What are peoples pet peeves that parents do?

Hope - posted on 05/02/2009 ( 282 moms have responded )

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I know there is some stuff that really annoys me, like for one when parents let their children run around a store like wild animals or when they let their kids run around in a restaurant or crawling all over the floor. I was taught that you don't move from the table unless you ask to be excused. What annoys you guys?

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My pet peeve is parents who downgrade parents who spank their children. I and my child are survivors of domestic abuse and i am greatly aware of the difference between discipline and abuse but i whole heartedly believe that a good spanking is a necessary parenting option. i got them when i was a kid and my child receives one when in need, not at every bad girl moment only for the well deserved ones. and there is nothing wrong with that

Ivana - posted on 05/22/2009

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I AM A YOUNG MOTHER. Does that make me irresponsible? Does it mean that I don't know how to take care of a child? I am 20 years old expecting my first child and I am also happily married. I had two siblings with disabilities, I knew how to change diapers, feed, comfort, and teach kids when I just turned 9 years old. DON'T SAY all young moms are irresponsible because their are some older moms who are horrible at being moms. It can go both ways.





I read all of the comments and I have to say most of the pet peeves are my pet peeves. If you know someone who is doing those things that bother you, why can't you be the ones to speak to them and teach them? We all have flaws. We're all not perfect. We all have different parenting "skills"!





The leash on the kids is not necessarily my favorite, Kids yelling in store, running down aisles, giving the kids all that they want, not fastening the kids up in their car seat, having the T.V. on all day, yelling at the kids in public, I've also seen parents hitting their children in public, giving babies soda, calling your child Stupid, people who smoke around their children, working moms who never spend times with their child. Those are my pet peeves : )





Let's all teach each other the Pro's and the Con's of parenting. We all have our opinions.





P.S. I've seen all the all your profile pictures. Everyone has a gorgeous child!!! God Bless you all : )

Melanie - posted on 05/07/2009

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lack of WILLINGNESS to discipline their children...even if it means to bust their bottoms every now and then.

Jessica - posted on 05/04/2009

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We are not perfect,we are parents. I heard that on TV and its true. So we should be supporting one another. Just my opinion. I think overall there are a lot of good parents out there, there are exceptions,but who are we to judge. Its hard enough being a parent now I gotta worry about people judging me? I have my family for that..lol!

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judge other parents for their choices. thats my problem with parents.every parent needs to make choices for their children. until youve walked in their shoes, dont judge.

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Carys - posted on 05/22/2009

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Competitive parents. You know who you are, saying that your child can do this, that and the other, when they obviously can't. And the parents who think that spending absurd amounts of money on a pushchair and clothes means that their child is having a better upbringing.


Rude parents who think it's ok to belittle their child in public, to try to impress other adults around them, such as the gran in the lift in Ikea who said that her grandaughter was 'bloody obsessed' with the buttons, and said that it was easier taking her dog for a walk.


People who nag, swear at, and say 'no' to their child incessantly. The children switch off and pay no attention.


I could go on.....

Leah - posted on 05/22/2009

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I've found that most of my pet peeve's wind up being things I just didn't understand because my kid wasn't old enough for me to understand yet=0) I hated yelling parents, until I discovered my son would not stop wiggling under any circumstance other than a " Knock IT OFF" sternly spoken in a resturant or that he waited untill the last second to tell me he had to pee and I literally bashed into people rushing to the toilet. My son loved his baby leash because he got to feel free and like a big boy walking in the woods on his own. In retrospect the baby leash was the best ever invention, but I SWORE I'd never use one. My current Peeve would be parents who offer all sorts of "Well I'd ...." advice and then you see their kid is only 6 months old and teething is their biggest worry. Seriously.....? And then I realize I was soooo that person once=)



I've decided to just be happy and do what needs to be done, rest of the world be damned. You can judge me, but I'll be trying my best to check myself when I find myself judging you!

Candace - posted on 05/22/2009

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Quoting Beth:

There are lots of opinions here - none of which are taking into account that there are a lot of special needs kids out there who scream and seem to be "uncontrolled" by parents. There is no "controlling" that - but we have to take our kids out to teach them how to behave in public. We have to start somewhere. Look down on me all you want, but I won't lock up my special needs kid.



