What is the appropriate age for a child to start dying her hair

Dianne - posted on 02/26/2012 ( 16 moms have responded )

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What do you think Moms? My daughter who is 12, wants to dye her hair, nothing outlandish,but I repeat she is 12! Now she has gone so far as to buy a box of Revlon, the color looks suitable for her skin tone etc, but there again, we're talking about a chemical on the hair for a 12 year old. Whats your thoughts? thanks!

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Sara - posted on 11/21/2012

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ok its here hair and she is entilted to do whatever she wants.... she has 2 liv with the consequenese

Monick - posted on 08/22/2012

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I mean don't let her dye her hair at all its a bit extreme don't you think? Look I'm 12 and i have been asking my mom and sister if i could have colorful hair extensions but they wont let me! Its not like i want to dye it, i just want extensions like a clip-on or temporarily hair color but she says no! My mom let me have temporarily color before but what stops her is my sister who is very demanding and says that I'm to young but its not like im going to dye it permanently,NO! i for instance want to express myself, i want another change in my life because i want to be someone new not boring-old-me in the past i want to be someone that people want to be with for me not just because im tough, i want to be interesting im still working with the hormones and stuff but i want something cool,fun,and creative in my personality! its true if u forbid something it will make the person more determined to do it so try to reason with her and this is just my long opinion/speech

Kate CP - posted on 02/26/2012

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My mom let me dye my hair at about 13 or so. I think waiting until 18 is a little over the top...but that's just me.



Here's the thing, if you make it something forbidden she's more likely to attempt to rebel and do it anyway. Why not make it a fun mother-daughter thing and give each other "make overs". You can make a night of it where you both dye your hair (if you're doing that) and paint nails and maybe groom eyebrows or teach her how to put on a MINIMAL amount of make up for special occasions (like lip gloss and some clear mascara). It's special mommy-daughter bonding AND it'll make her feel grown up without making her look tramp-y.

Krista - posted on 02/26/2012

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I would say at 12 that there's no harm in a streak of colour, or even in some semi-permanent dye to enhance her hair colour. I don't think I'd allow permanent dye until she's a bit older -- 15 or so. But that's me -- this is truly one of those things where you have to do what feels right for your own family.

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Dianne - posted on 06/15/2013

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I am trying to post: a year and 3 mos later, daughter who is now 14 has dyed her hair a dark auburn (reddish) actually looks very nice!

Dea - posted on 06/15/2013

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Hi...if you want to be super safe and it shows your daughter or son that you have given them a final option before permanently dying their hair...look at doing a skin test on their arm and taking a hair sample by cutting a small sample of hair from the nape of the neck and follow instructions from the box only mixing a tiny equal amount, placing the lid back on the dye bottles straight after. Place the mixed dye on the hair sample that is in a foil. Leave on the hair sample as explained on the box. The skin test, leave for 24hrs with a loose plaster over to see if there is a skin reaction and test the hair for strength and elasticity( if it is weak after washing the hair with water and drying the hair sample, you can at least see how the hair will react!!) Disclaimer!! I am only giving advice so I am not responsible for any mishaps!! I hope this helps by finding a balance with your children. : )

Medic - posted on 03/03/2012

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I was going to say my mom died my hair hot pink when I was 11 and I have been dying it on and off since. My son is 5 and last year he has a neon green hawk....so obviously I have no issues with it. I am glad you reached middle ground even if she is not totally happy with it. Maybe it will grow on her, maybe she just wanted a change.

Dianne - posted on 03/03/2012

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It did get a little confrontational between she & I at the hair school but she ended up with color only in the top section of her hair, it looks like highlights. she wasn't totally happy & with the dye she had the beauticians told her since her hair is jet black it wouldn't even show up in her hair, what she did get was very subtle & the beauticians also told her she was too young for any more color than what they put in, she's not a one to take care of her hair properly so overall i think it worked out well, thanks for evryone's help.

Jocelyn - posted on 02/28/2012

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I`m gonna be different and say that I think 12 years old is fine! But then again I have coloured my daughters hair pink before (she`s 2, and it was wash out! don`t worry LOL)

Dianne - posted on 02/26/2012

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thats good, i thought we'd go to the hair dresser together do it together, but i'm leaning towards highlights

Connie - posted on 02/26/2012

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i highlighted my daughters hair for her when she turned 11. it was nothing drastic but it seemed to pacify her. I pick my battles carefully and while she would never be allowed to dye it a funky color or bleach it out ( she has naturally dark hair ) as of yet i think she is still to young to dye it completely another color but I think i dyed mine starting at about 15. good luck and God bless!

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My girls are only 10 and have never expressed interest in dying their hair, but I don't think it's something I'd allow. If I did, it certainly wouldn't be until mid-teens, but I'm thinking along the same lines as Jane and 18 is where I'm leaning.



Can you address the reason she wants to dye her hair and see if you can persuade her into different reasoning?

Jane - posted on 02/26/2012

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I say wait until 18 - at 12 she is still developing and so is at greater risk from the chemicals in the dye. If she absolutely has to have it done, I would take her to a salon to get it done right.

Bonnie - posted on 02/26/2012

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I wouldn't allow it until maybe 15 or 16. There are many girls out there who do dye their hair at a young age, even younger than your daughter. I just don't see the point in it.

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