What are your views on ear piercing?

Amanda - posted on 08/27/2010 ( 57 moms have responded )

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I have two girls, 2 1/2 and 10months, I always expected to want to leave it to them till they were old enough to care for them, but now have an overwhelming 'oh it would look so cute' urge to just get them done whilst they are young enough to not have to take them out for pe at school so they can just get healed and that's that. what do i do?



i already know about all the risks involved and am a member of the 'no guns' posse.

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Dominique - posted on 08/27/2010

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I got my daughters done at 3 months old. I didn't have a choice at all, my mom did them when i was young, i was happy she did because i dont remember it at all. I have got my ears pierced two more times and i remember that lol. Just go get them done, in my opinion, their gonna want them done anyways once they are in school and see that other little girls have there ears done.

Angie - posted on 08/27/2010

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I have to disagree with Dora, this is not your decision but hers. Yes she could take them out later, but it may scar or the holes may never close because of the piercing at such an early age. I think your first Instinct is correct, leave body motification to her. And honestly, I don't think it's cute at all, I think it's silly and not done for the benefit of the child but of the parents. Every time I see a baby with piercings, I feel bad for them because that decision was made for them.

Dora - posted on 08/27/2010

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I really think the decision is completely up to you as their mom. I have some friends who had their babies ears pierced by the pediatrician at 6 months and I also had friends wait until their little girl was old enough to make he decision. If you decide to get them pierced now and then they change their minds when they are older, they can simply take the earrings out.

Jennifer - posted on 09/02/2010

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My daughter was 6 weeks old when I hadhers done and she is 12 now an loves having her earings in so I think it is alot better to have it done while they ar babies cause they cant mess with them.

Jennifer - posted on 09/01/2010

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I pierced my eldest's at 6 months. She pulled them out within 2 months. No harm, no foul.

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Tacy - posted on 02/20/2012

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I chose to have my ears pierced at 12 years old. A few months after I got them pierced I started having problems with metal allergies and am now allergic to many kinds of metal. (I have a platinum ring which I can wear.) I also do know girls who do not want their ears pierced. I would wait.

Tracy - posted on 09/29/2010

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Not until they can take care of them. That is my stance. I was 12 for my first hole but was tried at 5 and the gun got stuck in my ear. I have friends who never got it done. I feel it the kid's choice, and let them be old enough to deal with what that choice entails.

Corrina - posted on 09/02/2010

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My girls both had their ears pierced by the time they were 1. I think this was easier because it was easier for me to keep them clean until they healed. And after having them done at 7 myself i remember.
I think it really is up to you to decide whether or not to do them now or later because no matter when you choose the way that they are done is not gonna change.

Dena - posted on 09/02/2010

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I had mine done when I was very young and was grateful because I grew to be scared of needles. I wouldn't have done it as a child I would have wanted it tho. My daughters were done at 3 months and she dried for a minute but was smiling after. We did it before she rolled around and could pull on them. Now she doesn't bother them because she has had them most of her life. It is not torture because they forget easily. I peirced ears at my old job and yes it was sad to see them upset but all of them were easily distracted I aw older children act worse. My daughter is a girly girl she loves getting other. Earings put it in it is your choice!

Ameerah - posted on 09/02/2010

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My baby girl Jaida got her ears pierced at 5 months....between the 4 and 6 month vaccination. I did it at the hospital and cleaned them daily in her bath by rotating them with soap and water. She never had any problems with them. For me, it was more of a cultural thing....Egyptians pierce girls ears when they're just born, so I was considered "late" at getting them pierced. Just stick to the cute simple studs and Good Luck !!!

Shannon - posted on 09/02/2010

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I think kids should be the ones to make the decision to get their ears pierced. When my daughter comes up to me and says "mommy I want my ears pierced" then I will get it done, because it was her decision, and not my own. Plus, babies LOVE to pull on their ears and I would hate for my little one to rip her earrings out...I would feel horrible!

