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Sara - posted on 04/18/2009 ( 73 moms have responded )

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I saw a documentary this morning about the "Free Birth" movement where women are electing to have home births by themselves without the help of a midwife or any other trained professional. Some women are even foregoing prenatal care/testing in order to do this. I, for one, totally support home birthing, but to me, it just seems reckless to have NO ONE with any skills there to help if things take a turn for the worst. Any thoughts?

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Jennifer - posted on 04/18/2009

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As a Critical Care Nurse with a husband who is a Nurse Anesthetist, I cannot recommend a home birth, nor can I recommend not getting prenatal care. In both situations, you run the risk of losing both lives to unforeseeable events. Anyone seen a placental abruption? Seen anyone who has developed HIT? Seen a pulmopnary embolis? Seen anyone go into a diabetic coma? All of the above can happen without proper medical attention.

Rachael - posted on 04/18/2009

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I think everyone should get to choose what makes them most comfortable but after having some serious complications during my pregnancy that we would not have known about without tests I think not having at minimum routine exams is risky. I've seen the documentary and I've heard the arguments about women giving birth for centuries without medical help but how many of those women died during childbirth?? Just because you can drive your car without wearing your seatbelt doesn't mean you should actually do it...

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Quoting Emily:

Vaginal births are SO much healthier than csections for both mom and baby. One of a thousand reasons is that a baby born by csection has an 80% more of a risk to develop asthma than a vaginally born baby. Women should never elect to have a csection for no medical reason.


There are general comments that can be made about every topic under the sun - - it is better to turn the door handle clock-wise as opposed to counter clock-wise - it's better to roll you toilet paper from the top than from the bottom.   Everyone has their own opinion.  IN MY CASE it was healthier for my babies and myself to have them delivered by c-section rather than 'naturally' - neither one has Asthma.  I did not elect to have a c-section for no medical reason - as I've stated in previous posts my first baby was extremely large and would NOT have come out naturally.   I had NO ill effects from having my babies via c-section - recovery time was just as fast, in fact it was a good thing that I had my second son via c-section - as they found a tumor on one of my ovaries while they were in there - had I delivered 'naturally' it wouldn't have been found and removed before it did any damage.



Please don't judge a person until you walk a mile in their shoes - - I have no doubt that you will do what you are comfortable with when it comes to having your children - I did what I was comfortable with and was physically able to do. 



The comments that you are making are the ones that scare women and make them feel like less of a woman (or as though they have somehow failed as a woman) if they deliver via c-section.  



I would like to tell every pregnant woman out there - there is nothing wrong with you if you have a c-section to deliver your baby - you are still a good mother, and a complete woman.  Don't let anyone bully you into having your child naturally if things aren't working out.

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Christine - posted on 04/23/2009

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My pregnancy went well, and I could imagine that if I would have chosen this method, I would probably have ended up with a still birth. My baby had a full knot in the umbilical cord, and if I would have labored through a natural home birth, without monitoring by a professional, he would have been still born, because every contraction was cutting off his blood/oxygen supply. The best I could have hoped for was a severly mentally disabled child. Thankfully, I was in a hospital and everyone worked really hard to get me to deliver without a C-Section, before there was too much stress on my baby. He is completely healthy and bright, but it would not have been that way if I had made that time of decision, and I had no reason to suspect that there would have been any problems, before I went into labor.

Gail - posted on 04/23/2009

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I agree with you. it is smarter to have someone who can help if something is not going as planned. Even if it is just a midwife, someone really should be there to help out.

Sarah - posted on 04/22/2009

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Quoting Emily:

Melinda, how uneducated you sound. Home births with a doula, midwife, and neonatal nurse present are actually SAFER than births in the hospital.

And to Amanda- I had a csection with my first, and I'm currently planning a homebirth vbac. Its always possible :) Your OB will tell you no way, but get yourself a doula the next time you are pregnant. With this pregnancy I am seeing my normal OB and simply not telling her that I am planning a homebirth. I plan to show up at my 42 week appointment with a healthy baby in hand! :)



Home births are NOT safer than births in the hospital.  A home birth with a trained professional may be just AS safe as a hospital birth, but it is not safer. 



