what do u think about getting boys circumcision??

Rebecca - posted on 08/23/2009 ( 233 moms have responded )

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wont to get my boy circumcision but not sure if people do it any more.

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Quoting Terri:

As an emergency room nurse, maybe I can shed some light. To have it done or not is a personal choice. However if you choose not to then you need to know how to properly clean it. Every time you change the diapper you need to pull the foreskin all the way down so the head is completely exposed and clean it. I can't tell you how many little boys come in with infections because they aren't cleaned properly. The other problem is, if the skin is not pulled completely down over the head, the skin opening has a tendency to get smaller and when the baby has an erection (which is perfectly normal) the head can get stuck and basically have the circulation cut off. When this happens we have no choice but to pull the foreskin back over the penis head forcefully (very painfull). It breaks my heart when we have to do that. I've seen this happen to kids as old as 6 or 7. So if you choose not to circumsize be educated, talk to your pediatrician to learn proper care and cleaning. Hope this helps, Terri


Wow. Obviously being a nurse does not qualify you to give advice on foreskin care. The foreskin should never, ever be forcibly retracted during diaper changes. It should only ever be retracted by the boy homself once it retracts naturally (usually around age 5 or so). Retracting it the way you describe in your post is exactly what causes infections by tearing the skin. I've attached the AAP's statement on foreskin care if you'd like to take a look.



http://www.aap.org/publiced/br_uncircumc...

Minnie - posted on 08/23/2009

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The point that keeps coming up that gets me is "it's more common than not"- I'm assuming this is an attitude coming from those in the US, who tend to be incredibly egocentric and assume that what happens here MUST be the way it is the world over.



Circumcision is NOT common at all. The only cultures who routinely circumcise infant boys are Americans, Muslims, and Jewish people. And religious circumcision isn't similar in the slightest to what happens to little baby boys in US hospitals.



I still don't see why- if circumcision is this incredibe medical miracle that people make it out to be why aren't the men of the world flocking en masse to have it done? How are they managing to live healthy happy lives in that respect?



Because circumcision is unecessary. The whole hygiene issue just makes me laugh. Has any lady here taken the time to look below at HER genitalia? Lol. Women have way more folds and moisture there than any man does. And surprise surprise, all it takes to keep it clean is a swish of water.

Amanda - posted on 08/23/2009

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Quoting Tamara:



Quoting Sheila:

It helps to make sure they are cleaned well...my mother didn't get my younger brother circumcised and it caused an infection because it was her first boy and she didn't know she had to pull the skin back to clean it...she winded up getting him circumcised at 4...he was so pitiful!





You NEVER EVER EVER retract the foreskin before it retracts on its own.  That is absolutely WRONG.  You clean the foreskin like you would clean any other body part, just wipe it off.






I would just like to repeat that important information. You NEVER EVER EVER retract a childs foreskin before it does it on its own, which for most is over the age of 5! Watch the youtube videos there is a reason that doctor had to shove tools down the shaft of the penis before he cut the skin, it is NATURALLY attached to the penis to PROTECT it.

Tamara - posted on 08/23/2009

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Quoting Christa:




Easy...no need to be mean!!  Someone asked a question.  We are all invited to give our response.  You on multiple posts asked someone to else why clean it....I explained what the hospital explained to me FOUR times.  You agree it has to be cleaned just like a women's "vulva".  I have no desire to chop off any of my body parts and I don't believe a doctor using his medical equipement in a sterile environment is "chopping" anything.  You are entitled to our opinion and what you have done in your life.  I am entitled to the same.  We can both give our responses to Rebecca and she can make her own decision also.





I'm sorry you took offense to my wording, I have a very low tolerance for people that allow cosmetic surgery to be performed on their son's genitals.  Having watched a circumsion, it is very much chopping off a body part, even if it is done in a sterile environment.  (The vulva is the outer portion of a woman's gentials.  The vagina is the inner portion, fyi.)  If we're going to use the cleaniless argument, we should apply it to both sexes, not simply one of them.