Helen - posted on 09/02/2010

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personaly i hate them - especially in the really young and as a teache they are a total pain as the children have to either tape over them or take them out for all sports and practical activities

Jamie - posted on 09/01/2010

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my daughter is 2 and i had hers done at 3 months old. we haven't had any problems. i figured if she wants more then i will leave that up to her but i wanted her to have the first ones done

Elizabeth - posted on 09/01/2010

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Just got my daughter's ears done at 16 1/2 months. There was no fuss at all when they were first pierced. Yes, she's discovered them and tugged a few times. It hasn't caused any trouble and its been almost a month. Clean them properly. My ears were pierced as an infant also, and I was very active in sports (basketball and volleyball) as a child, never had a problem.

Trisha - posted on 09/01/2010

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I got my daughters ears done when she was five months old and she wore them until she was three. I got her new earrings and after I took the old ones out she didnt want me to put the newones in! So I suggest waiting until they get older and can tell you if they want them or not.

Kayleigh - posted on 09/01/2010

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what the hell... "t is advisable to do it in an early age because it is less painful to the kids" - RUBBISH.... of course it doesnt hurt less... its just that babies can only express pain by crying rather than moaning constantly about the pain.

personally i am DISGUSTED that people concider getting their daughters ears pierced before they can talk and decide themselfs. cute??? no... tacky!! babys are a symbol of innocence, you add ear piercings and they just look like the child of a chav... Also, it is my opinion that if a mother gets her daughters ears done, it is for the MOTHERS benefit. not the childs.

As for what girl doesnt want her ears pierced... PLENTY!!!

i was 6, i made the choice.. i went to school.. teachers tell you to take them out or cover them with plasters for P.E... mine got ripped out. I have a scar, but i also got them re-done. however, if i have a daughter... she will be waiting till secondary school before she gets hers done!!!

p.s. im not against piercings, i have 3 holes in each ear (dont wear them tho) tongue, belly bar and 3 tattoos.

babies DO NOT need their ears pierced!

Jaime - posted on 09/01/2010

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Putting clothes on your body is a whole lot different than putting holes in your body. Clothes help keep you warm and protect sensitive areas from exposure to dirt and bacteria. Earrings are an accessory.

Manuela - posted on 08/31/2010

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well everyone looks at it from difrent point of view. But I know from one of my friends, she had them done at 2 month and later lost the earring at vacation in africa and they did not have good earring there, so she did not bother putting new once in till christmas (6 month later) and the wholes where still there and she was 18 at the time.
But one thing, WHAT girl does NOT want to have there ears pierced? I got mine done at 10 years and was constinly playing with them and got them infected, my 2 oldes girls got them done where they where 5 days and no problems, and now my baby #4 (girl) had them done at 2 month, but it was cause I had no time to do it earlyer. Your choice, and show them other kids with earrings and the oldes will kind of know if she wants it already.
PS. My grandfather always said, if God wanted us to have earing we would have been born with them, but then I also told him, If God wanted us to wear clothes, he would have put us in to this world with wearing clothes and send us a backpack with clothes too. DONT YOU THINK SO?

Jaime - posted on 08/31/2010

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Earrings are an accessory. Accessories are lovely, but not loved by everyone. I don't think that ear piercing is wrong or cruel, I just think it's a decision that the child can make for themselves. The "it's less painful when they're younger" excuse doesn't really work, because there are a lot of painful things that kids undergo when they are older that can't be made easier at a younger age. And not every kid wants their ears pierced.

Hina - posted on 08/31/2010

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it is advisable to do it in an early age because it is less painful to the kids.I did my daughter's ear pierced when she was 8 months old and trust me she was just fine and I did mine when I was in grade 5...mine was a lot painful...so with my experience my daughter is going to be really happy about the fact that I did hers at an ealry age...
good luck:)

Gina - posted on 08/31/2010

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My daughter is now 7 years old, but I pierced her ears when she was 3 months old , because I was able to care for them till it healed properly, and also because her motor skills were not fully developed, she wasn't able to try and pull them off. I think it's the best time to do it.

