What do you do when you catch your 14yr old daughter taking nude pics and emailing them to boys

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Isobel - posted on 11/18/2009

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I think Sarah brought up a good point...this IS child pornography, and I'm pretty sure she AND the person she sends it to can be found guilty for distribution and posession.

Isobel - posted on 11/18/2009

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LOCK HER UP IN THE TOWER...just joking (kinda). Seriously. I would sit her down and have an honest talk about the internet. Nothing is temporary, everything is permanent. Relationships between boys and girls at this age almost never last, and it would be horrible to have your life ruined because some jerk decided it would be funny to show the pics to everyone else.



Would she want a boyfriend to find these things and break up with her? I would use this example instead of future children or bosses (though these are clearly more important) because it may hold more relevance in her life right now.



Good luck!

Morgan - posted on 11/18/2009

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I would explain to her that once you put photographs of yourself out there, you can never get them back and that the decisions she is making now will absolutely haunt her for the rest of her life. And what she is doing is illegal. She is producing child pornography, it doesnt matter that the pictures are of herself.



That being said... You know your opinion on the matter and you know how you want to punish her. But it is all about your approach. If you attack her screaming and yelling she is just going to tune you out and get angry at you and she will not learn. So sit her down and talk to her about why she is doing it, what her motivation is, and explain to her why it is so inappropriate. At the end of a very civil conversation just explain to her why you feel that she needs to be punished and until she can learn to use a camera, computer, and the internet appropriately she wont be allowed. Also I would monitor her friends much more closely, male and female. Bad company breeds bad behavior.

JENNIFER - posted on 11/18/2009

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I dont want to point fingers in any way or accuse anyone of anything but I can say when I was 14 I started to head into the sexual route and most of it I can base on and see now that it was an attention thing. This may not be true here but I knew that showing someone something or doing something would definetly get me some attention. Looking it back it wasnt the good kind but at the moment it worked. I would sit with her and let her be as honest as she can be with you. And you in return. I would show her and tell her all the bad stuff thats going on right now....how many people are gettn abducted and sold for sex. And sending pics around is an open wide advertisment for something to happen. An email can go along ways. Any yelling...will go in one ear and out the other. Do take her things away and do not give them back until she can use them in a responsible way. Good Luck!!! ps...for a lil humility to prove you are still the mom...take her to your local clinic for a pap....would be a greaat idea anyways...cuz if shes sending pics she might be doing more.

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Wow.......what a hard situation you are in. Have you determined if she is already sexually active? If she is emailing pictures of her body, she is showing interest in that.... if she isn't already sexually active. I personally..and obviously I cannot tell you what to do. But me I would have a serious talk with her about sex and the outcome of it. What if she becomes pregnant? My husband and I have discussed this and have made the stand that we will not raise our grandchildren (unless something happened to there parent) and that if our children (boys and girls alike) get pregnant or get someone pregnant they are responsible for that child! They will attend school, and work after school to support there child....I will take care of the baby while at school or at work, but I will not care for it so they can go out and party or be with there friends or boyfriends. I also plan to lay out the lines of how much work an infant is, is there a close friend of the family who has a small infant your daughter could watch for the day/night. While you are close by to supervise...preferably one that isn't sleeping through the night..lol..She needs to see what it is really like to be a mom and that sex is something extremely serious, and has some extremely large consequences. Even if it is just pictures...its still serious, isn't that still considered child pornography? I would explain that to her as well and how much the police our cracking down on that..20/20 has done some major serious shows on it you may be able to pull off there website and watch with your daughter. I also would limit her internet time...make sure her computer is somewhere you can monitor it at all times. As well as possibly take away her cell phone if she is doing it from her phone....explain to her you didn't want to do it but its her fault for making bad choices and when she shows you that she can make proper choices that you will return the items. Express how much you love her and want her to make good choices, and that SHE broke your trust. She is going to be mad at you..she is 14...and we as young women all are mad at our moms at some time... but you are the mom..and stick with it...in the long run she will respect you for doing it. And in the long run you are protecting her from so much hurt....hpv, sexually transmitted diseases of all sorts, pregnancy, someone getting a hold of those pictures and raping your daughter...or worse. You may also do some searches of missing children websites and see girls your daughters age who are missing, and show these to her as well...there are some serious predators out there...they can link it to things and find where your computer is located therefore find your house and your daughter..and she could become a victim...I hope you find the answers you are looking for, stay strong...all you can do is be the best mom possible..lay down some serious rules..and stick to them! Your daughters life could depend on you doing it! I will be thinking of you today, and must say I am not looking forward to my children during the teen years...I hope everything works out fine!