All kids need to learn how to behave in public and they learn that by going out in public.  I'm sure everyone reading my posts is thinking I have a rotten kid, but I don't.  I had a child going through the terrible 2's who spoke very late.  (He now gets compliments on his behavior, although he has his days) Because he is so big we would offen get looked down on in public also.  I think that if a parent is at least trying to rectify the situation somehow (speaking calmly to the child, trying to remove them from the situation, whatever) and not just allowing the bad behavoir or temper tanrum to go unchecked we should be patient with them and offer the poor, embarressed parent a sympathetic smile and maybe a hand with their bags.  I wish you all the best Beth.

Candace - posted on 05/22/2009

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Quoting Ivana:

I AM A YOUNG MOTHER. Does that make me irresponsible? Does it mean that I don't know how to take care of a child? I am 20 years old expecting my first child and I am also happily married. I had two siblings with disabilities, I knew how to change diapers, feed, comfort, and teach kids when I just turned 9 years old. DON'T SAY all young moms are irresponsible because their are some older moms who are horrible at being moms. It can go both ways.


You are absolutely right!  Age has nothing to do with your responcibility as a parent.  You sound like you have more experience with babies and children than some women getting pregnant in their 30's.  Best of luck with your baby.  God Bless!

Melissa - posted on 05/22/2009

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Anyone that says "shut up" to their child. I think it is a rude term for adults to use forget about to a child and an awful phrase to teach.

I also can't stand when parents do not follow through on discipline. Those that say "no" and then continue to ignore the behavior. I give my kids alot of leeway and let them explore anything within bounds but if I say no to something, even if it is a drawn out battle, Mama must win. So I pick my battles and reserve them for safety issues and manners.

As for the leash thing, I feel it is appropriate in certain situations. An active two year old is miserable in a stroller but an area may be too crowded to allow him to run free, especially when you are trying to manage a stroller with a 9 month old in it. If it is used for the child's safety and not the convienence of the parent, I don't mind it.

Thanks for listening!:)

Sara - posted on 05/22/2009

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My biggest pet peeve of all is other parents telling me how to raise my child. I have 6 children. 17, 16, 12, 5, 5, and 2. Yes I use leashes. I would much rather do that than get something off the shelf at the store turn around and someone has taken off with one of my babies. If you don't like it...FINE...don't use it. But DO NOT tell me not to use one. I use them for safety. I do not want some pervert to take off with my child, or my child to get traumatized because they got lost. I can look after my children fine, but in a crowd I get worried. You do what works for you and I'll do what works for me. I do not abuse my children, so there is no need for you to stick your nose into how I raise them. Unsolicited nosiness and advice from people I don't know is what peeves me more than anything.

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Two things, haha.... I dislike seeing parents yell at their children for a certain unwanted behaviour BUT not TELLING them the reasoning or giving them an ALTERNATIVE behaviour; if you say "no", then what CAN they do instead; they have the feelings/emotions and need to be guided as to how to express them reasonably. Otherwise they feel they've been "bad" and ARE bad, rather than feeling the pride of using the appropriate way to express themselves. =)



The second... bad role modeling by parents! Two prime examples of this are wearing lifejackets/PFDs in a boat and wearing helmets when on a bike/quad/etc... why would we expect our children to wear one & know that's the norm when the parents are not modeling the importance?!?! Even if you can swim or you're a professional bike rider, you MUST wear a helmet, no questions. Yeah you can swim, but can you swim when you're unconscious after being knocked out when your boat flips onto your head? Umm, no. =P

Beth - posted on 05/22/2009

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There are lots of opinions here - none of which are taking into account that there are a lot of special needs kids out there who scream and seem to be "uncontrolled" by parents. There is no "controlling" that - but we have to take our kids out to teach them how to behave in public. We have to start somewhere. Look down on me all you want, but I won't lock up my special needs kid.

Lori - posted on 05/22/2009

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My boyfriend and I were walking with my 9 yr old son in the lake that was thigh high and a 4 yr old was playing in the lake by her self we were so horrified that my little boy asked if we could stay and make sure she would be ok.WE WERE WITH HER FOR A HALF HOUR BEFORE HER MOTHER DECIDED TO CHECK ON HER ! THAT PISSED ME OFF! Then she had the nerve to ack like I did something wrong, my boyfriend had to hold me back from going after her and giving her a pice of my mind.

Candace - posted on 05/22/2009

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As a parent my biggest pet peeve is when people who either don't have children or don't remember what it is like to have very young children. Although I don't go window shopping with grouchy kids who hasn't need to run out for some essential item (milk diapers etc) needed to take a less than well behaved 2 year with them. I actually had someone cut in front of me in line because they didn't want to listen to my son on the verge of a temper tantrum anymore. Well the next person had to listen because that extra 3 minutes did him in. Where is the common decency of leaning an over worked mom a little kindness?

