Jane - posted on 12/05/2012 ( 106 moms have responded )
While I was pregnant with my first child her father was in jail and I met someone else. My new husband signed her birth certificate when she was a year old and he is also now the father of my second child. Now her biological father is coming out of jail. Does he legally have any rights if my husband is the one taking care of her? If yes, can I make a case against it if he's an addict and in and out of jail?
As an update to this its been a year since he's been out of jail and he's only communicated twice a call on the day he got out and a text the day after her bday saying he left her a gift at my home , I'm really glad he's not in our lives that doesn't guarantee he won't bother us in the future unfortunately for him he's still struggling with crack so I don't think he's interested in being part of her life I'm really fortunate having found a good father for both my daughter's we're really happy hope to not hear from my ex at all but I think my daughter will understand if I ever have to tell her about him
Well this is another update I still haven't had any contact with my ex he is currently sitting in County jail facing another robbery case and 25 yrs. , I'm definitely glad he isn't involved in my daughters life, when I first posted for advice I was worried I would have to let him take her for weekends knowing he smokes crack I didn't trust him and his mom kept saying she would take me to court and say I was an unfit mother , so I asked for advice from a lawyer and she said let them take you to court you have nothing to worry about not only do they not visit the baby they don't have any contact with you and if I could prove he had a drug addiction we could ask for supervised visits which is all I really wanted, so I expected a war when he got out in January 2013 I'm relived it was nothing I expected I haven't heard anything from his mom and he only got in touch with me maybe 2-3 times I the beginning of the year I can't deny I'm happy he's not part of my daughter's life because I feel like she would be the one who ends up hurt when he's in and out of her life because of drugs and jail meanwhile my husband takes care of her and loves her takes care of her and more importantly is here for her everyday, I do feel bad in a way because I wish his life were different and he would choose having a relationship with his daughter instead of chasing a high no matter the consequences I wish the best for him and hopefully he's able to better his life until then I'm not willing to have him in her life. Thank you all for all your advice this has been a great way to vent.