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Fatiema - posted on 12/18/2009

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are u a working mom? by taking of her phone and computer wont help i did that a lot they got ways and means by getting in contact with the out side world.try spending more time with her,take her for a movie,games and i like to let my daugther help me with baking and cooking and i always make it interesting.

i know it is hard if parents have to work but we have to be strong.



good luck

Jen - posted on 12/16/2009

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Personally, I would take away the cell phone and all unsupervised computer activity. But that's only the first step. You and your daughter need to have a serious heart to heart. It probably wouldn't hurt to have her see a therapist. Most schools have school therapists and maybe even psychologists. She wants attention, but doesn't seem to want the positive kind.

Brendaly - posted on 12/15/2009

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First she loses her computer privileges. Then it is time to have a talk about how respecting herself as a young woman. This could follow her for years and may hinder her later on college apps. and job apps. because once that is out there. It is out there forever. Not to mention that law enforcement is starting to track down and press charges not only on the sender but the receivers of these photos. I don't think she would be too popular if she gets some boy she likes arrested.

Linda - posted on 12/15/2009

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Oh Eadie..First of all, I would like to thank you for this question. You are very brave to have posted a private matter as such.

I can not imagine this happening with my girls 13&16. I know it is possiable though... The best advice I can give you is to find out why she feels she needs that type of attention from a boys. Let her know it is wrong to do that and that it is dangerous. Many children are raped and killed all starting with photos online. They pray on children who need attention. There are countless articles eveyday about this. You should have her read what happens to children who are victims of internet crimes.

Perhaps she feels like this is the only attention she can get because she is not getting what she needs from family. Not to attack you as a mother...sometimes we miss something, ya know. Have a sit down conversation with her. Let her know she made a mistake and you still love her and care about her and her safety. Let her know that we all make mistakes and we all learn from them. And of course...restriction from electronics may be a good idea, at least for a few weeks. Andmay I suggest..seek proffesional council....It would be best to do it now for her safety. Even if it is talking to the guidance counselor at school. I wish you the best for you & your family. ~LMOwens

Amy - posted on 12/15/2009

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OMG, i have a 13 yr. old and i couldn't even imagine seeing my daughter doing that, i would so have a good talk with her! I wish i could help you, i'm just speachless!

Mary Kay - posted on 12/14/2009

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There are two things.....she needs to get the message that it is NOT okay to be sharing your body over the internet-education about the risks (although at 14, she may not understand the ramifications) and a consequence-taking the phone away or getting a new non camera phone or limiting what she can use it for.



Then, you have to figure out WHY she's doing this! Having an ongoing discussion with her is really important....what is she getting out of this behavior? For 14 year olds, the sexual activities are often done for the attention she gets from guys rather than the actual sexual fulfillment. What's going on for her, that she is demanding attention from boys in that way? How did the photos get started? She needs to find ways to get attention in a more appropriate way. What are some ways for her to feel good about herself so she doesn't have to resort to being sexually provocative with boys?



So sorry you're going through this....how scarey!



Good luck.

Rosalina - posted on 12/14/2009

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advise and explain to the daughter that it is an inappropriate and not proper for a girl to send her nude pics to boys.