Candace - posted on 05/22/2009

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Quoting Paula:

I agree with the one with the wild children in the store. Drives me nuts. I also cant stand the ones that have the harness and the leash one the children, what are they dogs? If you cant watch your children better than that you have a problem. I realize children can be very quick but come on. Also I dont care much for the term "kids". They are not goats!



 



 






So basically you don't like spirited children in stores.  I have a very high energy son that I needed a harness for when he got to be about 18 months old.  He could disapear in the time it took to read the brandname of the toothpaste I was looking for. When errands need to be done they need to be done and that usually means taking my children with me.  My son is not a dog he is much more precious to me than any pet ever could be, that is why I will take at least as many measures to protect him as I would my dog.  Once he learned the need to stay with me so I could find what I needed we got rid of the harness.

Hope - posted on 05/22/2009

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I can understand why some people don't like the leashes for kids cause maybe they see it used inappropriate ways. But though in very busy places they are good cause it keeps them safe and it gives them a bit of freedom. As for Older kids using pacifiers I see that a lot lucky my daughter never took to them she would spit it out.

Chris - posted on 05/22/2009

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one or the top peeves i noticed is the use of a "leesh" well im am one of those parents that uses them, but they are called reigns in england. i do know how to control my child and she does walk with me quite well for a 2 year old. but ocassionly she will find it fun to run about, and when i am trying to look at things in a shop, it is very difficult to do both at once. they are a very good way of keeping my daughter safe, whilst i have other things to do.

my pet peeve though is children who can talk with a dummy stuck in their mouth.i hate dummies and have never given my children one, but i do understand the need of a comfort when going to sleep. but that is all they should be used for, not as a quick fix to shut your child up!!!

Hope - posted on 05/22/2009

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Amanda do you live in a rough area where you live or something? Cause I knew someone who lived where wel fare people live and you see a lot of that. LAZY ASS parents who don't deserve to be parents get your F**king tubes tide or nuts cut..cause obviously birth control doesn't do any good.

Jakki - posted on 05/15/2009

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Quoting Amanda:

I can't stand when the mother and/or father is dressed to the 9's. All nice looking, smelling good and then here come some ratty haired, dirty, holey clothed kids that smell bad and have obviously not taken a bath in awhile or had their teeth brushed.

Why on earth would ANYONE let their child be so neglected yet take care of themselves?? I'm not talking like the kids just came from the sand box and were dirty; I'm talking the mom or dad wants nothing to really do with raising their kids but sit home and collect a check for them and spend the money on themselves and not the kids. That irks me!

What irks me worse is when the parents neglect to care for the kids and they have the kids taking care of themselves, example out where I live, there are a lot of 4 year olds taking care of their 18 month old siblings. The diapers are loaded, the kids are hungry and crying and the older sibling smacks the baby around cause that's what they see at home. The parents are either drunk or high or not even home. The kids are running around at night with no shoes, outside playing in the dark and the parents aren't even watching them. I have called the cops plenty of times because I'm afraid these kids are going to be hit by a car, or kidnapped or possibly raped. They talk about sex and know what sex is at 4!!!!! I'm sorry but that is way to young.

I can't wait to get out of this place and move my family somewhere safer.



My God Amanda!  where do you live? 

Ashley - posted on 05/13/2009

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Quoting Miranda:

Just today in my apt. complex my husband and I saw a little boy playing outside, he had to be about 4 or 5, in a diaper and t-shirt (no pants at all). We live in WA and it was raining. Not a hard rain but pretty cold. Not only this but there were no adults to be seen at all. I am not a mom yet, just 7 months pregnant, but I thought this was just crazy.


Agreed! I have a neighbor two doors down who lets her two-year-old run around in a tanktop and diaper...no socks or pants or shoes...even on cold days. He often plays outside all alone. And where is his mother? In her bathroom, smoking meth. I wanna slap her!

Keisha - posted on 05/13/2009

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Quoting Natalie:



Quoting Nicole:




Quoting Kelly:

I can't stand parents who take their kids to restaurants and let them cry and scream. Other people go out to have a nice time. If your child starts to cry, you get up and take them out of the restaurant or to the bathroom until they stop, you don't disturb everyone else in the restaurant because you want to have "a night out with the family".








