What would your reaction be to a breastfeeding mom in public?

Chelsea - posted on 03/26/2012 ( 217 moms have responded )

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I am doing a presentation for my sociology class. I chose to violate the norm of breastfeeding in public. I got some pretty mixed reactions. My teacher said that I still need some more opinions of it. So my question is-- What would you reaction to breastfeeding in public be? And why would you react that way. Please give me real answers, not just "because its disgusting" or anything of that sort. Thanks!

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Please excuse me while I lose my shit...



You don't support nursing in public if you have a set of rules that you believe should be followed. If breastfeeding is sexual then a bottle is a dildo. If a baby can be fed a bottle without having to suffocate under a blanket then a mom can nurse her baby without trying to keep her child stuffed under a huge "look at me, I'm nursing here!" cover. If a baby can be fed a bottle without being told to leave, stop or move to the back (or to the restroom) then a mom should be able to nurse wherever *she* is comfortable. I have seen a lot of moms nurse. Never once have I seen a mom take out her breast and wave it around wildly before latching her baby on. I have seen a few moms with very new babies struggle to get baby latched. If I stared I probably would've caught a glimpse, but I didn't feel disgusted. Instead, I gave her support through a smile or kind words. Aren't we all freakin' human? Isn't this world fucked up enough to not need moms hating on how we feed our babies?



I may be a breastfeeding advocate, but that doesn't mean I bash a mom who uses formula. I don't tell her to cover up or leave because that would make me an asshole. I don't know her story. Just like you don't know a BF moms story. Maybe her baby won't let her cover. Maybe it's too hot to cover. Maybe she wants to sit and visit with family that she rarely sees during that lunch...



I've never covered with this second baby and I've never shown more skin than a woman in a low-cut top. If you don't tell people who choose to wear revealing clothing to cover up then you're a hypocrite.



I truly support moms who nurse in public. Use a cover or don't. Move to a private space or don't. Do whatever is comfortable for you and your baby. There are some truly messed up things happening in this world and a mom breastfeeding a baby is not one of them.

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No, breastfeeding in public shows that a mom cares more about her child's needs that what some random judgmental person may think. ;)



Of course, most moms that breastfeed in public show a lot less than most of the regular women at a beach... and many of the women just out in public. I've seen a lot more 'boob' from people simply walking around in the mall then I've ever seen from a woman breastfeeding in public.... A breastfeeding mother is a LOT easier to avoid than seeing the skimpy outfits that some people deem acceptable for public. So is it safe to assume you don't take your children out in public at all? lol At least breastfeeding serves a purpose.

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Anyone who thinks breastfeeding is a "private, intimate matter" should remember that the next time they scarf down a burger at Micky D's or a slice of pizza at the mall. You need food, do you not? You get hungry, do you not? A newborn is hungry ALL THE TIME. Should a mother of a newborn resign herself to the confines of her home until her child can go X number of hours in between feedings? No. Feed your babies. I say whip out the titties. And anyone who has issue with it, really has no idea how many REAL issues they really have.



Edited To Add: I want to make clear that I don't see any difference in a newborn nursing and a 1 or 2 year old nursing in public. Food is food, sustanance is sustanance. Everyone else can go.......well, you know :P

Sarah - posted on 03/26/2012

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I have no problem with women breastfeeding in public. They're providing the best source of nutrition for their child in the way their bodies we meant to. Breasts have been sexualized by our society, but one must remember their primary purpose is for feeding your infant. People have a choice to not look. I personally find it more offensive when you see women wearing super short skirts and bikini tops to anywhere other than the beach.

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From a perfectly timed article:

‎"Let’s reserve judgment for people who beat their children, sell their daughters into prostitution, or deny women the right to make decisions about their bodies and their lives." ~ Mayim Bialik



When I see a mom breastfeeding I think "good job, momma." It's hard to breastfeed in a world that tells you how good it is for baby, but judges you for doing it in public or too long or too short, etc.



It's feeding a baby.

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Yolanda - posted on 12/17/2012

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Ha, you go! Why in the world do we accept over-exposed boobs as sexual beauty and then turn right around and look down on women who use actually use them for something productive.