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I agree with everyone who said, take away her access to the camera, phone, computer, internet and such. Have a long talk with her and then get her into therapy as fast as you can. There is a possiblity that she is having processing issues and doesn't get that this is incorrect behavior and you need to find that out and address it.

Christina - posted on 12/13/2009

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The problem with children these days is that parents don't parent. You can't make a 14 year old listen, you have to make a 4 year old listen. Too many parents raise their kids like they are just little friends. YOU are the parent. It is your responsibility to teach your child right from wrong BEFORE she does something like this. I am not saying that you did not raise he right, I have no idea , I am making a general statement. I have run into so many parents in my life that are finding this same thing out. Children are growing up so much quicker than my generation did. I know 10 year olds with more freedom than I had at 17. America, or should I say American kids, are paying the price for our decisions. We took God out of our schools, and parents are no longer allowed to punish their kids without risking police involvement. I am very sorry for the predicament you have found your family in. I hope your daughter sees that the road she has taken will ultimately destroy her life.

Sharon - posted on 12/13/2009

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There seems to be some question as to whether or not a girl can be charged with the distribution of child pornography and all I can say is that it is a state by state law and you cannot just assume that nothing will happen to girl (and some cases boy) in every state. All you have to do it watch the news or pull up stories online about it and you will see the damage this has caused to many families.
I agree also that any man can pose as a teenage boy online. More importantly all girls should be educated on the risks to themselves by "meeting a boy online". They should NEVER give out personal information over the internet to someone they don't personally know. The computer should always be in a where the parents can keep an eye on her/him. They should never give out their personal schedule to someone they have never physically met or goes to school with. Also, if they are on social networks like Myspace and Facebook there are some "safety" measures, but nothing is 100% effective.

Tracey - posted on 12/13/2009

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let her know that she's only degrading herself and explain to her that no man will want what they have already gotten a peek at. maybe you should take the camera away because that could be pretty frustrating to deal with.

Tanna - posted on 12/13/2009

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Quoting Eadie:

I want to thank you all for your comments and help in this situation. The boy did coerce her into doing this as she used a digital camera and uploaded and emailed to him. He lives across the state and like I discussed with her he could be showing them to all his friends and what not. I didn't even think of taking her camera away but told her no friends, boys computer etc. Thank you for the additional advice in regards to the fact she could be turned into the police and be registered as a sex offender. I will need to discuss with her about that as well.


Eadie,



As I read your question and then the replies you got, I thought about a few things.  First everyone that told you to take everything away from that is a good punishment.  Also everyone who said that even though she is the one who sent the picture she could be charged with possession and distribution of Child porn is correct.  And talking about it is good.



You said that the boy did coerce her to send him the photo and that he lives across the state, correct?  Did she met him online? Or was this someone she met at school who moved across state? 



I would first discuss the matter of the internet safety.  The person she is talking to and sending the pics to may not be the person that he says he is.  it is easy for people to lie on the internet.  This "boy" may not be a boy.  he could be a pedophile posing as a boy or he could be a cop surfing the web to find other pedophiles.  



There is a growing trend of pedophiles finding girls on the internet and lying to them so that they can met them and take advantage.  



My sons are 15 and 12.  We have had talks with the kids about internet safety.  We monitor what websites they go to and who they talk to online.  



I did an internet search for internet safety for kids.  I found a link from the FBI for kids and teens.  It is a great site.  We went over it with our boys and they were shocked at first but when the shock wore off they were happy that we talked to them about it.



I hope that this helps.



