What the heck is Circle of moms for.......!

Katrina [Kate] - posted on 09/03/2009

Hi Shreyna

I saw your message and have read most of the replies. But thought that I would also write to you ! I can relate to you as I also feel isolated at times, and get very down, all my close friends with kids are interstate or in another country !

I'm not close enough to come to your playgroup, but i would if i could ! Have you checked out if there are any in your area currently running ? maybe you could join them and meet some local mum's that way ?

I live in Sydney, Australia, so that is slightly to far to travel.
Happy to talk anytime, take care and hope you are feeling better soon.

best wishes....
Kate. :)

Robin - posted on 08/23/2009

I totally get what you are saying, I have replied to MANY and not one single response, completely ignored! Even sent some personal messages and NO REPLY.

FRANCES - posted on 08/23/2009

Hi Shreyna, so sorry that things got off to a bad start for you. I hope that it all gets better, and as you can see, days later.... I do not log in that often either, I am a working mom of 3 kids, 15 years, 6 and 4, but I also have a 27 year old son with 5 kids and a husband who is disabled.... not to mention a few health issues that I am dealing with so my time is very booked up. I try to log in every now and then but it just seems like there is never enough time for. I hope you stay in touch and keep everyone posted. Stay positive and we are here for you one way or another. I will keep you in my prayers and best of luck to you.

Chris - posted on 08/14/2009

Shreyna,



I'm new to Circle of mom and my children are grown and having children of their own. Our son that has our 3 year old grandson lives 2 1/2 hrs from us and I don't get to see them much, wish I could. Our Catholic church has a great group called MOMS and it helps moms do exactly what you're asking for. I don't know if you're open to visiting a Catholic Church but at every Catholic Church I've been a member there is always someone that will give you rides, befriend you and help you learn to drive to get your drivers license. I will keep you and your precious son in my prayers, a prayer asking the Holy Spirit to be with you as you reach out. There are some wonderful women (moms or not) that would love to be your friend. God Bless you, Chris Scott

Allison - posted on 08/14/2009

Shreyna,
check out Meetup.com. This is a great site to find LOCAL moms in your area and have playdates. You can search by your zipcode and select what type of group you are intested. Everything from Mommy groups to sewing, book clubs, foodies.. the list goes on and one. .. Here's the link . . http://www.meetup.com/topics/
And welcome to COM

Michelle - posted on 08/14/2009

Hey Shreyna,

Sorry your having a tough time. Having a new baby and and a husband gone alot can be tough. My husband was a truck driver when we first got married so I know how you feel. I live in Idaho but would love to become friends. My e-mail address is michelle-37@live.com Maybe I can help by filling your day. Drop me a note if you need to chat.

Candy - posted on 08/14/2009

Things will work out, just give them time and think positively! Meanwhile I will be praying for you and your family.

Sheri - posted on 08/13/2009

I'm in the South Florida area so no "real" help to you. I'm sure you might have gotten this suggestion from someone, but the way I met a lot of moms when my little girl was first born was doing a parent/child class (aka. mommy and me). I met a lot of mom's that have now become my friends and we do play dates together all the time. I understand driving might be the issue. Could your brother in law help in that area?

Sharon - posted on 08/13/2009

Hi my name is Sharon and I'm from Modesto, California. So, sorry about your situation. You said you have been there for 2.5 years. If you don't mind where did you live before? Do you have family anywhere? Do you listen to music? Do you go to church? It sucks feeling like your alone. I went through the same thing but before I knew anything about computers. It SUCKS.....Why is your husband so busy? You said, you have a 5 month old son, is he your only child? Have you always felt this lonely? Did you get more lonely after you had your baby? I know this is alot of questions I'm not a Dr. I'm just a stay home mom with four children who would like to go back to school to finish my nursing. If you want I'm trying to spark up a circle of moms friendship thats why for all the questions. If you want to keep in touch on a more personal note i'm on facebook under Sharon Munthe and my email is sdmblueyes@sbcglobal.net. I've been in the shoes of loneliness before and if you want a friend i'm here. By the way your pic of you lil boy is so beautiful.

Sharon....................

