What makes your parenting right and my wrong?

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Amber - posted on 06/17/2011

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I don't think that people saying that they don't agree with your parenting and listing the reasons why is saying you're *wrong*. We're just saying why we didn't do that and why we're against it.
It's not personal. It's just our opinions and feelings on the matter.

If somebody comes out and directly says "You're wrong", then they're probably being rude and should be ignored anyway.
Many of us have been around COMs for years. We're used to answering posts and debating within them, and we do so respectfully. A lot of the verbal sparring that you see going on is between those of us that have been around for years and know each other.

Kate CP - posted on 06/17/2011

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No, you started a conversation because in another thread you got all butt-hurt that people weren't agreeing with your chosen style of parenting. You started this thread as some sort of passive-aggressive way to make a point. Not sure what your point WAS aside from the fact that you feel personally affronted that people don't think the way you dealt with a biting problem was the best possible way to do it. So what?

Krista - posted on 06/17/2011

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@Tamara:

"I did use to think there was a right or wrong way but I have since learned that there is no blanket rule to everything. I think as long as the child(ren) are getting taught right from wrong then its all good."

I don't really agree with you on that one. There is a broad variety of "right" ways to parent, but there are also definitely some very wrong ways to parent. I can teach my kid to not steal, by beating the living shit out of him if I ever catch him stealing. So yeah, he'll learn to not steal, but is it really "all good"? Of course not.

Like I said, there is a very, very broad range of "right" ways to parent, and every parent has to do what feels best and what works best for them and their kids. But there's a line. And to me, if a child is being harmed, then that is over the line.

Amber - posted on 06/17/2011

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See...you take it personally. I was attempting to be helpful and explain things.
Take it as you will. I'm not debating you at this point in time. Maybe in the future, I will :)

Jodi - posted on 06/17/2011

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Ladies, I am locking this thread, because it is evidently just dragging issues from ANOTHER thread into a new one. If you have a personal issue with someone on this board, please endeavour to resolve it by private message and not drag it out here.


Thank you
Jodi Adams
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Rosie - posted on 06/17/2011

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so if i'm getting the gist of this question, it's because you responded you'd bite back if your child bit, and people responded that that was wrong?
so one could assume you think you're right, correct? what makes your opinion right and others wrong? that should answer your question....

JuLeah - posted on 06/17/2011

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I don't understand the question. The world is not so cut and dry. There is no 'right' and 'wrong'

There is your opinion and mine. There is, "This works for me, this does not"

There is, "I agree with all or part of this, but not so much this"

I don't have to agree with you for it to be the best choice for you. I don't need you to think I am 'right' for me to think it is a good idea 'for me'

We can agree to disagree. We can choose different things and both still 'be right'

Carolyn - posted on 06/17/2011

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WOW it's nice that you know me better than I know myself Katie. Don't need a cosigner or approved of others to live my life. Further more I wasn't the only one on the thread to state I bit my child; worked for me. Since I don't know any of you how could I get butt (whatever you stated). Guess I will still rest comfortably tonight and wake in the morning with/without your agreeing with me. Work on you and I will work on me.

Krista - posted on 06/17/2011

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Some people think to much of themselves. This question wasn't referring to me personally, you don't know enough about me to judge my parenting skills. Thus was a generalized question.

Okay. That's all I was trying to figure out. Your question was very vague, and you DID refer to yourself in the first person in the question, so it's not that huge of a leap to wonder if you may have been speaking specifically about yourself.

I'd also appreciate you clarifying your first sentence. To whom are you referring?

Carolyn - posted on 06/17/2011

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Amber I am 57 have raised my children please don't try to help me. And don't judge what you know nothing about. There was nothing personal about my statement, just starting a conversation.

Carolyn - posted on 06/17/2011

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Some people think to much of themselves. This question wasn't referring to me personally, you don't know enough about me to judge my parenting skills. Thus was a generalized question.

Tamara - posted on 06/17/2011

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I see what your saying, I guess I have to much faith in people that they wont beat the heck out of their children, yes that is not right.

Krista - posted on 06/17/2011

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I'm not really understanding the point of your original post. Are you LITERALLY asking us to say what we think makes our parenting right and yours wrong? Because really, we don't know much of anything about your parenting, so it's pretty much impossible to answer.

I'm assuming that you were speaking in a more theoretical sense, but it might be helpful if you add a bit to your original post so that we get a better idea of what it is that you're actually looking to discuss.

Thanks.

Carolyn - posted on 06/17/2011

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Amber - you seem to want to engage me in a person on person debate there I will not go. You don't have to agree with me I don't know you and don't care. If you notice all I did was to give my opinion. Find someone else to hold your one on one debate. I am out of here.

Tamara - posted on 06/17/2011

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Because I am always right, Ok I am kidding. I personally dont think anything with parenting is wrong, I have 4 children each one of them with different needs there for a little different parenting is required. I did use to think there was a right or wrong way but I have since learned that there is no blanket rule to everything. I think as long as the child(ren) are getting taught right from wrong then its all good.

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