Also, no matter how prepared you may be, something can always go wrong which is why at the very least someone should be there to help, I agree with the comments about "free birth" being risky and slightly reckless.



Because of my complications with my last pregnancy and my emergency C-section, it is obviously not an option for me to do any form of home birth.  My next child will also be born by C-section, thus we will be in a hospital :-)



Emily, if you don't trust your OB enough to not include her in your plans for a homebirth, why would you keep her for an OB?  I would not choose a doctor to help care for me and my child that I did not fully trust! 

Kate CP - posted on 04/22/2009

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Home births rock...but you need some one to help you. Prenatal care is also really important. Our next baby (if I ever get pregnant) will be delivered at home unless something comes up. I delivered in the hospital the first time and it was a pretty good experience...but I hated being the hospital. And then they made me stay for 3 days. I hated that. I would much rather birth at home with a midwife and be in my own surroundings.
Seriously, though...giving birth is a lot of work and you really do need a trained professional there in case something does go wrong.

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I am on the fence about this. I like the idea of a home birth, but it MUST be done with some kind of experienced person who is equiped to handle emergency situations. I also think it is very important to have prenatal care. I personally was glad that my son was born in a hospital. He was not breathing when he was born and needed immediate attention. However, I did not like the way the staff or my OB treated me. I was not being monitored properly and I wish I had never had any drugs what so ever! I pushed much longer than needed because I could not feel anything (that is probably why my son had problems too). My next baby will be born in a hospital but I will use a doula or a midwife and NO DRUGS!!!

Jeanne - posted on 04/21/2009

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I can understand a woman wanting a home birth but not foregoing prenatal care or the assistance of a midwife or doula. I personally wanted to be in the hospital for the birth of my children in case something went wrong. It was a good thing because I personally had a seizure after the birth of my daughter and I needed an emergency c-section with my son, so I believe had I tried to give birth at home myself and my kids wouldn't have made it. There is nothing wrong with home births, but I would definitely want someone there with some medical knowledge if something went awry.

Bonnie - posted on 04/21/2009

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Totally agree. Although by nature a women's body will eject a baby, one can only hope that it doesn't tear the mother or the baby doesn't get stuck or have the cord wrapped around it's neck let alone have a baby born in physical or physiological distress or blue. It is for the care and protection of the child that such measures as midwives and trained professionals are needed. Are these mothers all trained in APGAR scoring to test if the child is exhibiting any medical issues immediately after birth? Child birth is a very natural thing, the complications that can arise killed women at a vast rate of knots in days past when medical or midwifery was not as available as it is today not to mention the vast amount of babies that died during and just after birthing. Are these women thinking of their babies or just of themselves???????????????

Melissa - posted on 04/21/2009

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Some women are stupid!!!!!!!!!!!! No way would I have a baby with out some sort of guidance. My husband and MANY men have NOOOOOO idea how to birth anything. Well, that's not true. My husband was raised on a farm (he saw calves being born all the time) LOL

Sara - posted on 04/21/2009

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I guess it was inevitable that we end up in a couple of arguments about this, huh? Like I said before, I have no problem with homebirth, but I guess I am endeavoring to know why someone would chose an unassisted childbirth or "free birth"? I appreciate you all sharing your experiences and opinions!

Stephanie - posted on 04/21/2009

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I should probably add that my first born was a hospital birth that went completely normal without any problems, which is why I chose a homebirth for my second, which also was a completely normal labour and delivery.

Stephanie - posted on 04/21/2009

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I was lucky enough to have the option of a home birth with my midwife. I am happy that I took this route, but would NEVER in a million years have an unassisted home birth. My midwife was my life line because in the height of labour there is NO WAY any woman can think they are capable of making decisions in the best interest of themselves or their baby. I counted on my midwife to ensure myself and the baby were progressing normally as without her I would have no way of knowing. Doing it alone in my opinion is taking unnecessary risks.

