What do you call your sons private parts?

Jennifer - posted on 05/01/2010 ( 73 moms have responded )

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I know it is best to use the anatomical name, but it just sounds a bit wierd hearing peanus from a such a young child. My son is only 10 months, but I like to label his body parts when I give him a bath and I struggle everytime I get there. I have been using peanus and peepee. Any other suggestions?

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Kate CP - posted on 05/01/2010

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It's a penis. And my daughter has a vagina. "Peanus", btw, is not a word. It's spelled "penis". :)

Kate CP - posted on 05/02/2010

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How does using the scientific term prevent child abuse? Well, it's doesn't. I said they are less likely to be abused. Why? Because when a pedophile is touching a child they tend to be off put by that child screaming "DON'T TOUCH MY PENIS!" instead of "DON'T TOUCH MY BO-BO/PEE-PEE/HOO-HA!" or whatever you want to call it. Children who know the proper terms are also better witnesses and complainants in abuse cases because they can tell the court EXACTLY what happened. When a child says "He touched my doodle" that could mean genitalia, the buttocks, an ear, or whatever part of the body the child has named it.

It doesn't PREVENT abuse. But children who know the proper anatomical terms for their genitalia (as a group) are less likely to be sexually abused.

Jenny - posted on 05/04/2010

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Shannon, would you rather the school teach your child about propor terminology than yourself? Really? It's a big deal because using proper names aren't a big deal unless the parent is too embarrassed and makes it one.



It's not a swear, it's not too mature for children to handle 9at ANY age). It is using proper names for body parts. We don't call our elbows a hoo haw and we don't call our heads a woo woo. Penis and vagina are no different.



Grow up parents.

Julie - posted on 05/03/2010

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What do you call his fingers, toes, head, ears? Honesty is the very best policy. Call it what it is...a penis! Hearing your child say PENIS in public can't be any worse than all the contrived names some parents come up with. In my opinion, wee wee, dingle dong, peeter, etc sound absolutely stupid!

Jodi - posted on 05/02/2010

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I think it is more about them being able to communicate immediately about things that have happened to them. If a young boy came up to you and said "someone touched my peanut", would you be more or less likely to pay attention to that than "someone touched my penis". The second alternative will make you sit up and pay attention wouldn't it? The first one could be dismissed for longer.



Also, by raising your children to have no shame about the real names of their private parts, they are actually more likely to be open with you about issues in relation to them and less likely to have hang ups about sex in later life.

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Nikki - posted on 05/04/2010

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I would use the correct term, I don't see the point in making up silly names for them, would you call their head - noggin, legs - pegs, mouth - gob, eyes - blinkers? I don't see why it should be any different to other body parts.

Claire - posted on 05/04/2010

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I thought this would be a funny easy going post but then I found myself reading about child abuse and people insulting other people's spelling? It is getting as bad as Youtube in here!

Shoot me if you like but my son has a willy and a butt and my daughter has a fairy and a bum! This is simply because it is baby talk just like doggy, horsey, pussy cat, baby etc etc!

Kelly - posted on 05/04/2010

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well i call it winky infront of his little sister but he knows it's his willy and the correct term penis :-)

Kelly - posted on 05/04/2010

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after reading ALL the above i am a bit shocked to see that a simple question turned into a debate on sexual abuse??!!!

You call it what YOU feel comfortable with sweetie as it can be a bit embarrassing if your out shopping and as a baby ur son won't know that saying the word aloud could be persieved as something else lol

Takecare lvme :-)
xxx

Emma - posted on 05/04/2010

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With boys this is easy as they have a penis and Testicle's, with girls its a little more complex
As If you are calling the External parts of her gentiles her vagina you are not using the correct name, your vagina is internal,
The correct term for the External female genitalia as a whole is the Vulva.

I used Boy bits and girl bits it till my daughter was old enough to say the correct names, but she still prefers to call them her girl bits if you ask her what is the proper name she will tell you.

