what is it like to have two boys

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oh and i agree with betsy.. litlte boys looove mommy and im hoping they will take care of their future wives as daddy takes care of theirs.. and my 2 yr old has picked up the phrase, r u alright? so precious

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yes.. boys 2 and 1 lol.. i couldnt imagine it different.. they suite me well.. i was always a tomboy and prayed i owuld have boys..and i do lol.. thank goodness.. yes they r loud and obnoxious at times .. a lot of times.. i sah with them but when i found out my second was a boy.. i was sooo happy.. they r great and challenging.. we r outside a lot!! good thing we live in tx lol

Betsy - posted on 11/23/2009

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I have 4 boys and a girl. We had our youngest 3 boys in a year, with one, then twins. Boys are adorable. Little boys adore their Mommies! I did have a girl and understand he love of the girly things. I really want another girl myself. Our daughter is 12, and I can't really dress her up anymore, but take one child at a time. Enjoy this new baby. You don't have to plan your entire family right this minute. You don't know what circumstances are going to be down the road. My husband and I had our 2 kids, who were 16 and 9 when we had number 3, then 4 and 5!

I understand if you are a bit disappointed right now. With our twins, for a month they thought they were boy/girl twins, so I was planning for our first girl in 10 yrs, then found out they were both boys, but focus on right now being an exciting time of your life with a new baby coming. Enjoy the wonderful bonding between brothers, and you don't know what the future will hold. You may decide you are happy with being the mom of the two you have or you could end up having twin girls years down the road...you don't know!

Bonnie - posted on 11/23/2009

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Thanks everyone for sharing their thoughts on my issue, I was a little disappointed when I found out the second one I am having now is a BOY, I always wanted a girl so I can dress her up, make her look all pretty and stuff.. I been asking myself am I missing something on the other side of the world?? It doesn't seem like my life is complete... I did consider trying for 3rd child sometime to fulfilled my dream.. but then again, who can guarantee it will be a girl? Plus other factor like financially affordable or not? So I don't know if I should just settle down on what I have now or should I take the risk and is it worth it? And does it really make a difference in life?

Brandie - posted on 11/19/2009

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It all depends on what kinda person u r and how much u can take! I love my 2 boys...low maintenance! Yeah they get dirty and wrestle and do the boy things, but I don't mind it! They go thru a lot of clothes and may be loud and obnoxious @ times, but they r sooooo helpful and loving when they have to be! It all depends...

Alena - posted on 11/18/2009

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I have 2 boys aged 6 and 3 and life is a constant competition. They are very active, overly energetic and they never stop. They are also the very best of friends and are always looking out for each other. They prefer to play together than with other kids....life is a constant amusement with 2 boys :)

Karen - posted on 11/18/2009

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Ever hear the best of friends, the worst of enemies. Have got a 2 and 6year old. They can be great with each other and other days fight non stop. Yet when one is being bullied by another child, they are very quick to come to each others defense.

Monica - posted on 11/17/2009

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Dido - My boys are now 20 and 18. (15 mths apart) Thought I would go crazy those first few years but they are now each other's best friend - in college together and live in the same frat house. It is a very special relationship.

Also agree they are easier to raise - they have a sister who is 4 yrs younger - whole new HS experience.

Kathy - posted on 11/17/2009

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i have 2 boys 20 and 22 its perfect,they get along go out together hang around and they are best of friends

kathy who loves her babies

MIRIAM - posted on 11/17/2009

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My boys are men now with children of their own. Their little sister is grown as well. Yes, there were times when they fought. But I can remember a time when the oldest got into a fight with a friend because the friend hit the younger brother. His comment to me when I was scolding him for fighting was that, although his brother may be a jerk at times, that was his brother and no one was going to get away with hitting him. There seems to be differences between raising boys and girls, but I have to wonder if most of those differences are because of adult expectations. Basic childrearing is the same. If you teach them to be kind, loving people you will enjoy their childhood and raise men you can be proud to call your sons. I miss the chaotic days of a houseful of boys from the football or wrestling teams. It was loud and rowdy, but believe me, a houseful of girls can be just as loud!

Theresa - posted on 11/17/2009

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I have two boys, ages 15 and 13, and a daughter who is 19. They are all wonderful children, but in my opinion, raising boys is easier. When the boys were little, they were best friends and great playmates. Now that they are getting older, they tend to argue more. I believe this mostly stems from the younger boy always trying to compete with the older one to prove that he is just as capable. Their personalities are also very different now but that just makes my job as "mom" even more fun! :)

Lisa - posted on 11/17/2009

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i have two boys and a girl. in that order. they are 11,9, and 8. it has been an interesting road. they mostly get along. my daughter being the baby is louder and more agressive. my oldest fathers the little ones and my middle just goes with the flow. it always amazes me how thier world works. about a month ago my oldest told my daughter that she better not have too many boyfriends because he doesnt want to have to beat too many people up lol. the boys just annoy and tease each other. but my daughter is the one who starts all the chaos.