Jami - posted on 04/21/2009

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Quoting Melinda:

670 women die out of 100,000 live births due to lack of health care.Haiti’s maternal mortality ratio is more than five times the Latin American and Caribbean average. It is higher than any South Asian or Middle Eastern country except Afghanistan and Nepal. The worst rates are in West and Central Africa, where an average 1,110 women die per 100,000 live births. Haiti — closer to Miami than Atlanta is — has a ratio higher than four of the 24 countries there. WHAT DOES THIS HAVE TO DO WITH ME YOU ASK?The problem is heartbreakingly simple: Millions of Haitian women either cannot access health care, or cannot afford it. THERE ARE PEOPLE OUT THERE FIGHTING TO IMPROVE HORRIFIC CONDITIONS FOR THESE MOTHERS. THEN THERE ARE THE SELFISH SELF CENTERED IDIOTS PLAYING RUSSIAN RULETTE, LITERALLY, WITH THIER BABIES LIVES. I THINK IT'S DOWN RIGHT ABUSE. SHOULD THINGS GO WRONG THEY SHOULD BE CHARGED WITH MANSLAUGHTER, MAYBE THEN THEY'LL THINK MORE OF THE CHILD THEY'RE RISKING THAN THIER OWN TREND FOLLOWING BULLSPIT. NOTHING ABOUT HOME BIRTH HAS THE BABIES BEST INTERESTS AT HEART.


amazing how you mention nothing of the unsanitary water, the lack of proper nourishment? the unsanitary housing? please! homebirth is much safer than hospital births, but mortality will always be higher in undeveloped countries due to the problems I mentioned above.

Jami - posted on 04/21/2009

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I am 100% for unassisted Childbirth. I have been thus far unable to devote the amount of time necessary for the research that requires and have been unable to locate any of the supplies so my births were all hospital births.

Tera - posted on 04/21/2009

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Being an RN that works nursery I strongly think births should be at a hospital. There is just to much that can go wrong at any given time. I can't imagine how I would feel if something were to go wrong knowing I could have had better care. Also as an ambassador family for March of Dimes I feel that every woman should recieve adequate prenatal care to insure that every baby has a health start!

Annette - posted on 04/21/2009

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I had 3 of my childern in hospital and my last child at home. I wish I'd not been scared and had all of my children at home. There was always an issue that came up at the hospital that I was not happy with. When I had my daughter at home and did what I wanted to. I learned how to work with contractions I was having and not against them. I learned how my body work while in labor. The hardest WORK a woman will every do is give birth. My best and happiest experience was having my daughter at home on my couch with my Mother delivering her. I wish I'd had all of them at home. I had all of my children natural with no drugs. I know everyone can't do that.

Emily - posted on 04/21/2009

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Quoting Melinda:

670 women die out of 100,000 live births due to lack of health care.Haiti’s maternal mortality ratio is more than five times the Latin American and Caribbean average. It is higher than any South Asian or Middle Eastern country except Afghanistan and Nepal. The worst rates are in West and Central Africa, where an average 1,110 women die per 100,000 live births. Haiti — closer to Miami than Atlanta is — has a ratio higher than four of the 24 countries there. WHAT DOES THIS HAVE TO DO WITH ME YOU ASK?The problem is heartbreakingly simple: Millions of Haitian women either cannot access health care, or cannot afford it. THERE ARE PEOPLE OUT THERE FIGHTING TO IMPROVE HORRIFIC CONDITIONS FOR THESE MOTHERS. THEN THERE ARE THE SELFISH SELF CENTERED IDIOTS PLAYING RUSSIAN RULETTE, LITERALLY, WITH THIER BABIES LIVES. I THINK IT'S DOWN RIGHT ABUSE. SHOULD THINGS GO WRONG THEY SHOULD BE CHARGED WITH MANSLAUGHTER, MAYBE THEN THEY'LL THINK MORE OF THE CHILD THEY'RE RISKING THAN THIER OWN TREND FOLLOWING BULLSPIT. NOTHING ABOUT HOME BIRTH HAS THE BABIES BEST INTERESTS AT HEART.