Amy - posted on 08/11/2009

Shreyna,

I live in Connecticut and am unsure where you are from. I am sorry for you situation. I am a mom of three(9,7,and 6) and work while attending school at night. I can not think of any way for you to get out with-out your liscense. Are there any programs that will help new moms through your town? I did a lot of mommy and me classes when my first was born and that helped, but I can see transportation is an issue....good luck!!

Amy - posted on 08/11/2009

I'm sorry...I would have replied sooner...if I'd gotten the email telling me there was a new reply here...

I will now have to go back and find out 'who' you are,and where you are! Hiii,I'm Amy...can't help too much with playdates,even if we live close by..my youngest is 12 1/2....

Bonnie - posted on 08/11/2009

Wow. That was a lot of helpful suggestions. Thank you for putting yourself out there. I needed some of those suggestions as well. I've lived away from the friends and family I grew up with for 18 years now. During that time we have moved 3 times. This last move was 2 years ago and I still need help learning where to turn in this area for help with the kids. Good luck to you with all of those tips.

My advise to you is to listen to a local christian radio station. They usually give out encouragement daily. Then pray and read your Bible every day. The book of Proverbs has 31 chapters in it full of wisdom. Read the chapter for that date of the month (today is the 11th, so read chapter 11) every day and you will be able to read the whole book every month.

Nelly - posted on 08/10/2009

Quoting Shreyna:

What the heck is Circle of moms for.......!

What the heck is Circle of Moms for if no one will talk to you? I have put up multiple conversations,tried to start a play date group, started my own community, participated in conversations, and NO ONE TALKS TO ME! I only have one conversation that people actually replied to. I am in desperate need to find new friends and play dates for my 5 mo old son. I am living in an unfamiliar place (even after 2 1/2 years of living here) and hardly know anyone. It seems like everyone wants to be friends with everyone but me. I am stuck at home with only a driver's permit because my husband doesn't have time to practice with me so I can get my license, so I feel even more cooped up and alone. My husband is gone for 2 wks, my bro in law just moved in and he doesn't even talk to me except at dinner. So what the heck is my problem. I can't get people to hang out with in person, let alone online. I thought this was suppose to be a support group where people can also meet new friends! Well so much for that one!

DONT BE TOO HARD ON YOURSELF,THERE IS REALLY NOTHING WRONG WITH YOU, MAYBE THE CIRCLE OF MOMS WERE JUST TOO BUZY TO REPLY , THATS ALL. I KNOW I HAVE BEEN BUZY AT WORK FOR THE PAST 2WEEKS.

Fiona - posted on 08/10/2009

Oh wanted to add...i worked in Miami once for a while and that was hard. Iw as a nanny. I adopted my local church they were wonderful! Wasnt even my religion and Iw as quite open about it but they were saints! It made my life far far better. So try the church...you at least can make friends like that and see if any groups are there...



Fiona

Fiona - posted on 08/10/2009

Hi Shreyna,

Im Fiona. Irish with three sons. Alex 15, Jordan 12 and Ramsey 7. I mostly live in England with my husband but my parents are still in Ireland so that is where I currently am!

I know exactally how you feel. I have been in the UK for over 20 years now and yet I still feel like an outsider! Im very friendly too but it seems most people alrready have their lives organised and dont like making new friends! Its so weird! Maybe its because Im Irish but i LOVE meeting and talking to new people...so Im always making new friends particularly online...

If you fancy a new pen pal....my email is fionap19@aol.com

Its hard when you have a small child too. You are right though play dates or play groups are the best way. Are there any in your area? Try the local library they usually have the information of anything that is going on.

I dont drive either and live in a small village so its hard to get out and about. We have the school nearby but no shops and so on...

Do get in touch if you like.



Fiona

Charlie - posted on 08/09/2009

Hi sheyna , i hope you have found your place here at COM if you need anyone to talk to or advice about groups please feel free to PM me . :)

Lenny - posted on 08/09/2009

Well, I don't know if I can help you find new friends but let me give you a story about learning to find friends. When I was a young wife, because I had been transplanted due to my new husband being in Texas, and me, I was totally afraid of meeting anyone. After a couple of months, the two girls next door invited, my husband, of all people to a BBQ. After begging me to go with him, I finally said yes.