Sorry but I really have to disagree with this one! I dont want to start an arguement but I would like to know what others think! One time I took my little girl out to supper..why not right? Children are humans too and deserve to get taken out for a treat once in a while. We were sat at a table next to a young couple...well my little girl was coloring and then became impatient while waiting for the food and got a bit fussy...she wasnt screaming or anything but was starting to cry a bit and the couple next to us asked to be moved! I totally felt bad and yes I really do understand where they were coming from you want  to get out for a nice dinner...but I really dont think you should have to leave the restaurant because your kid is crying. If you can go out and have supper then why cant a family????? I dont see anything wrong with it and I think anyone who has kids should understand that this is probably going to happen from time to time. I have two children and we go out for family night almost every week! I dont think it is very fair for people to say that we arent allowed to go to a restaurant in case our kids start to cry about something!









this is a tricky one, i think if you go to a family restaurant then we should all as families, cut each other some slack if our children start up (if their crying hysterically then i would hope anyone would take there child to the toilet or outside just to calm them down) but I agree that if they just being a bit niggly / whingey, then I also wouldn't be expected to remove my child from the table.  If you go to a restaurant that is more adult with kids, then I think you should be a bit more wary.






I have a 5 month old baby girl and I sometimes gets very embarresed if she starts up (she can not only turn on a sxpence ! but she has a scream that could shatter glass !!) and I will always try to calm her down but I do think poeple should be a bit more patient and understanding....I'm usually stressed enough that she's screaming as it is !! ha ha ha 





This is why we only go to family friendly or very casual restaurants, where everyones kids are screaming, playing and making noise while they're waiting for thier food. In such restaurants, I think people should be more understanding and I personally wouldnt care what anyone thinks. If it were a fancier place, I think more care should be taken to maintain the ambiance. For that very reason I personally would not take my young kids to nicer restaurants.....I leave those for my nights out with the hubby.

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Quoting Shelly:



Quoting Helen:

bad teenage mums (sorry to all the good young mums) standing around in the cold smoking with their mates while the babies scream






Helen,






  Did you ever stop to think that maybe that baby had been screaming for awhile and those parents need to walk away before they lost it on the baby...I would much rather have them out there smoking than laying hands a thier child because they are at thier wits end....Most of the pet peeves on here are common sence and some what judgemental but you are just plan flat judging this mom I'm guessing b/c you are anti-smoking and has nothing to do with the screaming child!!!  Just b/c she was doing something that you don't approve of doesn't make it wrong for her and thank God she walk out side to smoke and wasn't sitting there holding her screaming child with a cigarette hanging out of her mouth...





 



I agree going out is better than having a smoke hanging out of her mouth, but I see that alot... and I know quite a few girls that use smoking as an excuse not to deal with their screaming baby. "Oh my god I can't handle this, I need a break. I NEED A SMOKE!" and leave. And they will do it EVERYTIME their child cries. They don't try to comfort their baby. It makes me sad for that baby. I used to work at the mall here, and my store was right across from the side entrance and the food court right beside that. I saw it all the time. So maybe Helen isn't just judging that mom, there's a very good possibility that that's what the mom was doing.

Hope - posted on 05/13/2009

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I think everyone should mind their own..well unless you witness that, that parent is being stupid and putting their child at harms way, Like (Example) if I seen someone I sort of know well enough and I seen them doing drugs around their kid or hitting them I would likely call the authorities on them..cause would hate to see a kid go through all that its not fair to them. And as far as smoking goes I think if your going to smoke then take shifts with your hubby or bf,,,or fiance whatever, and go where they are not in arms reach.

Michelle - posted on 05/12/2009

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just a survey here.....who in this group has more than two kids that range from 19 years old to 8 years old. Has worked part time, full time and been stay at home mom? Hmmmm, lots of judgement on this sight. You never know what other people are experiencing until you have been there yourself. Make it right for your children, let other people decide what is best for them! Thought I would add...I asked my 10 year old if his emotional "tank" felt full. He responed, "more like my emotional ocean." Each kid is different, each parent is different. Respect that.

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My biggest pet peeve that parents do is lecture you on what they do that you don't do and act as though they are better than you because they have chose to raise their child in a different manner. Examples: feeding a child - mothers that blend up their own food vs mothers that buy the lil jars of food. Immunizations - mothers that get their children immunized vs mothers that choose not too. The list goes on and on. I hate it when parents go on and on about "what is best" for baby when they're being hypocritical just by saying that.



