What do you do when your 15 year old daughter tells you she pregnan? abortion and adoption is out.

Wendy - posted on 08/08/2009 ( 363 moms have responded )

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What do you when your 15 year old daughter tells you she is pregnant? abortion and adoption are out of the question so please don't suggest that. the father of the child and his parents are supportive and do want to be part of the babys life. but I am just reeling and my daughter is just very non-chalant regarding the whole thing...she has broken up with the babys father which is ok..but again I am in shock!!!

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Sharon - posted on 08/10/2009

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Quoting Marta:



Sharon, I'd like to apologize for having offended you; I got caught up in the heat of the moment (something I've asked God to deal with me on). But, your tone was extremely harsh and did convey a level of ignorance which caused your point to have been lost. This is just so near and dear to my heart because of my personal experience with teen pregnancy. I hope that you are able to forgive my offense. Yours in Christ.






I'm entitled to my opinion. I don't accept your apology because it lacks sincerity.

I gave testimony that was near and dear to my heart about how lackadasical parents allow their daughters to get away with getting pregnant without repercussions. I also gave heartfelt testimony for the parents that forced their daughters to face up to the mistake and handle all the crap that comes with teen parenthood and how well they are doing.

What the ratio of 2 good kids to 74 miscreants was to much truth to take? I can't help what my volunteer services and personal work experiences have shown me.

What kills me is these teens get knocked up and their parents back them up and they go on to suceed. At what cost? How much anguish in the family home? How much lost money for the family? Its horrible. And most of them are oblivious to it. They have this sense of entitlement. They're owed by their family. Their parents have raised their kids now they have to put their careers on hold, retirement on hold to raise their grandchild? OH sure with love and some joy - but it cost them their life plan because their child was selfish.

I had my kids in my 20s so I could retire and have fun with the money from job - the job I got with my education. Not so I could be young grandma and raise my kids, kids.

My retirement fund is not for baby furniture.

I want grandchildren, I don't want to raise them. If I have time I'll be happy to babysit.

If my daughter OR my sons have a teen a pregnancy and don't be stupid, my boys can't get pregnant but if they knock their girlfriends, they'll have to deal with it.

No more sports, no more cheerleading, no more movie nights on the weekends. No working until you've got enough cash for partying. THAT is parenthood. They will get jobs, they will stay in school, they will give up the extras. They voluntarily gave their childhood to indulge in sex. A fun act that is there for their entire lives.

I loved my later teen years and early 20s. I had the best time. Now I'm having a great time raising my kids. And I intend to enjoy my senior years.

My parents laid out the rules for me. You fk this up and you will pay, not us.

THAT is my point. I figure as an adult I've personally seen about 70+ teen moms from 14 - 17. TWO were good girls who got jobs, and took care of their babies. That is a SAD AS HELL percentage!!! I didn't get to meet all the grandparents but a few. I saw a huge difference between the two types. Exactly what I described above.

I've talked to my 14 yr old many times. I've pointed out "hey you love football/soccer/video games/weekend camping huh?" of course he does, and I point out that if his girlfriend gets pregnant - all that comes to an end, because his sex satisfied ass will be flipping burgers to buy diapers. I will pay for college but he will pay for the apartment to hold him and his baby and his GF/wife.

I watched a lot of my friends go through this in highschool. It was horrible. The running masacara in the bathroom while they sobbed about they wouldn't be allowed to go out this weekend because their parents wouldn't watch the baby. Awwwww what a load of crap. man up!

Oh and in all of it? Only 1 BF stuck around and married his GF. Most stuck around for the free sex until the GF wised up and sometimes that was years in coming. Of all my adult friends who got pregnant in highschool - only 1 couple is still happily married. And truely they have my envy. They're an amazing couple. They are the fairy tale. Everyone else is divorced, seperated or bitter and angrily still married.

Teen pregnancy sucks. yes yes yes babies are amazing and a gift from god. But the situation makes everyones' lives so much more difficult than they have to be.

I'm reading Wendy's posts and her daughter is unhappy she can't be a cheerleader this year, but next year she can? WTF? I'm disgusted and appalled. I feel really bad for Wendy - its not going to be easy and her daughter is going to push for every extra and it will steal all the extras that Wendy has built up for herself.

~Jennifer - posted on 08/10/2009

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I'm going to lay this out here, since it seems to be SUCH an issue. PLEASE STOP flagging people simply because you don't agree with them, or don't like their 'honesty'.