When you say "HOMEBIRTH" do you mean unassisted birth as the original poster is talking about or homebirth in general? If you mean homebirth in general I think you need to look at your own research about infant mortality by country. The USA consistently ranks around 27 year after year in terms of infant mortality. the USA also has a homebirth rate of less than 1 percent. COuntries like  Sweeden, Japan, Hong Kong, th Netherlands and Finland rank first for having  fewer instances of infant mortality. A majority of these countries use midwives as a primary care giver for pregnant and birthing women. For example, statistics illustrate that in recent years between 33 percent and 45 percent of all births in the Netherlands were planned homebirhts.  In 2007there were 6.4 infant deaths out of 1000 live births in the USA and 4.9 in the netherlands. It might not sound like  abig diffeernce but when you take the vastness of the population and think about how many babies are actually dying in each country it is pretty dramatic. If you were talking about unassisted birth- sorry to go off on a tangent we just don't have the concrete studies about that yet.

Emily - posted on 04/21/2009

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Melinda, how uneducated you sound. Home births with a doula, midwife, and neonatal nurse present are actually SAFER than births in the hospital.

And to Amanda- I had a csection with my first, and I'm currently planning a homebirth vbac. Its always possible :) Your OB will tell you no way, but get yourself a doula the next time you are pregnant. With this pregnancy I am seeing my normal OB and simply not telling her that I am planning a homebirth. I plan to show up at my 42 week appointment with a healthy baby in hand! :)

Jodie - posted on 04/21/2009

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i agree 100% with the last post pregnant women need to be cared for throughout thier pregnancy yes doctors offer tests that could tell if there is anything wrong with thier children but they are optional i for one didnt take the down sydrom tests and all the other ones they offer children are a blessing normal or not every child deserves a rite to be born healthy and happy no matter what thier condition and with no healthcare or help there is the risk of stillborn or whatnot mothers who do this are selfish and should be charged if things should go wrong professionals go to college to help people like us have the healthy babies we so desire

Melinda - posted on 04/21/2009

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670 women die out of 100,000 live births due to lack of health care.Haiti’s maternal mortality ratio is more than five times the Latin American and Caribbean average. It is higher than any South Asian or Middle Eastern country except Afghanistan and Nepal. The worst rates are in West and Central Africa, where an average 1,110 women die per 100,000 live births. Haiti — closer to Miami than Atlanta is — has a ratio higher than four of the 24 countries there. WHAT DOES THIS HAVE TO DO WITH ME YOU ASK?The problem is heartbreakingly simple: Millions of Haitian women either cannot access health care, or cannot afford it. THERE ARE PEOPLE OUT THERE FIGHTING TO IMPROVE HORRIFIC CONDITIONS FOR THESE MOTHERS. THEN THERE ARE THE SELFISH SELF CENTERED IDIOTS PLAYING RUSSIAN RULETTE, LITERALLY, WITH THIER BABIES LIVES. I THINK IT'S DOWN RIGHT ABUSE. SHOULD THINGS GO WRONG THEY SHOULD BE CHARGED WITH MANSLAUGHTER, MAYBE THEN THEY'LL THINK MORE OF THE CHILD THEY'RE RISKING THAN THIER OWN TREND FOLLOWING BULLSPIT. NOTHING ABOUT HOME BIRTH HAS THE BABIES BEST INTERESTS AT HEART.

Shannon - posted on 04/21/2009

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My son would not be here today if I where to have done the birth at home with or with out a dr. or midwife. He needed immediate attention in hospital. Seems like a pretty simple choice to me. No one knew I was he was at risk either until he came out.