I personally don't think that using the correct names means you are less likely to be abused, i do agree that it would be more helpful after the fact when seeking a conviction.
And trust me if my daughter said someone touched her girly bits she would only need to say it once for me to pay attention

Natalie - posted on 05/04/2010

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I think go with what ever you feel comfortable with not what other ppl think you should be saying as its u say it. Im not sure if its a good thing or bad but we call our son's a few things. Willy Doodle Wanga Dicky as well as Penis, We like to think that he knows that his penis has other names so that is anyone ever asks to touch or see his willy for instant he knows what they are talking about. Only calling it a penis may lead to problems also, My partner and i felt there would be less chance of someone asking can i see ur penis than a nick name and there for knowing a few common names would be a good thing

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ok i have just read over the older posts and guys ease up spelling mistakes happen i and u are close together i think some have misunderstood what some people have said.. at the end of the day it's just to get an idea of what people are calling things just out of curiosity and to see what an individual is comfortable with... i wrote what i do as that is what my sister reccommended as she works in child care and that was the reasoning she gave me... at the end of the day it's all about what you are comfortable.. Sorry for the rant but i feel sometimes we get too caught up in things rather than looking at what was asked..

Anita - posted on 05/04/2010

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One of my sons called it his Tony when he was little. Don't know where that came from either.

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I have heard it said that it is best to teach your children the correct name as if and god forbid it ever happens someone is doing something wrong to your child they will use a different name and usually one of the other alternatives so it can send warning signals to you especially if they change the word... I use the correct word with my son i just get tripped up on my daughter cause its not that i have an issue with vagina but it's not like you say wipe you vagina when toilet training.. so i'm going with bottom and i think vagina will come into play later

Leanna - posted on 05/04/2010

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in my eyes they need to know what it is and well some words are harder to say than others at 10 months old pee pee, wee wee things like that are easier for them to say and that way they know what it is or can say something to you about it when the child is a little older say come 2 years old and he is able to say words a little clearer teach him that his "wee wee or pee pee" or whatever you call it is also called a penis same with girls it would be hard for a baby to say vagina my sister tried to teach her daughter thats what it is and her daughter called it her china because she was trying to say vagina and couldnt! so simplifying words for the time being is not a bad thing

Shannon - posted on 05/03/2010

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We call it a doodle thats what we called it our house when i was little. It shouldn't be made into such a big deal. When my son gets older we will tell him its his penis (he is only 8 months).Do what ever feels right to you it doesnt make you a bad parent giving nick names to body parts. Plus they will learn all the correct terminolagoy when they get to school.

Jessica - posted on 05/03/2010

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i say to my son 'peepee'. when he gets older i plan on teaching him the proper name.

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Private parts are penis and vagina and have been nothing else since my 8 year old girls were 2.... though we do refer to the whole general area as 'privates' sometimes since no one is allowed to touch their privates (including butt). I was uncomfortable w/ the word vagina at first, but I got over it REAL quick and we are very open and honest about everything.



My son says 'pee nee' though (2) cuz he doesn't say 's' yet. :)

Kate CP - posted on 05/03/2010

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Jodi MacConnell:

Okay, you really need to read what I said carefully because you're still not getting it. I NEVER SAID it would prevent child abuse. I NEVER SAID that children who didn't use the anatomically correct names were more likely to be abused. I SAID: CHILDREN WHO USE THE ANATOMICALLY CORRECT TERMS FOR GENITALIA ARE LESS LIKELY TO BE VICTIMS OF SEXUAL ABUSE.

PLEASE STOP READING BETWEEN THE LINES!!!

Lana - posted on 05/03/2010

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Kate I could not agree with you more! I had a nurse friend call her daughter's vagina (the child was 3) a - tw@t which I think is more gross than vagina! I taught my kids from a young age to use the correct words and they are SO MUCH more comfortable with thier bodies and any sex education class etc.

Lana - posted on 05/03/2010

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I guess I do not understand why it is that the anatomically correct names for genitals are not universally used? That is what they are and not calling them what they are to me makes me feel that people think those areas are unmentionable. Its how we all came to be and better they use the correct names them grow up "uncomfortable" with thier body parts.

Roxanne - posted on 05/03/2010

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My son is a 11mths old and we have called it a penis since he was born. It is nothing to be a shamed of, it is harder on the parents who were bought up with different names of those body parts.

Jodi - posted on 05/03/2010

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Okay, just a little food for thought:
If you’re too embarrassed to use the correct names of the genitals, how will your child ever find the comfort to report someone abusing those areas?