Yolanda - posted on 12/17/2012

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I'm a first time breastfeeding mom and while I prefer being out of the public to breastfeed my son, I find it quite rude of people, esp. women, who make negative comments to me when feeding my son. I feel like , if my body didn't create this, then yes, it might be weird. But it's obviously the natural design, it's great for my baby ( if it's not why do formula companies keep comparing their products to it ? ) and it's extremely cost affective. So I say, ladies let's drop the judgements and do what we feel suits us best as individuals. At this point in my life I LOVE breastfeeding my Precious , healthy son !

Dove - posted on 07/15/2012

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I have zero problem with a woman breastfeeding in public. I did it for over 2 years.

I felt so bad for a baby the other day at the gym. You could tell he was hungry and breastfed, but mom apparently does not feed in public. She kept distracting him to keep him content (he never cried). I just wanted to tell her 'I nursed here for 2 years and it IS ok. Anyone who would mind wouldn't be worth your time.' I didn't though. :(

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I just pull my top down and do it brazenly. Its good for children and other adults to see. It normalizes breastfeeding. If all breastfeeding moms did this, no one has a reason to be uncomfortable. Theres no shame in feeding a baby, why treat it like there is.

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I personally wouldn't do it because I would feel uncomfortable doing it. If other women do it, as long as its' discreet, I don't have a problem with it. A baby needs to eat and I don't think all women should be forced to retreat to a bathroom to do it. I do thin though, that the woman should make some effort to conceal what she can of her breast, not just pull her top down and do it brazely (which I have seen) because there are other people and children and their needs to be some consideration for other people's comfort level as well

Heidi - posted on 07/14/2012

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I would rather see a breastfeeding mom than an anorexic model with her tities covered by hands or a tiny bikini.

Tyla - posted on 07/12/2012

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Considering I was a breastfeeding mother for a year and I did it in public...my opinion is that if your baby is hungry you feed it whether it be with a bottle or breast...I do think that women should try their hardest to cover themselves up while doing it. My baby used to shove blankets off he hated them the older he got but I did try to cover myself without covering him!!

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My reaction is "hey BF's too!" I don't cover up or do it discreetly. Why? Because its inconvenient and uncomfortable for both myself and my daughter. I don't expect anyone else to cover up and hide either. Would you expect a bottle feeding baby to hide and sweat all covered up?

Andrea - posted on 07/11/2012

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I have no problems with women breastfeeding in public. If they are comfortable doing it, then why not. I, personally am not comfortable breastfeeding in public due to my own personal insecurities, but that doesn't mean everyone else shouldn't either.

Stephanie - posted on 07/11/2012

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i would have no reaction ,,,, when your babys hungry you need to feed it , i think if you didnt feed your baby then i would have a reaction.. i personally didnt breastfeed but whats the harm in a mother feeding her baby healthy milk in public ....NONE :)

Anonymous - posted on 07/10/2012

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In response to Susan Edward's reply:

"I have no problem with women breastfeeding in public, but I think it needs to be done discreetly and not be in my face. I say this as a mother of three children, two of who I breastfed exclusively (my first I was unable to breastfeed because of complications during delivery) I do not care to see your breast popped out in public. They make lovely covers not that even have a little piece of curved plastic that makes sure to give the child plenty of ventilation. I ALWAYS covered up when in public, and if my child was being squirmy and I couldn't cover, I found someplace out of the way to finish the feeding. I think it is unfair to say to men, "I know that you are sexual beings, and think about sex every five minutes, but as I pop out my breast in front of you, don't think sexual thoughts. "

I wholeheartedly agree with her. Perhaps I am a little old-fashioned and very modest but out of consideration of others, covering up the breast is appropriate. It is still uncomfortable for me and my husband when we see women breastfeeding with their breast out in the open. Yes, the nipple isn't showing but the rest of the breast is. The excuses about not allowing the baby fresh air is ridiculous. I breastfed my daughter and used the bras and shirts that covered my breast while breastfeeding and she is still alive and thriving at 9 years old! If I felt that there was still too much exposure of my breast, I would use a blanket and yet she's still alive and healthy!
Sometimes it seems as though people like to shake things up and stir up a little controversy; this includes women who have their breasts exposed while breastfeeding. While it is necessary to feed on demand, out of common courtesy to others, I feel that covering up the ta-ta shows common decency. And, no, I am not trying to incite anyone. I am merely stating my opinion which is what the woman who wrote this post is looking for.