As for things that parents do with their children that ticks me off....... parents that leave their child with relatives/friends all day, everyday just to do whatever they want to do.

Samantha - posted on 05/12/2009

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I hate when parents yell at there child in public, especially when there are other kids around. I feel like it's embarrising to the child. I know that some would say that the embarassment will help the child not to do the bad behavior again, but i feel bad for the kids. I worked with both Santa Clause and the Easter Bunny this year and i hated it when parents let their kids run wild and be destructive, and then don't clean up any mess that the child makes. Rude parents annoy me as well. To me, it teaches the next generation to be rude to sales people.

Samantha - posted on 05/12/2009

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I hate it when ANY parent not just young ones as I have seen older parents do the same thing, smokes with there children in grabbing length or in the car smoking with their children.



I also hate when when people refer to the "young moms" just because you are younger doesn't mean that we are bad. Every parent starts somewhere if you where 34 with your first kid it is the same thing as if you where 23 you all start out in the same boat. I have seen older parents do things to their children that I would never do to my child so it is just not the young ones.



I hate it when children go to a restaurant and run around screaming climbing under the table and the parents just sit there and let them do it. Come on your children are acting badly just stand up and get them to sit in there seat.



I hate it when people come up to me and automatically think it is okay for them to pick up my child. I don't know you please don't touch her!.



I also hate it when parents swear directly to their children.



My number one pet peeve is when people have babies just to have babies. We are not their mother you are and we should not be raising them you should.



I have to disagree with the leashes thing I watch my nephew on a regular basis and he does not behave in public he runs everywhere, he has gotten lost in malls and stores so having the leash helps him stay with me. After all I would feel awful if he took off from me. The leash was not designed to make your child look like a dog, it was designed to keep them safe in crowds and public.

Hope - posted on 05/12/2009

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6,7, year olds looking after a 2 year old? EXACTLY where the hell is the mother? That is too young to leave kids unattended. And kids should not be running bare footed in public places there could be glass and god knows what else.

Jennifer - posted on 05/12/2009

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kids running around public places w/ bear feet!! c'mon now i know they have something and i also used to work daycare and know ppl that send there kids when they have a day off, sometimes ok, but usually just makes me think they are LAZY :) and just the other day i was at the park, these 3 kids showed up, about 6, 7 and a little guy maybe 2 no parents in site the whole time i was there, when the older kids wanted to do something else i saw them just draggin the little one off to where ever mom mustve been ?? I cannot stand moms who expect older siblings to be parents!

Sherri - posted on 05/12/2009

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Yeah, I was lucky enough to have a choice to stay home with my son... but i think it's a grass is always greener type thing... people now adays feel so insecure with their own decisions that they have to make other people feel bad about theirs...

Hope - posted on 05/12/2009

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I see what you mean Sherri..Seems like people have nothing better to do than to judge other moms whether work or stay at home. but to be honest I've been judged for being a stay at home mom from a working mom like I was lazy or something made me feel bad about myself and I was like thinking its not like I choose not to work there is times I wanna get back out in the work world sooner but I rather stay home with her til she goes to school. Though I feel its going to be a challange as I never had to worry about things like picking her up from school on time those types of things. And the headlice thing I am not looking forward to that when come time my daughter goes to school as its hard work getting rid of those little suckers.

Sherri - posted on 05/12/2009

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The BIGGEST pet peeve that I have is the working mom/ sahm battle that has been going on for years... I have done both, they are both difficult in their own ways.. Being a mom in general is hard work... can't we just look at other moms with more understanding than bashing on their choices to stay at home or work...

Laura - posted on 05/10/2009

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Things that annoy me are kids with snotty noses that have clearly been there for ages and the parent hasn't wiped it. Also when the parent is dressed like a fashion plate, but the child is dressed in filthy/ill-fitting clothes.

Michelle - posted on 05/10/2009

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My biggest pet peeve are parents that are more concered with how other people parent and don't take a good strong look at what they might be doing wrong themselves. Mother of four here. I've done bad stuff, I've done awesome stuff. Parenting is a learning experience for all. Another pet peeve....people that criticize others in front of their kids (the most commom name for children). Take the plank out people, work on yourself.

Cathy - posted on 05/10/2009

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Personally, and I know its not the popular opinion, the new law against smoking in the car with children present crosses way over the line and into personal boundaries. If they are going to ban smoking from our cars now, what's next...our homes? People need to back off the smokers, and concentrate on other problems...drinking and driving, drinking around kids, drinking period. I can't stand when people get so holier than thou about smokers...just one mom's opinion.