And in response to the comment that "he is a baby and he won't ever be in the situation that he needs to yell "Don't touch my penis!""........how do you know that? I am sure the parents of many sexually abused children thought the same thing.

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It is what it is! My son calls it his Penis since that's what it is. I believe it's important to call it by it's proper name & get comfortable doing it early. If we are uncomfortable calling body parts by their name I can only imagine how difficult it would be to talk to him about sex when he's older.
I never heard anyone making up nick names for a nose or hair. Why would this be any different?

Phyllis - posted on 05/03/2010

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we also use junk when referring to both parts together...as in "Mommy, Jesse kicked me in the junk!"

Amanda - posted on 05/03/2010

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we have always called it penis and testicles [tesnicles when the oldest was little it was hilarious to hear him try to say it lol]

our daughter is a little differant though, it isnt as shocking to hear the word penis from a child as the word vagina [I dont know why, just the way I feel] So we call it her pee pee, my parents made the mistake of nicknaming my sister and I- "too too" I had no clue it was called anything differant. Then one day I heard someone on tv talking about ballerinas and tutus, I though they were saying bad words. Nicknames that have other meanings=NOT a good idea

Phyllis - posted on 05/03/2010

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We use "wiener". My boys know the proper term, they just prefer to use this one. Though I did have to correct my eldest when he referred to his testicles as "wiener-boobs"

Jodi - posted on 05/03/2010

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@ Kate Capehart ...
That article is talking about disclosing a sexual abuse incident, not about preventing a possible one!!
Like I said, for now we use baby slang...and when he gets older he will be taught the proper teminology..not because I am ashamed or embarassed to use the word penis but because he is a baby and he won't ever be in the situation that he needs to yell "Don't touch my penis!"

BRITTANY - posted on 05/03/2010

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For both my son and daughter they know it as there peepee. When they are older they will be educated on the actual name of it. My oldest son is 7 and learned the right name for it at 6. I think it would sound weird if my almost 3 year old was to call it his penis. My point, i think peepee is more apropriate for baby's to say.

Christina - posted on 05/03/2010

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I started off calling my son's a wee wee and pee pee...but now he's 3 n he calls it a weinie lol He knows its a penis and that girls have a vagina. He prefers to call it a wienie and btw he knows no one is suppose to touch is wienie or his penis. Call it what you feel comfortable calling it as long as your child knows that no is suppose to touch it.

Tia - posted on 05/03/2010

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i think u shuld call it want u want untill he is oldenuf u unders stand my mum used to call my brovers penis wood peker n my bits were called meme until we were bout 3 years old i call my daughters genital parts bits of flufie but wen she askes wat it is i will use the correct term n jst coz u call it difrent name dnt mean they will get sexualy abused more kid that call it the penis or vaginer get abused more than nt using the rite name iv been there so i shuld no n its more inbarassing 4 a child to stand in court n say penis n vaginer that peepee winky,fanny or bits i hope this helps a bit

Julie - posted on 05/03/2010

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I believe this issue does not have to be so complicated. The private part of the body that a male uses to urinate is called a penis.

Kate CP - posted on 05/03/2010

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*sigh* No body is listening to me and it's very frustrating. I did NOT say that children who DON'T call it by the correct anatomical name are MORE likely to be abused. I SAID: Children who call their genitalia by the correct anatomical name are LESS LIKELY to be abused.

Taken from http://www.fpq.com.au/pdf/EGB_Survey.pdf (an evaluation of the book "Everyone's Got A Bottom" by Griffith University)
..."Worryingly, many parents do often assume that their child is “protected” against the possibility
of sexual victimisation once they have been provided with any prevention education (Bagley et
al., 1996; Kaufman & Zigler, 1992; Krivacska, 1990; Reppucci & Haugaard, 1989; Wald &
Cohen, 1986). Yet educative materials which are “shy” about clearly defining sexual abuse,
and avoid providing anatomically correct names for genitals do not give young children the
concrete information they require to increase their personal safety skills (Sanderson, 2004).
This hesitancy suggests to the child that adults are uncomfortable discussing sexuality and
abuse (Melton, 1992). In these circumstances, even if the adult encourages the child to
disclose any incidents, the adult’s own reluctance to frankly discuss sexuality is likely to
dissuade children from disclosure. Despite the adult’s good intentions, children are given the
message that these issues are not really to be talked about. Therefore it is likely that children
would be less likely to disclose sexual victimisation under these circumstances (Sanderson,
2004)..."