We're all up in arms over FGM but when it comes to MGM, it's totally acceptable.  The very fact that the disparity exists makes me want to puke.

Rosemarie - posted on 08/27/2009

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Trying to pull back the foreskin is what causes infections ladies!!!! Making cuts around the foreskin by tearing it with your filthy hands (bet you never thought of it that way, huh?) and then having it wallow in poopy daipers is retarded.



Even those in the American medical community don't know what to do with a whole penis - and that is tragic and sad! I've had to throw a nurse out of the exam room one time b/c she wanted to pull my son's foresking back at 6 mos.! I caught her before she put her hands on him. We protect our children, right? Geez what a moron!



My doctor as well as many useful medical articles on the subject advise that under the foreskin is a completely sterile mucous membrane, much like the inside of a vagina, and should a tear occur separating the foreskin from the glans then infection is likely. DON'T pull your uncut son's foreskin to "clean it. It is painful and you are actually ripping it off of the head of his penis. Sorry, but I can't be any clearer and it is obvious that too many people have no idea what is actually going on. Would you stick a tampon in your infant girl's sterile vagina to swab out the inside? Same thing guys!



Common sense instead of an obsession with sterilization would do our children a whole lot of good. And in some cases I've read here would also save a lot of little boys pain at the hands of their uninformed parents and medical "professionals!"

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Chavonne - posted on 08/27/2009

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Quoting Tamara:



Quoting Teigan:

It is still very common to. it also helps prevent infections. my son is not yet but we are going to get him done too. ^.^





By that logic, you should cut off your breasts because you could get infections in them or cancer.  For that matter, cut off any body part that may get an infection.  Honestly, don't you see how silly that sounds?





 

Carissa - posted on 08/27/2009

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Quoting Tamara:



Quoting Angela:

I had my son done and wouldn't change my decision. He looks the same as his dad and his older brother. It is also much more sanitary as they grow.





Oh yes, because its so hard to teach them when they're retractable to clean under the foreskin and replace it when they're done cleaning it.






Tamara...we get it! You have a problem with circumcision, but it is a personal choice as a parent and that's the end. You do not need to keep beating the horse. If it is that important to you, than make your own anti-circumcision website where people that want to hear you say the same thing repeated can make that choice. Until then, feel free to post your opinions, but be reasonable. How would you like to see this reply posted 15 times? Thanks.

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Quoting rebecca:

what do u think about getting boys circumcision??

wont to get my boy circumcision but not sure if people do it any more.


 that is a must., yes they should be circumcised, for medical reasons if nothing else.



The nurse & I had to do a lot of talking to my husband when I had my first child. He went home circumcised , no question about it for the other son.

Cindy - posted on 08/27/2009

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It's more of a personal choice. I have three boys' and all of them were circumcised. I know people that were not, and later when they became adults got circumcised.

Kate CP - posted on 08/27/2009

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Quoting Jenifer:

Might want to be careful with that one. Some of the pages look informative, but it is a fetish site.... enter at your own risk I suppose :)


Yea...that's why I posted a warning first. What caught my attention wasn't the "educational" stuff so much as the comments from the men. Gave my brain a little "Huh. Interesting" moment. :)

Michelle - posted on 08/27/2009

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My son was unable to have a circumcision when he was born because the doctors thought he might have a heart condition ( he was born with Down Syndrome) They were going to do it at one but said he did not weigh enough. My son is now 14 and still is not circumsized. He is able to clean himself and does not have any problems. I have considered having it done many times but wonder what is the point? If he is able to clean himself correctly, which my son is able to, I would not worry about having it done.

Tasha - posted on 08/27/2009

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Do it now, before they are older. I knew someone that didnt and wished his parents paid for the procedure. Get it done. It's painful later

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Might want to be careful with that one. Some of the pages look informative, but it is a fetish site.... enter at your own risk I suppose :)

Jessica - posted on 08/27/2009

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i had my little boy done at birth and we have had no trouble at all. I know people in my family who did not have it done and they are having alot of trouble with it now. But do what you want, make it as easy as you can on you both. good luck!