 

Jenny - posted on 12/13/2009

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I am just shocked at some of the things I am reading! You can take everything away, but then the teen rebels and is worse, in many cases! Grounding only works at home when the parent is with the child. Teens are not stupid, they are just not ready for the feelings and thoughts that are going through their bodies! They cannot be registered as sex offenders if they sent a picture of themselves to an older boy at his request! The boy may be able to, but the teen cannot. I know this, because I asked the police when we went through this. They did contact the boy, his employer, and my daughter. You have to monitor what you child does. You have to ask questions, and you have to be involved!!! Be a parent and know that your child, no matter how much attention and love you give her, can make the wrong decision. She can get hurt.
Counseling is a good thing, sometimes. I tool my daughter to a counselor who had years of experience with troubled teens. She asked if she could show pictures of diseases to my daughter. I agreed. I had already talked to her about this same thing. I was not expecting her to tell my daughter she get get an abortion through the second trimester and that she did not have to tell anyone she was doing it!!! She is not and was not pregnant, but this is still not something a 3rd party should tell a teen without the parent's involvement and permission!!! She had not and still has not had sex. It is 3 years later. Thankfully we do talk openly with our daughter and she knew this was not okay. She was horrified. We had just discussed, because they asked, abortion and how it is done, what can happen to the mother and the child, and what can happen if it is not successful! We let them have their own points of view, and she decided it was not the thing to do! That was the last time we went to the counselor. So, be careful. Do not act irrationally, and make sure you are there for your child. Remember, they are confused and will make bad decisions. You have to be the rock for them. Stick to your rules and punishment. make sure the punishment is realistic and fits the crime. If you have teenageers, God Bless you and GOOD LUCK!!!

Sharon - posted on 12/13/2009

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It might help to show her the news stories of people going to jail for what is according to the law child pornography. She is old enough to understand that she and the boys she is sending the pictures to could get into a lot of trouble with the law; especially, if a parent sees what she has sent on their child's phone or computer. It is a delicate matter, but almost all actions have some kind of consequence and at 14 she needs to learn that now rather than later. Also, talk to her about how if a boy REALLY likes her he won't want to disrespect her by having her take her clothes off or do anything sexual until she is emotionally mature enough to handle it. Unfortunately, kids are being taught that the only way to fit in is do sexual things and in the end it destroys their self-esteem and reputation. Hope things work out.

Tina - posted on 12/13/2009

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Take away the freakin camera. Have the talk next about why exposing herself is not what ladies do!

Shelly - posted on 12/13/2009

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What a horrible position to be in. According to the law, she is now guilty of having child pornography and anyone she has sent a picture to is guilty of child pornography. The end result if discovered by an officer is that she and anyone who has her photos could be found guilty of child porn and it will haunt them for the rest of their lives.



In addition to that, onve it is on the internet, there is no way of ever getting it back. Does she want all sorts of creepy people looking at her body even if she only meant it for one person. Boys at this age don't respect privacy and will share it with all their friends.

Shelly - posted on 12/13/2009

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What a horrible position to be in. According to the law, she is now guilty of having child pornography and anyone she has sent a picture to is guilty of child pornography. The end result if discovered by an officer is that she and anyone who has her photos could be found guilty of child porn and it will haunt them for the rest of their lives.



In addition to that, onve it is on the internet, there is no way of ever getting it back. Does she want all sorts of creepy people looking at her body even if she only meant it for one person. Boys at this age don't respect privacy and will share it with all their friends.

Doris - posted on 12/13/2009

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Do you realize that girls have sent to jail for doing that very thing? She could be prosecuted for child pornography.

Melissa - posted on 12/13/2009

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I would sit down and explain 1st it is inapporopriate...then I would remind her that in the event that it gets posted to the internet because people are mean and may do that, that as she starts to apply for jobs, employers are now surfing the internet to search out any info on people that they are hiring. It does get done and may have horrible after affects for her. My daughter...I would duct tape and put in a closet ( :o) )FOREVER...after the talk.