Kimber - posted on 11/17/2009

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I have two boys and I have to say that it can be challenging at times. My oldest (Connor) is 5 and my youngest (Christopher) is 1. They play well together most of the time but the 1 year old is almost as big as his brother weight wise, so Chris thinks that it is okay to be a UFC fighter and punch and hit his brother. My question is how do you really discipline a 1 year old so that they understand? I do love them though and I would not trade a moment....

Kaula - posted on 11/17/2009

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I have twin boys who are 17 months old and they can be a handful at times but also alot of fun. They both started walking at the same time. They do have their momnets where they want to fight over their toys but they also have two of everything.

Kelly - posted on 11/17/2009

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Amber, I loved your post. What a wonderful son you are raising (as I'm sure the younger ones are too)! Be prepared, he will soon be to the age of hormones. I have two boys, 17 and 15, and two girls, 7 and 3. I never realized that boys have "hormone" issues when they hit puberty, but they do! My boys are great, and I have never had any trouble out of them to speak of, but they did both go through an age (12, 13) that for about a year, they showed some attitude, completely out of charactor for them. When it happened with our oldest (like clockwork, when he turned 12), my husband and I just couldn't believe it. It was just the rolling-of-eyes,"whatever", kind of thing we had never seen before. But he outgrew it, and when it hit our second son we knew to just kind of laugh it off (after he left the room of course!) and not worry too much, and he also outgrew it. Anyway, in answer to the original post, boys are loud, and dirty, and smelly, and loyal, and helpful, and loving. They build forts and tear them down, and wrestle in mud, and pick flowers for mom (even if they are dandelions), and help you unload the groceries from the car, and take out the garbage even if it is dark and/or raining at the time. They give each other bloody noses and knock out each other's baby teeth, and they help each other with homework and give girl advice. They are so special to a mom's heart, and you will love watching them turn into men. Enjoy your blessings!

Liz - posted on 11/17/2009

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Hi
Im Mum to 2 gorgeous boys..Jack is 12 and Max 11 months...I loveeee itttttt....Jack was a very easy baby shy and quiet...Oh boy I got my work cut out for me now..Max is LOUD and into EVERYTHING..Total opposites..But I love it and Max keeps me well and truely on my toes.
Boys /Girls all babies are a real blessing xxxxxxx

Amber - posted on 11/17/2009

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Lol, I loved reading these posts. I have 3 boys and a girl. The boys are 11, 6 and 5, and my daughter is almost 9. They are great (but loud). Most days, I have no fewer than 5 kids at home (my oldest boy brings his friend over a lot). But it is so fun. Weekends are crazy and chaotic.
Although they are loud, my oldest is very responsible. He recently started coming home from school, and staying home alone for an hour til I get home from work. He knows the rules, and he's so helpful. Friday I got home from work, and he showed me that he cleaned out the shed. As a single mom, I appreciate the help (and I make sure I tell him). My dad is handy around the house, and he enjoys helping my dad out, but likes to be independant, so when he started doing things around my house (provided he follows the rules - safety first, aka - no power tools, etc), I make sure to praise him. It really started to increase is self-confidence, and mellow him out a little bit. He's a lot quieter now. My younger two boys are still very loud, but my daughter is like a little princess, and although she enjoys climbing trees with the boys, is very often content laying on her bed reading a good book. What a blessing the boys are in my life (I only knew girl stuff before).

Priscilla - posted on 11/16/2009

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I love having boys! I have 2. My oldest is 9. My youngest is 5. They fight like cats and dogs, then turn around and hug each other. We do have to keep a close eye on what our oldest might teach our youngest, because of the age difference. In most little kids there will be some sibling rivalry. But we try to do things with them equally but separate sometimes. Just so they both know how special they are to us. I would have no idea what to do with a girl, so I believe 2 boys are perfect!

Danielle - posted on 11/16/2009

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I'm only a step mom of two boys, and i personally love having two boys and that probably because are personallitys are the same and we enjoy all the same things.. Yea they're mouth farts and forgetting manners sometimes can be a challenge but all an all i love every minute of having two boys. They are 11 & 7.

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I have a 4 yr old and a soon to be 3 yr old. Mine are complete opposites too. They have their moments. The younger one adores the older one and wants to do everything he does. They do fight quite a bit sometimes, but I think it's just that whole alpha male - find your place - thing that guys go through. I have some long days with them but I am so excited about all the things I'll get to do with them. I'm just worried about the teenage years...

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I have 2 boys (33 months and 11 months) and it's great! Well, it's great in some ways, tiring in others. My youngest has all his brothers stuff, so I've saved HEAPS because everything can be handed down. Money aside, I think it's great because they can play together and like a lot of the same things. Whilst I know they are young and things can change, it's great to see them playing together.