Amanda - posted on 04/21/2009

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A really good documentary about home births is The Business of Being Born. It was really great, imo. They took all necesarry precautions. I personally thought my hospital stay was somewhat "wreckless". Things could've been handled much differently, and maybe I wouldn't have had a c-section. Which I was very much so against. This documentary opened my eyes to a lot. Although I cannot have a home birth now bc of previous c-section, I wish I would've went with my instincts for my first pregnancy rather than others opinions and went with a midwife and doula.

Annette - posted on 04/21/2009

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I had my last child at home. It wasn't planned and I had my Mother, who is a nurse there with me. My Mother also delivered 3 of my sister's 4 children at home, which was planned. She, as I, went to the Doctor.

I don't think doing it alone is a wise thing to do.

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I think anyone who voluntarily tries a home birth without responsible supervision is nuts, and if something goes wrong should face charges for endangering the life of a child.

Martha - posted on 04/20/2009

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Add me as another one who would have died in childbirth were it not for the c-section. My grandmother needed forceps to help deliver my mom. My mom inherited her hips and married a man with a large head. Ergo, I was born by c-section. I inherited small pelvis from mom and large head from dad. I also married a man with a large head. I never got past 5, and once they opened me up, my doctor said a c-section was inevitable. My child could not have been delivered without one, and we both would have died.

Michelle - posted on 04/20/2009

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I have nothing against Home births, however I think it's nice to be around professional for those first couple of days, at least you know you can ask any questions at anytime of the day or night. I think first time mums should consider a hospital birth, what would happen if you needed an emergency c-section? I don't know, I'm a nurse myself and I think the healthcare system is there to be used, and I loved every second of both my hospital stays. If anything if it's a second or third child, you get a bit of a break from home and you don't have to worry about the other kids or housework etc. We are only human and birth has a massive stress on the body, we need to rest and heal.

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The facts that I know are the ones that I've lived - again if I would have had either of my children vaginally one or both of us would have died. I did not say that you were implying that they moms who deliver by section are bad moms, but more often than not when a woman has a section they are made to feel like they did something wrong.
As I have stated before I think that however a woman wants to have her children should be up to her - I wouldn't tell anyone that they are having their children the wrong way. I don't think that I had my children the wrong way either, and the comments that you have made towards me makes me feel like you are telling me I should have kept trying to push my baby out when he wasn't going to come out that way.

Emily - posted on 04/20/2009

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First of all, I never implied that women who have csections arent good mothers. I had a section myself. And it is not merely opinion that vaginal birth is healthier, safer, and generally better than a csection. It's facts. You cant tell me that its a fact to roll toilet paper one way vs another. By saying that you are totally downplaying the seriousness of vaginal birth vs csections. If you took time to research it, you couldnt ignore the facts.

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I would never, ever consider doing this alone! especially since my pregnancies were all high risk!

Jessica - posted on 04/20/2009

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i personally would never do it and am glad i didnt try. i ended up having to have an emergency c-section because my pelvic bone wasnt wide enough to have children. you never know what will happen until you are there. my son was stuck and wasnt breathing when he was born and had to be intibated. luckily he was fine within a couple hours but if i werent at the hospital already neither one of us would have made it. i had a planned c-section with my 2nd and will with this one also. I just feel you need to think about the baby and not just what you want to do. also the dr. visits before you have the baby are to keep the baby healthy. yes it can turn out fine but i would never of taken the chance and am glad that i didnt.

Amie - posted on 04/20/2009

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Quoting Becky:

I agree this is a reckless idea. I had my second child at home, with a doctor present. I enjoyed being at home, but at the same time I felt I was stressed with the idea that something could go wrong. I chose to have my next two children at a hospital. I still had natural births, and I left the hospital when I wanted. I think if you do your homework you can have what you want, and be safe.