Lynda - posted on 12/13/2009

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pray! first and ask God to help u with the words.becasue u will need it.and then u tell her how much u love her. I don't know if know god but if u do. it say's in the word that if u train a child in way of the lord he or she will not depart.but if she is doing thing's like this there is something lacking in her life.and u need to get too the root of this.girls do thing's like this because thay feel like thay need too be seen or heard.and u may be spending time with her or giving her the best.but in her eyes that not enough. she feels like she need more.mom I did not do what she did but i did do some things.but my parents were not around.and now i have 2 girls that i love with all my heart .and i go to god everyday.to show me how to be a good mom too my girls.and son.and in god i have to belive that as I train them in the way of the lord thay will not depart.and i belive in my heart that u do the best u can. and u will get thruoght this in the name of JESUS!walk in love becase GOD IS LOVE! PS she is crying out for help.

Paula - posted on 12/13/2009

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SELF-ESTEEM!!! you first take away all things that take pic, such as cell phones, cameras, and watch the friends that she hang out with. Nine times out of ten her friends are also doing the same thing. Then it is important to teach her that she should love her self, boys come a dime a dozen and when it is time to date, the right boy will find her, and he will like her for more than just her body.

Ruth - posted on 12/12/2009

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Life today is very scary as we are raising children in an environment without walls (eg. tv, cellphones and computers). Children do things that we never did because there are facilities available that we never had. Try to out think them (which is nearly impossible) and set boundaries. Eg. the computer must not be in a room where they can use it privately. Cellphones may not be used after parents go to bed. Unfortunately, their mess ups are far more dangerous than our messups and it is so necessary to discuss things with your child as difficult as that might be. Speak to her about the consequences of her actions - now and in the future and explain what it could do to her. I would like to say, that it is not "old men" that you have to be concerned about, but young men who are very interested in their bodies and the opposite sex. Some young men do not have a problem forcing a young girl to have sex with them and slip drugs into drinks and do what they please regardless of the girl's feelings. Communicating with your daughter is of the essence and at the same time, get down on your knees and pray for God's protection on her life and wisdom to help her to grow up to be a beautiful young woman.

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Def. take action. Thats a serious offense. I am going through something similar with a family member. The parents refused to take action. They kept saying it was a normal part of growing up...Needless to say, child services and detec divsion are handling it now.

Stefanie - posted on 12/12/2009

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She would be under the most strict house arrest ever seen. ;-)

Might also make her explain the situation to her father and I, including asking her to explain the pictures. The embarrassment alone would be a good start to her consequences.

Tanya - posted on 12/12/2009

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Quoting Tanya:



The 13 yr old was drunk, passed out and naked w/a bunch of guys around her?!!!  Did anyone hear the news report about the 15 yr old girl in California who was liqured up and brutally beaten and raped repeatedly by a group of guys between the ages of 14 and 21, while 20 other teenagers stood around and watched and cheered and video taped it for 2 hours - and she was found under the bleachers left for dead?? Grounding her for a week?? Are you kidding me!! She needs some solid parenting, not some frivulous punishment! How does ANYONE know she wasn't raped that night?! Or the next time it happens! Parents need to wake up and recognize that w/o them involved in their kids' lives and taking control over their teens, their daughters could end up like the 15 yr old who is in ICU and struggling for her life!!!! OR could be one of the teens involved in the brutal raping and facing 20 yrs to life!!!!!!! MAN UP PARENTS AND TEACH YOUR CHILDREN RIGHT FROM WRONG, GET INVOLVED IN THEIR LIVES AND BE THERE FOR THEM WHEN THEY ARE FACING TOUGH DECISIONS. STOP BEING PASSIVE AND LETTING THEM LEARN ON THEIR OWN - AND DISCIPLINE THEM WHEN THEY FREAKEN DESERVE IT FOR CHRIST'S SAKE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!


 






Sorry, I just feel terrible for kids who are making bad decisions in their lives and whose parents just don't seem to "get it". It is not your neices fault that she was in that situation. She needs her parents to get involved and help her through the tough years, not take away her phone for a week then send her back out to the wolves! I wonder what parents are so afraid of and why they don't help their kids when they see they need the help!  Your kids are young enough that you can mold them BEFORE they are teenagers making bad choices. Don't wait until they reach the teen years to begin the molding, or to put restrictions on them, because it will be WAY too late by then, and all you will get is rebellion.