Tracey - posted on 04/04/2012

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#5 in Laura ♥♥♥'s list is the most vital to me, and then 10 and 11. The rest of the list is good, too.

Merry - posted on 04/04/2012

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Lisa who is this you refer to?

"and what I am finding during this discussion, is those in support of nursing without cover are argumentative bully's with no validity to their arguments. They are simply looking for a fight."

I and others most certainly have posted in support of nursing without covers but I haven't seen anyone bullying or trying to fight.

Except you.



No one should have to use a cover if they don't wish to. In fact I can assure you every baby out there would prefer not to be covered.

So yes, I support on covering breastfeeding in public.



Here's why I support not using a cover

1- babies almost universally hate covers.

2- even babies who used to allow covers usually get to an age where they hate it

3- you can't see the baby or their latch as easily and this can be stressful for mom or baby

4- it gets hot under covers

5- babies breathing the same air over and over again isn't good

6- eye contact is impossible while using most covers

7- if cover is forgotten then baby can't eat? Or mom is distressed and embarressed.

8- fancy covers are expensive and cheap blankets not as useful

9- moms have enough crap to lug around without a cover too

10- covers give the mom and any onlookers the impression that what she's doing is shameful or embarrassing or gross

11- covers make the impression to moms that breastfeeding is more work or more complicated then it needs to be

12- they're just a nice marketing ploy and a waste of money!



There may be more reasons not to cover but I think that's a good start

No fight intended here, just simply explaining my take on breastfeding in public.



I was just at a moms group today. I saw 7+ moms feed their babies and none of them covered. I saw ONE glimpse of one moms breast as her son unlatched to look at me. Other then that I saw nothing.

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Call me a dirty hippy, but it would never offend me to see a woman's breast in public if she's nursing a baby. I figure that's how God intended for our children to be fed, why be offended? I know not everyone shares my view, but I would assume she's comfortable enough to do that in public, then I shouldn't be one to tell her not to. We're human. We're in this thing called life together. That baby is on cloud 9. It's not an abhorrent action, it's nutrition. If one woman wants to cover up while the other one nurses openly, let them make that decision. I've seen women get offended by it solely on the fact that they thought their husbands/boyfriends were staring at it lol. I, for one, am not that insecure. But I'm sure other people have their reasoning for finding it not a public kind of action. And that's ok. I would just respect the woman and not make a spectacle out of her by staring or showing disgust. There are some things not to be done in public, but I just don't think this is one of them.

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I have no problem with it. I previously breast fed my first born and I will breast feed this baby. It's a woman's choice and she is nourishing her child. Breastfeeding is how the world was fed when there was no such thing as formula and no access to cow's milk.

Johnny - posted on 04/04/2012

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Requesting discretion is quite a bit different than the suggestion that it should not be done in public.



Prior posters were suggesting that women should not breastfeed in public because it is a bodily function like defecation. In my comments, I was pointing out how disturbing it is that people are unable to understand the difference between eating and defecating, both on a physical and sociological level. Waste elimination is universally separated from other behaviors and is not a public activity. Comparing breastfeeding to going to the bathroom and suggesting that they should be done in the same place is utterly ridiculous.



As well, nursing without a cover does not mean that one is not exercising discretion. After about 5 months, my daughter would not nurse under a cover at all, not even those fancy ones with the hoops. I was not going to wean her and I was not going to stay home all day. And I certainly was not going to feed her in a bathroom, speaking of unsanitary. I learned to nurse her carefully by wearing two shirts and an easily operable nursing bra. Or a nursing tank under a shirt. I had many people not realize until they asked to see my daughter that she was indeed nursing. I am quite a modest person. Although, I don't expect other people to function by my standards for myself. I have a neck that swivels and I can look away.

Lisa - posted on 04/04/2012

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My response was never in opposition to breasfeeding in public. My response was that discretion should be involved. Before you pick on someone, you should perhaps, read the original post.

