Whats the worst things you said while in the delivery room?

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Im thinkin of going all natural for my second child during delivery but i know i dont handle pain to well and tend to run at the mouth.... did any of you say anything mean or rude to the nurses while in the delivery room?? even if it wasnt natural

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Mary - posted on 03/19/2010

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You know what I've found, after 15 years as an L&D nurse? How you behave in labor (unmedicated or not) is really just a reflection of your true personality. If you are not an obnoxious, mouthy, whiny bitch normally, you will not suddenly metamorphosize into one while in transition, or even while pushing. I've seen the truest definitions of grace and beauty in women having an unmedicated birth...and I've seen women with great epidurals make me wish that mandatory sterilization was an option (their families are usually pretty mortified as well).

Kate CP - posted on 03/15/2010

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I went all natural and honestly I didn't say much of anything. At one point the pitocin was causing the contractions to pile up on each other with no down time in between. At that point I said "Mom, I'm losing it!" and that was it. Once you get into the zone, and you will, then it just gets kind of quiet and subdued. All you focus on is making your body work with you.

Nikki - posted on 03/15/2010

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My epidural didnt work b/c I had back labor so I felt everything. I said alot of things, not much i remember, the hubby does though he says I swore alot and I know I gave up at one point and told one of the nurses to switch places with me and tell me how easy one more push is.... but they were amazing and gave me a huge hug after telling me I was great and that it was more funny then anything.. so I guess they knew I was just in pain and saying things based on that

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Debbie - posted on 03/19/2010

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no...only that I had to pee, to which they replied "No, your just ready to deliver your baby." But when I peed before delivering, I heard one of them say "Oh I guess she did have to go. And then I preceded to deliver my first born son.

Tiffany - posted on 03/19/2010

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I was getting my epideral and they kept telling me to curl my back.. I was so pist off because I had a 9lb baby inside of me I couldnt do it!! I started crying because it took them 7 times to stick me to finally get it in... I had to watch what I said because I had a great nurse but the lady who was putting it in just didnt understand... I think at some point I told a different nurse who wasnt allowing me any fluid or food, rudely that I didnt care... but my mom told me to be nice :/

Vivian - posted on 03/19/2010

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The only thing that I took during labor was stadil, it really helped me relax and stay relaxed when it wore off. When the pain started getting really bad at one poing i was a bitch to the nurse and apologized afterwards. she told me that she being a bitch meant that I was moving along. I wouldnt worry about it, its their job to deal with bitchy women in labor!

Erin - posted on 03/19/2010

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I had a C-Section because my daughter's head was jammed into my pelvic bone and was causing me to not dilate. I had an epidural and also barely remember anything. I was really loopy, but not mean. I was a little snappy and demanding towards her daddy, but I was under a lot of stress and my hormones were all out of whack. Obviously, lol. No matter how bad you are, I'm sure those nurses have seen worse. The contractions did hurt a lot but walking around and other things helped. I have a pretty high tolerance for pain and although I do agree that there is a great deal of pain involved, I also think that what everything you hear and take in prior to birth affects how much pain you end up in during birth. If all you hear from the time you are a kid and until the time you give birth your first time is how much it hurts, of course it's going to hurt, you've already been pre-programmed for it to. Good luck and take it easy, relax, and do as you feel. If swearing helps, swear! I was worried about stuff like this. too. But once you get in there (and start having labor pains) you're not going to care about being rude anymore! This is the one day of your life where what everyone else thinks really shouldn't matter (and probably won't.)

Michele - posted on 03/19/2010

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The "Bottom line"..... tolerate what you can, there is no sin in saying "uncle" or any swear word that comes to mind.....because the most memorable eventof your life is abut to superceed anything that has ever happened before. Whatever feels right will be right. Enjoy your now...

Sarah - posted on 03/19/2010

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These stories are great!! I don't remember saying anything bad during my labor, but I do remember snapping at my mom about something. Can't even remember what it was. I was really quiet during most of my labor and didn't want to move a muscle because it hurt so bad. I remember thinking to myself, "I'm not going to be able to do this anymore." and "I'm NEVER having another child EVER again."

Megan - posted on 03/19/2010

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It was 7:40 a.m. and I had been in labor since 5:00 p.m. the night before. When I begin to push there are a total of 8 people, besides the doctor, nurse and myself, in the room. The doctor looks up at me and says, "You don't want to make a liar out of me? I told all these people that you would have this baby before 8." I looked up at him and said, "I don't care what the F*** I make you." My son was born at 7:44 a.m. I guess I didn't make him a liar!

