What can I do ?

Autumn Rachell - posted on 02/01/2013 ( 17 moms have responded )

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I am 17 years old and have a 3 month old baby I don't turn 18 till oct. 13th. Can my mom keep me from the dad of my baby? What can I do ?

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Debbie - posted on 02/01/2013

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unfortunately as long as you live with your parents it is their rules. why not sit down and have a discussion. is he willing to support the baby, your mom might be upset because u had a baby so young. ask her why he can't come around, honesty is the best medicine. maybe she thinks you might get pregnant again?? he is the father and he can seek custody rights and u don't want a messy battle, so explain things to her. wish u luck

Holly - posted on 02/01/2013

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like dove said, call a lawyer. but i SERIOUSLY don't know HOW you can get your child taken away from you by taking him/her to see their father

Dove - posted on 02/01/2013

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Pull out the phone book and call a lawyer. It shouldn't be too hard to find one willing to just answer a couple of simple questions over the phone. I did it before when I had questions about a legal situation with my nephew.

Dove - posted on 02/01/2013

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I would talk to a lawyer. Unless West Virginia is completely backwards... you don't need your mom to sign the birth certificate on YOUR baby's birth certificate. You and your boyfriend have every right to make every decision for your own child unless she has taken you to court for custody and won. The father has just as much of a right to a relationship with the child as you do. Find out YOUR rights and do not let your mother interfere with decisions on your child that you and the father should be making together.

As far as moving out... I have no clue, but this is YOUR child and HIS child... not your mother's.

Holly - posted on 02/01/2013

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keep you how? in most states you can legally move out of the house at 17. if you and the father of the baby are not married, i suggest you get a court order for visitation and child support going... if you don't want to have the father pay child support then just ask him to buy diapers and clothing for the baby. ask him to help you buy necessities for the baby. but DEFINITELY get some sort of visitation order so that he has times when he is supposed to see the baby, and you mother can't stop him. I don't know if you are with the dad or not... you didn't call him your boyfriend or fiancee or anyhing.

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Autumn Rachell - posted on 02/14/2013

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We called & they said they will figure something something out& call back

Dove - posted on 02/14/2013

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She can't keep your child away from your child's father, but you are letting her.... and not calling a lawyer to find out your legal options.

Autumn Rachell - posted on 02/14/2013

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How could you say I'm being immature, all I'm trying to do is be able to see my boyfriend & have my daughters dad in her life. My mom shouldn't be able to tell me when he can see our daughter. & that he can't see me.

Fitri - posted on 02/01/2013

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Autumn, certainly you sounds immature and childish, no wonder your mom step over and control your life, because only looking at this thread i understand that your mom can't trust you to make any reasonable decision.

Snap up, stand up, and be mature. You are a MOTHER now.

Think not only about yourself or how you will be sad not together with the father. It's not you you you anymore. You lost that luxury once you decided to make a human being.

NOW:
1. Think what is the best of your child. Think carefully. Very carefully
2. Trust your judgment and decision, because you will take a decision by considering already all the possibilities and consequences
3. Stick with it, and take real action about it in a mature way. Screaming, running away, protesting is a child tantrum. You are an adult, deal with the problem in an adult way.
4. Everytime you get stuck and desperate, think again and slap yourself: remember a human being's life that you bring to the world is depend on you.
5. Be courageous, life will get upwards!

Autumn Rachell - posted on 02/01/2013

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Haha ! That's true. But I don't think I can wait that long to be with my boyfriend.

Dove - posted on 02/01/2013

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Well.... once October hits you could always move across the country and never see her again. ;)

I don't know what she can and can not do to control your life now, but once you turn 18... you can be free from her for the rest of your life.

Autumn Rachell - posted on 02/01/2013

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Alright I will give that a try. Thank you so much. I'm just afraid my mom is going to keep me from him till I'm 18. She will prob. Win this battle. She always finds a way to screw me over.

Autumn Rachell - posted on 02/01/2013

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Well , my mom said she can control me but not so much my kid. But it seems like she is controling both. She said she is going to make arrangements for my kid to see him so that way I can't see him. I don't want just my kid to see him I want to see him.

Autumn Rachell - posted on 02/01/2013

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Do you think it's worth a try to just leave ?? Or you think I can get into some trouble. My mom said they can take my kid.

Autumn Rachell - posted on 02/01/2013

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Well she told me I had to be 18 to put his name on there or she had to sing and she said she wasn't signing. && I filled out a birth certificate paper and put him as father & gave our kid his last name && her last name ain't even his. :/ .

Holly - posted on 02/01/2013

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Are you sure you need your mother to sign? I have not heard of that before... but then again i had my daughter when i was 18... and no, i don't think she can tell you anyhitng about going to see him. and if she tries to get the cops involved they will likely laugh in her face. you are only taking the child to see his/her father, and you are ALMOST 18. she will be the one looking bad.

Autumn Rachell - posted on 02/01/2013

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Yes he is my boyfriend. I live in West Virginia and I think you have to be 18 to move out. I wasn't sure if my mom could do anything if I just left to go see him and take our kid there. And my mom wouldn't sign to put his name on the birth certificate as her father. I have no clue what all I can do without my mom saying I can't...

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