Jaime - posted on 08/31/2010

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lol...99% of kids want candy for breakfast too, but I'm pretty sure we don't give in to their demands. Girls might very well want their ears pierced and there's nothing wrong with them having pierced ears. What I wonder is what is wrong with letting them make the choice?

Samantha - posted on 08/30/2010

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My little one was 2 when she got hers done. Two guns no tears. She said she wanted pretty ears like her big sister. No dramas at all with them.

Lorraine - posted on 08/30/2010

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I believe 99% of girls want their ears pierced. Pierce them. Just make sure the guns are clean ad take care of them once done.

Maddi - posted on 08/30/2010

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I had my daughters done at a few months old, I did this because my parents wouldnt let me get mine done till I was 12 and I wished I could have had them done alot earlier because alot of the other girls picked on me for not having them done, I also think it does look cute, but I was also sick of people saying aww isnt he cute, even when she was dressed in pink because she has short hair as it just doesnt seem to grow, since she has had her ears done now no one has mistaken her for a boy since, me and my partner were both ok with the choice to get them done, For me it becomes a choice of the parents when they are little or the child once old enough to ask if they havent had them done yet. And it really irritates me that other mums can put mothers down who's daughters do have their ears pierced early, it is our child not theirs and im sure they parent in other ways that not everyone would agree with.. And yes if the child chooses to take them out then they can and they will close over, I have had many piercings and taken them out and they have closed over, I at one stage have had 14 in my ears and now only have 4 and the others have closed right up, I also had my nose done but took it out and it closed over fully and have had it done again since.

Veronica - posted on 08/30/2010

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I say if you want to do it, then do it. I have 3 boys, but if I had had a girl I would've done it at 3 months or so. I think that it is cute too =]

Courtney - posted on 08/30/2010

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Definately think you should wait till they will want them done. But make sure they have two people, one at each ear and do it at the same time so it's not as painful and they don't freak out as bad. I learned that lesson the hard way. lol

Amanda - posted on 08/30/2010

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i was 10 and the last girl in my class by a fair mile. i begged from when i was 8, i was also the first girl in my family to have my ears pierced at all. i ended up taking them out due to infection and getting them re-done at 13, 2nd holes at 15, navel at 16 (due to complications had it done 3 x and no longer wear a bar) then at various times i had my lip pierced, my septum (twice coz i lost the bar first time), industrial (diagonal top of the ear piercing) tragus... erm think that's it.... now only wear my tragus, those who think their holes have healed up, its a very thin covering at the back, can take a while to pop through it, or if you have a suitably sharp earring a sharp push and it goes right through, no healed as in full thickness - i know coz i only wear earrings maybe once a year.

Jaime - posted on 08/30/2010

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Relax Stephanie, I didn't launch an assault on your comment, I simply pointed out that ear piercing isn't mandatory for children. Getting their ears pierced young isn't to prevent them from feeling pain later on, it's purely because parents WANT their kids to have their ears pierced at that age (because it's cute)...and in my opinion it's a choice that kids can make for themselves.

Lisa - posted on 08/30/2010

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My hubby always if we had a daughter she could wait until she was a teenager. However, we've left it up to our daughter to decided. She'll be 4 in December and has been asking to get her ears pierced and daddy told her once she stops pooping her pants (she doesn't believe girls poop) and starts brushing her teeth morning and night without putting up a stink she can. And wouldn't you know it, it has worked. So, probably for her birthday in December I'll take her in.

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ok first off no one said ear piercing was mandatory for survival...2nd off there was nothing wrong with what i said and 3rd i never bashed anyones opinion like you just did mine.... PS THERE IS NOTHING WRONG WITH PREVENTING YOUR CHILD FROM BEING SCARED THERE ARE BIGGER ISSUES THAT COME WITH PARENTING

Lacey - posted on 08/30/2010

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i got my 1st daughters done when she was only a few months old and i'm so glad i did! she loves having them pierced and she of course doesn't remember the pain. i really think its up to mom and how mom truly feels about it. i just had twins and when my daughter gets of age i will be having hers done too.

