what's the worst thing about being a mom?

Nikki - posted on 04/24/2009

I have 4 kids, 6 to 15 and the worst thing for me is when that day comes when they leave your home to go on with their own lives...

Ellen - posted on 04/23/2009

being a monster to them... being pissed off with the things you don't them of doing yet still seeing them doing the wrong thing..

Jennifer - posted on 04/23/2009

Why do you ask?

Sharon - posted on 04/23/2009

Mother's guilt

Mel - posted on 04/23/2009

Quoting Stephanie:

Quoting Melissa:

missing out on sleep ins! and being bitter and always yelling at them because you dont get any "me" time

Wow I could not have said it better myself. I get mad at myself for this everyday and can't figure out how to change it.

Lol thanks Stephanie being a mum is the hardest job in the world especially not getting that break you need. trust me I cant work out how to change it either. partners never realise that the reason you are how you are is because you spend all day with the kids! I feel for you. im sure it all gets easier as they get older

Jonnie - posted on 04/23/2009

I here you with what you are saying. I have a niece that was born with 10 % of a brain and they never "really" came to one or even a few diagnosis. She had so many problems and was in a constant state of pain for her entire life. She had brain seizoirs 24/7 and full body muscle spasms, the kind I remember reading about in a history book in school. She went home to be with her father at 2 1/2 yrs old. I think everyone was so relieved b/c of the pain and she for the fist time in her life looked so peacfull. But I can be on your terms when you speak of pain in a child and nothing that you can do. Its all in God's hands and only he will supply our every nead. Kalya was only able to communicate by spirt, and everyone that met her had to feel the work and moving of the holy spirit. My brother was 18 yrs old when she came into this world, and he by far was the BEST DADDY to her than anyone else will be, (in my eyes) she knew one thing for sure, her mommy and daddy and their love. THE ONE THING WE NEW SHE KNEW FOR SURE! GOD IS WONDERFULL. AMEN sorry felt like shouting.

Nickie - posted on 04/23/2009

Well the feeling guilty about leaving him with someone so I can have me time. I feel like I am a bad mommy for doing it and when I am not with him, he's all I think about and talk about.

Ramona - posted on 04/23/2009

I wouldn't think there was such a thing. I mean it has its ups and downs,but they are worth it all to me. The one thing i could do without is the constant worrying.

Tamika - posted on 04/23/2009

the worse for me is trying to get my daughter potty trained

Lisa - posted on 04/23/2009

getting your heart broken when you know your child is headed in the wrong direction and there is nothing more you can do or say. sometimes they just have to learn the hard way on thier own.

Adrienne - posted on 04/23/2009

it's a tie between the lack of sleep and the crappy paycheck! lol!

Jessi - posted on 04/23/2009

I would say the worse thing about being a mom is the fact that we aren't Superwoman and we can't protect our babies and children from everything.

When my son got his first shots, I really considered running away with him, haha.

I cried... I hated seeing him upset because he got a shot. We can't protect them from getting sick, in the future we won't be able to prtect them from getting there feelings hurt, or from a broken heart. To me.. I that is and will be the hardest thing to see, my children hurt or upset.

Louise - posted on 04/23/2009

When they get too old that you are not permitted to hug or kiss them in front of family or firends......realising that they are getting older and are no longer you precious little baby. Letting them do their own mistakes and hoping that your teachings were good enough for them to see the lesson and learn from it by themselves. Those were hard for me. Allthough I am happy to see he is growing up to be a considerate, loving and caring child.

Louise

(mother of a 14 year old)

Misty - posted on 04/23/2009

Losing yourself and watching the time go by so very fast

Kristen - posted on 04/23/2009

When she cries when I leave her at the sitter. It RARELY happens, but when it does it breaks my heart.

User - posted on 04/23/2009

Having to work full time, and feeling like you are missing out on your children, and that other people are enjoying raising your children!! I hate that our culture has made it where two incomes are needed, only the children suffer.