Cynthia - posted on 03/19/2010

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HAHA not to the nurses but i was all natural and not by choice (small town doc and nothing for pain). I cussed my hubby six ways from Sunday and told him he did this to me lol thank God he forgave me later.

Deidra - posted on 03/19/2010

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I just yelled. I tend to curse a lot when I'm angry or get hurt, but not one curse word came out. I was really surprised.

Mary - posted on 03/19/2010

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The worst thing I said was to my husband. It was my first child (which always seems to be the worst because you're not sure what to expect) and I had bad back labor. I had him rubbing my lower back, then went to steady pressure there. He started complaining about his hand hurting and I snapped at him that my entire body hurt and if he didn't want to help he could just leave. He stopped whining. My daughter was having her first and it was 3 in the morning and she was screaming. The doctor told her to stop it and she leaned up to get as "in his face" as she could and screamed just as loud as she could. She went from 4 cm to babe in arms in 1 hour.

Kimberly - posted on 03/19/2010

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This is a good question with some funny responses!! Honestly, I did have a completely natural birth-not by choice-and I could barely utter any words at all! When you're in that kind of pain (and seriously, it wasn't as bad as I anticipated) sometimes, you just don't want to speak. Kind of like when you're really sick--all you want to do is breathe and hope it's over soon! The only words I remember saying in the 30 min I was at the hospital before my daughter was born were..."Are you kidding me?!?!" when the nurse told me it was too late for the epidural. And at one point, "Will somebody help me!?" :) Good luck...you'll do great!

Jessica - posted on 03/19/2010

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I had my son naturally, but not exactly by choice. They said I was too far along when I arrived while having contractions... after I had my son the nurse said, 'well... I guess we could have given you the drugs'. The nurse also got upset when she found out that I was allergic to penicillin and kept telling me how it's a really useful drug she then asked how allergic I was as if she was going to give me some anyways that's the point where my boyfriend stepped in to ask her how she got hired.

Claire - posted on 03/19/2010

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I remember when i had my first my mum told me to push as i had an epidural and i raised my head and told her what the f**k do you think i'm doing i can still remember the look on her face after 13 1/2 hours of labour bless her

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Son of a Bitch over and over again. This caused my husband to abandon our Bradly oriented birth plan and order an epidural. The epidural caused so many complications that our daughter had to be moved to the nicu after she was born. She spent 3 days there. So for this one, I get to yell Son of a Bitch all I want.

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I delivered all 4 of my babies naturally, (2 of them at home). My labors were very long (shortest 12 hrs, but the rest pretty long, from 21 hrs to 3.5 days), and I was just WAY too stubborn to accept any type of intervention at all (no pitocin, no painkillers, no epidural, and no episiotomy...except with the first one, as her shoulders got stuck, as she was 11 lbs.) I remember crying at times, and mentioning that it would be easier just to die and get it over with, but I never yelled or screamed. I felt that my body was made to birth babies, so I tried to do my best to just let it do what it was made to do. I have always been a rebel when it comes to medical procedures, and I was not comfortable with any type of intervention, as I studied a lot in proparation for my homebirths, and one thing I found out was that one intervention frequently leads to another...all the way to a C-section in many cases. Because of this, I knew ahead of time that no matter how much it hurt (and it DID!), I was not going to accept anything to dull the pain, and I also felt that I needed to keep my emotions in check, so I would be in control. The way I saw it, if I had started screaming or yelling, it would've taken precious energy and focus from the very difficult job at hand. It wasn't hard to control it, because I decided ahead of time that I would. I think this focus may have helped, as all 4 babies were born with just a few minutes of pushing.

My babies were born healthy, beautiful, and in a couple cases...very large! (Besides the first one at 11 lbs, my third weighed 12 lb 12 oz). There is very little that I would change about my births, except that I would absolutely shorten the labors if that were possible.

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I don't remember saying anything rude but I have a high pain tolerance. I had 4 kids all natural with NO pain medication. Perhaps I was crazy! My sister slapped me during her labor. I didn't take it personal as she was trying to breathe through contractions.

E. - posted on 03/19/2010

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nope no mean/rude stuff but I did curse a few times. When I pushed I yelled "Oh My God This F*&KING Hurts!" Not directed at anybody...just because it was overwhelming the amount of pain I was in.

Jocelyn - posted on 03/19/2010

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I had an all natural labor and birth with my second (in water and using hypnobirthing, message me if you want any info on it! it was wonderful) The only thing that I said during labor was I told my husband to call our friend to bring some morphine (he's an emt) lol. Labor was worse than the actual pushing/birth, so if you can make it thru the labor you can make it thru the birth no problem!