SURPRISE, SURPRISE, they though I was the one who was a SNOB. I learned from this to put MYSELF forward and get up the courage to go out and find new friends. Find a church group, they have nurseries and groups that can really help. No matter what you do, get out and even walk the neighborhood. Be careful, and cautious at first and make sure you are in a safe neighborhood. DON't put yourself at risk.

Justina - posted on 08/08/2009

Shrenya, hey girlie...i'm glad ur feeling better now. I'm new to Circle of Moms also and this is actually my first time coming on here since my invite. I got on here and seen ur post and knew I had to respond toyou. I understand how u feel and wish u the best in finding people in ur area for a playdate.However, I have plenty of free time to chat with u. lol I'm a single mom of 3 (almost, 8,5)so I know how it gets when u don't have any gf to talk with. Ur baby is so cute. I wasn't sure if the pic was real or from a magazine or some kind of art pic, but looking through some of the posts,found out that is u & the baby( ur sister is talented) lmfbo I remember when I needed someone to help me practice my driving for the test, but no one could. Finally my son's grandmother got tired of me taking the bus at 10pm to drop him at daycare so I could go to work, so she took me to just take the test and I passed it on my first try. The reason I can laugh at this now is because I surely couldn't then.Now er'body and they momma want me to take them places. lol all that was to say " this too shall pass" and 1 day you will have ur hands full and will long for the days when u could just be alone. lol trust me... anyway check out my page on fb.

chat with ya later!

Pamela - posted on 08/08/2009

Hey Shreyna how you doing today?

Shreyna - posted on 08/08/2009

Thanks Vicky! That is so sweet of you to actually do some research for me and put up a link. I actually have to go soon, but I will deffinantly take a look at it when I get back. As for everyone else... You are all so great to take the time and post some encouraging words and advice. I am feeling much better now. Thank you all!

Ashley - posted on 08/08/2009

In my area, when my children were as young as yours, the only "play group" I could have joined would have been Kindermusik or something like Gymboree. Both were parent/child interactive groups where you stayed with your child and actually could meet other moms.

Denise - posted on 08/08/2009

Girlfriend WHERE are you? Have you looked for a MOPS? Go on-line ans google it - do you have a church? Some of these places have a van ministry...you can call the church - usually larger non-denominationals will have more to offer. You are NOT alone!