 






 






Quoting tanya:

a dungeon is where my 2 turds are going when they're old enough lmao.... i feel for u! My 13 yr old neice was recently found online with pics of herself drunk and passed out naked with random dudes all around her! I was the one who found the pics and told her dad (my brother) his punishment was to tell her i was the dobber, ground her for 1 week, take her mobile ph off her for 1 week and give her school foods instead of lunch money for 1 week... all that did was make her hate me, and didnt stop her at all!
I really have no advice but its a good thing u know about it and actually want to do something about it! My kids are only 4 and 2 so i havent got that far yet so if u find something that works be sure to let me know so i can use that advice in another 10 yrs lol









 i totally totally agree with u and not a day goes by im not worried about my neice being in the care of her parents. My brother and partner love there children but they just think that no matter what they say or do the daughter is going to do what she wants anyways.. to a degree that is true but i know myself if it was my child doing what my neice is doing i would be at least trying to do SOME thing... doing nothing just seems careless in my opinion!





 

Sara - posted on 11/25/2009

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has anybody even bothered to ask the question WHY? it is not normal for a 14 year old girl to be so comfortable sexually with her body. Teenager or not, she is still a child. I find it a little bit scary. At 14 I hadn't even kissed a boy, I know everybody matures at different age levels etc but 14 is very young. I don't think it's just a matter of discussing what's inappropriate and what's not because I'm sure she knows the difference between right and wrong, i'd be looking into whether or not she has been abused, or has somebody exposed her to things she shouldn't have at a young age, perhaps pornography? Either way there has to be a little more to it.

Erin - posted on 11/24/2009

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Take her phone and find out who she is sending them to... if they have been deleted you can get copies of all outgoing texts by calling the phone company and you need to find out where the photos are going and talk to the other person and their parents, but if it is not another minor, call the police right away

Jodi - posted on 11/24/2009

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Ground her!!! Tell her it is a crime and anyone found to have the pictures will be considered to have child pornography in their possession. Take her phone/computer/camera away. Show her People on the Megan's Law Website and tell her that some of them were convicted for have child porn in their possession (I work at a prison so what I am saying is the truth) Have a trusted adult male talk to her about respecting herself and that a real man/boy who cares about her would not want her to post those pictures and the internet makes them PERMENANT in cyberspace and she WILL regret it when she is older......

Patty - posted on 11/24/2009

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Unfortunately I have been in your shoes. We set our daughter down and talked to her about the repercussions of these photos being printed or forwarded on to others. She was very resistent I might add. Then we talked about the legality of sending these types of photos to her boyfriend and that they both could be charged with promoting child pornography and this could be something that stuck to her for the rest of her life if she were to be labeled a sexual predator. We did take away the computer, phone and camera etc. for 6 months because for us it was also a trust issue, we felt we could no longer trust our daughter to do the right thing, until we felt she was making good decisions we would make all of them for her. As you can imagine that went over like a lead balloon. I think the thing that helped the most was the thought that if this boy wasn't as wonderful as she thought he was who knows how many people would see the pics. It took time but, she did mature out of that phase. Unfortunately while looking through her phone and her computer we found similar photos of people that she was acquainted with, we did contact parents which made my daughter even more popular! Not! For a time she believed we had ruined her life, but again she matured out of that phase. Things are much better now, she is making better decisions. Remember this is a cultural thing and just be firm and patient with your daughter, she will thank you for the protection later.

DEMETRIA - posted on 11/24/2009

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Yes you can do all those things that everyone has suggest, but most of all pray! Pray and ask the lord to watch over her when you can't. We can only protect them so much and then we have to trust that our lord will do the rest.

Beverley-Ann - posted on 11/24/2009

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Ground her and if possible give her a good hiding. Kids actually do know that what they are doing is WRONG!!! Parents need to set boundries and stick to them. I would also then re-inforce moral values.