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Quoting Jane:

Further, I come from Australia, and a lot of the circumcisions done here for babies (not older boys) are done with the Plasti-bell device. No open wound to manage, and its hardly what could be described as barbaric.

Why is this not available in America, and if it is, why not more widely available to those parents who choose to circumcise?


The Plasti-bell is available in America, but there is still a wound - it is just covered up by the plastic ring. They still have to tear the foreskin off of the head of the penis and cut part of it in order to put the ring on. I think the main reason it isn't used as commonly here is that it is a more difficult method for the operator, and takes more time.

Caroline - posted on 08/27/2009

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I don't know how a man who isn't circumcised would know if he has more sensation than a man who is circumcised. How would you prove this "fact" that I keep reading about? If you aren't then that is what you know. If you are then that is what you know. I really don't think that circumcision causes an issue with men and their sex lives. I had both my boys done when they were born and yes it is sad when they cry but it heals SO fast at that age and now I never have to think about it again. Neither of them has ever had an issue with anything (UTI, Yeast infections, etc) My husband is in the military and had a friend who had to get it done as an adult and his friend said that he wished his mother had taken care of this when he was a baby so he never had to think about this or remeber going through that much pain. It was a MONTH when the pain finally subsided. Babies heal so quickly. Both my boys were healed before their belly button was. I don't regret my decision. I'm not forcing what I did on anyone and expressing opinions is great but some of these things I've read are just mean and probably not helpful to Rebecca. Discuss it with your husband. Decide what is best for you and your child It is personal and no one should be judged no matter what they decide. Good Luck!

Tawanna - posted on 08/27/2009

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My son was circumcised at birth because I wanted him to be and because not teaching them to clean themselves properly can cause diseases and infections down the line. It is however the parents choice. Since my son was circumcised he has not had any problems one thing I do recommend is to have it done as soon as they are born they heal up faster and they take to it pretty well at birth rather than later on in life.

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Okay, stating experience here...not emotional outbursts or attacks, so please stay calm. My first son's circumcision was traumatic for both of us. I had researched it (1992-1993) and talked to my very knowledgeable doctor (best doctor we have ever had). At that time, the research showed and the doctor confirmed a circumcised male has fewer infections, passes on fewer infections to their partner, AND there have been NO documented cases of penile cancer in circumcised men. For these reasons, we chose circumcison. What I was unaware of was a brand new doctor (the military switched doctors on us just before he was born) would perform the circumcison withOUT any anesthesia or pain killer. I am still angry about that. With my second son (1997), I offered to pay out of pocket for whatever painkiller would be necessary so he wouldn't go through the same thing as my first, but his was done in a civilian hospital (as opposed to the military hospital with my first son) and they said they always use some sort of anesthesia. I insisted on watching to be sure he would be alright...he didn't even fuss at all. With my third son (2000), they put a "bell?" on it. It was some sort of plastic ring type thing that just fell off with the foreskin after a few days. Other than my first poor baby, there were no problems whatsoever with the circumcisions. The trauma with my first son (and I say trauma because he cried when they did it, which of course made me cry...but then he cried when they took his blood and gave him shots too...and that made me cry as well, so maybe the whole birthing thing was the trauma) was minimal and of course he remembers nothing about it. I have known of one man who wasn't circumcised (he was born out of country) and wished he had been and a few of my friends' UNcircumcised sons have had complications. This is my personal experience. It is NOT an attack, insult, or opinion. It just IS.

Jane - posted on 08/27/2009

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I just want to comment on the fact that for all the heated debate we get into over circumcision, I have never once heard a story about a man feeling tramatised in later life because his parents chose to have this procedure done. For all the men I know of who have been circumcised, it's such a non-issue.



Further, I come from Australia, and a lot of the circumcisions done here for babies (not older boys) are done with the Plasti-bell device. No open wound to manage, and its hardly what could be described as barbaric.



Why is this not available in America, and if it is, why not more widely available to those parents who choose to circumcise?

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We didn't do it for our son. As Christians, we aren't required to circumcise by our religion, so why put him through an unnecessary procedure?