Melanie - posted on 05/03/2010

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We always use willy as it's inoffensive at such a young age. I'm always careful as some mums i know have called it an extra belly button (weird i know). I struggled more with my daughter, in the end we settled for fanny as again it's more age appropriate. xx

Jodi - posted on 05/03/2010

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We call our 7 month old son's penis his "dude"...we also call it it his "button" sometimes because he is quite chubby and circumcised (this i'm sure is going to start another rant).. so it is sunk in a bit and looks like a button!



@Kate Capehart...I'd love to see a link posted on here that backs up your RIDICULOUS statement that children that don' t call their parts by their correct name are more likely to

be abused!!



When I was young I called it my pufffer...I am 24 years old, and in no way confused about my sexuality and I have certainly never been molested!



I totally agree with Dana, I think it's fine to call it funny names, but when the time calls for it, he will also learn the proper terminology. We call his bottle his baba, his pacifier his sookie, etc.etc.etc. and IMO its not all that different...he's a baby for God sakes.. what's wrong with being playful?



Jennifer, I hope you got something useful out of this unneccessary argument, and Im sorry for being a part of it!

Dana - posted on 05/03/2010

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I call my son's penis his penis when need be. Like I would any other thing he see's or touches, I say the name so he can learn. I've also referred to it as his wing ding danger, when he's being goofy and playing with it in the tub or something.

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When my kids (1 boy, 3 girls) were small they learned to call their private parts just that, their private. When they were old enough to learn simple anatomy, about 6-7, they learned the proper names, penis vagina etc. At that point they were old enough to learn that you didn't go running around in Sunday School shouting out terms that might bother other people. :)

Melissa - posted on 05/03/2010

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i think it is unfair to confuse a child, call it what is is, a penis
and by the way it is spelled penis, not peanus

Amber - posted on 05/03/2010

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To: Brittany Miller

I'm sorry but LMAO. that is so true and funny! its just the way you said it, made me think of someone actually saying like that in the store. Oh my!!!

Amber - posted on 05/03/2010

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Honestly we call it their penis and balls or testicles. I know balls isn't the anatomically correct term, but its very common. Anyhow thats what we say. good luck.
I have heard so many other terms used; "noodle, qwinkie, winkie, peepee, stuff, etc."
good luck

Brittany - posted on 05/03/2010

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We call it his penis when potty training and in serious conversations but when he tries to put his hands down his pants in public or starts adjusting it we call it his Trevor (have no clue where that came from) and it draws less attention then saying "get your hands off your penis son" in front of everybody lol

Stevie - posted on 05/03/2010

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Always tell your kids the truth, I'll be calling my sons penis his penis because that's what it is. I'm sure he will learn all the other lovely words for it when he starts school. My parents never used "baby talk" with me and always spoke to me in full sentances so when I started talking I went from "want up" to "Hi daddy how was work today?" in less than a week. I'm by no means a genius it's just proof that your children benefit from being taught the right way to speak once rather than learning two different languages.

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Peepee when he was a baby and now it's his Noodle lol Oh and the other day he told me hurt his peanuts lol

Crystal - posted on 05/02/2010

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LMAO I thought that you would have gotten the same replies I did about a this I post one like it awhile back I call my sons a ((((PEANUT))))!!!! YEAH A FREAKING PEANUT AND IT DOESNT MAKE A BAD MOTHER EITHER bAHAHAA! but he knows it a penis too call it whatever you want dont let anyone tell you that you are in hurting him in the long run! I think thats a hot load of crap, you do call it a penis but like me I call his a PEANUT more so then I do penis!

Nicole - posted on 05/02/2010

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Whoever said that people who don't use the appropriate, scientific terms for their genitalia are less likely to be sexually abused, Is A Little Too.....ANyway. I Call My Son's Private His Peepee, I Find It Weird To Call It A Penis When He's Just A Baby.

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