Francesca - posted on 03/19/2010

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I wish I was more aggressive. I kept apologizing because my entire extended family showed up to visit (not my choice) and I kept apologizing because I was tired and wasn't being sociable. (Duh)



Although I did tell my Dh several times to shut up. And I still hear it to this day that he didn't appreciate it. But I needed some silence. And when he is nervous he tells lame jokes. So...bad mix in the delivery room :) It was at that pinnicle moment that his jokes drove me crazy when I asked for the drugs. I told him if he wasn't going to shut up, I needed to take something ha ha ha ha.





But I didn't scream, yell or swear. I just wanted some quiet.



I did most of the labour au natural until the last little bit. I had an epidural. And I am so glad I did. My doctor said why tolerate the pain when there are safe alternatives. He said that women who don't tire faster and then are not as receptive post delivery for the latcation nurses and such. As for recovery, I was up and walking around a few hours after. I didn't have any pain after or anything. I guess I am lucky.



Good Luck. Its rough, but exhilarating. Those quiet alert moments with your baby right after, are so tranquil it makes it all worth it.



And don't worry about what you may or may not say. Seriously. There is way more things to worry about in the delivery room that you won't even think about it. And as for the drug options. You don't have to commit this minute. You can talk to the hospital about it. Tell them you would like to try to do it yourself but are not oppose to drug intervention should you need it.



Have you gotten your delivery paperwork yet?

Janet - posted on 03/19/2010

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I had 2 children without using any pain medication.

It was important to me to really experience the birth and participate fully. It hurts a lot. But every contraction does work to bring your baby into the world. I thought about the work I was doing as something I was actively a part of. The pain is also part of it but it's more manageable somehow when you choose to participate in the experience instead of seeing it as something done to you and out of your control.

I think your attitude and state of mind make all the difference. No one has control over your attitude and state of mind except you.

I didn't say anything mean or rude during the delivery. After all, everyone was there to help me deliver my child. I was going to go through it whether they were there or not. I was happy to have their help.

Staci - posted on 03/19/2010

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I didn't really say anything too bad. My mother-in-law was talking about how she never had to worry about contractions because induction wouldn't work so she had a c-section and I told her I used to like her but now I hated her. I also kept telling EVERYONE to shut up if they started talking while I was contracting.

Susie - posted on 03/19/2010

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Different women respond differently.It is like the description of pain. Everyone's pain threshhold is different, as are birthing experiences, but one item I notice has remained very consistent....after you see and hold your baby for the first time, it all melts away. I am reminded of that everytime I see a mom with more than one child. She had to go through delivery each and every time & she still chose to have more kids. Must be worth it all. It sure was for me.

Susie - posted on 03/19/2010

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Heh, Krista! That surpirsingly gets said a lot in birthing rooms....and most of the obstetricians go with the flow.

Cassandra - posted on 03/19/2010

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I went both ways. I used an epidural with my first birth and I couldn't feel ANYTHING...not even when to push, so it prolonged my labor. I had my second child drug-free because...it really wasn't so bad. I think with my first baby I was just so scared of the pain that as soon as I was able to get the epi I did. The second time around I told myself "let's see how far you can go without it." before I knew it I was pushing. I grunted and yelled, but it wasn't so much for the pain as much as it was for the effort. It's more hard than painful. My recovery was so much faster than the first time around. I was walking and going to the bathroom just 1 hr after delivery. With the epi you have to wait for it to wear off, then you have the back pain that comes with it. If I had to do it again, I'd go natural.

Karen - posted on 03/19/2010

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I punched the nurse in the face! Not long after the dr. came in and tied me to the bed, gas mast over my face. Many hours later I woke up and didn't know I had the baby and everyone was gone, swift change of nurses...they said I'll go check. She didn't come back very soon, I called home and no answer. Found out everyone was wiped out and didn't hear the phone. 36 hours is probably to long in an induced labor. The trama stayed with me a long time and didn't get pregant again for 5 years. MUCH better delivery second time!!

Sheila - posted on 03/19/2010

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I remember with my first standing up on the bed and saying"I am going home and not doing this anymore!!! I changed my mind!" and in my mind I believed I could do that, then my mother very gently say..."It's too late for that now".