Hope - posted on 05/10/2009

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Quoting Holly:



Quoting Jessie:

I hate it when people smoke in their cars with children, or anywhere near their children or someone else's child for that matter! And people who don't wash their hands before holding a baby. Also people who act like I'm being unreasonable if I ask them to wash their hands first. And finally people (strangers) who touch babies without asking! EW!






I agree.  There is nothing more disgusting than seeing mom smoking in the minivan.  And why are perfect strangers touching my babies curls all the time? Not only do they have unwashed hands but I have no idea if they could be sick or even perverse.  I know most are just innocent people wanting to touch his crazy curly hair but it freaks me out.





OK the situation or pet peeve with smoking in the car with children present..umm just wondering I heard that is Illegal now to smoke in the car with babies or children I seen the other day a dad smoking on the playground with his child present.  My fiance smokes but he doesn;t do it near her or well that would be in harms way.

Casey - posted on 05/10/2009

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I can't stand seeing parents dressed up all nice and warm and their child is dressed in a summer outfit and it's the middle of winter, I also hate it when someones child is sick and they go out of their way to come and visit (someone did this to me when I was still in hospital after just having a caesar, very stupid), I also hate it when you hear a mother say "just wait till your father gets home from work" grow a set and sort the problem out there and then don't make dad out to be the bad guy, I really can't stand naughty agressive children who hit, punch and bite either if your not going to control your child keep it away from mine, oh and one last one the parent who can't just say NO if your child is screaming it's head off because it wants a toy you don't have to say yes just to shut it up just say NO and walk away. Phewww that feels better, lol.

Jakki - posted on 05/09/2009

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This is very entertaining! We've all got a lot of pet peeves!



These are mine:



1) parents who have taught their kids its OK to scream "I don't like that" when they're given something to eat while visiting someone else's place. If they don't like something, they should be polite about it, not scream at you, or repeat it 10 times as if you'll be interested.



2) Mothers who talk endlessly about their kids and look bored as soon as you try to enter the conversation.



3) parents who sabotage your attempts to feed your kid a healthy diet by pulling out junk food at every opportunity. I mean - we've just gone to the park for a play, why do you have to hand around a ton of chocolate to all the kids? It's not a birthday party.



4) people who give their kids ridiculously expensive toys.



That's me for today!

Hope - posted on 05/09/2009

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I've been in the grocery store trying to get groceries and I will do my best to calm her down but then you have strangers who come up and like do the awwww makes me feel bad cause I am trying to remove her from the situation til she is calm and once she is calm I try it again as groceries need to be done. But I hate it when people stare at you and give you dirty looks..its like take a damn picture...I admit before I had a baby I use to be one of those people who would give looks to parents like oh god stop your kid from crying but now that I have a baby 14month old..I am on the other side of the tracks now and see what other mothers feel so you start to realize that you should not be judging anybody.

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Quoting Nicole:



Quoting Kelly:

I can't stand parents who take their kids to restaurants and let them cry and scream. Other people go out to have a nice time. If your child starts to cry, you get up and take them out of the restaurant or to the bathroom until they stop, you don't disturb everyone else in the restaurant because you want to have "a night out with the family".






Sorry but I really have to disagree with this one! I dont want to start an arguement but I would like to know what others think! One time I took my little girl out to supper..why not right? Children are humans too and deserve to get taken out for a treat once in a while. We were sat at a table next to a young couple...well my little girl was coloring and then became impatient while waiting for the food and got a bit fussy...she wasnt screaming or anything but was starting to cry a bit and the couple next to us asked to be moved! I totally felt bad and yes I really do understand where they were coming from you want  to get out for a nice dinner...but I really dont think you should have to leave the restaurant because your kid is crying. If you can go out and have supper then why cant a family????? I dont see anything wrong with it and I think anyone who has kids should understand that this is probably going to happen from time to time. I have two children and we go out for family night almost every week! I dont think it is very fair for people to say that we arent allowed to go to a restaurant in case our kids start to cry about something!





this is a tricky one, i think if you go to a family restaurant then we should all as families, cut each other some slack if our children start up (if their crying hysterically then i would hope anyone would take there child to the toilet or outside just to calm them down) but I agree that if they just being a bit niggly / whingey, then I also wouldn't be expected to remove my child from the table.  If you go to a restaurant that is more adult with kids, then I think you should be a bit more wary.