Thank you.

~Jenn~

Jeannie - posted on 08/08/2009

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Supporting is obvious, but there are other things to do which are supportive and long term. Plan out a college option. I know that lots of people say you can't finish school, and college is out, but that is not the case. There are abundant scholarships and education programs for teen mothers, and most of them start well before your daughter is ready to graduate. Planning her education will help set her path for her future and the baby's future. Depending on where you live there are high school options with day care programs and work programs to help with responsibility and education together. Chances are good that she is only calm on the surface. Establishing a plan that is more than just the next nine months will help both of you.

Sharon - posted on 08/08/2009

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15?? her body isn't done growing yet. how will she support the baby? Who is going to watch it? School?

And nonchalant about it too. huh, you've got your handsfull in seeing to it that she learns that there is a lesson here.

And you, woman I feel for you. A grandma and your baby isn't even grown up yet.

I have always told my husband - if any of them bring home a baby - its yours to raise. I've raised my kids and I've taught them better. If they go against our teachings and land themselves in hot water like that - they figure their own way out.

If they want advice - i've got it. I understand you can't put the yolk back in the egg once the shell is broken, but there are consequences for thoughtless actions.

I guess everyone is hunky dory about this but statutory rape comes to mind.

Jennie - posted on 08/13/2009

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Why are adoption and abortion out of the question (you don't have to tell me, just yourself). Every time a child is born to a child, their chances of being in poverty and undereducated more than double. The opportunities afforded citizens of the United States are unparalleled and giving up those opportunities because of a mistake deserve great thought. Your daughter may one day be an amazing woman and the baby's daddy may one day be a wonderful man but that is years off and it's really not fair to another person (their baby) to be put in a situation just because you aren't willing to research the options. If abortion is out because of religious reasons, there are many many many families who would do anything to be loving, whole families for this baby. It would be the most selfless, mature decision either of you has ever made. Please think about it.

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Charlie - posted on 09/17/2009

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Crystal - posted on 09/17/2009

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Well, you say adoption and abortion are out of the picture. What else is there beside to accept the fact that she is pregnant. If the father is willing to be there and his parents are supportive. You just need to accept the fact that you are going to have a grandchild. She needs all the support she can get right now, and you being her mother, she probably relies on you the most. Just accept it and in about 9 months you will be glad you did.

Ashli Faye - posted on 09/17/2009

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why is adoption out its only gonna cause either two options left her to waste two lives one hers no friends no good constrartion on hs no college a lifetime of hard ship for her and her baby food stamps wal fare men jumping in and out of her life maybe even ,more kids and the other is grandma raises the baby dont say help cause u will end up raising this baby or she could do the right thing like adoption two kind closed and she never see the baby grow up or open and she see;s the baby once a year at organised open adoption partys also she gets pics of the baby look you need to take charge get her to talk she ovously got preg for her self which is why she broke up with her bf for some reason she felt unloved which is the #1 reason why teens get preg in the first place talk to her about adoption again

Janice - posted on 09/17/2009

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My daughter got pregnant at 15, I too was in shock. I found myself just supporting her at what she chose to do, she carried on with her education but attended a special unit instead of high school. she had a healthy boy and it suddenly hit her what she was missing.She is now 23 and has 2 boys she owns her own house and holds down a full time job. So there is light at the end of the tunnel just hang in there. she will need you to be stronge even though at times you may want to scream..... good luck

Maria - posted on 09/17/2009

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I admire you for not forcing abortion or adoption on her, because right now it may not seem like a big deal - but they both can have life-altering consequences emotionally and mentally for her later. Consider this: she may be "non-chalant" because she's in shock too! It's a lot to process. Just tell her you'll walk with her through it all, catch your breath yourself, and start working it out one day at a time! You can only do so much right now but pray and wait.

Vickie - posted on 09/17/2009

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support her in whatever decision she makes. i was a young mother as well and for the first year i did raise my child. but after a year i chose to give her a better life of the things i couldnt give her being such a young mother...i gave her up for adoption. with adoption being out of the option, just help her raise the baby but make sure shes the one doing it. just offer advice and support. and the fact that the fathers family is supportive makes things even better.

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Give yourself time to get over the shock and then just be supportive, it's happened, cannot be undone, best thing is to move on and support them. Best of luck.