By the way, we're Americans, so we underwent some family pressure about this since it's still common there. However, now we live in S Asia, where it's less common (except among Muslims).

Rita - posted on 08/27/2009

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I have 3 boys and they are all done. I know a couple guys that had to get it done later in life and they thought they were going to die. I would ask men what they think about it!!! They would know more then we would. If the father is done the boys usually are.

My mother did not want us to get it done. My husband did.

Kia - posted on 08/27/2009

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It really is a personal choice. I think it is more hygenic and I got my son circumsized when he was born 3 months ago.

Danielle - posted on 08/27/2009

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I think it should be done at birth,this is away around infection that extra skin over their penis is very high risk for infection to themselves and women in the future it is a area were yeast can grow you no in wet closed in areas removing the skin cuts down on this signifiantly.

C.J. - posted on 08/27/2009

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it's not a wound their whole life - only a few weeks, and yes it is cleaner in the fact that if boys who still have their foreskin are not taught to cleanse properly then bacteria and such can remain under the foreskin and cause ( or spread- if u know what i mean) infections..... I had my son done but it was in the hospital after he was born. it does get harder the older they get. it's totally a personal preference.

April - posted on 08/27/2009

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My husband is Muslim and our son had his done when he was just a month old because his more experience relatives adviced it is much better to do it asap as babies have high immunity against infections etc. up to 6 months' old. We went to an experienced & well recommended doctor and everything went well; he healed perfectly after just one week. Even on the day of the operation, he only cried 1-2 minutes during the procedure; no fever.

Try and get recommendations from friends/ relatives for an experienced & good doctor and I think all should be well.

Brenda - posted on 08/27/2009

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If you are going to have your sons circumized it is best to have it done a day or two after birth.

Sandra - posted on 08/27/2009

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My son had it done at birth, well the day after. When they brought him back into the room I asked in my panic new mommy voice if he was alright. The doctor smiled and told me he selpt through the procedure! If you decide to do it, don't panic at the look of the penis for the first week. It will be really red and you'll wonder if you did the right thing. That is normal and about a week later the poor "little" thing looks perfectly normal.

Brandi - posted on 08/27/2009

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Quoting Terri:

As an emergency room nurse, maybe I can shed some light. To have it done or not is a personal choice. However if you choose not to then you need to know how to properly clean it. Every time you change the diapper you need to pull the foreskin all the way down so the head is completely exposed and clean it. I can't tell you how many little boys come in with infections because they aren't cleaned properly. The other problem is, if the skin is not pulled completely down over the head, the skin opening has a tendency to get smaller and when the baby has an erection (which is perfectly normal) the head can get stuck and basically have the circulation cut off. When this happens we have no choice but to pull the foreskin back over the penis head forcefully (very painfull). It breaks my heart when we have to do that. I've seen this happen to kids as old as 6 or 7. So if you choose not to circumsize be educated, talk to your pediatrician to learn proper care and cleaning. Hope this helps, Terri


My sons' doctor said NOT to pull back the foreskin like that on a baby,  because it will injure them.

Brandi - posted on 08/27/2009

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Quoting Terri:

As an emergency room nurse, maybe I can shed some light. To have it done or not is a personal choice. However if you choose not to then you need to know how to properly clean it. Every time you change the diapper you need to pull the foreskin all the way down so the head is completely exposed and clean it. I can't tell you how many little boys come in with infections because they aren't cleaned properly. The other problem is, if the skin is not pulled completely down over the head, the skin opening has a tendency to get smaller and when the baby has an erection (which is perfectly normal) the head can get stuck and basically have the circulation cut off. When this happens we have no choice but to pull the foreskin back over the penis head forcefully (very painfull). It breaks my heart when we have to do that. I've seen this happen to kids as old as 6 or 7. So if you choose not to circumsize be educated, talk to your pediatrician to learn proper care and cleaning. Hope this helps, Terri


My sons' doctor said NOT to pull back the foreskin like that on a baby,  because it will injure them.