Fredricka - posted on 08/07/2009

I HAVE BEEN THERE SOMEWHAT. I DO UNDERSTAND HOW IT FEELS TO BE ALONE OR THINKING YOUR ALONE. SOME PEOPLE ARENT WANTING TO MAKE NEW FRIENDS THESE DAYS AND I PUT THAT ON ITS TOO MANY CRAZY THINGS GOING ON IN THE WORLD TODAY AND TOO MANY CRAZY PEOPLE. SO PEOPLE INCLUDING ME IS VERY CAREFULL OR LEARY ABOUT MEETING NEW PEOPLE. I MEAN I CAN SAY HELLO AND ALL, BUT ACTUALLY HAVING THEM OVER TO MY HOME IS A DIFFERENT THING. DONT TAKE ANY OF IT PERSONAL THOUGH. THIS MAY BE YOUR TIME TO GET TO KNOW YOURSELF, AND YOUR CHILD. HAVING ALL THIS FREE TIME NOW, GET UP A HOBBY, TAKE WALKS TO THE PARK WITH YOUR CHILD, START TAKE'N UP A CLASS OR TWO ON SUBJECTS THAT YOUVE BEEN INTERESTED IN. LIKE ART CLASSES, BABY AND ME CLASSES ETC. JUST LOOK IN YOUR LOCAL PAPER OR GET ONLINE TO FIND SOMETHING THAT TICKLES YOUR FANCY..LOL..=) IF YOU DONT ALREADY HAVE GOD IN YOR LIFE, PUT HIM IN IT. PRAY FOR WHATEVER IT IS YOURE YEARNING FOR. AND ALOT OF WOMEN ARE PROBABLY LIKE MYSELF, I DONT CHECK ON HERE EVERYDAY. I PROBABLY CHECK THIS EVERY OTHER WEEK OR SO. BUT BY ALL MEANS HONEY PLEASE DONT GET DISCOURIAGED OR DEPRESSED WITH THE LACK OF RESPONSES FROM PEOPLE ON HERE. REMEMBER THAT GOD IS GOOD AND THERES NOTHING TOO BIG FOR HIM TO CORRECT, AND MAKE HAPPEN. JUST ASK HIM TO COME INTO YOUR LIFE AND TO HELP YOU MAKE YOURSELF HAPPY. AND ABOUT YOUR BRO-N-LAW, DO YUO EVER TRY TO TALK TO HIM. YOU MENTIONED THAT HE ONLY CONVERSATES AT DINNER TIME. IF YOU HAVENT TRIED TO SPARK UP A CONVO WITH HIM, IT TAKES TWO YA KNOW. BUT FIND OUT WHAT ARE HIS INTERESTS AND TELL HIM YOURS. ASK HIM TO TAKE YOU PLACES OR ASK HELP FROM HIM. SO YOU ARENT ALONE, YOU HAVE A LOVING HUSBAND(i hope), A BEAUTIFUL, HEALTHY CHILD AND FAMILY. THE DEVIL WILL GET BUSY AND DRAW OFF YOUR INSECURITIES AND YOUR SADDNESS. HE'LL HAVE YOU BELIEVE THAT YOUR SITUATION IS WAY WORDT OFF THAN IT TRUELY IS. SONT GIVE HIM THE POWER OVER YOU. I WILL PRAY THAT YOULL FIND SOME TYPE OF HAPPINESS WITHIN YOURSELF AND THE PEOPLE THAT YOU HAVE AROUND YOU IN YOUR LIFE. AND DONT FORGET THAT THERES ALWAYS SOMEONE ELSE WAY WORST OFF THAN YOU. SO INSTEAD OF THINKING OF ALL THE BAD THINGS THAT YOU FEEL IS GOING ON, THINK ABOUT ALL THE GREAT,BEAUTIFUL THINGS AND PEOPLE IN YOUR LIFE TODAY. SO YOU CAN NOW CONCIDER ME YUOR FRIEND. IF YOU EVER WANT TO TALK, IM HERE4. BUT REMEMBER IF I DONT RESPOND FOR A FEW DAYS OR SO, ITS NOT YOU, I JUST HAVENT CHECKED MY SITE. OR EMAIL ME ON MY FACEBOOK ACCOUNT. MY INFO IS ON HERE. TAKE CARE AND GOD BLESS.

Pamela - posted on 08/07/2009

Hey Shreyna and all the mommies. Shreyna I don't log on like i should but after seeing how much support you received in response to your Post I feel it necessary to check this site just as I do my regular emails etc. I totally understand about feeling isolated after becoming a mom. It seemed like that for me after i had both my children. I had a drivers license and car and could come and go as I pleased but it seemed like I was alone because I was caring for children most of time by myself. My mom moved away and my friends were all busy so I hid myself away from the world. I finally got the stroller out and did my walking and would find other mom's walking etc.

Well Shreyna I hope although most of us are spread across the states/country that we can try to support each other as much as possible.

Katherine - posted on 08/07/2009

I am really sorry Shreyna, I would not have expected people not to be friendly, this is actually a great group!!! My daughter is also 5 months and I know how isolating it can be for a new mom. Go to meetup.com and find meet up groups in your area, it's a great way to meet people and get that support. There are tons of moms just like you-I had to join just for the sake of getting out of the house!
Take care
Katherine

Pamela - posted on 08/07/2009

I know how frustrating it is to move to an unfamilar place. I moved to Calgary from Scotland two years ago and I didn't know anybody. I didn't have the luxury of having an internet connect at the time so i just packed my twins who were just 8 months old then, into the stoller ( as I didn't drive at all then) and went and found myself some friends. At the local community centre there was a drop in playgroup. At first no one talked to me but then I went to talk to them. You can't make friends over the internet. Go to you local coffee shop or go to the park regulary get you face known you'll soon get invites. I now have three children all under the age of 3 and I have a wonderful triple jogger and I am out and about everyday and meeting new people everyday. So get up and go out!!

Jacqueline - posted on 08/07/2009

Awww, sweetie! When I first moved to NJ I didn't know anyone. Now, I have a bunch of great friends with babies the same age. Have you tried looking for New Mommies Group? What area do you live in? I know how tough it can be to not have a support system. I'm sure there are many mommies out there just like you that have been trying to reach out with no success. Maybe you're looking in the wrong place. Don't give up.

