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what should i do if my babydaddy wants to get a lawyer on me?

Yasmin - posted on 10/02/2012 ( 2 moms have responded )

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it all started the day i gave birth. for some reason my babydaddy told me hes gonna get a lawyer on me if i ever try taking our baby away from him. Which i never said i was. so every time we argue he comes out with the lawyer situation and people tell me to get the social worker on him n the irs n to report him that hes not working with a license at the barbershop, that way i can get him worse but in the other hand his mom tells me to ignore him because he only says it to scare me n to not get a social worker or a lawyer n the court in between our daughter because shes been thro it n its heal ! and that the last thing i want to do is put my baby n myself thru this.

please HELP! i dont know what to do! social worker or no????



another thing i'm not working at the moment so i have no money for a lawyer. i just had my baby on aug 18,2012

n he says i got nothing for myself since i don't go to school or work..

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Bobbie - posted on 10/02/2012

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Did he sign as the father? If no, then he has no rights and could never seek custody. If yes, he did sign, it only means that legally he is the father of the child. You could seek child support from him at anytime if you decide to leave. He could not avoid paying support regardless of his comments or lawyer threats .



FACTS

You are the single parent and sole custody of the child, he is always yours.

If you require a lawyer and he went for custody your lawyer service would be free through child support agency.

He could not go for custody in any state just because you left him.

You are free to go where you please and live with the child anywhere you wish since you are not married. Never let him make you believe that he has any right to keep the child from you for any reason under any circumstance.

He could not file for custody to take the baby from you for any reason other than neglect or abuse. Claims of abuse or neglect would have to be proven through filed reports through agencies or police reports.

He could not just make statements about you. He can not just say in court that you are not a good mother and give examples that he sees as unfit or neglect. The judge can not take statements from the parent as proof.

**warning, if you two live together he could take the baby anytime he wanted and the police would not get involved seeing it as a matter for the family courts.

IF HE SIGNED THE BIRTH CERTIFICATE, LIVES WITH YOU AND ACTS LIKE HE IS GOING TO GET A LAWYER EVERY TIME YOU ARGUE I SAY YOU REPORT HIS THREATS TO THE SOCIAL WORKER,RATHER THAN TELL ON HIM. THIS WAY THEY CAN ADVISE YOU AS TO HOW TO RESPOND AND REACT. KNOWING YOUR RIGHTS IS VERY IMPORTANT!!!! ASK QUESTIONS OF THE SOCIAL WORKER!!!!

DeAnn - posted on 10/02/2012

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This is easily solved by your state. In just about every state, the father is not the LEGAL father without a paternity test or signing before a judge. If he's signing in front of a judge, that means you're already at a hearing for child support and custody. Most states favor the mom unless there's a reason she's unfit (drugs, abuse, etc.) and even then they often allow visitation. Don't let him scare you. He's trying to be controlling. A social worker won't help.



Once the state has given you a schedule for visitation and docks his pay for child support, there's not much to argue about. That is, of course, unless he skips out on child support, and then you report him to the state. If he fails to exercise his visitation, just keep a record of each time he does so.

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