when do you know your baby no longer need night feedings...when should I start ferber method??

User - posted on 02/28/2009 ( 6 moms have responded )

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Hi...I'm wondering when you know that night feedings can stop? My almost 6 month old feeds through the night, he was doing just 1 feeding for a few weeks but is now back to every 3 hours. Is it because he's big & just hungry...(21 lbs 29 inches), we're starting cereal next week once he's over his cold which may help. My other son (2 & a half) we did ferber type method at 13 months because I had just weaned night feedings but he wouldn't sleep...it went really well a few bad nights but nothing serious, but I did feed him through the night (once) until he went to formula at 13 months. Is that took long...it was fine, I didn't mind getting up once a night to feed...but at 6 months every 2-3 hours seems excessive... I don't even understand how you stop night feeding since with my first I took his cues which is why I still fed once a night to 13 month... to stop do you just let them cry??? I know he's hungry and it's not just a comfort thing because he eats the same as during the day...do I just keep feeding??? I just don't know because I hear so much about how they don't need night feeding by 16 lbs or 4 months but how do you stop??? Thanks for hearing me out!!

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Zowie - posted on 02/28/2009

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Quoting Amanda:



I am in the same situation as you although my son is 5 months. He is feeding sometimes hourly and sometimes once or twice a night. He is already on three meals a day and that has not worked. I have tried topping him up with formula close to bed time to no avail. I am soooo exhausted as I also have a 22month daughter who has been waking up to three times a night due to a virus. So I am really over this. My health centre has recommended controlled crying, or controlled soothing (whichever you prefer). I did controlled crying with my daughter at roughly 13 months and found it was great. It teaches them to self sooth and sometimes you have to be cruel to be kind. I didnt want my daughter to need me everytime she woke. I know 5 months is very young to start so I am putting it off. Another person recommended that I cease night feeds and just try settling without as then he will start eating more during the day. Anyway. good luck, let me kow if you find something that works.



 



 



I do think controlled crying is ok and when my son's teeth came up his routine was interupted i used the control cying method and he was 5 months too but it didn't last long before he settled. I personally feel if a baby is getting solids and the right amount of milk be it breast or formula they should be taken off night feeds as i think a lot of it is habbit at night waking up take care mum and remember they are worth it x.x.





 

Amanda - posted on 02/28/2009

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I am in the same situation as you although my son is 5 months. He is feeding sometimes hourly and sometimes once or twice a night. He is already on three meals a day and that has not worked. I have tried topping him up with formula close to bed time to no avail. I am soooo exhausted as I also have a 22month daughter who has been waking up to three times a night due to a virus. So I am really over this. My health centre has recommended controlled crying, or controlled soothing (whichever you prefer). I did controlled crying with my daughter at roughly 13 months and found it was great. It teaches them to self sooth and sometimes you have to be cruel to be kind. I didnt want my daughter to need me everytime she woke. I know 5 months is very young to start so I am putting it off. Another person recommended that I cease night feeds and just try settling without as then he will start eating more during the day. Anyway. good luck, let me kow if you find something that works.

Zowie - posted on 02/28/2009

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Hi my baby is almost one and i was lucky he didn't wake up at night but my daughter was different she did and once i went on to solids almost immeadiately she started sleeping through the night. i have not heard of the ferber method but i have used the method of listening to his cry and then going in and reasuring him and leaving and then next time if he cried leave it a little longer before going in and so on. It took a few nights but it worked and those few nights of little sleep are forgotten about with all the full nights of good sleep that i have. hope this helps. good luck.

Jolene - posted on 02/28/2009

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If he's waking up at night to eat, it's because he needs to! Don't let him cry when he wakes up for food. When he starts sleeping through the night, thats when you know to stop. I'm sure cereal may help him go longer, Especailly if you feed it to him before bed. Good luck!

Shelly - posted on 02/28/2009

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Like with your first child, just pay attention to your baby.  He will let you know when he is ready for the next step.  However, if all he is getting is breast milk and no solids, he may just be hungry and needing something more substantial.  I would try feeding him cereal about 30 min before bedtime.  If his tummy is full longer, he may sleep longer.  And as for the Ferber method, who decided Ferber knew it all?!  I personally think it is a cruel way to put a baby to sleep.  The only way they can communicate is to cry, and they need to feel secure.  I feel that if they are crying for you and you don't go to them, especially at bedtime, they will learn to not trust that you will be there when they need you.  Of course, you know your baby better than anyone else, and if they are just crying because they didn't get there way, or are being disciplined, etc. that is a different situation.  Bedtime is when they need to be the most secure.  What is wrong with rocking your baby  to sleep and then putting him in his own bed?

User - posted on 02/28/2009

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I wouldn't stop night feedings until he is eating 3 meals a day. My daughter feed every 1-2 hours all night until she was about 20 months which I feel is because she was not interested in food at all so she NEEDED it. Good luck!

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