what do i do about my mother in law?

Dominique - posted on 10/30/2012 ( 12 moms have responded )

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My husband and I was "busy" and the kids were sleeping and what happened was she called our phones, texted us, and we didnt answer so she seen we was home but she didnt knock or anything...she just walked in like oh they arent doing anything then she hollared "andy are u awake?" he said "yeah" well she walked in on us just at the door then seen something she shouldn't have seen but she didnt leave. what do we do?

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Jazmyne - posted on 10/30/2012

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I personally would have locked the door to the house, but if she is becoming overbearing, I would speak with your husband about it and see how he feels. Maybe you both need to sit down with her and explain to her that now you are married and need 'alone' time away from family.

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Angela - posted on 10/30/2012

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i would tie her up and put her in the cupboard lol.... jeeez. speak to your husbands brothers or move x

Lacye - posted on 10/30/2012

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Yes that is illegal. It's called breaking and entering. What you might have to do is just get in her face about it. I can't imagine having a mother in law like that. Thank God mine stays the hell away!

Jazmyne - posted on 10/30/2012

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Yes that is considered breaking and entering. If the police won't/ can't help you, maybe look into authorities outside your town. They have a responsibility to keep you safe, and you, by all rights and means, could file for protective services. (restraining order, OFP) By the way you describe this situation, to me, it sounds like stalking. You need help. And if none of the police in your area will help you, you need to find other resources. (IE: Go to a different town/ county)

Dominique - posted on 10/30/2012

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we have put our foot down and she refuses to listen to anyone. i told her abolutely NO COMPANY and she came anyway and then she txt me do u want me to take the babies like im not capable of taking care of them just cuz i dont feel good. we have tried notes calls txts leaving letters at her house outside and she still dont get it. is it illegal for her to enter our house without knocking and borrow my husbands guitar without consent and entering our home without any one there with no consent?

Lacye - posted on 10/30/2012

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Oh it's time to get nasty! There is no way in hell! Lock your doors, if she keeps on outside, walk down there butt ass naked and tell her that you and your husband are busy and if she wants to visit then she can come during the day time. Inform her that under no circumstances is she to come over after a certain time at night. Night time is your time! She is going way too far!

Shawnn - posted on 10/30/2012

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Next time invite her to join! And as she runs from the room, embarrassed, you can tell her you'll discuss the rest later.



Sounds like you and hubby need to put your foot down with her...and mean it. put everything in writing, and stick to what you say

Claudia - posted on 10/30/2012

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Omg how embarrassing! Your husband needs to set her straight. That's ridic. I'd be livid!

Dominique - posted on 10/30/2012

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Jazmyne,

We may have a problem with that. 1 of her sons (my husbands brother) and my husbands cousin are the cops that can come out here and the sheriff is a friend of the family and the hwy patrol officers are friends of the family too. so they wont do a thing about it.

Jazmyne - posted on 10/30/2012

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I have delt with this situation before. What me and my husband did was we Locked all doors and told her if she didn't leave we were calling the police to have her forcibly removed. (Harsh but effective) Never did get to the point of actually calling the police, but she got the message. Maybe tough love would work for you as well. (Although I only suggest this if it becomes WAY out of control)

Dominique - posted on 10/30/2012

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Jazmyne,

We have tried talking to her and being firm but we are in a no win situation. If we lock the door she dont leave either. My husband feels the same as i do but she refuses to listen to anyone...she so bad she wont listen to her own husband and family. not even her friends. she wants my husband and i to depend on her for everything like ok we have 2 kids and one vehicle at the moment and she dont want us getting another cuz she thinks she has to come with us when we take the babies to the hospital especially if one of us is going alone and we can watch both babies on our own if necessary. we told her by talking at her we dont need her help and it got worse and when we dont have her help she gets worse too. so we are in a no win situation.

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