I was worried when I first brought the baby home, not sure how my then 22 month old would take it. From the first time he saw the baby in hospital (the afternoon he was born), there's never been any jealousy. Of course I helped orchestrate that by having a present for him waiting in the hospital room and saying it was from the baby, but it continued. He's never been jealous of his younger brother, except when he's sick and wants mummy and I'm busy feeding the little one.

We all play together, the only downside is the type of play and how rough it can get. Because he's almost 3, my eldest can get a bit too rough with the little one and I have to referee. Daddy is better at playing with them, because they play rough together.

Another downside is that it's tiring. My boys never stop! My friend has 2 girls and she's watched my boys and has commented on how different they are to what her girls were like at the same age. She could sit one girl down to play with a doll (or whatever) and feed the other one. Her girls were happy to sit and play quietly for ages at the ages my boys are now. I have no idea how that feels. When breastfeeding the baby, I was just lucky to discover that my older son would sit and watch Hi-5 (a half hour kid's show). That was the only half hour he'd sit still. My boys don't sit and play quietly... they run around the house crashing into each other and laughing their guts out (or some equally noisy play). My eldest would rather be outside than inside anyway. The good side of this is that it keeps you busy! You don't get much work done around the house, but oh well. :-)

In the long term, I think I'm going to get off lightly too. While my boys may play sport and we'll have fees for that, it won't be anywhere as expensive as a girl. Hair, makeup, clothes that have to always be updated.... Give me dirty boys on motorbikes or playing sport any day!

Alicia - posted on 11/16/2009

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my two boys 5 1/2 & 2 years, are wonderful. I can't compare them to girls, because I don't have one. They are very close, quick to help each other out. They rarely fight even if the younger one is bothering the oldest one, he will just say lets go play with your toys and leave my loges till later. They are both very expressive about how they feel. Even when we try to do things separately with them, the oldest always say that he wishes the other could have come. There has been some drama since school has started for the youngest, but once brother gets off the bus it's gone. Oldest even ask me to bring little brother to school parties. I think they are great, because my sister and me never got along till we were well into our 20's

Miranda - posted on 11/16/2009

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It is wonderful! I have a five year old and a one year old and i couldnt ask for anything better. I feel like i was meant to have boys i wouldnt know what to do with a girl. lol
I love to watch them play. the bond between them is already strong and it is a wonderful experience for me,

Sharon - posted on 11/16/2009

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it is NOT 'boy stuff' to pick on someone younger & smaller than you. Its simple bullying and should never be tolerated.

Charlene - posted on 11/16/2009

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I have 2 boys, Dylan is 27 months and Kyle is 6 months. They both love each other, Dylan likes to help and give him hugs and kisses, he tells him he loves him, Kyle just stares at Dylan and just watches everything he does, you can tell he wants to be able to walk and play and eat the same food. Its nice to have them close in age so they can grow up together and be buddies hopefully, but it is hard at the same time, they both need your attetion and with a colicky and fussy baby who wants to be held alot and stimulated alot it can be very hard to do other things like cleaning and taking care of Dylan. You just make it work and do your best and thats really all you can do, it will come natural, you'll know what to do and how to do it. It will be hard and stressful but wonderful and worth it. Whats also nice is that Kyle wears all Dylans old clothes and uses all the same stuff I need for Dylan, so you save alot of money! The only bad thing is I can't figure out what to get Kyle for Christmas cuz he has all Dylans old baby toys! I'll have to look around and figure something out! Going out I find its alot harded with 2 kids, more work when more, the best thing is to be organized, make a list if you have to so you don't forget anything!

Melissa - posted on 11/16/2009

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Me mean? opposites: the older one likes to pick on the younger one which everyone tells me is boy stuff and the younger (8) one is one of those kids that will tell you what he thinking even if it shouldn't be said while the older one (11) you have to pry things out of him...but when they get along it is by doing things that i have been told boys do and to let it go like mentioned above...i love them and wouldn't change either one...but my nieces are quiet play by themselves and enjoy all the girly things

Megan - posted on 11/16/2009

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Well I have three boys and it is great...they all play well together. As they get older they get louder and they tend to play a little more rough but I think they are wonderful and they are each others best friends. The 2nd one really isn't much different from the first...well in my case they are all a like in so many ways....they even look a like, they each just have a different color hair.

Melissa - posted on 11/16/2009

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well long story short...i have complete opposites...3 yrs apart and they can be a major handful...do a lot of "boy" things (fart noises/loud/poo jokes/chicks dig me statements/etc) a lot different than my nieces

Sharon - posted on 11/16/2009

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I have two boys and a girl



My boys are older. Its fun. My oldest boy is not a natural nurturer(sp?) so getting him to connect with the baby was a challenge.



Its still not 7th heaven around here but its better. After their baby sister was born, they both became more compassionate.



My kids are 4 years and 3 years apart, which made a difference in how they interacted.

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