Lisa - posted on 04/04/2012

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Sociologically speaking, they are exactly the same action. As a parent, I teach my child that they should not pick their nose, especially in public. It is rude, disgusting and unsanitary. Much like your response. The issue at hand seems to be this. Most are not offended by nursing, as they should not be, it is a perfectly natural and necessary act. The offense comes from bearing witness to ones belly and breast while going about their daily business in public. Nursing mothers should not be made to hide in shame to feed their babies, however, as I have mentioned in an earlier post, on page 8 of these comments, respect works both ways, and what I am finding during this discussion, is those in support of nursing without cover are argumentative bully's with no validity to their arguments. They are simply looking for a fight.

Julia - posted on 04/04/2012

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Oh Lisa, I'm going to pick on you again because I just read your first post:



However, in the United States, it is not socially acceptable to eat with ones breasts, one's vagina, or even one's penis. As a matter of fact, it is usually frowned upon to even eat with your fingers unless eating a food specifically designated as such.



Wow... you just supported breastfeeding here. For an infant, breast to mouth is the "food specifically designated as such." Babies aren't eating with their breasts, they are eating with their motuths... the food is just coming from their mama's breasts.

Julia - posted on 04/04/2012

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@ Lisa, if walking around nude gave someone nutritional suppliment, then it might be close to the same thing... otherwise, its like saying: I don't stick my finger in my ass, so no one should stick their finger in their nose - they are two completely unrelated actions that shouldn't be compared.

Johnny - posted on 04/04/2012

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Generally body parts are considered private because of their sexual purpose or connotation. It is implied.

Lisa - posted on 04/04/2012

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I do not recall mentioning anything about "sex" in my post nor referring to any part in a sexual manner. I simply said private. Just as I would not walk around nude in public, I expect others to keep their bodies to themselves as well.

Johnny - posted on 04/04/2012

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The purpose of the breast is specifically to feed babies. Whatever other fetishes people have created about the breast that has caused it to be considered a sexual organ are secondary. Genitalia has the dual purpose of sexual and waste disposal (which is really quite funny when you think about it). Breasts are not inherently sexual organs, that is a cultural construct, and they are not used for waste disposal. Just because some people struggle with this confusion does not mean that the many that do not and comfortably nourish their child at the breast should suffer from this ignorance. To compare the biologically normal act of infant nourishing to going to the bathroom or engaging in sexual activity is to demonstrate a lack of understanding of our humanity.

Lisa - posted on 04/04/2012

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In response to "What concerns me far more than anything to do with breastfeeding in public are those that obviously do not understand the basic and vast difference between the intake of nourishment (almost universally a social, public activity) and the passing of wastes (almost universally a private hidden activitiy). "



Breasts are a private part of the body, regardless of their function. I would have to say that if we all ate with our private parts, it would not make a difference. However, in the United States, it is not socially acceptable to eat with ones breasts, one's vagina, or even one's penis. As a matter of fact, it is usually frowned upon to even eat with your fingers unless eating a food specifically designated as such.

CHERYL - posted on 04/04/2012

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I breastfeed my kids in public. I made sure I was covered up. I am their supplier on their milk. My kids was born in 89, 91, 94.

My kids was fed over the 2 year age.

I as long as they cover up like I did with a blanket is no problem.

When I had my son , I was inside of walmart in Martinsville Ind. I was breastfeeding him while shopping with my husband and oldest 2 daughters, someone came up and said can I see your son? I go not at this time he is getting fed. They looked at me, and go , okay, I go as soon as he's done you can see him.

People need to understand a lot of us moms breastfeed and we supply their milk for them and when the baby is hungry we must feed them and make sure we cover it.



If people do not like this DO NOT LOOK THEN.

Justine - posted on 04/04/2012

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Have you looked into other cultures at all for this? I live in Zimbabwe, and here breast feeding in public is the absolute norm - I have seen women breastfeeding in the supermarket queue or sitting on the floor outside the bank feeding their babies. Women happily feed their babies at public meetings etc, and not hidden under a pile of blankets either! It's a far more natural approach as far as I'm concerned! It doesn't hurt to be discrete at the latch on and latch off stage, but quite honestly after that you can't see more than you would with a low cut top, so what's the problem? Really, people need to remember that this is a completely natural, life sustaining function - and it shouldn't be compared to other bodily functions like urinating or defecating - this is feeding a baby for goodness sake!

