what do you do with an adult heroin addict, as in 42 years of age?

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Shawnn - posted on 11/02/2012

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Lynn,



1) As soon as you witness suspicious behaviour, call him in. Keep calling him in. Eventually, they'll put him back into rehab.



2) see what you can do to get that baby back under your roof. Try to get her mother to allow you to foster her.



3)Pray. Involve your church family. Know that I'm praying for you all as well



Best of luck!

Dove - posted on 11/02/2012

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What would 'I' do? Stay out of his/her life 100% or call the police on them.

Sophia Marie - posted on 11/03/2012

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not one thing.................. you gave more than he should have gotten. now let him give his self a new life.

Rachel - posted on 11/02/2012

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Sorry, just saw that it was your son.

It's such a horrible situation to have to deal with. You love them and want to help them but they have to want to help themselves.

Rachel - posted on 11/02/2012

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Who is it? Son, brother, father?

I have a brother that is addicted to pills. He stayed with me for 5 years. He didn't work and was living off my mothers money. She also lives with me.

I put a stop to the money thing and he got pissed. I told him he needed to leave and he flipped out on me.

I put up with him for so long because he was my brother and I wanted to help him but the problem was. He wasn't my brother anymore. Drugs change people. They aren't who they used to be.

I had to call the police to have him escorted out of my home. When I went into his room, I saw all kinds of things he stole from us and took apart. He was getting the copper to sell.

I no longer speak to him and honestly, don't think I ever will again. He hurt me so much. I'm not sure I can forgive that.

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Pray and try to get him to go to rehab and if he refuses pray again. Joining groups of this subject can help you and try to get his child away from both of them. How old is his child? You did raise him and unfortunately his way of life is tormenting you. Just keep in mind you did the best you could do and he made his choice of life. Hopefully he will come around. He has to hit bottom before he turns around.

Rachel - posted on 11/02/2012

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I'm always waiting to find out that he took too many pills and OD'd. I don't like him and don't want to see him but he's my brother and I'll always love him. So wondering if this is going to happen, kills me.

Lynn - posted on 11/02/2012

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Sometimes harder Shaawwn, the users at least have " oblivion" from time to time. The family are constantly worrying about over-doses etc. Yes I did go to some groups many years ago. I may re-connect.

Shawnn - posted on 11/02/2012

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Its as hard on the family as it is on the user, Lynn. Have you looked for support groups in your area?

Lynn - posted on 11/02/2012

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My son, and believe me he has done bad things to me over 20 years. But I just needed reminding of what to do. Felt alone and I am glad I have joined the circle. All this over the years has not done much for my emotional or mental health, thank you all , once again, Lynn.

Shawnn - posted on 11/02/2012

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Lynn, you and your family are in my prayers. I wish you the best of luck in this situation.



On the upside, I want you to know that I'm married to a recovered crack addict. He quit on his own, and has been clean for 25 years (We've been married 23 of those years). He said he woke up in the hospital one day, and decided that he didn't want to die yet, and that's what made him stop. Your son will need that "wake up" call, but once he gets it, he can kick the habit!



Faith and positive thinking!

Lynn - posted on 11/02/2012

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No. he lives with his father, who tends to enable him by keeping him safe. The child is "safe" she has just been here for a couple of days and we did normal things. She has now gone back to her moer 80 miles away. The mother has restarted alcohol abuse and what ever else.She is a self-harmer, social services involved. . Just read a lot of old posts, they helped. I was reminded that I have to let go and let God. THANK YOU ,SO MUCH FOR YOUR HELP,



lYNN

Lynn - posted on 11/02/2012

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no, this is my eldest son. He has been through a re-hab where he met his partner. They left together, and then came years of them being co-dependant. Subsequently had a child together, which I believe was born crack dependant. They subsequently moved and seemed to make real progress. However the relationship has come to an end I believe he is back using,although he denies it. I am 62 and I am really sick of it all. Dont mean to moan.



Lynn

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