that if he wants to spend his allowed 45 minutes on video games playing Halo, he can. Now, I make sure the M rating is free from sexual content. I do not allow those games in my house and I let other parents know he is not allowed to play those ones. (Grand Theft Auto for instance.)

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