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@Tabitha Fritzman - This literally made me tear up. This restores some of the faith I've lost in humanity. Not only did she pay for your groceries, you also paid it forward. The world needs more of your and the anonymous woman's kind. It would be a better place to live if everyone practiced a little empathy, selflessness and charity.

Elizabeth - posted on 04/03/2012

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I have a tendency to smile or tell her she's doing a good job. I once had an older woman aproach me at the park, and tell me how wonderful it was to see a woman proudly caring for her baby the way God intended. I know that was a major conficence boost for me, so I try to "pay it forward". We need to normalize breastfeeding, without marginalizing formula feeders, so our daughters will raise our grandchildren in a culture that values evidence based parenting!

Stifler's - posted on 04/03/2012

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I saw a lady feeding at a restaurant today at the table. The 4 other people at the table weren't gawking and no one else in the restaurant was staring. it was good. I wasn't offended or disturbed. She wasn't using a cover and I didn't see anything.

Becky - posted on 04/03/2012

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I'm actually better off without the cover! When I don't use a cover, I'm very discreet and show nothing. When I do use a cover, I "let it all hang out" under the cover... and then my 2 year old decides he wants to play peek-a-boo with the baby and try to pull my cover off me (and my neck with it, apparently!) So I end up showing off a lot more!

I can't really think of any places where a woman would normally take her child where I would think breastfeeding is inappropriate. Someone mentioned while a person was teaching a class, which may be inappropriate, but a teacher would also not ordinarily have their child in the class with them, so it's kind of a moot point. I have no issue with breastfeeding in church. I don't with my baby now, only because he is a VERY noisy eater and half the church would be able to hear him and that would embarass me. The breastfeeding itself wouldn't embarass me though, and I've done it before with my older boys.

I don't understand people who "don't want their kids to see that." I want my kids to see parents taking good care of their children, whatever that entails. What I don't want them to see is infants being fed cheeseburgers and fries, kids being yelled at and hit, kids being neglected or ignored... seeing a baby eating in the way nature intended for him to eat is the least of my worries. Plus, since I breastfeed, it's just normal to my boys. They've never once commented on someone breastfeeding their baby.



I have to say, that I don't think I ever noticed people breastfeeding before I had kids. It was just nothing to me. The only time I noticed it was when I was pregnant with my first and there were a couple of women in the baby store we were shopping in who really were letting it all hang out. That is the only time, I think, that I have ever seen that. I'll admit, having no kids at the time, I was a bit taken aback, but now it wouldn't bother me at all. I notice it now because I look for it, because it seems to be such a controversial thing. It's very common here, but almost everyone uses a cover. Even in the nursing rooms, a lot of women use covers. I have to say, I find that a little sad, that even in a room full of breastfeeding mothers, we feel like we have to hide what we're doing.

Kelina - posted on 04/03/2012

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They also make some pretty awesome nursing shirts these days that unhook to allow baby to nurse and only let your nipple pop out, not even the rest of your breast. I remember once I was walking through costco nursing my daughter. A girl I knew in highschool was like, "oh, she's so adorable can I hold her?" then she got a little closer and realized she was eating and was totally disgusted! despite the fact that she didn't even notice baby was nursing until she was in front of me looking down.

Kelina - posted on 04/03/2012

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I need to eat in public-so does my baby. It's difficult enough dealing with an infant without having to attempt to seek someplace else to feed a screaming child when really it's so easy to just whip out your boob and stuff it in their mouth. And to be honest I've seen more cleavage on the teenagers coming out of my local highschool and in the mall than on most women breastfeeding in public.

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BethAnn.... your hang ups should not be another person's problem. Seriously... if you all have that serious of an issue w/ a mother feeding her child w/ her breast.... Do you cringe at seeing a low cut top? Cuz that's a million times more offensive to me, but as long as the women's boobs aren't completely popping out.... it's MY hang up w/ 'indecent exposure' (what I consider indecent anyway) that is the problem and it's her right to wear that shirt.