Jessica - posted on 09/15/2009

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Hi my name is Jessie and I was not pregnant at 15 but I as 16 when I had to tell my parents that I was pregnant. I can tell you that I was scared out of my mind. My parents were very good about the whole situation and helped me a great deal. I can tell you that all I really wanted was for them to hug me and tell me that even though I messed up they still loved me and that they would love the baby too. You can not change that she is pregnant, but you can help her be a good mom to her baby. Don't do it for her, but help.

Erin - posted on 09/15/2009

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well i can relate to that i was 15 when i had my first baby,

i found this cool place were pregant teens and older women can go while pregant, and can live there to they teach parenting classes in day time and u can meet other girls and talk etc and u can stay there after u have baby to they help u with lots of thing, budgeting, stuff for babies etc

Shandelle - posted on 09/05/2009

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all you can do is support her and try to guide her the wright way I got pregnant at 16 and that is what my mom did and I got lucky I'm still with the dad and have been married for 14 years and are oldest one is going to be 15 next month she will be more scared as the time comes close and need you more good luck

Dorothy - posted on 09/04/2009

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Just love her and let her know that you're behind her. Find out what she wants to do and help her. If she needs counseling, get it for her. Go with her only if she says its ok. If she doesn't want you to go, remember it isn't you but needs separate time to get her thoughts together. Love her-she needs you more now than ever.

Melissa - posted on 08/28/2009

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I think your doing the right thing although she may be turning you away be supportive she really needs your love. As a parent of 2 boys keep the father involved it is very different from the boys point of view.they do not have to be together however they both share the responsibilitie. Check out your hospital or local support groups they have classes on how to prepare your daughter for motherhood.

Vera - posted on 08/28/2009

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some times we r schocked but true family get threw these times but sticking together she will need ur help by way of guidance and love im sure u will give that and thing will pan out how they should just b there 4 her cause it is already gonna b hard enough with out all the other drama she wil have in her life

Vera - posted on 08/28/2009

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some times we r schocked but true family get threw these times but sticking together she will need ur help by way of guidance and love im sure u will give that and thing will pan out how they should just b there 4 her cause it is already gonna b hard enough with all the other drama she wil have in her life

Cassandra - posted on 08/26/2009

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Quoting Wendy:

What do you do when your 15 year old daughter tells you she pregnan? abortion and adoption is out.

What do you when your 15 year old daughter tells you she is pregnant? abortion and adoption are out of the question so please don't suggest that. the father of the child and his parents are supportive and do want to be part of the babys life. but I am just reeling and my daughter is just very non-chalant regarding the whole thing...she has broken up with the babys father which is ok..but again I am in shock!!!



Hi, this is a very hard situation but it will be ok.....I was pregnant at 13...very very scared!! My parents helped me raise him until i was 17 and got married (not to the father) their support was crucial to my and my son's well being. As  with most of these replies I say support her, try to understand what she's going through but remember that she is 15   and doesn't have the full capability of understanding whats in store for her life.  No matter what you tell her and how much she thinks she understands she wil never fully comprehend it untill its happening and she's going through each obsticle. I understand what you added that if she won't be responsible then you will raise the baby your self and that is great but honestly you need to give her time. A LOT of time to grow up and realize what she needs to do. I took care of my child when i was 14 ( i turned 14 two weeks before he was born)  the baby slept in my room,i cared for his needs as in feeding, bathing, etc. played with him , and rocked him.  My mom would also help if i got tired in the middle of the night.....no matter what age a mother is that is Hard!! and having responsibility or not every mother needs a break so just help her to the best of your ability and don't think that just because she wants to hang with her friends she's not responsible.....just set some boundaries before hand so she doesn't take advantage of the situation....she will regret it if she does..there was a time about a year when i was 16 so my son was 2  that i was partying way too much and leaving him with my mom we got into it big time and i realized that i needed to settle down and not go out so much.... so i did and a year later i was married ( not to the father,, however to a great step-father)...the only 2 regrets i have about the whole situation is (well besides that i should have waited of course but i was 13 and not knowing a damned thing i was doing) is 1 that when i was partying i look back and know i missed out on too much and you can't get that time back and 2. I dropped out of high school and worked.  So even when she is struggling to handle everything push her and push her to graduate.  It took me until I was 25 to obtain my GED everthing gets harder when you are a young struggling mom but please don't ever let her lose her sights on her education it will be that much harder if she does. Just know that you and her will both get through this and come out Ok!! And you will have a wonderful addition to your family. Good luck, and God Bless, Cassi