Brandi - posted on 08/27/2009

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Quoting Loureen:

Sierra it is true there are more risks , more boys under 18 die from circumcision or complications from circumcision then the diseases Circ. is meant to supposedly protect .
Most boy's who have not been circumcised usually become infected when parents wrongfully retract a babies foreskin , NEVER retract a babies foreskin , this causes it to tear , the tearing is what causes infection .


I am so with you about not retracting the foreskin.



I asked my sons' doctor about when they would be able to retract it, and he said not until age 14, on average.

Brandi - posted on 08/27/2009

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You do what is best for your son, you, your family, etc.

If you feel it is best to circumcise, then by all means do it. It matters not what everyone else is doing. You wouldn't follow us all if we jumped off a bridge, right? ;-)



My sons aren't circumcised, and it's for no reason other than that's the decision my husband and I felt was best.

Brandi - posted on 08/27/2009

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You do what is best for your son, you, your family, etc.

If you feel it is best to circumcise, then by all means do it. It matters not what everyone else is doing. You wouldn't follow us all if we jumped off a bridge, right? ;-)



My sons aren't circumcised, and it's for no reason other than that's the decision my husband and I felt was best.

Howida - posted on 08/27/2009

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I think it is a good healthy procedure, it is better if it is done, it prevents a lot of future infections/diseases , so I have seen it done, it's not a big deal and I did for my son. Medically speaking it is a really healthy and good procedure to do.

Hope this helps

Jackie - posted on 08/27/2009

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Quoting Terri:

As an emergency room nurse, maybe I can shed some light. To have it done or not is a personal choice. However if you choose not to then you need to know how to properly clean it. Every time you change the diapper you need to pull the foreskin all the way down so the head is completely exposed and clean it. I can't tell you how many little boys come in with infections because they aren't cleaned properly. The other problem is, if the skin is not pulled completely down over the head, the skin opening has a tendency to get smaller and when the baby has an erection (which is perfectly normal) the head can get stuck and basically have the circulation cut off. When this happens we have no choice but to pull the foreskin back over the penis head forcefully (very painfull). It breaks my heart when we have to do that. I've seen this happen to kids as old as 6 or 7. So if you choose not to circumsize be educated, talk to your pediatrician to learn proper care and cleaning. Hope this helps, Terri


My son did end up with one infection when he was a baby.  My follow up appointment was with a Plastic surgeon who said "Let me begin with; we NEVER pull back the foreskin on him."  I nicely told him I knew that and I had never pulled back his foreskin.  He also said that one infection was not a reason to get him circumsized.  My family doctor who performs his own circumsizitions in his office *which is unheard of in Ontario* has told me do not pull back his foreskin.  That pulling back of the foreskin is the cause of most infections in boys.   Yes some boys have issues... but its rare.  Like I said earlier would you want your parents to have cut off your breasts as a preventative measure because having breasts puts you at risk for breast cancer? 

Terri - posted on 08/27/2009

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As an emergency room nurse, maybe I can shed some light. To have it done or not is a personal choice. However if you choose not to then you need to know how to properly clean it. Every time you change the diapper you need to pull the foreskin all the way down so the head is completely exposed and clean it. I can't tell you how many little boys come in with infections because they aren't cleaned properly. The other problem is, if the skin is not pulled completely down over the head, the skin opening has a tendency to get smaller and when the baby has an erection (which is perfectly normal) the head can get stuck and basically have the circulation cut off. When this happens we have no choice but to pull the foreskin back over the penis head forcefully (very painfull). It breaks my heart when we have to do that. I've seen this happen to kids as old as 6 or 7. So if you choose not to circumsize be educated, talk to your pediatrician to learn proper care and cleaning. Hope this helps, Terri

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What I don't get with North America... why are we so obessed with messing with mother nature/god?!?! Between pushing formula feeding and not leaving boys intact. Next thing you know 30 years from now they will be removing womens breasts at the end of puberty to avoid breast cancer! Why can't we trust the fact that we are ANIMALS and mother nature/god made us perfect. If she/he didn't we wouldn't be here we would have died off years ago!! We wouldn't have 3rd world countrys because they would have died off!! It just amazes me!