Susan - posted on 11/23/2009

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Take her cell phone and her computer!HAve a real talk with her if her pics get out because they do no boy keeps them to himself the police will step in I have already heard it happen to young girls. Now they are being charged as sexual predators it is called child porn in the eyes of the law even if you take the pic of your self when you are a minor. It is no joke! Really that is a big red flag to her being sexually active too.

Susan - posted on 11/23/2009

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Take her cell phone and her computer!HAve a real talk with her if her pics get out because they do no boy keeps them to himself the police will step in I have already heard it happen to young girls. Now they are being charged as sexual predators it is called child porn in the eyes of the law even if you take the pic of your self when you are a minor. It is no joke! Really that is a big red flag to her being sexually active too.

Jenniefr - posted on 11/23/2009

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i so agree i caught my sending erotic texts to boy in wash...was very explict from both...well i freaked out in a quiet way and ran back ground checks...turns out he is 12 also..but still it is child porn...

Candice - posted on 11/23/2009

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ground her! I would sit down and talk to her about the internet and how fast things can spread on them and how she doesn't know who is seeing those pictures. I would also tell her that if she continues the bad behavior the she can't be on the computer

VIRGINIA - posted on 11/23/2009

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MY 12 YR OLD DID THIS AND THE BOY SHOWED EVERYONE AT SCHOOL ,,,, SHE WASN'T NUDE BUT SHE DID TAKE HER SHIRT OFF AND TOOK A PIC OF HERSELF. I WISH US BOTH LUCK BECAUSE WERE IN FOR A LONG RIDE

Tina - posted on 11/23/2009

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First I would freak out, in a bad way, go bolistic etc. After calming down, Iwould probably take away her access to the internet for a very long time

Tina - posted on 11/23/2009

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First I would freak out, in a bad way, go bolistic etc. After calming down, Iwould probably take away her access to the internet for a very long time

Mary - posted on 11/23/2009

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I know if your anything like me my 13 year old son has a phone because sometimes i work late and i need to check on him so its mandatory that he needs a phone but if its for her to keep up with the trends then take it away or just get her a phone without a camera

Renae - posted on 11/23/2009

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That is such a common problem now a days !! First off I think it's her way of crying out for attention..I'm not saying that you are not giving it to her but attention from the boys and her friends. I would talk to her about it and let her know that she does not need to degrade herself like that to get boys to like her and get attention from them. When she sends pics like that to boys they in return resend them to their friends too in most causes. Most certainly they can come back on her years later when they reappear online and embarrass her if her future husband,kids or employer should come across them. I personally would disable her pic mail so she can not send or receive pics..

Peggy - posted on 11/23/2009

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i would put a pass word on my computer and would not let her go on it at the end of the day you dont know whos seeing them thats scary for any mum i would also speek to her there might be a under lined reason it might be attention or she wants people to notice u need to tell her the risks of what she is doing maybe that will help he think and relize what she doing. we have all been that age she just need talking to a lil more i know it might be hard shes a teen but if u try hard enough u might get through to her good luck

Colinda - posted on 11/23/2009

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talk to her,maybe even show her the reports of all the sex offenders in your area alone as well as all over the state, also maybe explain the ole saying "theres no reason to buy the cow when you can get its milk for free, to punish her just makes her mad at you and theres no understanding of what shes done wrong, but if you talk about it and spend the time needed with her i think you will get futher that way, best of luck on this.

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Take away her phone, camera, computer, or anything else that she has excess to internet to and taking pictures with. This scares me, I have a 15 year old and as excess to all of it. You have opened my eyes to what they can be doing. I would also being grounding her and taking her somewhere so she can talk to some one that can understand what is going on with her. A counseler or therepist.

Roloconrepresa - posted on 11/22/2009

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OMGosh!!! Take that phone and send her to therapy! I am being VERY serious!!! There is more wrong for her to be doing that!

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