Leanne - posted on 04/23/2009

There is ABSOLUTELY NOTHING i hate about being a mum, i am, however, worried that i don't have all the answers, that one day she won't think that mummy is the best thing since sliced bread and that one day i won't be there to catch her when she falls, not because i don't want to but because she has to make her own mistakes to take her own path.

The only thing i can do is pray that everything i teach her will get her through good times and bad so that when i'm gone she would have turned into a level headed, intelligent young woman that will be strong enough to carry on and in time teach her daughter the things i taught her.

Candace - posted on 04/23/2009

LACK OF SLEEP!!!!!.. & I my son is 12 and i am still waiting for the Instruction/ guide book.. I spoke to the nurse and she said they are all on back order still... Anyone got one they can lend me?........ lol.. my son is hitting purberty and i am needing help!!! LOL

Jamie - posted on 04/23/2009

Cleaning poop out of carpet.

Cathlene - posted on 04/23/2009

The worst thing about being a mom is that even when your kids are grown
They act out...
They get their hearts broken...
They think you have all the answers...
You wish you could hold them and make everything better...

Lila - posted on 04/23/2009

The punishing part is hardest for me.

Then again I do have a teenage boy!

Becky - posted on 04/23/2009

id have to say, having to say no. you want to give them everything but its sometimes just not possible. also potty training is a pain in the behind lol

Michelle - posted on 04/23/2009

There are so many I don't even know where to start.........I guess the three I most think about is why the hell didn't they give me a manual when I left the hospital. I am so afraid of making a mistake and having to live with it or even explaining it to my children. Losing them, constantly looking over your shoulder. My youngest is four and I don't dare let him out of my sight. What is going to happen when he goes to school and he has to make his own decisions on what is right or wrong, and most of all who is right or wrong. And last, for me TIME for myself. Kids are 24-7 and you can't miss a beat.

Siobhan - posted on 04/23/2009

the inability to pee by ones self.

Lana - posted on 04/23/2009

THINKING THERE IS SOMETHING WORSE ABOUT IT!

Lynda - posted on 04/23/2009

The "worst" thing about being a mom for me is trying to find time for myself...and not feel GUILTY about it!



Of course, I have expereinced many challeges--losing the paci,potty training, bedtime & discipline, but those just took a little work. I absolutely find myself feeling guilty if I leave my girls (3 of them) with Daddy to run to Target, or go get my nails dones or something like that. No one has ever made me feel this way, but when I'm out, I always feel like I have to rush to get back!!

Stephanie - posted on 04/23/2009

Trying to balance what you want to accomplish as far as school/ work goals and a healthy relationship with lots of time spent together!

Cristine - posted on 04/23/2009

Having an ex husband that will not pay child support, makes finances really hard.

Linda - posted on 04/23/2009

That there is very little time for myself. Even taking a bath can be rushed, someone needs in really really bad. Just no alone time can be hard.

Becky - posted on 04/23/2009

Quoting Leslie:

I am glad to see that I am not the only one who has a fear of losing your child. Just the other night while my daughter was sleeping, I broke down and cried because I had a strong fear of losing her! I wondered to myself if this was "normal". I asked my mom and she said that she did the same thing. I think that any parent that unconditionally loves their children could have this fear.

Oh, yes, definitely!  I have been there many times.  Just wanted to let you know that yet another mom is in that boat, too.  It's only this way because you love someone more than you've ever loved anything in your entire life, and you happen also to be it's full-time protector.  It's frightening and wonderful, and if you didn't feel like this from time to time, you wouldn't be doing your "protector" job!  =)

Ailene - posted on 04/23/2009

I have to say the worst thing of being a mom is the fear of something happening to them and of one day letting them go on their own. Being a mom is the only job that you get the most rewards out of. I love being a mom no matter how stress I get it is worth it at the end of the day when you tuck them into bed and they look at you with their big eyes and say mommy I love you that makes everything worth wild =D

Ronda - posted on 04/23/2009

Not being able to go to the grocery store....ALONE!