Exactly! I had all four of mine in the hospital but it was all very relaxed and comfortable for me. I think people forget all you have to do is ask or out right tell the nurses/doctors what you want and they will listen to you. The only time I had a problem was with my first. I had not dilated for quite some time then out of nowhere I had to push. The nurses didn't believe me! They said I was too quiet. That was probably the dumbest thing I had ever heard. Not every woman turns into a ranting mad woman when their in labor. Though they called my doctor right away... good thing I had to push for an hour and half or my doctor might not have made it. She was 20 min away! LOL! I went home the next day with my baby. I asked to leave and since we were both healthy we were free to go. Same with my last three. I was home within hours of having them. I only stayed over night with my first because she was my only night time baby, she was born at 1:28 a.m. =) My wishes were also respected of being left alone and only allowing my partner (and my parents with my first) into the room. The only time I saw the nurses or doctors were when they came in to check babies heart rate, contractions, etc.

Becky - posted on 04/20/2009

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I agree this is a reckless idea. I had my second child at home, with a doctor present. I enjoyed being at home, but at the same time I felt I was stressed with the idea that something could go wrong. I chose to have my next two children at a hospital. I still had natural births, and I left the hospital when I wanted. I think if you do your homework you can have what you want, and be safe.

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I'm with you. I see nothing wrong with a home birth as long as you have a midwife, but free birthing to me is just stupid.

Emily - posted on 04/20/2009

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Quoting Sara:

I know that there are a lot of people that don't want medical intervention during or after birth, and I do understand that. But, I think that sometimes people take this to an extreme. My cousin just had her first baby in January, she's 27 years old. A few days before she was due she went to the doctor because she wasn't feeling very much movement and was having some pain. The doctor wanted to send her to the hospital to get a non-stress test done just to make sure everything was ok. She refused because she believed that he was just wanting to get her to the hospital and induce her (he wanted to give her one small dose of pitocin during the test just to see how the fetus reacted to a contraction, he did not want to induce her).


This is strange, I had a NST with my oldest when she was 42 weeks. It didn't involve any pitocin. It was actually pretty noninvasive.  I didn't really agree with the test because I had been feeling lots of movement but I went in any way. I was actually in labor at the time but I didn't tell the staff. Being active in the homebirth community I do see a lot of medical mistrust among those who opt for unassisted births. It is sometimes very rabid and accusatory.  While I wouldn't want to see a doctor I don't trust (there is one in my local area) I do not have that extreme mistrust, although, I agree that  in our recent past many medical professionals have not given birthing women much reason  to trust them.

Michelle - posted on 04/20/2009

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Vaginal births are in general healthier.
But not always. I had a CS with our first twins, and would elect to have one next time all going well.

The 'right' choice is the birth that a mother is happy and comfortable with. Whilst I appreciate the advocacy of natural birth fans and the information and positivity they spread sometimes the language can seem inflammatory against anything other than natural, which saddens me.

Emily - posted on 04/20/2009

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I am very interested in free birth, Sara. I don't know if it is for me. I had one unassisted birth by accident and one that probably should have been unassisted. I find I can't dilate when people are around. I don't know why. I have never seen that movie- but I have seen a few about unassisted birth. Some the women seem pretty irresponsible about birthing. Irresponsible is not the right word exactly but it is the closest I can think of right now I hope people still get my drift... Anyway I also know a few people who have had free births and were well versed on how to deal with emergency situations. Most were as equipped as any midwife to deal with these situations. One of my friends hemorrhaged. Of course, she went to the hospital where people are trained to deal with situations like this so I do not consider her "irresponsible". Since my midwife was so far away with my last baby I did most of my own prenatal care. For her birth certificate I had to answer a few questions about prenatal care. Saying I did my own was not adequate. My choice was to basically say I had none which is not true since I had the equipment used by doctors for normal low risk pregnancies. I also had access to an ultrasound but chose to forgo it. I wold definitely do my own prenatal care again, but I don't know if I would like to be alone for the birth even though my track record indicates I do better alone.

Mel - posted on 04/20/2009

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i wouldnt do a home birth to scared of something going wrong. i do agree with emily natural is better i would never do a c section without a medical reason. i gave birth all natural no epidural or anything and id do it again.

Emily - posted on 04/20/2009

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Vaginal births are SO much healthier than csections for both mom and baby. One of a thousand reasons is that a baby born by csection has an 80% more of a risk to develop asthma than a vaginally born baby. Women should never elect to have a csection for no medical reason.