Sarah - posted on 03/19/2010

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Hi

Neither of my births were natural, BUT I have heard good things about http///www.hypnobaby.com...... You learn how to do self-hypnosis and then the pain is not so bad.... and just a word of caution, the hospitals/nurses will practically force u to take pain meds and use pitocin b/c u are "not progressing" or the baby is in "distress" so you need a C-section... have you looked into using a midwife either at home or at a birth center?

Lydia - posted on 03/19/2010

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When I had my daughter I had my mum and my daughters dad with me! My childs dad sat quietly in a corner after I punched him when he got there and my mum was trying to be supportive, I gave birth naturally with no pain relief and I remember shouting I couldnt do it any more and my mum who has had 4 children said "Come on Lydia Ive done this 4 times u can do it!" To which I shouted at her "Yes and if u hadnt of done it the 3rd time I wouldnt f***ing be here now doing it!" I then asked the midwifes to ring the radio station I was listening to and get the presenters to tell me a joke!

Nancy - posted on 03/19/2010

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I didn't say anything mean or rude to the nurses, just to my husband. It wasn't horrible, just something along the lines of, "I am never doing this again!! This baby is going to be an only child." I did, however, do it twice (two daughters) and do not regret it all. I also asked my midwife and nurse to tell my mom to stop talking because that was bugging the crap out of me! They were way more diplomatic than I would have been! I had both of my children in a birthing center, which I would highly recommend if you are thinking of going "natural." The whole experience was amazing and the recovery time for mom and baby is so much faster. Yes, it hurts, but it's totally worth it because you will be so present. Good Luck!

Jennifer - posted on 03/19/2010

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I had to have C-section with both my sons, the first wasn't to bad. The second however, they didn't wait for the epidural to kick in do when she started to cut I could feel everything. I said what are you doing I can feel that s***!! She said do you want me to stop, I said well what diffence does it make now you already cut me, guess you should just finish what you started! I said alot more to my fiance about what I thought of her, but I don't think that she heard.

Casey - posted on 03/19/2010

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While on petocin I told my mom and my best friend to get out of the room because I could hear them talking. My friend was like " we were wispering" and I was like, I can still hear you. lol. It was a long 33 hours.

Cathy - posted on 03/19/2010

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when i had my children it was dangerous for epidurals. so i had no choice but to have natural. i was in labor for 36 hours with my first. my second went a little quicker. i hate it when they induce labor. i feel that it slows the delivery because i slept. all pains stopped. my third ended up a c-section.

Cathy - posted on 03/19/2010

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my daughter had an epidural for her first child. when she was preparing for her second delivery she told me she was going to try to have it natural also. she got into about the 3rd pain and looked at me and said " mom i'm sorry but i cant do it" she then called for the nurse and asked if it was too late to get the epidural again.

Robin - posted on 03/19/2010

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I told my husband "Get out of my face, you're using my oxygen!" It's still a running joke in our household! Luckily, he's a forgiving type of guy.

Natashia - posted on 03/19/2010

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I am a mother of three aged 11yrs, 8yrs and 15mnths and i gave natural birth with all 3 of them.Although i felt i was dying from all the pain it was all worth it. Each birth was different and going through all that pain makes me appreciate them and life more...

Julee - posted on 03/19/2010

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I had a natural childbirth, and it was my first baby. Honestly, nothing does prepare you for the pain of contractions. I just found a comfortable position, and took it one contraction at a time. I breathed through it and tried not to tense up anywhere else. I also had my best friend there who is a massage therapist with experience in labor assitance. She was putting counterpressure on my sacrum when I was contracting, which helped with distracting me, but my contractions were ALL in the front, so there was no pain relief from that. When I was at the hospital, I focused on my midwife while I was laboring, and was able to get into a nice warm bath there, which REALLY helped. I pushed for 45 minutes, and just focused on my midwife the whole time. I tend to run at the mouth as well, but was the exact opposite during my labor. I recommend finding a good certified nurse midwife for your second. A nurse midwife will be there with you for the entire time you are at the hospital. They are so good at making you focus on the "task at hand," and get you through the toughest part. Good luck!!!!

Amy - posted on 03/19/2010

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the doctor kept givin me internals and at that point i was only on gas and air n she was really rough and at one point i sat up and screamed if you put you f***ing hand in me one more time il rip it off lol

Julia - posted on 03/19/2010

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I had 4 quick births with no time for any drugs, the last one nearly 27 years ago there was a student nurse with me i told her i wanted to push, she said i was not ready , a few minuites later i said it again, and again she said i was not ready. i told her this about 4 times more, she was getting a bit anoyed with me and very sharp, she said i was not ready. By this time i had enough of her and said "who the F--- is having this baby you or me" I gave a push and out popped my son's head. She started to flapp around so i told her from now on she needed to listen to the mother giving birth as they no better than any midwife or text book.