Jaime - posted on 08/30/2010

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"keeping them from being to scared to do it later on"...last I checked ear piercing wasn't mandatory for human survival. I don't know that it's strong opposition so much as it's just some people's view that this is a choice best left to the person getting the piercing done.

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You aren't giving in to them when they are a baby you are keeping them from being to scared to do it later on.. they are just earings and can be easily taken out and they leave no mark if they are taken out.. i dont stand the strong opposition to it....

Dawn - posted on 08/30/2010

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Wouldn't it be easier if you just made her wait instead of giving in to a fickle child? I don't understand at all.

Dawn - posted on 08/30/2010

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Absolutely not!!!!! That is my opinion. I gag every time I see a baby with earrings. Waiting until they are able to take care of them is a great way to let them earn responsibility!!!!

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I got our daughters done when she was 3 months old only because i remember i was so scared to get it done when i was 6 but i still did it. I left them in until she started pulling at them around maybe 10 months old and at that point they stay open so i wouldnt have to do it again. when she was 2-3 yrs old she wanted them back in so i put the earings back in. And we have been doing it off and on ever since and she is now almost 7. Whatever she wants with them we do.I have various tat2's and piercings and i tell her that just because i have them in no way means she has to. I did pierce her ears early because i didnt want her to be scared or traumatized later on with it but i DO NOT FORCE HER TO KEEP THEM IN.

Ugwunwa - posted on 08/30/2010

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Well, i think it up to the girls to make a decision, but from the part of the world i come from, ear piercing is done at the birth of the child... and from my view, it can be more painful when the child is much grown because the skin isnt tender again...

Joanna - posted on 08/29/2010

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My view is it's not my body, so I'm not putting any holes in it! I'm letting my daughter decide if she wants them done when she's old enough to show responsibility to care for them, and has thought the decision through.

Although I have to say I also went through the "it would be so cute" phase when she was about 1 (and everyone commented on how handsome my son was *eye roll*), but I just stuck to my original plan and am happy I did.

Michelle - posted on 08/29/2010

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When I was growing up everyone told my mom I would look so cute with them done. She said it was not up to her that she wanted to leave it up to me and when I could take care of them myself and wanted them done then she would take me to get them done. I played sports all thru school and never wanted them done as I didnt want to take care of them and could care less about it. And I was affraid it would hurt. I finally got my first ones done after I was 21 and yes it hurt. Then I got two more sets done when I was 23, so now I have 3 in each ear. Im so glad she didnt take me to get them done when I was little.

Also my sister in law got her daughters done when she was a little baby. When she was around 2 or so her right earring was ripped out so she just had one left and a big rip in the other ear. They finally took her to get it redone after it was healed and all but I wouldnt want to put my child thru that.

I am expecting a girl in Oct and I am doing the same thing my mom did with me. I am leaving it up to her and if she wants them done and she can take care of them herself then I will take her and get them done for her. Until that time, Im not going to worry about it, which I think other people should do as well. Its up to them, not their mothers.

Bo Lynn - posted on 08/29/2010

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My mom had mine done when I was 3 months old and things seem to have went ok :p
My daughter was 10 months old when she got hers and she ended up tearing hers because she either slept wrong on them or grabbing the earring and pulling on it.
I thought she looked really cute with her earrings but I felt bad that they ended up hurting her. Now that they're out, I'm not sure if they've closed up yet. We will let her get them redone whenever she's ready like at age 10 or 13

Kassie - posted on 08/29/2010

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I did both of my girls at 6 months. My older daughters got infected and had to get them redone when she was 5.

Jaime - posted on 08/29/2010

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No, I'm pretty sure that "statistic" is 90% of parents want their kids' ears pierced. When kids are old enough to know what piercings are, then they can decide 'yes' or 'no' for themselves.

Diane - posted on 08/29/2010

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i think at least 90% of girls r going to want there ears pierced anyway so i would do it when there young to get it over with and babys take pain better then kids anyway lol cirum. dont hurt the babys anywway but it will hurt if they wait to get it done.