Amy - posted on 08/07/2009

Hi Shreyna,



Its awful that you've been feeling this way. Isolation can be a huge issue with all new moms. And to top it off, your husband is away and you aren't able to drive yet. I feel for you. Its so hard trying to find other mama's out there, make playdates, make some new friends.

Where abouts do you live? What city are you in?

Claire - posted on 08/07/2009

Quoting Shreyna:

What the heck is Circle of moms for.......!

What the heck is Circle of Moms for if no one will talk to you? I have put up multiple conversations,tried to start a play date group, started my own community, participated in conversations, and NO ONE TALKS TO ME! I only have one conversation that people actually replied to. I am in desperate need to find new friends and play dates for my 5 mo old son. I am living in an unfamiliar place (even after 2 1/2 years of living here) and hardly know anyone. It seems like everyone wants to be friends with everyone but me. I am stuck at home with only a driver's permit because my husband doesn't have time to practice with me so I can get my license, so I feel even more cooped up and alone. My husband is gone for 2 wks, my bro in law just moved in and he doesn't even talk to me except at dinner. So what the heck is my problem. I can't get people to hang out with in person, let alone online. I thought this was suppose to be a support group where people can also meet new friends! Well so much for that one!

Darlene - posted on 08/07/2009

I feel bad for you. It is sad that you are all alone, I have felt that way several times. I left a great job after several years to stay home with my daughter that I waited 22 years for. She was worth it to me. I turn 49 this week and I feel so cut off from the world and most of the friends I had while working. That teaches who your friends really are. My daughter is starting kindergarden next week and I am trying to figure out what I am going to do with my time because my whole world revolves around her. Shreyna, I feel your pain and I would be happy to talk to you whenever. Circle of Mom's is a great place to go to find a friend, don't give up, you just found me. Your story broke my heart, because I have been sortof where you are and because I am an older mom, I feel like wisdom has taken over. Write to me any time, I would like to be your friend. Darlene

Anna - posted on 08/07/2009

Hi,

I feel for you. My kids are 10 & 12 and we moved to Albuquerque just over 2 years ago. It is hard being the new kid in town! It took me over a year to find a church to join, still trying to break thru the cliques there! Libraries usually have a reading time each week for the little ones, and community centers usually have groups. Have you tried scrapbooking? Most are moms, they have crops where everyone gathers to work on projects and kiddos are usually welcome. Creative Memories has a website where you can locate consultants in your area to check out. And, I'll answer your posts if I can. God Bless!

M.j. - posted on 08/07/2009

where do u live? Iwill chat with you when ever i can i know how you feel have been in a simlar position befor. im mara waiting a reply.

Marla - posted on 08/07/2009

I wouldn't take it personally. I would say, try to find a local mommy group in your neighborhood if you have one - maybe do a search on yahoo grps.? or talk to other mommies you encounter in the store, ask the pediatrician, daycare ctrs, local libraries, etc. Good luck, hang in there!

Rachel - posted on 08/07/2009

Post a reply!if your husband is in the forces I would hope that there is a Tock H, ymca, or families medical centre on the Base where hopefuly you should be able to find some ohter wives in a similer situation. Its not easy being a Forces mom. My mom was one and our dad was away alot

Diana - posted on 08/07/2009

Hey, sorry to hear that but I just joined! I feel for ya cause when my son was that age my husband and I moved to his neighborhood and we had one vehicle that he took to work and I was left home. But I then got the schedule to the public library and found they had mommy and me days and different activities that I walked to with a stroller on day's that where weather permitting and met other mom's who then picked us up. From there it progressed into park play dates and on rainy day's I'd reciprocate the rides by inviting the play dates in my home. It worked out great. Hope this helps.

Diana - posted on 08/07/2009

Quoting Shreyna:

What the heck is Circle of moms for.......!