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YES. with my second baby i had a major complication that was picked up in the scan. this scan saved mine and my babies life, because if she was born naturally or even tried to come out (if i had gone into labour).. she would have died via bleeding to death and suffercation, and it would have also caused me to have major bleeding to. I had to have a c-sec and 2 weeks in hospital and 20 weeks of hospital visits and monitoring. I was glad for the help and care. My first one i was so tired from the labour i was asleep and he was stuck, so i needed intervention then too.

Amie - posted on 04/20/2009

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I agree with you. There is nothing wrong with home births but this new "free birthing" age that is coming about is just dangerous. Free birthing is a home birth but with out a mid wife or doctor present. To me that is just nonsense. Sure you might not need them but what happens if you or baby do need them? How close is the hospital? How fast can you get help? How can any mom be ok with possibly putting their babies and their own life in danger?

Just last month the leading advocate for home & free births in Australia lost her baby because she stayed home and did not get help after being in labor for 5 days. Her baby died of cardiac arrest. Paramedics were called but they could not revive her infant.

http://www.theage.com.au/national/tragic...

If you google her name after reading the article there are a lot more that carried the story. So while I don't think there is anything wrong with birthing at home I do very much believe at least someone with some kind of medical background should be there, it could help prevent what happened to Janet Fraser and her family from happening to anyone else. Though nothing is 100% preventable.. babies can still die even if born in the hospital. I'd much rather be at hte hospital though, with quick access to everything and anything my baby might need, than be at home and have to wait and possibly make thing worse or (heaven forbid) lose them altogether.

User - posted on 04/19/2009

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I personally wanted to have a c-section from the moment I found out I was pregnant. I was told repeatedly no from my doctors - even after 12 hours of labor and meds to help speed things up - with no results - no we're going to let you keep having contractions every 2 1/2 minutes. I don't feel like I gave up - I wanted my son and myself to be healthy and alive. I was not induced - I was at 42 weeks 4 days.

I wish you the best of luck with your delivery - hopefully everything goes smoothly for you.

Emily - posted on 04/19/2009

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oh my god i really need to go to bed. My spelling and grammar is atrocious.

Emily - posted on 04/19/2009

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yeah late ultrasounds are famously off. I was told I had a 12 pound baby, and she wanted me to go in for section then and there, at only 38 weeks!! Of course I refused, and went to 43 weeks 3 days. I was somewhat ignorant on the whole procedure though. I was in labor for 26 hours and they kept telling me everything that could go "wrong" trying to vaginally birth a huge baby. So i stupidly gave in to the csection. He was only 9lbs 14 ounces!! I really REALLY wish I didnt give in to a csection like that. After doing my research, I have decided on a homebirth this time around. I dont care how long it takes, and I dont care if this baby is 14 pounds (eek) I will never have a csection again. This will be my last pregnancy, and I want the birth I have always dreamed of. Natural, no hospital, no interventions, no bullying, no scare tactics.
I know some women give up after going through a long labor. Or their doctors simply pressure them into a csection like my case. But if you give your body time, and your patient, then a natural vaginal birth WILL happen! Were by chance induced?

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They didn't clain I couldn't dilate past 3, I was in labor for 30 hours and only dilated to 3 - - before we went into surgery the surgeon looked at me and the ultra-sound and said oh he's about 8 - 8.5 lbs.

They had no idea he was going to be that big.

Emily - posted on 04/19/2009

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Yeah you're right, I wasnt there so I really dont have all the facts. There could have been a number of things wrong. But if your OB simply pulled the "omg big baby" card and claimed you couldnt dilate past 3, then that really sucks. I've been there too.

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Thanks for the suggestion, Emily - but I know what happened with my pregnancy - and with my body - there was NO WAY my son was going to come out without medical assistance.

User - posted on 04/19/2009

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My Ob/Gyn said he would not have come out without medical assistance - had we tried both of us had a high chance of not surviving.

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