I have a 5 month old baby girl and I sometimes gets very embarresed if she starts up (she can not only turn on a sxpence ! but she has a scream that could shatter glass !!) and I will always try to calm her down but I do think poeple should be a bit more patient and understanding....I'm usually stressed enough that she's screaming as it is !! ha ha ha 

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It really erks me when another parent (stranger) sticks there nose where it doesn't belong and try to tell you how to control your children. Also, i hate it when parents let there children leave their houses with dirty faces.... just gross.....

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As I read on who quoted my comment I realized I made a typo and it didn't make sense the first sentence.

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Quoting Hope:

Now one more thing I will also add that I agree with putting your kids in day care when your not working. Now that is just tacky and wrong. If you didn't want kids then you shouldn't have laid on your back then. Sorry if that sounds harsh but I mean come on Time with your children is precious and should enjoy every minute with them cause when they grow up and don't need you anymore your going to regret it.


I love to spend time with my children!  But why do you think it is wrong if I need to go home and do some yard work before I pick up the kids.  When they are at daycare they are playing and having fun.  If I bring them home and have to mow the lawn who is going to be watching the kids in the house or outside?  I have to get the lawn mowed and do not want to worry about if they are safe or not.  I think as long as the kids are safe and having fun it does not hurt for them to stay in daycare on my day off. 



Yes I beleive there are extremes.  Example my husband was out of a job and he still brought our daughter to daycare so he can sit at home and do what he wants.  Now that is a whole new story.

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Parents who fail to invest in their children. Not reading to them. Not insisting that they use their inside voices when appropriate. Not learning to eat properly at the table, including using a napkin. Cool-aid stains on the mouth, so that the children look like little unwanted, uncared-for orphans. Failure to model proper protocol in public. Uncombed, unwashed hair and dirty nails. Failure to say please and thank you. Cripes, I bet you can tell that I'm old!

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Quoting Amanda:

I can't stand when the mother and/or father is dressed to the 9's. All nice looking, smelling good and then here come some ratty haired, dirty, holey clothed kids that smell bad and have obviously not taken a bath in awhile or had their teeth brushed.

Why on earth would ANYONE let their child be so neglected yet take care of themselves?? I'm not talking like the kids just came from the sand box and were dirty; I'm talking the mom or dad wants nothing to really do with raising their kids but sit home and collect a check for them and spend the money on themselves and not the kids. That irks me!

What irks me worse is when the parents neglect to care for the kids and they have the kids taking care of themselves, example out where I live, there are a lot of 4 year olds taking care of their 18 month old siblings. The diapers are loaded, the kids are hungry and crying and the older sibling smacks the baby around cause that's what they see at home. The parents are either drunk or high or not even home. The kids are running around at night with no shoes, outside playing in the dark and the parents aren't even watching them. I have called the cops plenty of times because I'm afraid these kids are going to be hit by a car, or kidnapped or possibly raped. They talk about sex and know what sex is at 4!!!!! I'm sorry but that is way to young.

I can't wait to get out of this place and move my family somewhere safer.


I hate the whole they dont have there hair brushed stuff to or the whole I didnt take time look but now with my 4 year old I love doing her hair but she hates it she cries and sometimes she enjoys it. I feel terrible making her cry over her hair but I also dont want it to look like a rats nest I know threres a few times I didnt end up doing her hair before we went out do to her reactions.

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Three pet peeves.....1) Parents who buckle themselves up properly in a vehicle but in this day in age....still let their children jump around the back seat!!!! and 2) I have seen it atleast a dozen times where Mom or Dad has a parka on and baby is wearing next to nothing!!! 3) Parents who use swear in front of their children.

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My pet peeve is when other parents say rude things to other parents...like the harness thing...I totaly plan on using one in certain situations...Like when you are at a fair or carnival....it is to easy for someone to make off with a child. I don't think that makes me a bad mother or that I have a "problem" taking care of my child. I watch my child but it is way to easy for them to get away from you and in my opinion I would rather be safe than sorry with my child. I know these people commenting on harnesses are not trying to be rude but it feels that way just cause their comments make us mothers that do use or plan to use them fell like bad mothers and we are not.