Rosemarie - posted on 08/27/2009

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Nicer looking, man you have some problems with the human body not even related to circumcision. Unfortunately you're not the only one.

Spring - posted on 08/27/2009

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This is a very sensitive topic. People have very set ideas about circumcision. Check with your pediatrician or look up information on the American Academy of Pediatrics website. My husband and I did the research and could not find any overwhelming medical reason (such as UTI's, cancer, or STD's) to have the procedure performed. In fact, some of what we found indicated that the main reason circumcisions started becoming the norm in the US was to keep boys from masturbating (I don't think this has worked). But no matter what, this is a personal decision and if you feel that this is the right thing for you and your family then get it done. If not, don't let others pressure you into it.

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HI, my husband is circumcised but my son isnt. The excuse ill get him done to be like dad is ridiculous. I was always for circumcision until i had a son. Then there was no way i could do that to him. If he wants to get it done later in life, then he can decide for himself, a week old baby cant make that decision.

Kate CP - posted on 08/27/2009

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Quoting Tiffany:

some people do...
my freind just had a baby boy last week, and she was considering it too.
but we were talking to our family doctor (we happen to share the same doc and I was in the room when he came to see the baby) and she asked about it - this is what he said:

it is NOT more sanitary than an uncircumsized penis, contrary to belief.
there are no benefits except there is a SLIGHTLY smaller risk that the boy could pass along something to give a girl cervical cancer, but he also exlained that with all the young girls now getting the HPV vaccination, there is even less risk for cervical cancer than in the past, and therefore kind of a moot point.

Otherwise, its the same, but less expensive, and no pain or infection for the poor little boys.
Plus, you HAVE to get it done within 7 days of birth, and if the penis is too big for the machine that 'clips' the foreskin, then you cant get it done. I know this because her boy was 9lbs 9oz at birth, and within 4 days he was too big for it LOL


Must have been a proud moment for Pappa. "Oh yea? Well my son's penis was TOO BIG to be circumcised. He gets that from me."

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some people do...

my freind just had a baby boy last week, and she was considering it too.

but we were talking to our family doctor (we happen to share the same doc and I was in the room when he came to see the baby) and she asked about it - this is what he said:



it is NOT more sanitary than an uncircumsized penis, contrary to belief.

there are no benefits except there is a SLIGHTLY smaller risk that the boy could pass along something to give a girl cervical cancer, but he also exlained that with all the young girls now getting the HPV vaccination, there is even less risk for cervical cancer than in the past, and therefore kind of a moot point.



Otherwise, its the same, but less expensive, and no pain or infection for the poor little boys.

Plus, you HAVE to get it done within 7 days of birth, and if the penis is too big for the machine that 'clips' the foreskin, then you cant get it done. I know this because her boy was 9lbs 9oz at birth, and within 4 days he was too big for it LOL

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Quoting Lauren:

Hi Rebecca, I think you'll find that a lot more people get their boys circumsised than we know. My son is done, he is 8yrs old, if I had another one, I would still do it. I think it is defiently a good idea also if his dad is because he'll want to look the same as dad. Go for it! There is nothing wrong with it.


Honest question : if your husband broke his nose , would you break your childs nose to look the same ?

Lauren - posted on 08/27/2009

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Hi Rebecca, I think you'll find that a lot more people get their boys circumsised than we know. My son is done, he is 8yrs old, if I had another one, I would still do it. I think it is defiently a good idea also if his dad is because he'll want to look the same as dad. Go for it! There is nothing wrong with it.

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we can all just be far to lazy to teach our daughters to clean their vagina's and bring back female circumcision because it's " cleaner " , off with the labia !



Does that sound cruel and disgusting ? well that's what your doing to your son's .





CIRCUMCISION IS UNCOMMON IN THE WORLD, THE STATISTICS ARE :



15 % OF MEN ARE CIRCUMCISED



85% OF MEN ARE UNCIRCUMCISED



they are WORLD statistics



No medical organization anywhere in the world recommends routine circumcision of boys. Many organizations state that there is no medical indication for routine circumcision, including the RACP, the British Medical Association, and the American Academy of Pediatrics.