What the heck is Circle of Moms for if no one will talk to you? I have put up multiple conversations,tried to start a play date group, started my own community, participated in conversations, and NO ONE TALKS TO ME! I only have one conversation that people actually replied to. I am in desperate need to find new friends and play dates for my 5 mo old son. I am living in an unfamiliar place (even after 2 1/2 years of living here) and hardly know anyone. It seems like everyone wants to be friends with everyone but me. I am stuck at home with only a driver's permit because my husband doesn't have time to practice with me so I can get my license, so I feel even more cooped up and alone. My husband is gone for 2 wks, my bro in law just moved in and he doesn't even talk to me except at dinner. So what the heck is my problem. I can't get people to hang out with in person, let alone online. I thought this was suppose to be a support group where people can also meet new friends! Well so much for that one!

Vicky - posted on 08/07/2009

Hi Shreyna, Me again. I don't know if this will help but I went looking for something for you on the city of provo website. I added a link so that you may be able to go and have a look. You might be able to call the center. I did not see any activities for you to take on with your little one but maybe you could call and see what they might know about the community.



Again it has nothing to do with you if people are not responding. People are really busy and sometimes it just gets lost in the pile. As you would know being a mom takes a lot of your time. I actually had to tell my son to go watch some TV ( with the promise that I would play with him as soon as I was done with this post) so I could research quickly something for you and respond back.



Again I hope the link helps you out a little.



http://www.provo.org/parks.programs.html

Vicky - posted on 08/07/2009

Hi Shreyna, Just to let you know, don't take it too personnally, trust me that you are a great person and that people would like to hang out with you. I am in New Brunswick, Canada, so I don't know what kind of activities there are for mommies down in Utah but I know that where I live they have all kinds of community activities posted on the city website. I know someone who started going to story time at the library which was meant more for toddlers and her son was still an infant. She said she met a whole bunch of nice mommies. I also found that outside or inside playgrounds are great place to meet mommies.



We started a mommy group in our neighborhood by posting a mommy's needed sign on general mailbox to neighborhood nearby. Mind you it took some time before it all came together. I read in a book that it takes a while before the adjustment gets done.



Good luck, Shreyna it will get better trust me. Vicky

Isobel - posted on 08/06/2009

I don't know how to drive either...it's maddening isn't it? I am also in Canada (sorry no playdates) but I am here to listen to venting. I did notice one post from you earlier, I just had nothing worthwhile to say on the subject...sorry.

Is this your first baby?

Juanita - posted on 08/06/2009

Hey, Shreyna! I am sorry that you feel that way. It sounds like you are a young mom. I know how you feel . Though i am 38 i was 16 when i had my first child. She is now 20. But i also have three other one children. But when i was 16 i involved my self in church. That was my get away and they were very nice about watching my daughter and found many friends that way. They helped me in many ways besides spiritual. Hang in there Shreyna! I know it is difficult espcially when you are the only parent! I will send a prayer your way! God bless you and have a blessed day!!!!!

Christine - posted on 08/06/2009

Hey. I looked on momsclub.org to see if there was a chapter in Provo, but they have it listed by counties or regions I think. Take a look at this link and see if any of those are in your area. http://momsclub.org/links.html#Utah I love my Moms Club here in Alabama. It may take a little while to get in touch with people and get emails, but it is worth a try. Go to library storytimes too. You'll find other moms looking for something to do with their kids. Good luck!!

Shreyna - posted on 08/05/2009

Thanks everyone! All of you have been so encouraging. And I do feel alot better today than I did yesterday. I appreciate all of you. THank you,



Shreyna

Shannon` - posted on 08/05/2009

Unfortunately I live in Iowa, but I am willing to talk at anytime if you need too! I am 27 and my oldest (daughter) is 9 and my son is 5! We live out in the country so it can get pretty lonely here too! Talk to you later!