Monica - posted on 04/23/2009

being exausted, but i have liked every stage of my son. some are more difficult than others, but i have enjoyed them all....

Tegan - posted on 04/23/2009

I have to say for me the worst part is not getting enough sleep which leads me to being frustrated and at times yelling. I find I say sorry way too much because I'm lacking in sleep and me time. I try to explain to the oldest that mommy just need 30 min to her self and it'll be much better but he or his brothers always need me in that 30 min. I try to get more sleep by going to bed early but our youngest is having issues being more than 2 inches away from me. I don't think the umbilical cord was really cut at birth. :) But I find it is getting better the more organized I get in life.

Taunya 'westermann' - posted on 04/23/2009

For me, since I have twins..it's the "double trouble" theory. They are constantly demising plans to ruin my empire! LOL They have ruined tv's, carpet, furniture! They use to wake up in the middle of the night and pour food everywhere!! Eggs, milk, taco seasoning! It was insane. And they are girls! They are 5 now and just last night they ruined my finace's alarm clock by filling the cd area with water!

Luanet - posted on 04/23/2009

Sleep deprivation and having no more 'me' time

Jakki - posted on 04/23/2009

1. coping with the day to day cleaning, cooking, screaming and fighting (and repetition of all of the above)

2. guilt that I'm not doing a good enough job because I'm exhausted and impatient and not focussed enough on the kids.

3. PS my favorite time is lying in bed in the evening reading Harry Potter to the big kids (6&8 yrs). I might be hopeless in many ways, but I'm good at putting on accents.

Aimee - posted on 04/23/2009

Hoping that you are doing it right. For me not having any me time anymore which I have accepted but still miss it.

Blanch - posted on 04/23/2009

The sleep deprivation and currently potty training, didn't think I'd ever miss changing a nappy as much as i do now!

Karen - posted on 04/22/2009

The fear that they were born perfect and every flaw in my parenting is just screwing up their ability to remain perfect.... and it's all my fault!

Nicki - posted on 04/22/2009

Not being able to sleep as much as you would like.

Kristie - posted on 04/22/2009

worst thing would have to be the mother in law.... tries to tell me wat to do all the time, tell me im doen things wrong coz im not doen them her way im doen them my way!! makes me feel bad coz he looks like my side of family & not my partners side, like i cannot help the way he looks, he still ur grandson get over it lol!!!

so yea that would be the most hardest thing bout being a mum for me!!

. - posted on 04/22/2009

1. Losing a child (I have a son and a step daughter)

2. Constipation:My son was that constipated once that he held on for a whole day (it was huge and hard, made me cry). Was hard seeing him in that much pain.

3.Failure. If I'm not doing things right.

Nurse - posted on 04/22/2009

Saving for college!!! LOL

Traci - posted on 04/22/2009

We put too much pressure on ourselves... try not to be so hard on yourself. I am sure you are a wonderful Mom!! Don't change who you are!

Stephanie - posted on 04/22/2009

Quoting Melissa:

missing out on sleep ins! and being bitter and always yelling at them because you dont get any "me" time

Wow I could not have said it better myself. I get mad at myself for this everyday and can't figure out how to change it.

Traci - posted on 04/22/2009

We are lucky we can be a Mom!! Imagine not being able to have a child...

Traci - posted on 04/22/2009

oh.. did I mention I have 8 kids??:0) 2 biologically/6 step... 2nd marriage. My husband and I both widowed young after 12 &14 years of devoted love and commitment.

Traci - posted on 04/22/2009

Your life is no longer your own... sleep deprived.. post partum.. you lose your old self... but in return are so rewarded with love.... We may not know it now but we will wish it all back when they are grown.

Safari - posted on 04/22/2009

Lack of Freedom