Phyllis - posted on 04/03/2012

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ohhh... I admit it! I was a "Whipper"! I couldn't help it! When my little honey started letting me know it was time, my only thought was, "How quickly can I get a hand free?" Of course, (my luck) when I was in public, my hands were usually full") I think women SHOULD be able to breastfeed unabashedly and so we MUST. Don't get me wrong, almost any mama who feels the way I do, but is just shy of being militant, will gladly prefer a quiet, out of the way spot. Just consider, next time you see somebody whip out a boob, that perhaps the fog of preggie brain has not yet cleared and she felt she was in the best place possible. Also consider that some of these pumpkins think that a nice nursing blanket/hoodie/buziness cover is a call to practice flag waving techniques! Which, needless to say, calls EVEN more attention to the activity.

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I *want* my son to see women breastfeeding. He's actually seen that since he was 2.5, so to him it's just normal. He's 15 now. It's normal to him, so he's not all titillated by it. I've even seen the looks he's given to friends who've acted like it's a thing to snicker over: a look that says "Are you crazy, dude? What's your problem?"



There are a large number of young boys growing up now who have seen their moms breastfeed their siblings, and I think that they're going to have a different attitude than the generation that thinks it's something inherently sexual instead of just feeding a baby.



As for a comment several pages back now that it's a bonding time and needs to be done in a hushed, private atmosphere: I nursed each of mine at least 20 months, and the last one 3 1/2 years. Trust me, when you've just finished nursing for the 3,000th time (possibly the 3,000th time that year), you are so over wanting the chapel-like atmosphere. Yes, there's still a bond there, and it's probably even stronger. But if you're nursing longer than the typical 6 weeks, you just need to get on with your day. It's like the difference between being newly in love and an old happily married couple.

Jenette - posted on 04/03/2012

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I don't have a problem with it providing it is done tastefully. I breastfed my daughter often in public, but did so in a discreat mannor. I wore clothes that offered easy access as well as privacy. Our country has decided breasts are a sex symbol and can be squimish about a woman breastfeeding in public. I can also sympathise to an extent that people don't want to see a woman with a shirt completely open and on display though, but thats not required to do the deed. Some babies are ok being covered with a blanket and that makes it more covered, some (mine included) hate being covered. You can still sit and nurse relatively covered with very little notice being paid to you and not bothering anyone.

BethAnn - posted on 04/03/2012

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I am probably the not norm here but I didn't breast feed my kids because I am not comfortable with it myself. I don't want to see a mom standing in line at disney world breastfeeding her baby, not covered up. I wouldn';t do it and niether should she.I ahve a large house and my sister in law decided to sit right beside my dad and start...That was not necessary either. I wouldn;t do it in front of anyone which is why I didn't do it. I think you should be very discreet and not advertise it. You should be covered and if in mixed company especially older people and young children that may not understand what you are doing you should go into another room. I would never feel comfortable breats feeding in front of anyone. That is a private thing. I am very uncomfortable when someone starts right in fron to us and my husband doesn't like it at all. MAybe some men like it when another woman starts feeding her baby right in front of him but my dad and husband are not. Also please don't do it in front of my children. Taht should be a thing that is discussed with moms and their own kids not have to be put out there by another mom...

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I'd like to add just one more thing to the post. If all women were discreet while nursing in public, there may not be the stigma attached to it by many people. So think of it this way, a few mothers that think it's ok to have their bare breast hanging in plain sight in public may be causing the rest of us grief when our baby needs to be fed.

Stacey - posted on 04/03/2012

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I think it is the most natural thing in the world, all mothers feed they're babes, God gave us the means to do so, it's not exhibitionism at all. I feel very sad for the mother's out there that are ridiculed because they breastfeed in public, most of them, if given a choice do it in a quiet area away from others, but when faced with no other choice but to feed their babies, they feed them. I hope my answer helps.

Stifler's - posted on 04/03/2012

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Neither would I, Teresa that's whack. I don't get this big covering up deal either, the babys mouth is over your nipple and their head and your shirt are in the way. People have to be gawking to see anything.