Shannon

Christine - posted on 08/05/2009

Shreyna, I empathize with how you feel. I went through a rough transition when I had my first child. It sounds like you might be young, so that creates additional obstacles. Not being able to drive must be especially maddening! If you don't live walking distance to any urban/suburban area, I would imagine you feel especially isolated. I don't know what your extended family situation is, but if you had a mom/dad/sibling who could come and help you out/ take you driving, that's one idea, depending on what your relationship with them is like. I was 26 and none of my friends had babies yet. My family had moved out of state too. My baby had colic for the first three months and I felt like I was going crazy. She cried day and night unless I was walking the floor with her. My mom and sisters came to visit me for a week after she was one month old, and it did help me get some of my sanity back, and my mom helped me get into a routine with my baby. But I definitely remember the lonliness; that excitement whenever the phone rang. First and foremost, you should make it a goal to find someone to help you get your drivers permit, practice a little bit at a time and you will eventually get there. Don't give up! You'll feel better when you can drive and have more control over your life. Next, find a moms group. I joined MOPs (mothers of preschoolers) through my church. It's a nondenominational Christian group whose mission is to help moms like you. I participated for over seven years and found some community there. If nothing else it took away a bit of the feeling of monotony that can exist when you're taking care of a baby day in and out. And you'll have something new to talk to your husband about. They do book clubs/crafting/mom's night out/ couples night out (road ralley, game night, etc). They have speakers that talk on subjects of concern to moms. They have recipe swaps, and child care during the meetings. There usually is a nominal fee to belong, but they discretely make exceptions based on individuals financial circumstances. Anyhow, I wish you the best. Your profile picture is beautiful BTW. Post how things are going periodically. I joined this circle of moms a couple months ago and find it a bit overwhelming to come here very often. With three kids I have a lot competing for my time. My oldest is now 14 and when I have dilemmas or questions, I've usually just had to "wing it" and trust my own judgement. Please know that If you persevere, you will eventually build a community for yourself. I've been a part of several groups over the years, none of them have lasted, but I've picked up a friend here and there until now I've got several. And don't forget to find your own interests outside of your baby and pursue them. When you do so, you will become a happier more interesting person that will draw others to you. The more social situations you put yourself in the more opportunities you'll have to meet nice people. Also, when your child is older and starts school you'll definitely be in a better place to meet others like you. As someone who's been lonely, I could go on and on about this topic, but I'll just stop here. Take Care! Chris

Heidi - posted on 08/05/2009

Well I am sorry to hear that you feel this way about this sight. I know I am in Canada, so way to far from you for a playdate, but I have no problem chatting with you online if you are ok with that. I have met some wonderful woman on hear and have made some great friendship from all over the world. I hope you get that chance as well.

You are in a tough situation, being so alone and isolated. I am sure in your town there are different palygroups that you could join. I know here where I live there are different churches or rec centers that offer mommy and me groups. Those are good starting places to meet people. I know you said you don't dive, but is there public transit? You could look on the internet for different play groups and what not in your area. Just a thought for you to consider. But if you want to chat sometime let me know and I can be here for you on the computer anyway.

Jodie - posted on 08/05/2009

i live in the uk and vagely recall seeing your post but didn't respond b/c i live so far away!! I have felt like you in the past so i sympathise!! Have you looked into mother and baby groups in your area, i'm not sure that you would have them over there, but we have them in england and they are a good way to meet other mum's and babies in your area!! In england they are normally in a church hall and the children can play while the mums watch and have a coffee and a chat!! Let me know if you find anything maybe you could even look into starrting your own mother and baby group!!

Mel - posted on 08/04/2009

im sorry youve had that experience. i normally post on this group just because i want to get the best responses the most helpful ones possible and there are more members on here and therefore more people who would be able to help me. the young mums 20-30 group is really good great mods etc, the debating mums is popular. i have just made one for mums who need to vent so if you are interested you are welcome to join. i had also hoped i woudl be able to meet people on here and over time ive made some great online friends but only a few from my area in australia. one actually lives 10 mins away and we are meeting up some time this week

Sharyn - posted on 08/04/2009

I hear you, i've posted 3 questions on this board and only gotten one answer to two questions and none for the third ....
i still come here and comment on other mother's posts .... if i can help them any ... even if sometimes it isnt reciprocated.

Shawna - posted on 08/04/2009

All the communities that I joined locally for where I am are slow or full of inactive members. I now just post onto this main community and have had several questions answered. I would stick with this group and maybe just periodically check your local groups. Good luck, and send a message if you need to talk. I'm a SAHM so I check email regularly.

Angie - posted on 08/04/2009

SHREYNA! I am here for you! I am sorry that no one has tried to talk to you...if you really want to feel at home here, join Debating Mums! They are very respectful woman and they here what you have to say! I am sorry that you feel alone, and trust me you aren't!!!!!!! I will add you to my circle if you wish.

I love your picture!!! So any time if you want to vent, talk, or just plain have advice...I'm here for you!!!