Shaylene - posted on 03/19/2010

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Well obviously has a C Section been a necessity, ie it was vital to mine or the babies health, they would have done it, like they had with the woman next to me! Like I said though, I had no say in the matter! They did what THEY thought was best! And they were right... I certainly didn't mean the bond you have with your children is any less than the bond I have with mine and obviously I don't believe that ANY person who has a Ceasarean is a failure! In my OPINION, if you have the CHOICE, you should go natural as it is proven in a non complicated labour, to be better! Drugs CAN have a harmful effect and Ceasars ARE proven to be more traumatic. So my comment was refering to the people who opt for a C Section when they can go completely natural, but at the end of the day it is YOUR choice! And the woman told me she felt like she was missing out on the important bonding time with her child becasue she couldn't hold him.

The minute I had given natural birth to our daughter, I said to my boyfriend that I would do it again a million times over!

Casey - posted on 03/19/2010

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I had an epidural drip and I remember this guy trying to change it because it ran out and I asked my friend for a knife because this guy was making me so angry. lol

Paula - posted on 03/19/2010

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When I was in a lot of pain from the contractions I screamed to the midwife to get the baby out NOW! and I did not care if it was a c- section but she would calmly day to me "the babies heartbeat is doing well and therefore you are having a natural birth. I had to start crying for more pain relief and they injected me with pethadene, I was a bit more relieved.I think each woman is different regarding how much resistance each one can have of feeling pain, Im one of the weak ones, I was in for the pain releif, epidural and pethadene for me thanks !

Lisa - posted on 03/19/2010

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I have to interject…. I’m sure that even though you went to a military hospital if you would have needed an emergency c-section that they would have provided it for you. I think the bond starts when you hear the news that you are pregnant. When you hear the heartbeat, when you feel the hiccups, when you feel the kicking, when your belly grows… not when you squeeze a head and shoulders out! Some of us are not “blessed” to be able to have natural for some reason or another. I had two c-sections, not by my choice but by my body’s choice. I don’t love my almost 17 year old son or my 6 month old daughter less because I didn’t push them! I labored just as much as you but didn’t have the pressure to push because the babies didn’t make it to the finish line! I didn’t feel like a “failure” then and I still don’t even after reading your post.. If your next door neighbor couldn’t even hold her baby just because she had a c-section that is a shame but I am sure that she bonded just fine regardless after her pain was under control. Thank you for the words of wisdom!

Isha - posted on 03/19/2010

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Oh yeah, I growled at the nurse in a very sarcastic voice... "grrrrrrrrrr, get this thing out of me!" Once the baby was born, I was... "sweet as pie".

Pam - posted on 03/19/2010

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I hollered, "Get it out!" when she (my baby) was working her way out of the birth canal and it seemed like an eternity. But when she was out, it was over. No drugs, no nothing, to recover from and get in the way of breastfeeding or bonding!

Pam - posted on 03/19/2010

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I hollered, "Get it out!" when she (my baby) was working her way out of the birth canal and it seemed like an eternity. But when she was out, it was over. No drugs, no nothing, to recover from and get in the way of breastfeeding or bonding!

Pam - posted on 03/19/2010

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I hollered, "Get it out!" when she (my baby) was working her way out of the birth canal and it seemed like an eternity. But when she was out, it was over. No drugs, no nothing, to recover from and get in the way of breastfeeding or bonding!

Shirley - posted on 03/19/2010

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My daughter-in-law said I'm going home I can't do this ,so the nurse smacked her on the inside of the leg.She told her you are the only one who can do this we can't do it for you.

Trudi - posted on 03/19/2010

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Natural is definatley the way to go, if you can and only if the baby or yourself do not get into a situation where either of you may be seriously in danger. Then go the emerg c section.

The main thing i called out was " oh my god, oh my god!" and then i would coach myself and say "Come on Come on, you can do it" in amoungst the screaming that went with final stage contractions. No swearing for some reason. The worst part was the ring sting as you stretch to the 10cm, but if you close your eyes and concentrate on the fact that it is your babies head stretching you, then you can visualise the head inching forward until the head pops out and then the ring sting is over. Awsome really.

Cassie - posted on 03/19/2010

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I had a fairly short labour lasting about 11 hours i was rather well behaved while the midwifes were in the room but i remember saying where is my F**king pain killers.

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