Tara - posted on 08/29/2010

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I waited until my two oldest girls were 9 and 7 respectively, they went together. They knew it was going to be painful and they chose to take the pain for the bounty of ear rings they had been collecting for the day when they were ready!
I don't agree with having a baby's ears pierced as they are not old enough to make that choice and just because we think it's cute doesn't give us the right alter their body like that. I feel the same about circumcision, it should be a persons choice whether or not they have something unnecessary done to their body especially one that is painful or could develop into an infection etc.
just my opinion though.

Diane - posted on 08/29/2010

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its not a big deal..im going to get my daughters ears pierced at about 3 to 4 months im sure

Amanda - posted on 08/29/2010

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I took my 3 month old. Just waited until it was time for her to eat. When they were done piercing ( takes less than a minute), just gave her the bottle & she has forgotten all about it. She cried of course but as soon as she got her bottle she was fine.

Deborah - posted on 08/29/2010

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I had to wait until I was 13 to get my ears done, and my mum would only let me get them done once before I was 18.

Even though I cleaned them, and mum made sure I was doing it right. My right ear got infected, it was agony.. Eventually we got it sorted out, and over the years I got another piercing in both ears and one on my right ear up at the top, can't remember the technical term.

These days I wear small sleepers in the first piercing I ever got, the others have been closed up for I don't know how long.

I don't really object to other people who get their kids ears pierced (and its not only girls, I've seen baby boys with 1 earring in), but I personally am bringing my daughter up to be independant and know her own mind and understand how her actions can affect others. Seems a bit hypocritical to say you're getting your ears done whether you want it or not...

Louise - posted on 08/29/2010

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I am 100% with Paula here. I have a 21 month old and there in no way I would have her ears peirced until she is about 7/8 and then it would be her choice and she would be old enough to understand that it does hurt and that she has to keep them clean. Having a piercing is a personal choice and not one that should be made by anybody else.

Paula - posted on 08/29/2010

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In some cultures it is tradition for children to be pierced but getting it done because it looks cute doesnt seem like a reason. It hurts as an adult and so a little growing soft ear must really hurt. Shouldnt we treat our children with the same respect that we expect for ourselves ? why change a physical aspect of their body when after all its their body!

Vanessa - posted on 08/27/2010

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Tradition in our family is age 3. that's how old my mum was, I was, and my daughters were!

Medic - posted on 08/27/2010

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I had mine done early and I had my daughters done at 2 months. My neice had hers done early then took them out at three and at five got them redone...and guess what the freaking holes closed up and you couldn't even see them. It's not like we are putting tats on our babies. I personally couldn't care less if anyone else likes my babies ears pierced but I do think it's a little sad to feel sorry for someone you know nothing about.

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I have no interest in caring for their pierced ears, so until they can start showing some responsibility in other ways.... it's not happening. They are 8.5 right now. They MIGHT be ready by 10.

Jaime - posted on 08/27/2010

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Personally I think this is a decision kids can make for themselves. I agree that earrings look cute on little girls, but I don't think it's a good enough reason to get the piercings done.

Tracy - posted on 08/27/2010

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For myself, I'm waiting until my daughter is old enough to show me that she can take care of her ears herself. This is in part because I personally believe that permanent modifications should be made by the person who's body is being modified. And also because I share custody with her father, the man can't be bothered to put her hair in pig tails and refuses to let me cut it. I don't trust him to take care of her ears if I got them done. She's also very rough and tumble, so I fear she'd end up ripping them out in play. She's already had to have an ear glued back together from splitting it on a coffee table, I don't want to have to have her lobes repaired too.
I was 12 when I got my first holes done. At 17 I had one ear done with a second hole. At this point, 20 years later, I'm not even certain I could get a post through any of them! I wear earrings maybe once a year. I'm allergic to nickle, and my kids seem to be taking after me on allergies. I'll let them decide when they're older if they want to modify their bodies.
Ultimately for you, it's up to you. You can get the ears done and deal with the potential of having to repair lobes, deal with infections, etc. Or you can let them decide to take on that headache for themselves when they're older.

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