Sheila - posted on 08/26/2009

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It is a big shock, but you just deal with it and get through it. You cry alot and pray about it and you love her just the same! It happened to us, but she was only 14. She didn't turn 15 until a month before her baby was born. She is now 19 and our wonderful little grandson is now 4. I can't imagine life without him . We supported our daughter and stood beside her. We have helped her in anyway we can, but she is still his Mother. She is a good mother to her son, she had a lot to learn and still does in some respects, but don't we all? Hang in there, it will all work out! Babies are a gift from God, sometimes we don't plan their birth and that can make things harder and very scary! Children are a blessing and if we remember that and look to God for guidance, we can make. It seems babies bring people together and friends are usually willing to help out. I wish you all the luck and God bless you and your growing family!!

Lacey-Anne - posted on 08/26/2009

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Sounds like you have made the decision but your daughter needs a wake up call, babies are for life, do you have a close friend with a newborn that she could spend a couple of days with

Sunny - posted on 08/26/2009

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It sounds as if you are prepared to stay the course with your daughter and her baby. I am sure you and she will go through many different phases from now through the birth of your granddaughter--just remember how hard it can be to be pregnant, at any age, and give your daughter the support she will need. She will be grateful some day for your love and support today. She might think right now that her life will go back to "normal" after the baby is born...how can any 1st time mom really know how many changes take place the moment that your child is born? Everything in my world shifted on an axis that is now centered around my daughter--I anticipated a shift but I had no idea what a strong incredible bond and desire I would have to be my daughter's protector-- Moms understand that nothing can compare to the bond between a loving mother and her child. Your daughter will understand that, soon. Be there, but be clear about your expectations, since it sounds like your daughter and granddaughter will be living with you-- your daughter should also make her expectations of you clear...so that you both can live peacefully together.

Alexandra - posted on 08/26/2009

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I certainly agree that your support will be important. I will hazard a guess that, since adoption and abortion are out of the question, you (and your husband?) will have to prepare to take on a very large proprtion of raising his new life. Your daughter is too young to have the experience and maturity necessary to give this child what it needs. Kids that age are by nature self-involved, so it will take a lot to get her to a place where she puts her baby's needs ahead of her own. This especially when her friends want her to go out and be social. This will be life-changing for all of you involved and I wish you blessings and peace.

Annette - posted on 08/24/2009

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first off, its great that the father and his parents are supportive, AND i'm glad to hear that abortion and adoption are out of the question! not much you can do, just be there and help out in anyway you can. just talk to her and inform her of whats to come in the months ahead.

Angela - posted on 08/24/2009

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give her tons of books on pregnancy, birth, and breast feeding. i would encourage a natural birth. it would open her eyes to the huge responsibility of motherhood. and breast feeding would help create the strong bond which is especially important for young mommies.

Angela - posted on 08/24/2009

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give her tons of books on pregnancy, birth, and breast feeding. i would encourage a natural birth. it would open her eyes to the huge responsibility of motherhood. and breast feeding would help create the strong bond which is especially important for young mommies.

Angela - posted on 08/24/2009

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give her tons of books on pregnancy, birth, and breast feeding. i would encourage a natural birth. it would open her eyes to the huge responsibility of motherhood. and breast feeding would help create the strong bond which is especially important for young mommies.

Shawna - posted on 08/22/2009

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Well, looks like you, grandma are going to start all over again...helping raise a baby. Look at it this way, you are going to be a very young grandma, and since you are established as an adult, the baby is in great hands!

Shawna - posted on 08/22/2009

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Well, looks like you, grandma are going to start all over again...helping raise a baby. Look at it this way, you are going to be a very young grandma, and since you are established as an adult, the baby is in great hands!

Pat - posted on 08/22/2009

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Give her all of the love you can. Everyone makes a mistake and God forgives us all. I was 16 years and 2 months when I found out, 36 years ago...

User - posted on 08/22/2009

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I was there!, except I was the 15/16 year old, 35 years ago. The only thing I can tell you is to not abandon her. Help her make good choices, but make sure they are HER choices. She is the one who has to live with the results. Encourage her, then whatever HER choice, stand by her. Don't try to change her mind to achieve what YOU want. If she keeps the baby, help her be a good mom. I was an immature mom, and screamed at my daughter all the time, cause I didn't have patience with her. She is now in therapy. But Love her, and Love her baby, even if you don't get to see the baby as much as you'd like. Hope this helps you

Shawna - posted on 08/22/2009

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Well, looks like you, grandma are going to start all over again...helping raise a baby. Look at it this way, you are going to be a very young grandma, and since you are established as an adult, the baby is in great hands!