Erica - posted on 08/27/2009

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a lot of ppl do it still. my twin boys are both circumsized. it's a lot cleaner. i also know of two men who didn't have it done as babies that had complications later and had to have it done in their 40's... which is a lot more traumatic than new-borns.

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Quoting Kate:

Okay, I asked this on another thread about circumcision and I'll ask it again because apparently times have changed in locker rooms. Do boys really look at each other's penises that much? I mean, if I was in the locker room and a woman went "Oh my god! What's wrong with you?! Your left boob is bigger than your right one!" I would be shocked. I really don't think boys stare at other penises that much.



The reason i mentioned the locker room thing was because my husband has told me stories about how when he was in school guys all had to take showers all in the same shower room and some guys would get made fun of. And yes i got made fun of in the girls locker room because my boobs were so small. So yes this does happen alot more than you would think. People are so judgemental. It sucks i know but they are.

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Okay, I asked this on another thread about circumcision and I'll ask it again because apparently times have changed in locker rooms. Do boys really look at each other's penises that much? I mean, if I was in the locker room and a woman went "Oh my god! What's wrong with you?! Your left boob is bigger than your right one!" I would be shocked. I really don't think boys stare at other penises that much.

Amanda - posted on 08/27/2009

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I had my son done. I wont lie, i didnt look much into it. But I think boys would be embarrased to not have it circumcised because everyone is so obsessed with appearances and you know how boys can be in the locker rooms. I was just afraid my son would get made fun of. Plus i have heard about them having more problems if they are not circumcised but i really dont know. My husband wanted it done. Therefore, we did. I actually dont know of any of my friends or family that have not had it done. I do think more people these days are not having it done. But just do what you think is right for you and your son. Everyone has different feelings about this. I know it seems cruel but just like any surgery or anything else done to people it heals. I am glad we got it done.

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I am a nurse and have watched circumcisions being done on babies. It is very cruel and unnecessary. I am sure if hospitals required the parent to be with the child when it is being done, it would not be a common thing. It is usually done because it is what other people have done. There is no valid medical reason to have it done.

Sharon - posted on 08/27/2009

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I am a nurse and have watched circumcisions being done on babies. It is very cruel and unnecessary. I am sure if hospitals required the parent to be with the child when it is being done, it would not be a common thing. It is usually done because it is what other people have done. There is no valid medical reason to have it done.

Beth - posted on 08/27/2009

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I let their father choose. He decided and it was done in the hospital the day after they were born. I don't know what I would have chosen if it were up to me.

Tanda - posted on 08/27/2009

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I did NOT have my son circumcised as I feel there are no good reasons to have it done and lots of good reasons not to have it done. This is a huge decision that will affect your son for the rest of his life. You need to do some serious research before you can make an educated decision. The American Academy of Pediatrics and the World Health Org. do NOT recommend circumcision and it is NOT any more hygenic.

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I say do it for a number of reasons, but when it comes down to it, it's really a personal choice, you just have to way the pros and cons. It seems to have become the "vogue" thing lately to NOT circumcise. All 3 of my sons are circumcised. All of my pediatricians have recommended it (though I have heard from friends that theirs said it didn't matter). From what I have been told and read, only uncircumcised men get penile cancer, uncircumcised males seem to contract more infections, and pass more onto their partners. For religious purposes, if you are Muslim, Christian, or Jewish, it is part of the covenant with God. I dont' know if other religions have any beliefs regarding it. If you decide not to, I know you have to be a lot more diligent at diaper changing time...I babysat an uncircumcised baby boy for a little while and the mom showed me how I had to clean under the foreskin every time...imagine...even when it is 2am and you have only had 3 hours of sleep in the last 3 days...no quick diaper changes! Plus, as mentioned, you don't want him to have to go through it when he is older. Just make sure they use anesthesia...I didn't know they would ever consider doing it without painkiller of some sort, but they did with my first (military hospital) and I have always wished "if I knew then, what I know now!"

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