I just wish that mothers wouldn't come down so hard on other mothers for stupid things....If my child has a dirty face so what?? He is having fun and living life not sitting somewhere to afraid to get "dirty".....If my child has second had cloths so what??? Children grow way to fast to buy EVERYTHING new. There are better things to worry about out there...like child abuse and neglect....leaving a child in a store that has lots of toys while you go off and shop...now that is something to be angry about!

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Quoting Rachel:

i hate it when you see a parent being rough whilst dealing with the winges. eg: child is sooking because obviously tired, parent reefs child and shoves into stroller and tells them off then continues looking at clothing.... it makes me worrie whats it like at home for that child,


I think Rachel is either Aussie or Brit (whinges = whining, sooking = sulking, reefs = yank on the arm, etc)



I definitely agree with her about this behaviour from parents, also another mom posted about kids being left out alone by the road - super dangerous, hello??



Another thing I really disagree with is parents whose kids have done something really wrong (stealing, beating up on someone, etc) and who don't discipline then, then get angry when they are taken to task by society or the courts.



If you are a parent, be a parent. Don't blame your children's horrid behaviour on other people, or society. I know a lot of kids who could have turned out really rough, in trouble with the law, etc, and their parents stood up and took responsibility for them, made tough choices to heal/help the behaviour, and these kids are now wonderful people.

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here is what really gets me.... when the child is yelling back at the parent(in public) like they are the BOSS?! OR when the 6-8 yr old child is sitting in the basket in the store and throwing a fit over a toy that they didnt get. I know that if my brother or I did that, we would have been taken to the bathroom and had our butts busted!!!! It is almost like parents don't disipline at all anymore! At what point do you draw the line?

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here is what really gets me.... when the child is yelling back at the parent(in public) like they are the BOSS?! OR when the 6-8 yr old child is sitting in the basket in the store and throwing a fit over a toy that they didnt get. I know that if my brother or I did that, we would have been taken to the bathroom and had our butts busted!!!! It is almost like parents don't disipline at all anymore! At what point do you draw the line?

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People who attempt to take my child out of my arms, out of the buggy, grab or touch her and try to play with her without asking for my permission first. You teach your own children stranger danger, maybe try implementing it when YOU are out in public!! It makes me so angry and it makes it worse when they pick a fight after I tell them to get away.

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I can't stand when the mother and/or father is dressed to the 9's. All nice looking, smelling good and then here come some ratty haired, dirty, holey clothed kids that smell bad and have obviously not taken a bath in awhile or had their teeth brushed.



Why on earth would ANYONE let their child be so neglected yet take care of themselves?? I'm not talking like the kids just came from the sand box and were dirty; I'm talking the mom or dad wants nothing to really do with raising their kids but sit home and collect a check for them and spend the money on themselves and not the kids. That irks me!



What irks me worse is when the parents neglect to care for the kids and they have the kids taking care of themselves, example out where I live, there are a lot of 4 year olds taking care of their 18 month old siblings. The diapers are loaded, the kids are hungry and crying and the older sibling smacks the baby around cause that's what they see at home. The parents are either drunk or high or not even home. The kids are running around at night with no shoes, outside playing in the dark and the parents aren't even watching them. I have called the cops plenty of times because I'm afraid these kids are going to be hit by a car, or kidnapped or possibly raped. They talk about sex and know what sex is at 4!!!!! I'm sorry but that is way to young.



I can't wait to get out of this place and move my family somewhere safer.

Amanda - posted on 05/08/2009

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I can't stand when the mother and/or father is dressed to the 9's. All nice looking, smelling good and then here come some ratty haired, dirty, holey clothed kids that smell bad and have obviously not taken a bath in awhile or had their teeth brushed.



Why on earth would ANYONE let their child be so neglected yet take care of themselves?? I'm not talking like the kids just came from the sand box and were dirty; I'm talking the mom or dad wants nothing to really do with raising their kids but sit home and collect a check for them and spend the money on themselves and not the kids. That irks me!



What irks me worse is when the parents neglect to care for the kids and they have the kids taking care of themselves, example out where I live, there are a lot of 4 year olds taking care of their 18 month old siblings. The diapers are loaded, the kids are hungry and crying and the older sibling smacks the baby around cause that's what they see at home. The parents are either drunk or high or not even home. The kids are running around at night with no shoes, outside playing in the dark and the parents aren't even watching them. I have called the cops plenty of times because I'm afraid these kids are going to be hit by a car, or kidnapped or possibly raped. They talk about sex and know what sex is at 4!!!!! I'm sorry but that is way to young.



I can't wait to get out of this place and move my family somewhere safer.

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