Shawna - posted on 08/22/2009

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Well, looks like you, grandma are going to start all over again...helping raise a baby. Look at it this way, you are going to be a very young grandma, and since you are established as an adult, the baby is in great hands!

Vickie - posted on 08/22/2009

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Be supportive of your daughter but you also need to make her aware of the seriousness of her situation. I agree that one mistake is acceptable but anything after that is not. At 15, she has no clue of what it is going to be like to raise and care for a baby. Even though she is so young, it is her decision to make as to whether or not she wishes to keep her child. If she does want to keep her child, she's going to have to grow up in a hurry and understand that she will no longer have time exclusively to herself. And the baby's father also has rights as far as the baby is concerned.



If your daughter is going to keep her baby, then you need to get together with the boy's parents & discuss their son's responsibilities with this baby. You should probably get an attorney to draw up legal papers in order to ensure that the boy's parents are going to contribute to their grandchild's support & also set down visitation, parenting rights, etc.



Also, since you say adoption is out of the question, are you prepared to take over raising & caring for your grandchild? It sounds like your daughter is probably going to expect you to care for her baby, ep when she realizes that this is not a doll that can be put aside when the novelty wears off. There are many,many good people who would love to have a child of their own & with the proper adoption agency, your daughter's baby could have 2 parents that would be thrilled to adopt your daughter's baby. Everyone needs to think of what is best for the baby, not what they think they want for themselves.

Jodie - posted on 08/20/2009

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I was 15 when i fell preg 16 when i gave birth to my eldest. It wasn't easy at all but with the support of my family we made it through the tough part of things... they didn't look after my baby but was always an open ear or advice if i needed it... just knowing they weren't far helped. it will put her life on hold for a while but that doesn't mean it will stop completely I am now 28 and have just had my 5th bubs completed schooling at TAFE and cert in nursing and i have no regrets at all ... i hope it all goes well for your daughter and family

Caitlin Allope - posted on 08/20/2009

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The only thing you can do is support her but set guidelines. IE I will watch baby while you finish your education but I will NOT watch baby for you to go clubbing as you have responsibilities now. You may also find that her attitude chages to the pregnancy as it gets nearer and definately after the baby is born.

Gillian - posted on 08/20/2009

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The is nothing we can do when this happens. Any parent out the, if you have teenaged daughter who has a boyfriend. It standds at your door. Be open with them, talk to them about using contreseption. Cause we can't stop them really from having sex. We are not with them 24/7. But when we teach our children the biblical side of having sex before marriage, then things would be diffrent. Our bodies are the temple, we are responsible for keeping it pure. Enjoy the little one when it gets there. Every child is a gift from God. Good luck

Kylie - posted on 08/19/2009

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Quoting DAWN:

you tell her to get an abortion. that's whats best for babies having babies. im sorry but no 15 yr old should be getting themselves into that situation. be the mom and put your foot down. abortion abortion abortion. they can be done up to 6 months in some states.


Dawn are you trying to stir trouble? Did you not read the OP's first statement..adoption and abortion are out of the question. Personally I find the notion of abortion at six months offensive and disgusting. Try to choose your words carefully and if you can’t offer anything helpful or meaningful say nothing at all.

Kylie - posted on 08/19/2009

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Quoting DAWN:

you tell her to get an abortion. that's whats best for babies having babies. im sorry but no 15 yr old should be getting themselves into that situation. be the mom and put your foot down. abortion abortion abortion. they can be done up to 6 months in some states.


Dawn are you trying to stir trouble? Did you not read the OP's first statement..adoption and abortion are out of the question. Personally I find the notion of abortion at six months offensive and disgusting. Try to choose your words carefully and if you can’t offer anything helpful or meaningful say nothing at all.