Danielle - posted on 04/03/2012

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I agree wholeheartedly with Susan Edwards. I nursed both my children and I do not have a problem with breastfeeding in public as long as it is done discreetly. In many cases you may have walked right past a nursing Mother and did not even know it. I was raised to always consider others in all my actions and seeing an exposed breast in public for whatever reason is inconsiderate to others and their right to not see your bare breast. The real issue here seems to be that far too many folks in our society now care of no one but themselves..."it's all about ME and what makes ME feel good". I cannot live that way and find it sad that some women think that because it's "natural" they can expose their bare breasts to whoever, wherever, and whenever it makes "them" feel good. There are many "natural things" humans do, that are not and should not ever be acceptable to do in public. I'm sure you all can think of a few things off the top of your head so I'm sure I don't need to go into detail...simply put, you can nurse your baby in public without exposing yourself.

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Chelsea, I don't have a reaction at all because breastfeeding is a beautiful thing to me. I breastfed two children who never took a bottle so I had no choice but to feed in public as well. I agree that one should use discretion. Where I live, I felt it appropriate to drape a blanket over my shoulder and my baby for privacy. I am pretty conservative so I am not a fan of a woman handling her breast in public for all to see. I believe in respect for others as well. I wouldn't want to offend anybody. There are plenty of products on the market that are stylish and serve the purpose of concealing your breast and baby in public. I fed my babies every where from restaurants to malls to ball games. Breastmilk is so nutritious and God created my body to feed my babies....There are always rude people who have something to say but I could care less...My babies were healthy and happy....Doesn't get better than that!!

Merry - posted on 04/03/2012

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I nurse discreetly, but NOT

for the sake of the general public or for the poor innocent children who would be scarred by my motherly ess.

I am discreet because I feel best that way.

I do NOT use a blanket or cover or diaper.

I utilize my wonderful shirt, and my baby's head covers the rest. If she unlatch es I always have a hand by her cheek so I can cover my nipple, but then again, this is mostly so I don't spray her in the face.



When I or my children eat in public I'm not worrying about who is watching us.

It's our right to eat when needed where needed and we all do so.

Ashley - posted on 04/03/2012

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we have a special nursery in our church where we breast feed the babies and it is nice, I felt comfortable going because of it when nursing my son. my sister inlaw was fine with a cover up and sat in her pew. so the choice is optional. its just my personal comfort and even if i felt uncomfortable around someone breast feeding, id leave before i said anything because its every womens personal choice.

Susan - posted on 04/03/2012

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I have no problem with women breastfeeding in public, but I think it needs to be done discreetly and not be in my face. I say this as a mother of three children, two of who I breastfed exclusively (my first I was unable to breastfeed because of complications during delivery) I do not care to see your breast popped out in public. They make lovely covers not that even have a little piece of curved plastic that makes sure to give the child plenty of ventilation. I ALWAYS covered up when in public, and if my child was being squirmy and I couldn't cover, I found someplace out of the way to finish the feeding. I think it is unfair to say to men, "I know that you are sexual beings, and think about sex every five minutes, but as I pop out my breast in front of you, don't think sexual thoughts. Just turn that part of yourself off." We have had several friends who didn't feel the need to cover themselves when around others, and would just expose themselves casually to my husband and other men without a care. My husband respected their rights to do this, but spent those 20 minutes or so dutifully looking anywhere but at them. I have been teaching my three kids to be modest in how they act with their clothing telling my daughter, "we do not put up our dress/shirt", or my sons, "we do not touch ourselves there when in public". Someone breastfeeding without covering confuses my children, and they are getting old enough that they comment on it now. I have not said anything to moms who did not cover themselves, but I have explained to my children that not everyone has the same rules of modesty that we do. We cannot judge them by our rules, but that we still follow our rules.

Annemarie - posted on 04/03/2012

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I have no problem with it. I did it myself. I do believe that the breast should be covered. I don't like how much I see of women's breasts when they are not breastfeeding. I consider that a private area of the body. If you are discreetly breastfeeding ,I fully support you. All it takes is a small baby blanket or even a cloth diaper to cover yourself sufficiently.

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I don't think I'd attend a church where I felt I 'shouldn't' breastfeed. Of course, I DID nurse my son just about every week for 2.5 years at our church. :)

Anne - posted on 04/03/2012

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Not a problem at all. I have breastfed my daughter on airplanes, in parks, in restaurants and in church. We use a cover-up and I've never been approached by anyone who disapproves. Not sure of the perfect response to someone who disapproves would be, but if you come up with it through your research, please share.

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