what's the best way to teach my kindergarten to listen and conform to school structure? He is an attention seeker and becomes disruptive to the class.
Tracey - posted on 01/05/2009
I have a 6 year old son in Kindergarten who is being homeschooled with his 3 older siblings and am struggling with these same issues. I recently started a card-flipping method made up of 4 cards (just construction paper) on a ring - one white, one yellow, one red, one black. He starts out white every day, so he knows he gets a new start each morning. He gets 3 warnings before he gets each card flipped. If he gets thru the day without getting his card flipped, he gets a star. For every 5 stars he gets to choose to do something special, whether that's a trip to the dollar store (which was his first choice... cheap date:)), or out for breakfast with me or his Dad, or whatever it might be. To me this has combined encouraging him, focusing on the positive, and also the consequence of his own behavior. He's been really excited about it and even said to me this morning - "I think you better flip my card"!!! Rough start after Christmas break...:) Hope this helps!
Lori - posted on 01/05/2009
I taught kindergarten as well and like the reading idea! Also, look for those teachable moments at home in areas of sharing, taking turns, being kind. Board games are good practice in these area. Sometimes showing him what it is like to be interrupted or disruptive, using humur, might help when you are the attention getter! Talk about how your behavior made him feel and what better choices you could have made.
Katy - posted on 01/04/2009
Having been a Kindergarten teacher - I have found that to cultivate lengthening their attention span, reading to them on a daily basis does wonders. Perhaps you are already doing this? I read to my daughter (3) and son (4 mo) daily and my daughter (3) gets about 30 min/day of reading time with me. I also sit with her a few times weekly to work on academic projects so that she is used to sitting and focusing. I remember working with my kids in the classroom and I wished i could just sit with each one daily and read to them one - on - one...as i knew that would do wonders. Hope that helps!
User - posted on 01/04/2009
Javlyn that is a really awsome idea about instead of giving him things give him your time and do something fun. My son has the same problem as penny and my mom suggest a reeward chart which was working very well but know my son seems to be getting gready and is constantly whining for things and trying to cash in his points before were even finished the week, i'm going to try it.
Kelly - posted on 10/17/2008
when he is naughty try the 123 rule 1st get him into trouble with as little words as possible and a worrning then 2nd give him time out explainin why he is there again usin few word as few as poss and less than 1st then 3rd put him bak 2 time out and dont say a word, repeat as needed i found it has helped alot and now very rearly need to get to stage 2 :D hope this helps
Jaclyn - posted on 10/16/2008
I would have to ask how old your kindergartener is? If he's younger he might not be ready and that's okay. What kind of ratio does the school keep in the room? I am a director for a NAEYC accredited learning center that has a pre-k program. We have a much smaller ratio than traditional schools and a curriculum that is just as good or better. We often take children part way through the year who just need more attention than they are getting at a regular school. Most saty for the academic year and summer program and then return to school the following year with no problems.
Has he had any group experiences before or is this the first time? My 5 year-old had some problems in K4 last year and I found that part of the issue was the group dynamic. We stuck ou the year and then changed schools. For him, channeling his energy into soccer helped considerably. This year has been a much better year for him so far! I also signed up for a family rock climbing class with him at the Y--so that we would have one on one time and he would have my undivided attention that way. If you do a reward chart I would advise that the rewards be activities rather than stuff--especially because you have identified that he is attention-seeking.
Dee - posted on 10/16/2008
I have found, through trial and error (with 4 boys, I have a lot to work with) that a reward chart always seems to be the ticket to get my sons (at any early age) to do as I want. My youngest is now 8 years old and it works wonderfully with him. I post it on the frig for all to see (and for all to praise). I know it sounds simple and silly, but it really works.
Best of luck, Dee
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