Tammy - posted on 08/19/2009

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omg lets just switch to murder ok... stupid ppl baby has a heart beat at 28 days. I beleive it says in the bible " I knew you before you were born"

Tammy - posted on 08/19/2009

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can't be in shock to long . she needs you rather she knows it or not . Had a scare the other day with my 16 year old son. They both told me before anyone else. you gotta be that rock that holds everyone together

Tammy - posted on 08/19/2009

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can't be in shock to long . she needs you rather she knows it or not . Had a scare the other day with my 16 year old son. They both told me before anyone else. you gotta be that rock that holds everyone together

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i am shocked at dawns respons i must say i was a young mum myself and not ready for whot lay ahead though not as young as yor doughter all you can do is talk hug and be there and addviose her and explain it gets tough its not all cuddles kisses and fun stuff as long as she knows this best of luck hope u are all well nikki

Jennie - posted on 08/17/2009

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You need to allow yourself time to adjust to the news and accept it. Be supportive to daughter. I totally agree with Marta comments. Even though she is 15 she was adult enough to make the baby you have to make sure she is adult enough to care for the child correctly. If she is unable then you have to be strong enough to step in which is very difficult. I know because I've had to do that and now I'm raising 2 grandchildren. Sometimes when thier this young you have prepare yourself for raising children again

Sharonda - posted on 08/17/2009

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Wow, all I have to say is be supportive of her and make sure she is involved as much as possible, I had my first child at 18. Both of my parents were supportive but when my son arrived they let me and my sons father know that we layed down and made we are going to take care of it. I finished high school got a good job luckly my sons father was already resposible and we made it threw to have two more boys.

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Honestly, I don't know what I would do. I was a teen mother and have 3 daughters. 2 are grown and married and the last is 14. I am holding my breath, as you never know. I was a 'good girl' with some activities and an older boyfriend. I think it starts with asking her about her plan. Does her plan involve you raising another child? Supporting another child? What are her educational goals? She should be bearing a lot of the responsibility and now is probably a good time for her to know that non-chalance has no place in this situation. It is serious and someone's life is at stake. You should also be clear about what your role will be. My mother helped but one thing that she did not do was mislead me about whose responsibility a baby was going to be once I decided that I was going to keep it. Let her know you are there, but if you handicap her, you may find yourself raising another baby and your grandchild having an irresponsible parent. Good luck and hang in there!

User - posted on 08/17/2009

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Honestly, I don't know what I would do. I was a teen mother and have 3 daughters. 2 are grown and married and the last is 14. I am holding my breath, as you never know. I was a 'good girl' with some activities and an older boyfriend. I think it starts with asking her about her plan. Does her plan involve you raising another child? Supporting another child? What are her educational goals? She should be bearing a lot of the responsibility and now is probably a good time for her to know that non-chalance has no place in this situation. It is serious and someone's life is at stake. You should also be clear about what your role will be. My mother helped but one thing that she did not do was mislead me about whose responsibility a baby was going to be once I decided that I was going to keep it. Let her know you are there, but if you handicap her, you may find yourself raising another baby and your grandchild having an irresponsible parent. Good luck and hang in there!

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Quoting DAWN:

you tell her to get an abortion. that's whats best for babies having babies. im sorry but no 15 yr old should be getting themselves into that situation. be the mom and put your foot down. abortion abortion abortion. they can be done up to 6 months in some states.



Not to be rude, but she had clearly stated abortion wasn't an option for their family. "Put your foot down?" What does that have to do with anything. It's her daughter's body, her choice. That's just so unbelievably rude!

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Everyone has given great advice! My opinion would be about the same! She needs to be the one responsible for the baby, that means not going out all the time and making you keep the baby! She needs to be the one to get up in the middle of the night, making bottles, changing diapers, you know all the normal parenting jobs. Just be there for merely support! Im not sure exactly what to say but thats what my parents told me if I ever had a baby while in their house. I hope everything goes well and good luck with everything and mostly congrats! Everything happens for a reason and baby is a blessing(not an easy one at that age but none the less a blessing) Not everyone can carry children so for that I am happy for her! Good Luck!

Leanne - posted on 08/17/2009

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Buy her lots and lots of books! It sounds crazy, but you wouldn't believe how intimidating not knowing can be! When I had my first child I was absolutely clueless about every thing from shots and immunizations all the way to the simple things like how many times a day he needed to eat. The more she knows, the more confident she will be in caring for her new little angel. I hope the best for you two and I am glad to hear she has such a supportive mother like you. Bless you for loving her so much!

April - posted on 08/17/2009

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Sorry...but if abortion & adoption are out of the question...DEAL WITH IT!!! that's what YOU do!!!

DAWN - posted on 08/17/2009

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you tell her to get an abortion. that's whats best for babies having babies. im sorry but no 15 yr old should be getting themselves into that situation. be the mom and put your foot down. abortion abortion abortion. they can be done up to 6 months in some states.

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