What are peoples thoughts about Teenage Parents??

Megan - posted on 10/12/2009 ( 63 moms have responded )

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Teenage Parents get alot of crap thrown at them. I myself am a Teenage Mum, I gave birth to a beautiful son when I was 18 and I have no regrets.

I want to know people's opinions good or bad about teenage parents and your reasoning to try and get a better understanding from both worlds.

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Megan - posted on 10/12/2009

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I was up for any kind of insight on the topic.
I myself feel like I need answers from the people who have a problem with teenage parents and I feel relieved that the common theme is that age doesn't define how good of a parent you are. I completely agree with the comments about that.
I myself feel like I have to prove something to the world because I had a child when I was 18, I need to get a good job because some people say ive ruined my life and im not going to get anywhere. I need to do so much more then any other parent (in the mid 20s and up) so I can prove to them all wrong!!!
I know alot of other girls feel the same way.
I dont believe that teenages that are parents should be given that title (teenage mum/dad) all though that is a fact i dont think we should be labeled. Im a MUM and thats it!! And im being the best mum i can be!!

Jana - posted on 10/12/2009

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I will be as honest with you as possible. I admire teenage mothers that take care of their own children and rely strictly on their parents to take care of their baby. A lot of the kids arond here get pregnant because they think having a child would be neat but don't consider the fact that babies come with good and bad experiences (explosive diarreah and vomiting being the bad). A lot of the kids have babies only wanting to play with them when they want to and then hand them to their parents and go out and party. My husbandwas a teenage father and a pretty good one at that. He went to high school, worked, then went and spent time with his children (his girlfriend had twins). He took responsibility and for that I think he was a great parent and for all parents young and old that take responsibility I admire them. For those who just parent when it is convienient, I don't know what to say other than sigh and shake my head.



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Caroline - posted on 10/12/2009

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I'm kind of by-ist on this. I had a beautiful little girl when I was 19, but I wouldn't want her to do the same thing. I missed out on a lot of things because I was a teenage mom. My friends didn't know how to deal with me being a mom. Don't get me wrong, they supported me and my decision to have my daughter, but it was harder to include me in things (they are very spontaneous).

On the other hand, I have a lot more than most of my friends. I have a college degree, a well paying job and own my house and car (I'm only 24). My parents were really supportive and I couldn't have done it without them. I wouldn't change having my daughter for anything, but like I said I wouldn't want her to go through the same thing. I took my responsibilities head on, not every teenage mom does.

Melisa - posted on 10/12/2009

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I fell pregnant at 19. I can say that i was devasted and really un happy for a while but i soon got used to the idea. Teenage mothers is just based on age. I dont believe that it creates what type of mother u are. I know some mothers that have had children in their late 20's warly 30's and they are not the best mothers in the world. I can also tell u about my friends parents who had them at 15 and 16 and they are still married own several houses and have been married for 30 years. And their children who are in their late 20's turned out fantastic. The stigma around teenage mothers is stupid and although some teenage mothers dont do a great job, i know alot who do. I love the fact that i'll be a young mother and i can count the amount of times i've been out and had a drink since he has been concieved on one hand. and he is 22 months old. Every person has their own opinion, but thats just what they are, opinions. And the sooner people stop judging mothers on their age and start doing so on their mothering skills the better.

April - posted on 10/12/2009

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I agree.. I too was a teenage mom.. Right now I am married to my highschool sweetheart and have another baby! Many people think that just because teens have kids they will ruin there life. Although I wished I would have waited to have my daughter, I honestly think it helped me mature fast. My husband and I are growing stronger together each day. When we turned 18 we wanted to get married and at 22 I had another baby boy. Also, I was able to get a good job at the US Attorneys Office and have grown from there. I did not quit High school and after graduation I went to get my bachelor's degree. Im very proud to have accomplished everything that I have.



I do understand that some teens who get pregnant become less irresponsible, but it depends on the individual to learn from the experience and grow from there..



April

Emily - posted on 10/12/2009

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I had twin boys at 19(their father was 18, he's 6months younger than me) It was hard but as long as you are responsible & know what you have to do things generally fall into place. My boys father & I did not live together until after our boys turned a year old. Then we lived with my parents for about 9-10months. Once we got our own place things started getting better. I agree with the other moms that say that age doesn't really matter as much as how mature a person is.

Fransisca - posted on 10/12/2009

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I think that like everything its all about the person there are some really great teenage parents as there are some real bad ones life is such that we still seem to judge people but age not what they can really do and its sad im am now an older mum and i was a teen mum i find that i am still learning and i take great pride in the fact that i can still learn from the young ones i dont agree with everything that they do but i think that there are some great hings going on for both mums and babies and i have to admitt that it was the young ones that got some of it up and running so like everything in life theres good and bad on both sides. And mum doesnt Know everything lmao.

Bethany - posted on 10/12/2009

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I completely agree with you! Some people are ready when they are young and some should never have kids. Its not about us any more its about the kids :)

Mandy - posted on 10/12/2009

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im a teenage mum 17 and having my baby was the best thing that happened to me. really helped me grown up and start acting my age!!! i think i am as good a mum as anyone older lol. am loving it :)

Yvonne - posted on 10/12/2009

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Hello I was a teenage mom and We planned to have our daughter, I know people are gonna say u were to young but i had taken care of my brothers and sisters kids before i had my first so i knew i was gonna be up all night and i knew babies were expecensive. At that time my husband had a good job and he was working 6 days a week. and i was in my last year of high school but i was ready to be a Mom. When Sam was born it was not a big shock to me i had 9 months to figure this baby is gonna be a lot of hard work, no sleep and diapers and bottles and no sleep so it came to me quite naturally, the ones i dont agree with at the ones who get pregnant cause its cool, Then when baby comes Mom has the baby all the time cause u hear i need my time after u have a baby there is no u time.

Melissa - posted on 10/12/2009

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I worked for Parents as Teachers for 6yrs (taking some time off since I had twins). I worked with a wide array of mothers and fathers. I think it really depends on the mom or dad and if they want to put the time in to be a good parent. I had parents that were in there 30s that had issues and I had parents that were in their teens that were amazing. One couple had their child their junior yr of high school. Both of them worked after school, graduated, she went on to be a dental hygenist, he has a good job to...they are married now and have another child. The young mans mom did help with babysitting.



That is something too....I think a teen can really benifit from someone that believes in them and helps them. People are so judgemental. I just feel like if the girl is already pregnant...why should we berade her over what she should or shouldn't have done???? What is DONE IS DONE!!!((get off your soap box people!!). Yeah its going to be hard...but what can we do to help her??? You don't kick someone when their down.



I used to get so aggravated at people that would make judgemental coments. They don't make them to me anymore lol. So that is my opinion. :0)

Iysha - posted on 10/12/2009

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I agree with Jordan... I know excellent teenage moms and horrible teenage moms. When I say horrible, I mean like all her kids are taken away from her by the state after numerous chances to prove herself a fit mother. On the other end of the spectrum, I know a mother who had her child way earlier than the other mom at only 14 and is wonderful...She was a single mother for a while, is now in a relationship, has an apartment, has a good job and now has 3 kids at the age of 21. It all depends on the mom, if she is willing to step up.

Jordan - posted on 10/12/2009

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I don't think being a teenage parent is bad; but it is also not good either. Your age doesn't really define what kind of mother you will be; it all depends on how you take on that big responsibility. There are some teenage mom's that do a better job than an older; more experienced mother. Being a teenage mom can also be a bad thing too, because you are still so young and lets face it; after you have a baby it isn't about you anymore. So it all just depends on the person; it can be good or it can be bad depending on how you look at it :)

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